Boy's birthday casino early finish fails to stop neighbour's drastic action

Daily Mirror

06-06-2025

Jamie Obrien, from Hampshire, says his kill-joy neighbour complained about his son's birthday gathering. He says he receieved a phone call from environmental health over the 11-person party
A furious dad has slammed a nightmare neighbour after they flagged his son's birthday party to their local council despite it only being three-hours long.
Jamie Obrien, from Fareham, Hampshire, threw his son Cain the mini party, which featured a roulette wheel, fake money and a speaker system. The 54-year-old was left stunned after he received a call from environmental health following concerns over the event.
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But the dad claims the speaker was situated outside of the family's back door from 4.30-6pm on April 26. He blasted the kill joy who reported the casino-themed event and said that only eleven people were invited.
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The full-time carer says there are more than 40 flats or semi-detached homes in his close and the neighbouring street, which includes many "elderly" residents. He insists the "whirlwind little party" was finished by 7pm and that it was "pathetic" to call the council instead of explaining their annoyance in person.
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Jamie said: "It was quite a whirlwind little party. It was casino-themed and I was the head of the roulette wheel with fake money and card games. I brought the speaker system down from Cain's bedroom, put it in the utility room that backs onto the back garden, and put one of the speakers just outside the back door.
"I put the tunes on from 4.30pm and it was loud but it wasn't full blast - it could have gone a lot louder. I thought it was loud but reasonable. I'm an old-school raver from back in the day. I put one of my rave CDs but within 20 minutes they'd switched to teenager music, which is all grime and drum and bass.
"Within an hour the volume of that went right down because they were congregating in groups and having chats more than anything. By 6pm the music had been turned off. We've lived here for five years now and it's the first time the stereo has been an issue. We had a disco dome in the garden with music pumping from it last year.
"If I had a problem with something the only way to address it is head-on and be civil. It would have looked pathetic but it's even more pathetic that he's had to bring it up (with the council). It's annoying but deep down it makes me laugh because I see it as a form of jealousy. God forbid anyone enjoy themselves and have a good time."
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Jamie, lives with wife Tammy Obrien, 39, and their three children Cain, Mia, 20, and Kurt, 11. He claims the worker, from Fareham Borough Council, sided with him on the call and insists people should explain what the issue is if they make a complaint, reports Wales Online.
Jamie said: "I took the call from environmental health and they said the noise complaint had been raised over the volume of our music. I explained we had the party from 4-7 and it was probably on for an hour tops and she told me 'that's absolutely fine. Even I have a party once in a while. Everyone's entitled to have a party'.
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"I asked her to tell whoever it is to grow a pair and knock on my door the next time, but she said she can't put it like that. She said she'd make them aware it was a birthday party and there's no foundation for the complaint.
"If you've got a baby that's trying to sleep or you've worked a night shift, be logical, explain yourself and then we can all get on. I'd apologise if I offended anybody because my music was that bad or that loud but it genuinely wasn't and that's why they haven't knocked on the door. It's just a problem neighbour. Our house is on an elderly residential plot. There's 44 flats and our house in the close but we've got a really good rapport with all the elderly residents."
Jamie says he has not been put off hosting a party at the house in future and would hire a venue if he planned it to run late into the night. His post said: "On Saturday April 26, I had a birthday party for my son and he had a small group of friends attend our home.
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"Today I received a phone call from environmental health after a noise complaint was made about the music! Firstly, the party was from 4-7pm and as for the music it was probably fairly loud for about an hour tops!
"I would just like to reach out to Karen and advise them to grow a pair and come knock my door in future or just to basically get a life of their own instead of hiding behind phones and computers! This was the first noise complaint in five years of living here as we never really have parties."
One commented: "I hope your son had the best party ever. Too many sour people these days!" A second said: "Some people need to get a life. What a pathetic thing to do. Music loud at 7pm wow."
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A third said: "What sound in the whole world could possibly be more wonderful than children enjoying themselves to music? Shame on the miserable soul who couldn't appreciate that sound." However one said: "Quite simple. Turn it down and stop being the 'I'm always right' neighbour from hell."
Another said: "Isn't it ironic that you are complaining about Karen not knocking on the door and hiding behind phones and computers and then instead of knocking on their door you put up this post."
Jamie replied: "Haha you're funny but not in a funny way. 'Neighbour from hell' please, maybe 20 years ago I would have been."
Fareham Borough Council said environmental health officers assess noise by taking into account a range of factors such as frequency, time of day/night, background noise levels and volume so it is unlikely they would take any action for one-off parties.