‘They've meant so much to me': His TV show is a hit but this filmmaker still cries in the shower

Sydney Morning Herald

18-06-2025

Eight years ago, aspiring filmmaker Cooper Raiff had an idea for a story about a pair of siblings bonded by their dysfunctional upbringing. Six years ago, the Texan native started writing about the characters, swiftly getting down an initial 100 pages. Three years ago, having sold his second feature, the romantic-comedy Cha Cha Real Smooth, to Apple TV+ for roughly $23 million, Raiff began turning the script into a television series.
Two years ago, Raiff, who would play the younger sibling, Hal, cast Riverdale's Lili Reinhart as his character's elder sister, Harper, and Mark Ruffalo as the co-dependent pair's damaged father, Michael. Eighteen months ago, Raiff's production wrapped in Los Angeles, ending a hectic 50-day shoot. Five months ago, the show, Hal & Harper, debuted at the Sundance Film Festival, successfully selling to streaming services. Three weeks ago, Raiff cried in the shower because he was saying goodbye to the fictional family that had become all too real to him.
'I was crying because I was going to really miss Hal and Harper, and dad, too,' Raiff says. 'I've been with them for so long and they've meant so much to me. I'm bad at maths but I'm 28 now and they've been in my head and body for eight years now. That's a lot of life. It was hard to let go.'
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Zooming in from separate locations in New York, Raiff and Reinhart are a smiling mix of wonder and surprise. They know they're a part of something special with Hal & Harper but the experience of making the series was so demanding they're still getting used to the work leaving them and going out to the world.
'Cooper, to me, never ever lost sight of the vision he had,' Reinhart says. 'It changed along the way, because it had to, but the feeling of it and the intensity in Cooper's eyes every day never changed because he was trying to stay true to what was inside his heart. How do you paint the inside of your heart and stay true to it?
'Something, somehow was guiding him and he was very locked in. Trying to talk to Cooper about anything else was useless. There was no conversation outside the show,' she adds, then addresses Raiff directly. 'Your whole life was consumed by this show, which is why it is so effective. I've never seen firsthand a heart be embodied like this. That's why I had a lot of trust.'
Comprising eight roughly half-hour episodes, each written and directed by Raiff, Hal & Harper is an idiosyncratic gem of a series. In an era of neatly segmented shows, it's messy and ambitious and counterintuitive. It's very funny and very sad, often in such close proximity that you're not aware of one becoming the other. The comedy and the drama are their own storytelling siblings.
Twenty-two-year-old Hal and 24-year-old Harper Williams are still emotionally intertwined from the childhood loss that left them with a wounded father, Michael, who struggled to support them emotionally. As Hal floats through his university degree and Harper struggles with her first job, the pair lean on each other. It is, as Harper has realised, an unhealthy dynamic. And then their father delivers news that shakes all three of them: his girlfriend, Kate (Betty Gilpin), is pregnant.
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'There are so many people I love who have watched this show, and a lot stop at a certain place and say, 'I'm going to get there but I'm not there yet',' Raiff says. 'When they do – well, people can't talk to me about the finale, so they just send me a selfie of them crying. Even my own dad, I'm still trying to sit him down and talk to him.'
In many ways Hal & Harper brings the tenets of independent filmmaking to television, whether it's Raiff's ready use of natural light or a hectic production schedule in which the stripped-down crew and cast had to 'steal locations' (shoot without the relevant permits) when required. The call sheet, a production's daily schedule, was mostly 'a suggestion', jokes Reinhart.
'There is some sort of lightning-in-a-bottle magic to doing so much in a day. You're tired, your guard is down,' Raiff says. 'If there was a crying scene, it was very easy to cry. We had a scene that was meant to be funny but I started crying and someone said, 'I'm not sure that's the vibe.' And I said, 'That's my vibe right now!''
Lengthy sequences are told in montage form, set to Raiff's distinctive music choices, and there's also a bittersweet twist: in the extensive flashbacks to when Hal is aged seven and Harper nine, Raiff and Rinehart still play the characters. It is absurd but touching. The pair are oversized yet still too small for the circumstances they're struggling with. The influence the pair's uncertain childhood has on them as adults is made wrenchingly clear.
'My favourite day on set was the first time we played kids. I knew it was going to be emotional and funny but I didn't realise how much soul it would have. That's what Lili's eyes bring. Whatever she was doing as nine-year-old Harper is the most beautiful thing that's ever been put on camera.'
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Raiff isn't afraid to dig into the emotional muck of his characters. Ruffalo's Michael is still roiled and uncommunicative and, like his children, he wants to say the right things but he doubts they'll actually apply. When push comes to emotional shove, father, son and daughter all painfully struggle to make sense of what they're grappling with.
'We're really good at talk therapy and I have friends who are very emotionally intelligent but that's very different, that processing trauma through your body,' Raiff says. 'Talking about your feelings is easier than actually feeling them.'