Woman ‘Fed Up' with Mother-in-Law After She Questions If Her Age Contributed to Newborn's Vascular Tumor
In a post on Reddit, the woman details how her husband's mom planted a vegetable garden in her backyard, and made cruel comments about her pregnancy
Now, she's turning to the internet for advice on how to confront the womanA woman whose mother-in-law has "no filter" says her behavior is getting "increasingly worse" — and she's "fed up."
In a post shared on Reddit, the anonymous woman writes that her husband's mom has increasingly crossed the line, especially when it comes to family planning.
She recounted one night when her mother-in-law made a huge deal after learning the poster was turning 35 and had yet to start trying to get pregnant.
"She proceeded to gasp and say we better get started trying for children and said I would likely need hormone therapy to conceive and said 'luckily they give that out like candy now,'" the woman recalls.
"I was so taken aback and offended as we had not tried for kids yet and I was still on birth control, and I have several friends that had fertility issues," she writes. "How would she know that we weren't already trying for kids and having trouble? It's just such an insensitive thing to say."
Fast forward to now, and the woman did give birth to a baby girl. However, her mother-in-law has become even more overbearing, coming over multiple times a week.
"When she is here I don't get to hold my baby at all. She will not put her down unless it's to give her to my father-in-law," she writes.
She adds that her mother-in-law often stops by unannounced, "letting herself in" through the couple's garage.
"We changed our garage code and [my husband] told her she could no longer come by unannounced as she came in while I was walking around upstairs to get a towel for the shower so I was not fully clothed, and she knew my husband was at work," she adds.
Another example of the mother-in-law "walking all over [their] boundaries" was when she "planted a huge vegetable garden" in the couple's backyard, despite them repeatedly telling her they didn't want one.
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But the mother-in-law's latest behavior is even more concerning, she writes.
The poster shares that her 5-month-old daughter "has an infantile hemangioma on her head, which is very common. 2 of my friends have 3 daughters that have all had them."
"My MIL knows this and asked which ones in this picture with my friends' kids had the hemangiomas as babies," she writes. "She proceeded to say that she wondered if my age when having a baby was what caused the hemangioma on my daughter. I was just a few months shy of turning 36 when I had my daughter."
The poster says she is "fed up" with all the comments about her age, as her mother-in-law has already started telling the poster she "should be getting started trying for the next baby due to my age."
She also worries that if their "daughter has any sort of health issues in the future she will immediately blame it on my age."
"She has hyper focused on my age and made so many rude comments for a couple years now and I'm just over it," she writes, noting that she is "just tired of having to smile and pretend that her comments don't bother me."
"She's rude and she clearly knows what she says is inappropriate, but proceeds to say it to me anyways," she adds.
The poster feels like she is at her "breaking point," questioning whether she and her husband should have a "sit down" with her mother-in-law.
"I told my husband if something is not addressed soon that I'm going to snap the next time she makes a rude comment or oversteps a boundary," she admits.
Other Reddit users are advising the poster to strike a strong tone with her mother-in-law.
One suggested, "Send this text: 'I have reached my limit with your insensitive comments about my age and about my child's appearance. We are taking a break from home visits for the foreseeable future. Husband will let you know when we are available for public visits.' Then block her."
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