Bride shares picture of 'monstrosity' wedding cake as people say 'nothing prepared me for this'
The anonymous bride posted a picture of the cake she expected to receive followed by an image of the one she was presented with on global discussion forum Reddit.
She explained: 'My mother volunteered to pay for our wedding cake.
'I tried to find something simple so it wouldn't cost much…. She swears to this day she didn't make it but I am not convinced'.
While the photos were added to the 'baking' subreddit, which is often filled with 'cake fails', users admitted that nothing could have prepared them for this particular example.
Titled 'Wedding cake expectation vs reality', the post first showed a picture of what the bride had hoped for, namely, a two-tier cake covered in white icing and topped with floral decorations in autumnal colours to match their October nuptials.
The second picture, however, showed the cake she received, which bore very little resemblance to the original.
The cake that the bride's mother gave her looked positively homemade - not only was it messy with frosting dripping down the sides, it also looked squashed.
Reddit users were genuinely shocked by the disparity between the two cakes
And, unlike the cake the bride had requested, the icing coverage was uneven, leaving some sponge exposed.
Reddit users appeared to be genuinely astonished by the vast disparity between the two cakes, with one person admitting: 'Nothing prepared me for this.'
Another person agreed: 'I must have seen hundreds of cake fails over the years. I still was not prepared.'
While a third exclaimed: 'Consider my flabbers gasted.'
A fourth person could not accept that the cake wasn't homemade. Their brutal verdict read: 'I just made something that looked like this a few weeks ago with two boxes of [cake] mix and a can of icing.
'I can't believe she proceeded with the drizzle when the layers looked like that. What a monstrosity.'
Another Reddit user said: 'I just spat my drink out'.
And a sixth person joked: 'That's one Temu version of a cake right there'
Temu is a budget-friendly online marketplace, which frequently offers huge discounts and promotions.
A seventh didn't mince their words when they insisted: 'That has got to be the best one on here. That's atrocious.'
In a separate post, the bride added that the wedding party 'did not eat' the cake - but that it did come from a bakery, according to both her mother and her sister.
The bride wrote: 'I asked my sister about this today since so many people were interested.
'She doubled down and said she was with my mother when she picked it up from Haggen.'
Yet, despite her disappointment at her mother's cake, the bride's day was far from ruined by it.
She said: 'My sister saw what my brought and ran tot he store and got donuts for guests and cheesecake for us to cut.
'She made a cute display with some pumpkins since we had an October wedding.
'I am thankful for her quick thinking.'
The bride, who has been married for five years, also revealed that half-a-decade on, she too finds it 'funny'.
She wrote: 'Thank you everyone for your great comments, I've read almost every one and they made MY day'.
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