Ask Janice: 'I'm worried I might be pregnant - what do I do?'
I knew three of them, but the other one was just a random.
I can't eat or sleep for worrying that I might be pregnant and which one could be the dad.
I can't speak to my parents as they would be furious, and that's putting it mildly.
I'm not ready to be a mum and want to finish my college course, so what do I do?
I feel like going out and getting wasted to blank all this out.
Help.
JJ.
Dear JJ,
Getting wasted was most likely what got you into this mess, so don't even think about it.
You certainly made best use of the Easter break, and although I'm not here to judge, you need to consider the wider implications of your promiscuous behaviour.
Apart from a potential unwanted pregnancy, your sexual health (and your partners') is at risk.
Visit your GP and get a pregnancy test done immediately.
If positive, your doctor can advise on your options and discuss a paternity test, if needed.
Your doctor will also arrange for you to be tested for sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
However, regardless of the outcome of these tests, you need to be supported emotionally, so please chat to a trusted friend or relative, as support and guidance are crucial at this time.
It's also the perfect time to reflect on your behaviour which has resulted in such emotional turmoil.
You have a career looming ahead, and in order to manage your life going forward, you must take responsibility for your actions.
Bed-hopping with strangers is short-term gratification for long-term guilt and emotional baggage.
It's also immature, unsafe, and a recipe for a lot of future unhappiness.
I have no doubt you'll be fine if you clean up your act, stay safe, and learn the valuable lessons these last weeks should have taught you.
Take care.
Dear Janice,
I work in a busy factory, and it seems like every week I am putting cash into envelopes for someone's birthday, new baby, wedding, or leaving do.
I have never had a card or gift, and although that sounds childish, I really can't afford to spend my hard-earned money on people I barely know.
I don't want them thinking I'm the only mean one if I don't want to contribute to everything.
Nicole.
Dear Nicole,
You will not be the only person who begrudges paying into these endless envelopes because, like you, most people feel obligated to contribute in order to conform with their colleagues.
Sure, it's a lovely gesture, but from now on agree that it makes more sense for everyone to contribute to a smaller group, i.e., people whom they work closely with on a regular basis.
This means you won't constantly be spending on strangers but will enjoy giving to people who actually mean something to you.
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