25 Target Products For Your Kid's Room That They Won't Grow Out Of Right Away
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The younger the kid, the quicker they grow out of, well, everything. Here are a few must-haves that will last a few years (hopefully).
1. A comfy, cozy beanbag chair with a secret side-sleeve pocket for holding books or tablets, and a loop handle for dragging it around with ease.
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Promising review:"Loved these bean bags for my 6- and 8-year-olds. They fit perfectly in them; they're comfortable and lightweight enough to easily move around. Also like the structure to them. " — CRac
2. A Melissa & Doug wooden toy chest because there are just so many toys, and they can't be played with all at once, and they need to go somewhere that's not the floor.
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3. A 3-in-1 double-sided wooden art easel with a whiteboard, chalkboard, and paper roll for nascent artists to work in their preferred medium, and store all those art supplies on the easel's two shelves.
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Promising review:"It's very heavy, but I loved that about this item. It's actually wood and not flimsy at all. It is aesthetically pleasing to look at as a kid's toy. I love the shelves for storage, and it comes with two bins. The dry-erase board has been a huge hit, and the paper roll too." — Rclaus
4. A Lego Botanicals mini orchid building set that'll take some adult hands to help build, but will add a never-need-to-water-or-worry-about-dying floral touch to any kid's room.
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Promising reviews:"A really fun build. It didn't take very long. A great set for anyone that won't take hours or days to put together." — Baxterdad
"Looks life-like from across the room!" — Other
Price: $29.99
5. A pop-up LED light-up play tent to encourage kids to take off to new areas of imaginative and independent play (or just take a nap inside).
6. A Shark air purifier featuring a true HEPA filter for capturing 99.98% of airborne particles like dust, dander, and allergens in a space up to 500 square feet.
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Promising review:"Love the auto feature!!! It continuously adjusts to the amount of pollution in the air. It kicks into high gear when I blow out a candle on the other side of my apartment and even when I use hairspray/aerosol products in my bathroom. It's great to know that all the little things I don't see are being collected out of my home! It's easy to turn that feature off and you can set it on a timer, but I've read it's more beneficial to leave it running on auto. Air purifiers don't extort as much energy as you'd imagine. It's incredibly easy to check the filter life as well. 10/10 for this air purifier!" — haley a
7. A rack of painted wooden hooks to hang jackets, hoodies, backpacks, hats, or anything that doesn't exceed 2 pounds of weight on each hook (that means no hanging from these hooks, kiddos).
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8. A ceramic starry globe nightlight for helping kids who are drifting off to sleep or waking up in the middle of the night by casting lightly glowing stars on walls and ceilings.
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9. A waterproof, impact-resistant LED flashlight to light the way for those middle-of-the-night trips to the bathroom or conducting monster inspections under the bed.
10. A low-pile construction, indoor striped rug that easily adds a splash of color to the high-traffic areas of your kid's floor.
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Promising review:"Love the texture, the colors, and the quality! Pillowfort fan since always." — Valerio
11. A wood ruler growth chart for tracking all those feet and inches over the years and a nice little reminder for parents about how small the kids were at different times.
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12. A set of 12 collapsible drawer organizer bins so both parents and kids can easily find their favorite shirt or pair of socks without tearing the whole room apart.
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Promising review:"The perfect addition to organize my son's dresser. The zipper makes it easy to store away if you're not using them. Very sturdy" — Delana
13. An extra-large coiled rope basket to toss toys, clothes, grooming products, or whatever. It's especially helpful for transporting said items that have been scattered around the house back to their room or performing quick cleanups.
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Promising review:"I'm very impressed with this storage basket. It can be used to hold toys, blankets, clothes, etc. It can hold a good amount of items as well. My hubby wanted to steal the one I bought to replace his hamper. I ended up buying a second. Good buy!" — QueenB
14. A lightning bolt decorative pillow that strikes us as a sound investment for electrifying the decor of your kid's room for years to come.
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15. A water- and dust-proof JBL Go4 Bluetooth wireless speaker with a little loop for easy carrying and up to seven hours of playtime. You can even pair two speakers to create some stereo sound.
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Promising review:"I bought this to use in the shower, and it's perfect for this purpose. It took all of two seconds to pair with my phone. It has a nice sound and easy-to-use controls even with wet hands. I was surprised at how small the loop was. I'm not sure what its intended purpose is, but for me, it works for hanging off a shower curtain ring." — alissa
16. A two-tier wood bookshelf to display all those favorite books that you've read to the kids so many times that you've basically memorized the whole thing and don't even need to look at it. Plus, it holds toys too!
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17. A six-pack of remote-controlled, hexagon LED color-changing tile panel lights that can be arranged in nearly endless configurations. Each box includes fasteners for easily attaching to walls. Get a second set and link up to 12 lights.
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Promising review:"Pros: Easy to assemble and hang, great vivid colors with adjustable brightness, a decent amount of lighting-low ambiance and party vibes, different coloring-changing modes to switch it up. The lights respond to music amazingly well (mini-concert time). Slight inconveniences are that you can only connect six panels together, which makes it a little hard to make larger designs, and each set of six needs its own USB adapter." — Get Spooky
18. A 13-inch world globe to put 🎵 the whole world in their (small) hands 🎵 as kids can spin through international destinations while learning geography and what latitudes and longitudes are all about.
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19. A stainless-steel water bottle so kids won't need to creep around or even leave their beds if they want some water.
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Promising review:"Tough bottle. I'm clumsy, but the lid and handle have not broken yet. I break every bottle, so I'm impressed with its durability." — D
20. A Nex Playground Active Play video game system that uses an AI-powered camera and motion-learning system instead of sensors or wearables to sense natural hand gestures and movements. This is out-of-the-box fun right here, and an easy fit for any bedroom.
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Comes with five games: Starri, Whac-a-Mole, Goal Keeper, Fruit Ninja, and Party Fowl
Promising review:"I bought a Nex playground for my 5-year-old son, and he loves it. His favorite games are Fruit Ninja and the games in Active Arcade. I love that the Nex games keep him moving and that they keep developing new games for the console. The Nex has made playdates at our house a big hit. Their customer service is also fantastic! 10/10 recommend." — Cherylb614
21. A portable lap desk with plenty of storage space so creative endeavors like drawing, coloring, or writing never need to be confined to one space. It even works for snacking!
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22. An easy-to-clean two-sided playmat to provide a comfy surface for your kid's activities, especially if their bedroom has hardwood floors and no carpet.
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Promising review:"Great mat. Attractive. Cushioned. Great for sitting on while playing and prevents bumps and bruises for kids learning to walk. Dog and cat claws don't rip it. Can be vacuumed." — kc9
23. An ultrasonic cool mist humidifier that'll moisturize air for up to 25 hours straight, helping with anything from dry skin to congestion (for babies, toddlers, kids, and adults). Everyone's respiratory system wins!
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Ideal for rooms up to 250 square feet.
Promising review:"Easy to fill, quiet, good mist, and really improved my son's congestion. He is 2, and we have been using one from his baby shower for some time and saw no improvement; been using this for about a week and saw a quick change in his cough, congestion, and runny nose." — Cmarie
24. A 36-pack of plug protectors because electrical safety might still be an issue no matter how old they get!
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Promising review:"On top of everything you must worry about while being a parent, the last thing you need to worry about is your little one's tiny fingers getting hurt. This product is the best! Came with plenty of covers for the apartment." — BGarden
Price: $3.49
25. A polka-dotted kids' wastebasket for all those used tissues and snack wrappers that seemingly populate the floor at all times (even right after you've cleaned).
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Promising review:"Really nice trash can, perfect for my little girls' bedroom. It's sturdy enough that it's held up for a long time, even when being stored behind their door...they constantly open the door into it, lol. I expected it to get cracked after enough abuse, but it's still hanging on strong!" — Vja
Price: $18
Reviews have been edited for length an/or clarity.
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Some floral coasters that'll add some real beauty to your coffee table, bar cart, or bedside nightstand. *Sip, sip, hooray* for no more water ring stains and cute yet functional decor! A beautiful tennis bracelet to add just the right amount of "oomph" to your look. This 14-karat gold-plated bracelet looks way more expensive than what you paid for and has a durable clasp so you can wear it all day every day. A set of quilted placemats that will look gorgeous on your dining room table and under the fancy plates you take out for special occasions (or the simple Target ones you got on sale)! The scalloped edge adds extra detail, and best of all, these are reversible and machine washable! A satin ribbon bow bookmark so darling you'll want to get one in every color and grab a new book just to go with it. Just think about it, your cover of Twisted Love by Ana Huang will look perfect with the light blue bow! 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It's not too big, not too small — it's juuuussst right, since it holds a lot of stuff and it's versatile enough to go with pretty much any outfit. Plus, it doesn't hurt that it looks just like a Bottega Veneta bag! A book-shaped flower vase for the bookworm that loves flowers just as much as they love reading. I mean, does this not give off "I am an intellectual, but I also love my aesthetics" energy? A decorative rainbow window film perfect for those who want a little privacy, thank you very much, but also love feeling like their home is an enchanted getaway. Reviewers like how easy it is to install and how pretty it looks when the sun shines through. A 3D printed lamp that doubles as a dried flower vase. (Genius!) You're able to change the lamp's color, so you can even match it to whatever colored dried flowers you choose. Who needs a boring old lightbulb and shade when you've got this pretty thing? A quick-heating Fellow electric kettle to make you sing 🎶 here is my handle, here is my spout 🎶 with pride because of how beautiful it is. It's fancy gooseneck for optimal pouring and customizable temperature settings prove that function and beauty can coexist in the kitchen. A set of geode bookends that add some beauty to your bookshelf while ensuring your little library stays in place. Dare I say.... these ~rock~ because they even have little rubber bumpers so that they won't scrape your surfaces. A satin dress with floral straps — perfect for any occasion, but especially for a spring or summer wedding. You'll look so good in this that YOU'LL be living rent free in the minds of all the other wedding guests! A Porter Seal-Tight glass container, which will basically put other containers to shame because of how pretty AND leakproof they are. Whether it's overnight oats, a green smoothie, or the same leftovers you've been eating for three days straight, your food stores perfectly in this durable to-go container. A set of modern olive oil dispensers you won't want to hide in the pantry because they look *chef's kiss.* They come with 37 different labels whether you choose to fill them oil, vinegar, or syrup, AND they come with a funnel for easy refilling. A wooden digital alarm clock/wireless phone charger so you can have the best of both worlds that Hannah Montana was singing about. It's a chic piece of decor for your nightstand and a way to reduce the amount of charging cords in your room! A set of dainty but surprisingly strong bow-shaped hair clips that will be a BOW-utiful touch to your updo hairstyles. An adorable floral ceramic latte mug for anyone who wants a break from the typical sleek coffee cup and appreciates anything that gives off that homemade aesthetic. (Bonus: these are microwave-safe!) An adorable garden-themed bath mat/rug so you can step out of the shower and be met with a plush place for your feet that also makes you feel like your bathroom is a little fairy garden forest. A nonstick deep dish pan from BuzzFeed's Goodful collection capable of frying, sautéing, and braising, all while looking super cute on your stovetop. It's made from high-quality aluminum and even comes with a beechwood spatula! Tie-front satin PJs so beautiful and luxurious-looking that you'll start to question if these even count as pajamas. They look *and* feel way more expensive than they are and come in so many colors! A darling "Candle By The Hour" beehive candle sure to get some buzz from your friends because this might be the coolest candle they've ever seen. Once you light it, it burns until the flame reaches the tip of the little extinguisher. Yay for a cool candle and not forgetting about an open flame! Or, a genius candle warmer lamp if you don't want to bother with flames, but still want to enjoy that fancy candle splurged on from Anthropologie. It'll help increase the longevity of your candle, and as Kacey Musgraves once said... "I'm alright with a slow burrrrnnnnn." A wavy full-length mirror so cool and unique that you'll want to take mirror selfies and OOTD pics in it for everyone to see. It'll be the mirror mirror on the wall that is the fairest and funkiest of them all! Or, a smaller gold decorative mirror you can hang up on the wall and have it stand out next to your framed prints *or* you can use it as a place to hold jewelry, perfumes, and other small trinkets. A rug, which adds a vintage-y vibe thanks to its beautiful patterned design. It cleverly hides stains—perfect if your kids tend to make a mess—and the best part? It's machine washable! A stuhhhhninggggg glass blown flower vase — it's definitely a splurge, but my oh my, it's gonna look good on your kitchen table, living room shelf, or pretty much anywhere you find an excuse to display it. It's pretty with flowers in it, but it looks just as beautiful on its own. A dainty pickleball paddle set so you can serve in style no matter how good or bad you are at the game. These will look so cute with your fave pickleball outfit and they even come with an adorable carrying bag and extra balls! A midi corset dress because you've had your eye on the House of CB "Carmen" dress for a while but cannot justify its $225 price tag. Thankfully, this one is way cheaper, looks just like it, and will be your favorite dress in your closet! Anthropologie's Icon Juice Glass, which are named "icon" for a good reason since these glasses stay popular throughout all the drinkware trends going on. Don't be surprised if you start collecting these because I know I do! And a set of beautiful multicolor vintage-inspired martini glasses that are just as functional as they are beautiful. You can fill these up with some bubbly and bring a sparkling touch to your dinner table and your kitchen cabinets. A retro-style toaster — it might just convince you that your favorite kitchen gadget is a freakin' toaster of all things. And it looks quiteee similar to the ever-so-expensive Smeg toaster. A gorgeous cowl-neck satin dress you'll want to pull out for date night, your cousin's wedding, and pretty much any event since you can dress it up with fancy heels or keep it casual with some nice sandals.
