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Newsweek
2 days ago
- Newsweek
Fury at What Waitress Does To Cost Her a Tip on $300 Tab: 'It's Messed Up'
Based on facts, either observed and verified firsthand by the reporter, or reported and verified from knowledgeable sources. The internet has weighed in after a waitress lost a tip on a $300+ tab for repeatedly failing to bring one thing. As the man, who chose not to give his name but who posts to Reddit under the username u/Nerd_Rat, told Newsweek: "It's one thing to get bad service, but that was pretty blatant. The initial event really got under my skin. I don't think anybody likes being treated like that." He explained, in a post to the r/AITA_WIBTA_PUBLIC sub on May 19, that he met a group of friends at a club and sat at their table, where they had already been ordering alcohol and food. As he wasn't drinking due to being on medication, he asked the waitress for a Sprite—and says "she gave me an awkward smile and said okay." She then returned 10 minutes later, without his Sprite, and asked his friends if they wanted another round. They ordered a round of shots and reminded her about the Sprite—but she returned with the alcohol, and again without the Sprite. When the same thing happened again, and he noticed the waitress didn't go to the bar to get his drink even after he asked a third time, he took matters into his own hands. He went to the bar, ordered his Sprite, paid and tipped the bartender, and returned to his seat. And later, when the waitress came with the bill that he estimated to be around $300 for the entire party, she tried to charge the man for the Sprite she never brought, claiming the bar had transferred the order to her. He wrote: "I don't know why I was so upset about the Sprite; it's just a Sprite. But my friends were also upset that I was being treated that way, so they all paid their tabs, left no tip, and wrote on the checks, 'You should have brought my friend a Sprite.'" The man was torn by what happened, as he usually thinks it's "messed up not to leave tips," and he only learned afterwards what his friends had done. But at the same time, he added, "I also don't like being discriminated against because I can't drink alcohol due to my medications." Reddit users responded in a big way, awarding the post more than 23,000 upvotes, as commenters weighed in. One took the party's side, writing: "I've worked as a bartender, waitress, and a barista. That kind of behavior doesn't just deserve a no tip, it also deserves a call to the bar owner to let them know WHY the waitress didn't get a tip." Another assured the man he shouldn't feel bad, as "it was up to your friends to leave a tip and they chose not to. She was not catering to the whole party, just the drinkers. I wouldn't have tipped her either," as another pointed out: "This service deserves no tip. Soft drinks and waters take less than 10 seconds to make." And as one put it: "She didn't provide a service to get tipped for. Your friends saw that she was blatantly ignoring you. That equals no tip." But etiquette consultant Lisa Mirza Grotts suggested the party could have taken a different approach, as while gratuity is optional, in the United States "it's customary and often expected." Pictured: Stock image of a woman holding a bill receipt at a restaurant. Pictured: Stock image of a woman holding a bill receipt at a restaurant. frantic00/Getty Images "When service is completely absent or disrespectful, diners may feel justified in withholding a tip," she told Newsweek, but urged: "Don't walk away in silence. Speak to a manager even when annoyed. This leaves the door open for resolution." A reduced tip "sends a clear message without cutting off the server's income entirely," and while the man did everything right in waiting, reminding the server and going to the bar himself, "the stronger move would have been to politely flag down a manager when it became clear the Sprite wasn't coming. A calm explanation allows for a real-time fix." The man told Newsweek he was "surprised" by the response to his post. "It felt good that the majority of people [agreed] with me, but there were quite a few who didn't, and I understand why," he said. "I do think it's important to tip people who aren't going to be getting a living wage otherwise, but that doesn't mean you can treat people poorly just because you think they won't tip." Do you have funny and adorable videos or pictures you want to share? Send them to life@ with some extra details, and they could appear on our website.
Daily Mail
6 days ago
- Daily Mail
I pressured my mother to confess a scandalous family secret on her deathbed - now I'm worried I ruined her final moments
A woman has described their torment after pressuring their mother to confess a family secret while on her deathbed. Posting on the thread r/AmITheA**hole, the user, believed to be based in the US, revealed how they found out at a young age that her baby brother's biological father was not the man who had brought him up. Allen, the poster's younger brother whose name has been changed for privacy, lived the majority of his life believing that George, the man who raised him from a baby, was his biological father - even after he had died. In 2023, Allen and his wife began discussing the fact that he didn't look much like George, and even began to wonder if he was his real father. The Reddit user recalled their distress when they realised their mother 'didn't have much time left' but was the 'only one who had the answer'. As I result, they 'pressured her, got loud with her' and finally got her to admit the truth to Allen, giving enough information for them to eventually track down his real father. However, the Reddit user revealed they felt guilty for forcing out the information, writing: 'AITA for pressing my mom in her final weeks? I felt like it caused Allen to be stand offish and he rarely came by to check on her after that.' They added: 'The reason I think I might be the a**hole is one for pressing her while she's on her deathbed and causing her discomfort but also the fact that my brother kind of abandoned her at that point and yelling came to visit her one time after that and at that point she was incoherent basically in a coma and I feel like maybe I robbed her of her final moments with her family.' But taking to the comments, most agreed that they'd done the right thing - and felt sorry for Allen, having been kept in the dark for so long. One commenter wrote: 'Why on earth was she still lying about it? Did the guy turn out to be scary or something?' The sister of Allen responded and confirmed that this was not the case at all. She wrote: 'No. He actually turned out to be a really good guy. Feel like she was embarrassed and wasn't really thinking about how it is going to affect him not knowing.' Other readers of the story questioned why the poster's mother and aunty were discussing the topic so openly at the dinner table when she was present as a child. One person wrote: 'What kind of sick family discusses this at the dining table in front of the other kids? Either they thought it was no biggie or they did it on purpose so someone would overhear and they wouldn't be to blame that it all came out. Either way, they suck and I'm sorry for the original poster and their brother.' Many people supported the poster's decision to pressure their mother into telling the truth. Another person wrote: 'You not only helped Allen find his bio-dad but also helped preserve a modicum of decency for your mother right before her death, even though she doesn't have much decency to begin with.' A second said: 'Your brother should have been told a LONG time ago. He had every right to know who his birth father was so he could decide whether to have a relationship then or not. It was wrong for your mother to keep that from him. You did the right thing.' Posting on the thread r/AmITheA**hole , they revealed how they found out at a young age that her baby brother's biological father was not the man who had brought him up Others were not as supportive of the decision and argued that the daughter had 'ruined' her brother's final chance to make 'fond memories.' They wrote: 'The last time with your mom should have been where you could make some fond memories or have nice talks together. You ruined that for your brother, so congratulations.' Explaining how the poster came to to learn the information, they wrote: 'When I was young I discovered the secret while at the dining table when my aunt and grandmother were having a conversation. 'My aunt spilled the beans that my stepdad was not my youngest brother's real father.' However, some time after the initial reveal worlds nearly collided, the poster wrote: 'Years later me and my mother were out having a few drinks just enjoying each other's company and she said oh my God that's Allen's real dad. 'We didn't speak to him and I wasn't exactly sure which guy she was talking about.' Despite George taking the secret to his grave Allen had discussed with his wife how he felt that he 'looked nothing like' who he thought his father was and had question if he was 'his real dad.' When Allen opened up to his older sister about how he was feeling she 'told him he'd have to talk to Mom,' and that she did not know much about the situation. However, timing was not on the daughter's side as their mother 'didn't have much time left but was the only one that had the answer.' The poster admitted that due to their mother's ill health she 'felt bad springing it' on her but thought that her brother deserved answers. She wrote: 'Everybody else who was privy to it was dead by this point and my brother wanted to find who is real dad was so he can know his family history, family medical history, if he has other siblings out there you know that kind of stuff.' However, when the siblings approached the topic with their mother she 'tried to deny it,' triggering the daughter to get 'loud with her.' Recalling the altercation and her own behaviour in particular she wrote: 'I'm not proud of it.' Although it was a challenge the truth finally came out. The daughter wrote: 'But she finally admitted to Allen, and what little information she could remember, or was willing to release, was just enough that with a little searching we were able to find him.'
Buzz Feed
19-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Buzz Feed
Man Won't Change 'Smelly' Dinner Order For Girlfriend
You know the "olive theory" from How I Met Your Mother? The idea that if one person in a couple loves olives and the other hates them, it's a sign they're soulmates — perfect opposites who balance each other out. Cute, right? But after reading one guy's story on the AITA subreddit, I'm starting to think that theory only works with olives... and not, say, seafood paella. Here's the story: "I (27M) have been dating Emily (25F) for about a year. She's an amazing person, but she can be a bit picky with food. I'm generally easygoing, but I really enjoy trying new dishes when we eat out." "Last weekend, we went to a nice restaurant, and I ordered a seafood paella. Emily ordered a chicken dish for herself. When my food arrived, she wrinkled her nose and said, 'Ugh, that smells so strong. I don't think I can eat my food with that next to me.'" "I was caught off guard and asked if she wanted to switch seats, but she said, 'No, I just think it'd be better if you ordered something else.' I told her I was really looking forward to trying the paella and that she should just focus on her own food. She got upset and said I was being inconsiderate of her discomfort." "She barely touched her food and was quiet for the rest of the meal. Later, she told me I was selfish for not making a small compromise when she was clearly uncomfortable." "I feel like I shouldn't have to change my meal just because she didn't like the smell, but now I'm wondering if I was being dismissive." "Am I the asshole?" he asked at the end of the post. And plenty of people answered: Over a thousand people chimed in with their opinions, thoughts, and analyses of the man's predicament. The top comment from full_pace7666 was: "This is utterly preposterous." Opinions of how he should proceed varied, but one thing was unanimous: something in their relationship needs to be addressed. Some people were stuck on the logistics of trying to send back the paella or order something new: "He already has his food. What is his reason for sending it back? If I were the restaurant, he would be paying for both meals if his only reason was 'my GF doesn't like the smell.' And paella usually isn't cheap to begin with." "Yeah, and paella isn't a food you pack away to eat later either. You want to eat it as soon as it's served. I appreciate that some people have a very strong sense of smell and can easily be nauseated, but there are better ways to deal with that than controlling what other people eat." Many thought the girlfriend simply needed to get a grip: "To order a whole different meal that she's not going to have any part of because she doesn't like the smell isn't a 'small compromise.'" "Maybe she needs to literally touch grass. I feel like microwaved tuna and durian are really the only two foods people should veto based on how they smell, and I'm not even that pressed about the tuna." "This is even worse than that. I can imagine, for example, a pregnant vegetarian asking their spouse not to order the fish. But saying nothing at the time it was ordered, then sending it away after it arrives, is another level of rude and entitled." "If it's been a thing for her most, if not all, of her life, then she either needs to pack some nose plugs or insist they eat outside." People who struggle with hypersensitivity to smells shared their thoughts and potential solutions: "I can track a blood trail through the forest to my kill...I've never once told someone they couldn't order something because I didn't like the smell." "I easily get nauseous with smells, but I would never tell my boyfriend or kids they couldn't eat something because of the smell..." "I have major sensory issues, and keep a strongly scented mint lip gloss in my purse. Pop that stuff on and all the other smells go bye-bye. Works like a charm since I love mint." "Having hyperosmia and getting a migraine if I am around extremely overpowering smells... I've never asked someone to order something different. If this GF is THAT sensitive she must have learned already to carry something to block the scent in her nose or just, IDK, breathe through your damn mouth." Some users resonated with the story and shared times they've been in similar situations, with slightly different circumstances: "I had a similar experience with my wife many years ago. However, she happened to be pregnant. I did change my order." "My wife had her meal comped because of the smell one time. My wife has an issue with chicken; even the smell can make her sick to her stomach. We were at a Cajun place and went to a lot. She ordered dirty rice, which was her usual order. The waiter set the plate down, and my wife got up and walked away." So what do we think? Was he being dismissive, or does the girlfriend need a reality check? Share your thoughts in the comments! And if you have simply given UP on dining out, you must download the free Tasty app — no subscription required — to access 7,500+ recipes and cooking tips galore.
Time of India
17-05-2025
- Sport
- Time of India
Jaipur's tennis prodigy Saumya Chaudhary wins Under-14 girls doubles gold in Thailand on debut
Jaipur: An eleven-year-old Saumya Chaudhary of Jaipur, ranked No. 2 in the AITA rankings, brought laurels to the region by winning the gold medal in the LTAT Asian 14 and Under C 2 (2) 2025 tennis tournament. In her maiden international competition, which started in Thailand on May 10, Saumya defeated her opponents by playing brilliantly to emerge U-14 girls doubles champion. After winning two matches in the qualifying rounds, the pair of Saumya and China's Yufan Zheng outclassed the Thailand duo 6-2, 6-2 in the quarterfinals. In the semi-finals, Saumya and her Chinese partner edged past the pair of Australia's Alice Cardosi and Thailand's Vimuttiya Pongnu 7-5, 6-3 to storm into the final. The final was held on May 16 in which Saumya and Yufan Zheng faced Hong Kong's Yuvette Wan and Indonesia's Obry Kadir. Saumya-Yufan displayed an excellent show and won the match 6-1, 6-4 and clinched the gold medal. Saumya was born on December 23, 2013, in Jaipur. From a very young age, she showed deep passion and dedication towards tennis. She started playing tennis at the age of 7 under the guidance of international coach Sumit Gupta. by Taboola by Taboola Sponsored Links Sponsored Links Promoted Links Promoted Links You May Like Trade Bitcoin & Ethereum – No Wallet Needed! IC Markets Start Now Undo She has performed brilliantly by winning many singles and doubles national ranking and super series tournaments. Saumya credits her school, international coach Sumit Gupta and her family for her amazing success. Her grandfather Chand Chaudhary is a famous businessman and social worker. Her father Rahul Chaudhary and mother Sunita Chaudhary are also well-known businessmen. In fact, recognizing her talent, her grandparents encouraged her to pursue sports. She is a true child prodigy, and her success is a result of her dedication, encouragement from her family and coaches, and media recognition.
Daily Mail
11-05-2025
- Lifestyle
- Daily Mail
I broke up with my boyfriend because he's a picky eater - I feel bad but it gave me too much of an ick
A woman has revealed that she is dumping her boyfriend over his 'picky' eating habits - after venting her frustrations over his limited palate of chicken fingers and mac and cheese. After going online to express her growing anxiety over his penchant for plain meals, she was eventually convinced to end things by commenters. Taking to the hugely popular Am I The A**hole forum on Reddit, the anonymous poster detailed her concerns about his lack of culinary adventurousness. His restricted diet was already becoming a burden, she said, and she feared it would only get worse with time. The post has since garnered more than 13,000 upvotes and some 2,300 comments, many from users with their own cautionary tales about dating so-called 'chicken finger men'. The woman, thought to be from the US, wrote: 'My boyfriend has tons of food restrictions and is picky in general. 'He basically can only eat chicken fingers, grilled cheese, mac and cheese, and pad Thai. 'I've never seen him eat a vegetable. We just started dating a few months ago and I love him, but I eat everything and am very laid back.' She went on to say that she was already feeling the pressure of planning her day around his eating preferences, especially while on holiday. 'Even if a restaurant does have chicken fingers or mac and cheese, it won't be the same as what we get at home and I just don't want to hear about it while I'm on vacation,' she said, before ending with the question: 'AITA? I feel bad.' Following a flood of replies - many urging her to rethink the relationship - the woman later returned to the thread to confirm her decision. 'EDIT: I am breaking up with him. After seeing a glimpse into my future via your responses, I realised I cannot do this and it will eventually wreck us. Thank you.' The comments were flooded with personal anecdotes and firm opinions about the practical toll of dating such a picky eater. 'Told myself NEVER again with the picky eaters after dating a chicken finger man lol,' one user wrote. 'Somehow it will always be you who is expected to plan the meals too. 'I understand not liking some things, but unless this is medical/allergies there's a point where this is just stuck up and annoying as a fully grown man.' Another commenter slammed the boyfriend's expectation to simply accommodate him. 'Think of all the important events that involve food - family gatherings, Christmas, weddings. Is he gonna sit there and complain about the food options? 'I'd be so embarrassed, unless it was because he has a medical condition.' Some took a more humorous approach to the bleak picture painted by the woman. 'It's only been a few months. Do you want chicky fingies and choky milk for anniversary dinners? Your wedding? Never traveling with your partner?' one person asked. 'For the love of God, please do end it,' another said bluntly. 'You deserve a relationship with an adult, not a toddler.' Echoing the sentiment, one said: 'Look ahead a few years and picture your table at your wedding. 'Think about the menu options your guests will have - or would he be eating chicken fingers and chocolate milk while everyone else is having steak or fish?' Some more optimistic commenters shared stories of partners who began as picky eaters but eventually made compromises. In some cases, people felt the picky eating habits weren't quite as big a dealbreaker. 'If he's be self-sufficient I wouldn't care about what he eats or doesn't eat (or what other people think about it,' one offered. 'If other people are that judgy that they take notice or offence I wouldn't want them as friends anyway). 'But he needs to find food options himself without complaining or expecting other people to do it for him like he's a child. He could even bring his own food (not to a restaurant obviously) or get something at a supermarket. Maybe skip dinner with OP because sitting there with just a coke watching her eat will be awkward. 'On the other hand you'll never have a nice dinner date with him ever. If that's something you like maybe it's just not a good compatibility even if he'd start doing all the other things. 'I personally hate eating out most times and are not very exited most other times about it, I wouldn't care about that. But if it's something you like as a couple self-care thing than that'll possibly grow resentment one day.' Still, the overwhelming majority was convinced the girlfriend should flee before the honeymoon stage starts to sour - and it would seem the poster herself was in agreement. In a follow-up comment she penned: 'Honestly, the level of irritation I am experiencing when people on here suggest I should just let him come and listen to his complaints are really making me realise I need to end things. 'I'm not that bothered by it now but low key, I think I would be embarrassed if other people knew he could only eat chicky fingies and choky milk and the thought of taking him to an event or a dinner with friends/family and having him eat like a toddler makes me already experience second hand embarrassment.' The post joins a growing genre of viral 'ick' stories that highlight how seemingly minor quirks - such as a partner's diet - can become deal-breakers.
