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Newsweek
28-05-2025
- General
- Newsweek
Nearly Half of Gen Z Says Monogamy Is Outdated
Based on facts, either observed and verified firsthand by the reporter, or reported and verified from knowledgeable sources. Newsweek AI is in beta. Translations may contain inaccuracies—please refer to the original content. Close to half of Generation Z believes monogamy is an outdated norm in modern relationships, according to a new report from Rayden Solicitors. Survey data reveals Gen Z—the cohort currently aged up to 28—expresses greater comfort with non-monogamous relationships than previous generations. Experts spoke with Newsweek about what may be behind the numbers. The findings reflect a transformation in how young Americans approach romantic and sexual relationships, with 42 percent of those aged 18 to 24 believing that monogamy is no longer a "realistic" ideal in modern relationships. Why It Matters The shifting views among Gen Z carry implications for family formation, social norms, and future marriage rates in the United States. As new generations challenge traditional assumptions about love, commitment, and partnership, societal structures may adapt to reflect broader choices in relationship models. These patterns could shape household dynamics, economic planning, and even public policy for decades to come, experts and social scientists suggest. This photo shows the decoration from the cake of Jenita Aguilar's wedding, which is sponsored by the Pope, at her home in Tacloban City, province of Leyte on April 22, 2025, a day after Pope's... This photo shows the decoration from the cake of Jenita Aguilar's wedding, which is sponsored by the Pope, at her home in Tacloban City, province of Leyte on April 22, 2025, a day after Pope's death. More JAM STA ROSA/AFP via Getty Images What To Know The report from Rayden Solicitors, based on responses from 1,000 UK residents, found that nearly one in three people (31 percent) believe monogamy is no longer a realistic ideal in modern relationships. This perspective was more common among younger adults, with 42 percent of those aged 18–24 saying monogamy was an outdated concept. Views on monogamy were similar between men and women. However, men were slightly more likely to believe it's still a realistic ideal, with 69 percent saying so, compared to 67 percent of women. Many people are staying in relationships far longer than what might be healthy, with 68 percent of respondents admitting to staying in a relationship longer than they wanted to. This often came down due to emotional and financial reasons, with 19 percent staying due to a shared living environment. A different survey cited by Fox News Digital reported that 57 percent of Gen Z is willing to consider a non-monogamous relationship. The research, conducted by Ashley Madison via YouGov, found that Gen Z accounted for 40 percent of new members on the platform in 2022. Among Gen Z Ashley Madison users, 59 percent expressed interest in open or polyamorous relationships. Similarly, a Thriving Center of Psychology survey found that two in five young adults—Gen Z and millennials—view marriage as outdated. Despite this, 83 percent still hoped to marry someday, suggesting that while traditional forms of commitment are being questioned, the desire for long-term companionship persists. The survey also detected economic anxieties and a belief that marriage is not required for a fulfilling relationship. Gender differences are pronounced: 29 percent of female Ashley Madison members cited seeking multiple partners to fulfill emotional needs, compared to 9 percent of male members. Roughly 21 percent of surveyed women said they could not be happy in a monogamous relationship, compared to 15 percent of men. Moreover, 60 percent of Gen Z users on the platform preferred to keep their sex lives private. Economic factors such as student debt, cost of living, and housing instability have repeatedly been cited as reasons for delaying or avoiding traditional, monogamous relationships. A prior Newsweek report noted that Gen Z is the loneliest generation, with 46 percent single, and many see independence, self-care, and financial security as critical priorities before considering committed relationships. What People Are Saying Dr. Wendy Walsh, a relationship expert from DatingAdvice, told Newsweek: "Our culture puts pressures on us and it can impact our sexual behavior. Religion is a good example of a cultural invention that impacts sexual behavior. Mating marketplaces are a big one too. If one is born in a small town, and has very few mate choices, surprise, surprise, they may behave in a monogamous way." Bryan Driscoll, an HR consultant who specializes in generational differences, told Newsweek: "I think Gen Z just sees the world for what it is: messy, over-leveraged, and full of broken promises. Maybe that's attributable to youth, but it also strikes envy. So it's no surprise they're rethinking many ways of life, including monogamy. When job security is a myth, housing is out of reach, and climate collapse feels inevitable, why cling to outdated relationship models that don't reflect reality?" What Happens Next Ongoing generational shifts in attitudes toward monogamy and marriage are likely to influence future family structures, policy responses, and social norms in the U.S. "Questioning monogamy isn't a sign of moral decline. It's a sign of honesty, a rejection of a one-size-fits-all solution in favor of relationships built on consent, communication, and clarity," Driscoll said. "That might unsettle people who prefer the illusion of tradition over the work of transparency." Researchers anticipate a continued rise in alternative relationship arrangements, along with evolving expectations about commitment, privacy, and partnership. However, Walsh said it's natural for the younger generation to be less likely to adopt monogamous ideals. "This is the age of experimentation," Walsh said. "This is the age of auditioning partners. This is the age of gender and sexual fluidity. It makes sense that young people in any study would say that monogamy may not be realistic for them." The mating marketplace has changed enormously for Gen Z as well, Walsh said. "We are seeing an oversupply of successful women in this age and an under supply of marriageable men for these women. For every man who graduates college, there are two women. Women now make up the majority of the American workforce. I'm talking about education and economics," Walsh said. "There are many many great guys that these women should choose to be monogamous with because they would be great husbands and fathers, but many of these high achieving women perceive them as less valuable. And so, with no 'marriageable' men on the horizon, many women are experimenting with multiple partners, sharing high-status men, or choosing same-sex relationships."
The Sun
19-05-2025
- Entertainment
- The Sun
Two huge pop stars top list of best songs to have sex to – but does YOUR favourite make the cut?
SONGS by Rihanna and Beyoncé are among the best for making things pop between the sheets, a sexy survey suggests. Bajan superstar RiRi's 2006 hit Unfaithful — about a love triangle — topped the charts for 'non-monogamy' tunes that get women in the mood. 4 4 Beyoncé and Shakira's track Beautiful Liar is also a favourite, as is Carrie Underwood's tune Before He Cheats. A survey of 661 members of extramarital dating app Ashley Madison found 71 per cent of women listen to music before sex, compared to 51 per cent of men. But fellas prefer tunes by male singers. The Killers' classic Mr Brightside — about lead singer Brandon Flowers catching his ex cheating — came out on top. Lou Bega's conquest-listing hit Mambo Number 5 was second favourite for blokes. 4 4
Yahoo
10-05-2025
- Yahoo
Women Are Sharing The Devastating Moment They Realized They Didn't Know Their Partners At All, And It Makes My Stomach Hurt
We recently asked members of the BuzzFeed Community to tell us the heart-shattering moment they realized their partner wasn't the person they thought they were. Here are their stories: 1."The day after I came home from brain surgery, he asked if I could go to the post office for him, since I was off from work. I couldn't even walk straight, let alone DRIVE." —Anonymous 2."The moment I realized I didn't really know my husband was when I was pregnant with our child, and he confessed to me that he had been cheating on me throughout most of our nine-year marriage. He even had an account on Ashley Madison and would hook up with women when I was out of town. I had no idea and was not suspicious, nor had I ever checked his phone because I trusted him. I knew that he had a pornography addiction, but I had no clue it had escalated to this level. Needless to say, our marriage did not last long after that. I tried to make things work because of our child, but we got divorced shortly after she was born because the trust was irrevocably broken." —Anonymous 3."When he told me during mediation he would never NOT see me as a whore. I had never been unfaithful, acquiesced to his (often wild) demands regarding my appearance, mannerisms, and way of speaking, and had changed my career trajectory to ensure he could 'find meaningful work' at the drop of a hat. He was not the man who wooed me from afar during COVID. I wish I had stayed off Tinder." —Anonymous 4."When I met my husband, I had a 4-month-old baby that he immediately stepped in to help me raise, no questions asked. I thought I found 'the one.' Eight years later, he dropped the bomb on me that he had opened credit cards without my knowing and had accrued a balance of $25k. He also told me he'd been stealing money from a family member to make the payments. THEN, I found out he'd been making videos of us during our intimate moments without my consent or knowledge. I've been gone for almost eight months and haven't missed him." —Anonymous 5."At the beginning of our separation, while having difficulty parenting our teen son, I asked him for help. He told me I was getting everything I deserved and that I was on my own. He didn't care about our child; he was just trying to hurt me. Turns out he was totally self-motivated our entire 20-year marriage, and I hadn't seen it as clearly as I had in that moment." —Anonymous 6."He wouldn't let me have the children vaccinated against COVID because he bought into conspiracy theories over science." —Anonymous 7."When he swatted a bee just enough so it was still alive, put it in the freezer until it fell asleep, and put it in a plastic bag when it woke up so he could watch it suffocate. He did this every time an insect got into our house afterwards and laughed while doing it. That's when I realized how abusive he had been and how preying on innocence was his game. I left him soon after." —Anonymous 8."I was eight months pregnant with my first and went into his email to get a recipe from his mom. We had each other's email passwords, but I had never checked on it unless I needed something, and he always knew when I was. This time, laid out very clearly, was a long-term affair where he was engaged in a BDSM situation. Not going to harsh anyone's kink, but to say I was shocked was an understatement. Even given all I did know about him and his preferences, an affair, especially such a long one, when there was nothing lacking in bed with us (to my knowledge), was jarring. Especially considering I still did anything he asked, even while I was very sick (went into liver failure) with his baby. He wasn't the person I thought he was. I should have run then, but I was young and naive." —Anonymous 9."When I saw the texts he sent to his affair partner, like, 'I can't control myself around you,' and more. After 10 years together and eight years of marriage with no other partners, his explanation was, 'How was I supposed to know we were monogamous?' Or maybe the email I found caused me to finally decide to get divorced. We had separated while I was in a two-month-long intensive outpatient therapy program to deal with the PTSD symptoms and suicidal ideation from the discovery of the affair. Despite promising me that he had no interest in dating and would let me know if that changed, he emailed his affair partner to reconnect. The first line of the email? 'It's been a at best, contact from my wife at worst.'" —Anonymous 10."When I found out he had been secretly taking Cialis for a year, and the amount of pills missing from the bottles didn't match the number of times we'd been intimate. I could never trust him again, and we eventually divorced." —Anonymous 11."Within the first month, he threatened to leave me. That didn't feel great, but I chalked it up to the intense emotions brought on by our argument. What made me realize he was operating on a whole other level was when he apologized for saying it. He followed his apology with, 'Don't worry. If I ever didn't want to be here, I promise I still wouldn't leave you. I'd just make you miserable enough to want to leave me.' It took eight years, but he kept his promise." —Anonymous 12."After giving birth to our new daughter, he was insistent on going out all the time and said if I didn't accompany him, then he would be swayed to find a new girlfriend. We had only been married for about one year at that point." —Anonymous 13."I loved him, and I was sure he was the one. But one day, he didn't show up after work. My friend works with him and told me she saw him leave with another woman. I called and texted him, trying to get him to reply, and when he didn't, I drove to his location. He was parked outside a Starbucks, cheating with that woman. I later found my now husband. And he has been there for me every step of the way. There's truly no one I'm more grateful for, so really, my ex cheating was just a stepping stone to my husband. There's always someone out there." —Anonymous 14."After a very intense, emotional conversation about the fact that we were drowning in bills and going to have to choose between paying rent/utilities or the car payment, I finally broke down and cried like I never had before. He looked me straight in the eye and swore he would watch his spending and help find a way to fix the situation. I woke up the next morning to over $300 spent out of MY account on ridiculous Google Play purchases. The fact that he knew how badly it would hurt our family and my feelings and did it anyway immediately caused me to shut down emotionally. We separated shortly after when several other situations came to light. I will NEVER allow someone to know my account info, whether we're married or not. The complete lack of shame or empathy still gets me to this day. How can someone not care at all?" —Anonymous 15."When Homeland Security busted down my door at 4 a.m. I had been married for 28 years and had no clue who my husband really was." —Anonymous 16."When I came home from being hospitalized for bilateral pulmonary embolisms. I was on two different blood thinners and needed to be super careful. I asked him to bring down the Christmas decorations from the attic for me, seeing as our attic stairs were steep and narrow. He refused. I did it myself. The person I married made me feel adored and respected. The person I divorced lacked empathy and was full of contempt." —lovelyorca50 17."We (both women) were long distance, and after she went to bed one night, I was having a chat with her friend, and things started to not add up. Long story short, I found out she was cheating on me with her male cousin." —Anonymous 18."Right before the wedding, he got a call from a number labeled with a girl's name. He has no siblings, and it wasn't his mom's name." —Anonymous 19."Five months into our marriage, he was in the middle of a custody battle for his son from a previous relationship. His ex wanted him to get drug tested. No problem, right? He tested positive for cocaine. Turned out he'd been using benzos and coke on and off for over 15 years. Never disclosed that before we got married because he thought I wouldn't marry him. Ya think? We stayed married for eight years. After the cocaine, it was fentanyl. After the fentanyl, it was meth. He'd get sober but couldn't stay sober, and then he'd just lie to me about his drug use." —fluffytraveler995 20."We hadn't spoken to each other in five years, but reconnected through social media. I thought everything was going okay until I peeked at his socials and discovered he was in a relationship with some girl on the other side of the country. I gathered from their posts that he was planning on moving to be with her, which his daughter confirmed. Had I not asked, I wouldn't have known, and sometimes you're better off not knowing, just like you're better off without that person. When I found out about her, I stopped returning his calls." —Anonymous 21."Probably two days ago, when he told me that I was the reason women shouldn't be president because we always put emotions before thinking — alI because I found out it would probably cost about $600 to fix my radiator fan, and I loudly exclaimed, 'What the fuck? I don't have $600!' Too emotional, no rational thinking, apparently." —invasivemage "After five tumultuous years with a man who professed his undying love for me one minute, then would tear me down the next, we tried a three-month separation. I agreed to get back together under the premise that we would get therapy to work on our problems, and he agreed. Fast forward two weeks, and he made me promise I would never leave him. I reminded him that we were going to get therapy to work on our issues, and I could not make any such promise; I only promised we would seek help for our problems. He lied about everything he said he would do and berated me for deceiving him. His outright denial about what he did and simply refusing any accountability made me realize that the man I thought I loved never existed. I feel sick for giving such a narcissistic human five years of my life. RUN from a narcissist!" —Anonymous What's the moment you realized you didn't really know your partner? Tell us in the comments or share your story anonymously using this form. Dial 988 in the United States to reach the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. The 988 Lifeline is available 24/7/365. Your conversations are free and confidential. Other international suicide helplines can be found at The Trevor Project, which provides help and suicide-prevention resources for LGBTQ youth, is 1-866-488-7386. If you or someone you know is in immediate danger as a result of domestic violence, call 911. For anonymous, confidential help, you can call the 24/7 National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or chat with an advocate via the website. The National Alliance on Mental Illness helpline is 1-800-950-6264 (NAMI) and provides information and referral services; is an association of mental health professionals from more than 25 countries who support efforts to reduce harm in therapy. If you or someone you know is struggling with substance abuse, you can call SAMHSA's National Helpline at 1-800-662-HELP (4357) and find more resources here.
Buzz Feed
10-05-2025
- Buzz Feed
22 Women Reveal Gut-Wrenching Partner Deceptions
We recently asked members of the BuzzFeed Community to tell us the heart-shattering moment they realized their partner wasn't the person they thought they were. Here are their stories: "The day after I came home from brain surgery, he asked if I could go to the post office for him, since I was off from work. I couldn't even walk straight, let alone DRIVE." "The moment I realized I didn't really know my husband was when I was pregnant with our child, and he confessed to me that he had been cheating on me throughout most of our nine-year marriage. He even had an account on Ashley Madison and would hook up with women when I was out of town. I had no idea and was not suspicious, nor had I ever checked his phone because I trusted him. I knew that he had a pornography addiction, but I had no clue it had escalated to this level. Needless to say, our marriage did not last long after that. I tried to make things work because of our child, but we got divorced shortly after she was born because the trust was irrevocably broken." "When he told me during mediation he would never NOT see me as a whore. I had never been unfaithful, acquiesced to his (often wild) demands regarding my appearance, mannerisms, and way of speaking, and had changed my career trajectory to ensure he could 'find meaningful work' at the drop of a hat. He was not the man who wooed me from afar during COVID. I wish I had stayed off Tinder." "When I met my husband, I had a 4-month-old baby that he immediately stepped in to help me raise, no questions asked. I thought I found 'the one.' Eight years later, he dropped the bomb on me that he had opened credit cards without my knowing and had accrued a balance of $25k. He also told me he'd been stealing money from a family member to make the payments. THEN, I found out he'd been making videos of us during our intimate moments without my consent or knowledge. I've been gone for almost eight months and haven't missed him." "At the beginning of our separation, while having difficulty parenting our teen son, I asked him for help. He told me I was getting everything I deserved and that I was on my own. He didn't care about our child; he was just trying to hurt me. Turns out he was totally self-motivated our entire 20-year marriage, and I hadn't seen it as clearly as I had in that moment." "He wouldn't let me have the children vaccinated against COVID because he bought into conspiracy theories over science." "When he swatted a bee just enough so it was still alive, put it in the freezer until it fell asleep, and put it in a plastic bag when it woke up so he could watch it suffocate. He did this every time an insect got into our house afterwards and laughed while doing it. That's when I realized how abusive he had been and how preying on innocence was his game. I left him soon after." "I was eight months pregnant with my first and went into his email to get a recipe from his mom. We had each other's email passwords, but I had never checked on it unless I needed something, and he always knew when I was. This time, laid out very clearly, was a long-term affair where he was engaged in a BDSM situation. Not going to harsh anyone's kink, but to say I was shocked was an understatement. Even given all I did know about him and his preferences, an affair, especially such a long one, when there was nothing lacking in bed with us (to my knowledge), was jarring. Especially considering I still did anything he asked, even while I was very sick (went into liver failure) with his baby. He wasn't the person I thought he was. I should have run then, but I was young and naive." "When I saw the texts he sent to his affair partner, like, 'I can't control myself around you,' and more. After 10 years together and eight years of marriage with no other partners, his explanation was, 'How was I supposed to know we were monogamous?' Or maybe the email I found caused me to finally decide to get divorced. We had separated while I was in a two-month-long intensive outpatient therapy program to deal with the PTSD symptoms and suicidal ideation from the discovery of the affair. Despite promising me that he had no interest in dating and would let me know if that changed, he emailed his affair partner to reconnect. The first line of the email? 'It's been a at best, contact from my wife at worst.'" "When I found out he had been secretly taking Cialis for a year, and the amount of pills missing from the bottles didn't match the number of times we'd been intimate. I could never trust him again, and we eventually divorced." "Within the first month, he threatened to leave me. That didn't feel great, but I chalked it up to the intense emotions brought on by our argument. What made me realize he was operating on a whole other level was when he apologized for saying it. He followed his apology with, 'Don't worry. If I ever didn't want to be here, I promise I still wouldn't leave you. I'd just make you miserable enough to want to leave me.' It took eight years, but he kept his promise." "After giving birth to our new daughter, he was insistent on going out all the time and said if I didn't accompany him, then he would be swayed to find a new girlfriend. We had only been married for about one year at that point." "I loved him, and I was sure he was the one. But one day, he didn't show up after work. My friend works with him and told me she saw him leave with another woman. I called and texted him, trying to get him to reply, and when he didn't, I drove to his location. He was parked outside a Starbucks, cheating with that woman. I later found my now husband. And he has been there for me every step of the way. There's truly no one I'm more grateful for, so really, my ex cheating was just a stepping stone to my husband. There's always someone out there." "After a very intense, emotional conversation about the fact that we were drowning in bills and going to have to choose between paying rent/utilities or the car payment, I finally broke down and cried like I never had before. He looked me straight in the eye and swore he would watch his spending and help find a way to fix the situation. I woke up the next morning to over $300 spent out of MY account on ridiculous Google Play purchases. The fact that he knew how badly it would hurt our family and my feelings and did it anyway immediately caused me to shut down emotionally. We separated shortly after when several other situations came to light. I will NEVER allow someone to know my account info, whether we're married or not. The complete lack of shame or empathy still gets me to this day. How can someone not care at all?" "When Homeland Security busted down my door at 4 a.m. I had been married for 28 years and had no clue who my husband really was." "When I came home from being hospitalized for bilateral pulmonary embolisms. I was on two different blood thinners and needed to be super careful. I asked him to bring down the Christmas decorations from the attic for me, seeing as our attic stairs were steep and narrow. He refused. I did it myself. The person I married made me feel adored and respected. The person I divorced lacked empathy and was full of contempt." "We (both women) were long distance, and after she went to bed one night, I was having a chat with her friend, and things started to not add up. Long story short, I found out she was cheating on me with her male cousin." "Right before the wedding, he got a call from a number labeled with a girl's name. He has no siblings, and it wasn't his mom's name." "Five months into our marriage, he was in the middle of a custody battle for his son from a previous relationship. His ex wanted him to get drug tested. No problem, right? He tested positive for cocaine. Turned out he'd been using benzos and coke on and off for over 15 years. Never disclosed that before we got married because he thought I wouldn't marry him. Ya think? We stayed married for eight years. After the cocaine, it was fentanyl. After the fentanyl, it was meth. He'd get sober but couldn't stay sober, and then he'd just lie to me about his drug use." "We hadn't spoken to each other in five years, but reconnected through social media. I thought everything was going okay until I peeked at his socials and discovered he was in a relationship with some girl on the other side of the country. I gathered from their posts that he was planning on moving to be with her, which his daughter confirmed. Had I not asked, I wouldn't have known, and sometimes you're better off not knowing, just like you're better off without that person. When I found out about her, I stopped returning his calls." "Probably two days ago, when he told me that I was the reason women shouldn't be president because we always put emotions before thinking — alI because I found out it would probably cost about $600 to fix my radiator fan, and I loudly exclaimed, 'What the fuck? I don't have $600!' Too emotional, no rational thinking, apparently." And: "After five tumultuous years with a man who professed his undying love for me one minute, then would tear me down the next, we tried a three-month separation. I agreed to get back together under the premise that we would get therapy to work on our problems, and he agreed. Fast forward two weeks, and he made me promise I would never leave him. I reminded him that we were going to get therapy to work on our issues, and I could not make any such promise; I only promised we would seek help for our problems. He lied about everything he said he would do and berated me for deceiving him. His outright denial about what he did and simply refusing any accountability made me realize that the man I thought I loved never existed. I feel sick for giving such a narcissistic human five years of my life. RUN from a narcissist!" What's the moment you realized you didn't really know your partner? Tell us in the comments or share your story anonymously using this form. Note: Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity. Dial 988 in the United States to reach the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. The 988 Lifeline is available 24/7/365. Your conversations are free and confidential. Other international suicide helplines can be found at The Trevor Project, which provides help and suicide-prevention resources for LGBTQ youth, is 1-866-488-7386. If you or someone you know is in immediate danger as a result of domestic violence, call 911. For anonymous, confidential help, you can call the 24/7 National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or chat with an advocate via the website. The National Alliance on Mental Illness helpline is 1-800-950-6264 (NAMI) and provides information and referral services; is an association of mental health professionals from more than 25 countries who support efforts to reduce harm in therapy. If you or someone you know is struggling with substance abuse, you can call SAMHSA's National Helpline at 1-800-662-HELP (4357) and find more resources here.
New York Post
27-04-2025
- New York Post
The US states with the most cheaters revealed — with New York snagging a notable spot
If you're single, you might want to steer clear of looking for a potential suitor in one of these US states that have been named as the places where the most cheating in relationships and marriages happens. According to new research conducted by Instacams, an adult webcam site, there are supposedly 10 states where people are looking to cheat on their partners the most. The research analyzed the number of searches for 80 different popular dating apps, such as Tinder, BLK and Ashley Madison — the controversial app married people use to have an affair — in the US throughout 2024 and then ranked the states with the highest number. Advertisement 'This research goes to show that there is a widespread interest in having an affair among married people in the US, with almost one million searches for the platform every month,' said Aart Van Dijk, a spokesperson for Instacams. Coming in at No. 1 is the chilly state of Colorado, with 424 dating app searches, primarily for Ashley Madison, which was the second most searched app here. 3 Colorado snagged the No. 1 spot on the list Sean Xu – Advertisement Rounding out the top three were North Dakota and New Hampshire. ND had 362 searches for just Ashley Madison per 100,000 residents. New Hampshire wasn't far behind, as this state saw 357 monthly searches for each 100,000 people for the married dating app. Before you think the East Coast is in the clear — New York came in last, but still made it in the top 10, which isn't anything to be proud of. The Big Apple saw 331 monthly searches. 3 New York made the list, coming in last with 331 monthly searches. Tierney – Advertisement And Connecticut also made the list, coming slightly ahead of NYC with 335 searches per month. Here are the top 10 states where people are looking to cheat the most 1. Colorado (424 monthly searches) 2. North Dakota (362) 3. New Hampshire (357) Advertisement 4. Illinois (355) 5. Nebraska (350) 6. Montana (342) 7. Washington (341) 8. Massachusetts (339) 9. Connecticut (335) 10. New York (331) 'It is interesting to see which states are searching for Ashley Madison the most. The controversial app is made specifically for married people looking to have an affair, so its popularity may come as a surprise to some,' said Dijk. Advertisement 'It is the third most popular dating app in the US overall, after Tinder and BLK.' 3 Watch out for these signs that may indicate your significant other is cheating or looking to cheat. baranq – If you're unsure whether your partner is cheating or not — here are some signs to keep an eye out for according to professional 'honey trapper' Madeline Smith is the bait. Hiding their phone is an obvious but big one. Other ones include: never posting any pictures of you, they use Snapchat, they won't share their locations and they accuse you of cheating. Advertisement Lastly, pay attention to your intuition. 'Almost all of the messages I receive are from women saying that something just doesn't feel right and, sadly, they're usually right,' Smith said. 'If in doubt, call him out – or engage the services of someone like me!'
