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Yahoo
3 days ago
- General
- Yahoo
Not everyone wants kids. 5 women open up about the decision to be child-free.
As a labor and delivery nurse, Bari M. is used to answering questions about having babies. As a happily child-free woman, she's also used to answering questions about not having them — and is readily equipped to answer them. 'I have so many reasons that I find it's always a different one that flies out of my mouth,' the 36-year-old tells Yahoo Life. "If it's someone I'm very close with, I'll give them a deep, multi-level answer. If it's someone like a patient, I usually give a brief, kind of silly answer like, 'Well, I just went to Paris for three nights for my birthday, and I'm going to South Africa next month. I have no interest in giving that up.'' There are myriad reasons why a person might not have children (all of which are, quite frankly, no one's business). In a recent Yahoo News/YouGov poll of 1,597 U.S. adults conducted last month, 43% of respondents said they don't have children. Of that number, 19% cited concerns for the future of the planet, and 32% attributed the decision to cost. And then there are those who, like Bari, are choosing to be child-free ... well, because they just don't want to. More than a quarter (26%) of the poll respondents who didn't have kids said it's because they 'prefer life as it is,' and 25% answered, 'I'd rather just not' have children. 'Even when I was little, when we would play school or house or whatever, I was always the 'professional,'' L.M., a Brooklyn-based hair stylist, tells Yahoo Life. 'Being pregnant was very weird to me. My friend would put a pillow up her shirt, and it really freaked me out.' She says there was a fleeting period — a 'blip,' she calls it — where she thought she might want to have kids but ultimately found that it was not something she needed to find fulfillment. 'I sat down with myself on a serious level and thought, Would raising a functional member of society fulfill me? and [realized] that no, it's not something that brings me joy,' L.M. says. She recalls 'having that clear thought of like, This is not something that drives me when there are all these other things in life that do.' For Bari, the decision to be child-free came later. 'I actually used to really want kids in my late teens and early 20s,' she shares. Seeing the people closest to her become parents is what ultimately sealed the deal. 'I watched the day-to-day of their lives and their anxieties grow,' she says. 'A co-worker told me that on her first Mother's Day, she sat in her car alone and drank coffee for an hour, and it was all she could have wanted. I knew that wasn't for me.' The choice not to have kids is a personal one, but that doesn't stop some people in these women's lives from forming (and sharing) their unsolicited opinions. 'I got a lot of pushback, especially during the two years after my wedding,' Bari says. 'A (no longer) friend said to me, 'But you have to give your mom a grandbaby. You can't disappoint her.' I find that generally the people with the strongest opinions are the ones that know me the least.' That judgment is not only reserved for those who have made a definitive decision ruling out kids but also for those whose perspectives on parenthood have evolved over the years. That was the case for 37-year-old Gryte V. 'I froze my eggs a few years ago to have the insurance in case I changed my mind,' Gryte tells Yahoo Life. 'I definitely had a friend question me. Like, 'If you froze your eggs, it means you do want kids.' It's weird to have people tell you what they think you want.' Andrea C. was similarly questioned, in her case by her mother, after sharing that she no longer wanted to have kids. She had experienced two miscarriages in her first marriage, and her mom assumed that she would continue trying. 'She was stunned,' Andrea says. 'In her mind, she was like, 'But you tried to get pregnant before!' I think at the time I was just trying to fit in with society, and I didn't realize that not everyone fits in with those stereotypes.' The women we spoke to have some theories about why there's still so much pushback about opting out of the mommy track. 'I think for so many years we've been taught this very narrow life path you're supposed to follow,' Gryte says. 'Getting married, buying a house, having a child ... it's one type of way of living, and it's really hard for people to challenge themselves and think about why they actually want kids. I think people can't have the imagination of not having kids and still having a fulfilling life.' Bari echoes that sentiment. 'I think so many people just consider [parenthood] 'the next step' and don't even wonder what their lives could be like by staying child-free,' she says. 'I think people want other people to have similar experiences to them,' L. adds. 'To be able to relate. I think a lot of people can't step out of themselves and see someone else's perspective.' And while unsolicited opinions can feel intrusive, Melissa M. says talking through the inner conflict of whether or not to have kids actually helped her find clarity. When she was in her early 30s, a good friend who was wrestling with those same doubts connected her to a therapist specializing in fertility mental health issues. Was this a fear-based decision, or do I really not want to do it? Melissa, now 44, remembers her and her friend wondering at the time. 'I went to see [the therapist], and she was incredible. I ultimately realized that for me, it wasn't fear, it wasn't anger. It was just that I really didn't want to [be a mom], in the same way that I don't want a cat, or I don't want to go camping. It was a huge aha moment for me, coming to that conclusion.' Melissa jokes that she now has 'a home that looks HGTV-ready at all times' and that 'no one has peed on me recently.' Indeed, a feeling of freedom is a sentiment expressed across the board for these child-free women. Silence. Using the bathroom alone. The freedom to travel, to sleep! Not to mention, the space, time, energy and commitment that being child-free allows them to offer the other children in their lives. 'I have beautiful nieces and nephews,' Melissa says. 'We adore them. We get to be the bougie auntie and uncle and do all the ridiculous things, we get to be ... the cool friends for our friend's kids. You get to fill all those roles, do all those things. It's just a different life.' 'I love kids,' L. agrees. 'I will snuggle the s*** out of a baby, but I want to be able to give them back.' She's also uneasy about the current state of the world. 'If I had children, the anxiety I would feel about what we're leaving is terrifying, and I have that thought for my friends' kids, for my nephews. But I don't have it for myself.'
New Indian Express
5 days ago
- New Indian Express
Man held in Guwahati for duping Delhi woman on social media
Trusting the legitimacy of the profile and conversation, the woman transferred the amount. However, after the transaction, no items were delivered and repeated attempts to contact the seller for a refund went unanswered. Realizing she had been scammed, the victim approached the police. Following an investigation, authorities traced the fraudulent account to Guwahati. Police raided the location on May 24 and arrested Bari, said Deputy Commissioner of Police (East) Abhishek Dhania. During questioning, Bari revealed that he had targeted social media users with fake business profiles, typically scamming small amounts (under Rs 15,000). He believed that smaller sums would discourage victims from reporting the fraud. A mobile phone used to operate the fake account and communicate with victims has been recovered.
New York Times
26-05-2025
- Business
- New York Times
This Italian Port City Transformed Its Identity. Here Come the Tourists.
Antonio Maria Vasile began working two years ago to connect the United States directly with Puglia, the heel of Italy's boot where many Italian Americans can trace their heritage. Mr. Vasile, the head of Puglia's airports, tried to convince carriers that they should set their sights not on Naples or Sicily but on Bari, arguing that the regional capital offered rich culture, history and cuisine worthy of their time and money. 'We don't want to be relegated to being the south,' he said, referring to deeply ingrained biases in Italy against the more economically disadvantaged regions south of Rome. His efforts paid off late last year, when the Italian carrier Neos announced direct flights between Bari and New York's Kennedy Airport beginning the first week in June, the first ever route linking Puglia to the United States. The seasonal flights will run once a week through October. Mr. Vasile sees opportunities for all of Puglia, from farmhouse inns to seaside villages, but also for his city of about 330,000 people. 1/8 mile Adriatic Sea Corso Antonio DE Tullio Basilica of St. Nicholas Castello Normanno Svevo Cathedral of St. Sabino Old Bari ARCO BASSO Bari Map data from OpenStreetMap Rome Adriatic Sea ITALY PUGLIA Bari Naples Tyrrhenian Sea SICILY 100 miles By The New York Times Want all of The Times? Subscribe.
Eater
21-05-2025
- Business
- Eater
Acclaimed Spanish Restaurant Bocadillo Market Finds a New Home in West Town
Bocadillo Market, the Lincoln Park Spanish restaurant that closed in December, has found a new home in West Town along Grand Avenue, near an already impressive assortment of Italian American sandwich makers like Tempesta Market and Bari. Chef James Martin will bring a touch of Spain to the corridor when he and his wife, Jessica Neal, take over the Gemma Foods storefront. The new location is more personal for Martin. He talks about growing up in the D.C. area. His father worked in construction. West Town can attract more blue-collar workers compared to Lincoln Park, a neighborhood near DePaul University and filled with customers with college degrees. Martin wants to make sure he can serve customers like teachers and police officers regularly, keeping menu items under $20. 'That's the heart of our communities, and those folks eat out quite a bit for lunch,' Martin says. 'That's some of the things we missed in Lincoln Park.' Bocadillo 2.0 will open in phases, hopefully debuting in early July if not before. It's an evolution of Lincoln Park's daytime menu, headlined by sandwiches and augmented by coffee and pastries. Though the new location, 1117 W. Grand Avenue, won't offer regular dinner service — takeout and delivery will be a focus — that doesn't mean customers won't see an occasional pop-up. Martin says Sunday suppers, meals that would require reservations, would play a big role. The Lincoln Park location of Bocadillo Market opened in 2021 near Clark and Fullerton, and Martin — who's worked for José Andrés, North Pond, and A10 — treated Chicago to a different side of Spanish cuisine, one that blended Moorish and even Lowcountry influences. Bites featured serrano jamón or crisp calamari, often mounted between slices of pan de cristál. Think of the bread as a Spanish version of focaccia. During nightly dinner service, Martin would break out dishes like paella. Martin and Neal pumped plenty of energy and resources into creating a Spanish oasis in Lincoln Park, creating a comfy back patio and curating a supply of imported wines and other packaged goods in front. For example, it's one of the rare spots in Chicago to find Vichy Catalan, the Spanish sparkling water. The restaurant caught the attention of the James Beard Foundation, as Martin was named as a semifinalist for Best Chef: Great Lakes in 2024 and a 2022 Best New Restaurant in Bon Appétit . When they closed, Martin says he wanted to feed more people and to ensure his menu could be affordable. He also wanted to change lifestyles: 'It's fun, but at the end of the day, for me, I don't want to be at the restaurant at 1 o'clock in the morning or midnight.' On the accessible front, he points to West Town's vast array of Italian restaurants like Bari, D'Amato's Bakery, PIZZ'AMICI, Elina's, and Oggi Trattoria. Chicago has Spanish restaurants, like Bazaar by José Andrés or Boqueria in Fulton Market. But construction workers, like Martin's dad, aren't going to regularly patronize those establishments. He wants to make those customers feel welcome: 'It's really important to me,' Martin says. Bocadillo Market , 1117 W. Grand Avenue, planned for an early July opening Sign up for our newsletter.
Morocco World
20-05-2025
- Business
- Morocco World
Professor Anasse Bari: Morocco Should Create a University and Ministry for AI
Rabat – Moroccan professor and AI expert Anasse Bari has called on the Moroccan government to create a specialized university and a ministry dedicated to artificial intelligence. In an interview with Al Jazeera, Bari said these steps are necessary to help Morocco catch up in this rapidly growing field. The country needs to train young people in AI and create local solutions for education, health, transport, and agriculture, he argued, stressing that a dedicated AI university would help prepare Moroccan students to become global tech leaders. 'Governments must prioritize investment in artificial intelligence to ensure Arab students can enter the global competition and benefit from technological potential to prepare a new generation of thinkers, and to use AI in key sectors such as agriculture, tourism, and renewable energy,' Bari told Al Jazeera. Bari is currently a professor at New York University ( NYU ) and leads its AI and Predictive Analytics Lab. He has also worked as a lead data scientist at the World Bank and received awards for his teaching in the United States. A vision for Morocco's future As Artificial intelligence will shape the future of all nations in the coming years, Bari argued, Morocco must act now by establishing a national university and a ministry focused on AI, just like some other countries are already doing. He noted that Morocco has the talent, but it needs to build the institutions and support systems. 'Moroccans and Arab youth are talented and committed to hard work .. It runs in their blood. And as AI continues to evolve and spread, the demand for university graduates with specialized knowledge and skills in the field will grow,' the professor explained. He further urged Arab youth to build strong foundations in mathematics and computer science, and to use AI ethically. 'Despite its [AI's] huge potential, it comes with very important ethical considerations,' Bari says. He also noted the importance of having a national AI strategy, as other countries have already started working on long-term AI plans. 'This would be the best investment Arab countries have ever made. From Al Jazeera Net, I call for immediate action, and I am ready to contribute with a clear and executable plan to help achieve this ambition and take bold, effective steps toward the future,' Bari concluded. Tags: AIanasse bariMorocco
