Latest news with #CaliforniaStateUniversity
Yahoo
6 days ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Beyond the Kiss Cam Fail: What Prompts a Workplace Affair?
At first, they looked like any other couple basking in the glow of a Coldplay concert — arms wrapped around each other, lost in the music. But when a kiss cam zoomed in and panic flashed across their faces, it quickly became clear: This wasn't just a tender moment — it was a secret. The pair turned out to be Astronomer CEO Andy Byron and chief people officer Kristin Cabot — both reportedly married to other people. The footage quickly went viral, with internet sleuths identifying the pair and sparking a wave of speculation, gossip, and outrage online. But they're far from alone. While hilarious and cringe-worthy caught-on-camera moments like that might be rare, workplace affairs are not anomalies: A Forbes Advisor survey found that nearly one in five employees in committed relationships have had an affair with a colleague. We spoke to three relationship experts — and readers who've lived through these entanglements — to understand why they happen and what they often lead to. Why does workplace cheating happen? The workplace is a common breeding ground for romantic connections — not just because of the time we spend there (roughly 90,000 hours over a lifetime), but because emotional intimacy can easily develop alongside professional collaboration. 'Traditionally, we spend much more time with our colleagues than with our own families — that's just the nature of how we work in America,' licensed psychotherapist Akua Boateng tells us. 'And with that comes a sense of perceived trust and emotional attachment, simply from the time and energy we invest.' Kelly Campbell, Ph.D., a psychology professor at California State University, San Bernardino, agrees, noting that toxic work environments, blurred boundaries, and a lack of oversight often allow these dynamics to go unchecked. 'A toxic work environment can also lead to trauma bonding,' says Dr. Campbell, who studies infidelity. 'That shared frustration can create a sense of resonance, which might then lead to an emotional connection — and possibly an affair.' Dr. Campbell also adds that power imbalances can also play a role. She refers to this as the 'Romeo and Juliet effect,' a psychological phenomenon in which external opposition — such as parental disapproval — can intensify a romantic bond. In the workplace, she says, a similar dynamic can emerge when two people feel they shouldn't be together, which 'heightens the connection and fuels the excitement.' The problem, aside from the damage to your family, is that these affairs often lack authenticity, says Boateng. They're built on a fantasy, not reality — there's no shared structure, like paying bills or raising kids. 'You're only seeing a sliver of who this person really is,' she explains. 'It's more about mutual escapism — you're not building a real life together, you're escaping the one you already have.' Can relationships survive workplace affairs? According to couples counselor Terri DiMatteo, the answer is yes — but not without some serious challenges. Research suggests that up to 75 percent of couples stay together after infidelity. But only about 15 to 25 percent are able to genuinely rebuild trust and emotional intimacy. For others, the relationship survives, but not without scars — lingering resentment, tension, or a sense that things will never quite be the same. 'Many couples do stay together,' DiMatteo says. 'But often, those relationships limp along. They're never quite the same — it's almost like living with chronic pain.' That pain can be even harder to manage when the affair partner remains in the picture — like if they still work together and see each other regularly. 'The first step in affair recovery is to end the adulterous relationship — completely and unequivocally,' says DiMatteo. 'That means telling the affair partner, in no uncertain terms, 'It's over. I'm married. Don't contact me.' It needs to be firm, ideally in front of the betrayed spouse, with the door not just closed, but locked and sealed — like pouring cement over it.' Of course, that kind of clean break isn't always possible in a professional setting. Continued contact at work can be deeply triggering for the betrayed partner, which is why DiMatteo often recommends that the person who cheated either find a new job or adjust their schedule to limit contact. That said, a workplace affair doesn't have to be a dealbreaker — as long as both partners are willing to do the work and confront any unresolved issues or unmet needs. 'Infidelity is a relationship wound,' DiMatteo says. 'And since both people are in the relationship, and the relationship weakened or wasn't functioning properly, they've both contributed to that breakdown.' What happens after the affair? For some of our readers, the Coldplay video wasn't just viral gossip — it was a painful reminder of their own experiences. Subscriber Marjorie shared that her ex-husband left their 17-year marriage — and their four children — for a colleague who also walked away from her own family. While their affair didn't make headlines, it was a scandal in their town, where both were in high-profile roles. Watching the recent video brought back the deep emotional fallout that such betrayals can leave behind. 'The humiliation and betrayal you feel in a situation like that is devastating,' she writes. 'For some of us — like me — it takes years, a lot of good friends (I don't have any family), and countless hours crying your eyes out just to survive it. But the worst part is watching your kids go through it…and still carry the weight of it. There's nothing worse.' Another reader, Jane, a literature teacher, says her 23-year marriage unraveled after her husband — a top executive — began an affair with a much younger subordinate. It quickly became an open secret in his office, but the real damage, she says, happened at home. She was blamed for the affair, cut off from her children, and left to navigate the aftermath alone. Years of trauma therapy followed — including treatment for her daughter, who was a teenager at the time. 'He didn't just leave me,' Jane writes. 'He used our kids to justify it — and to punish me.' She's now sharing her story in the hopes that one day, her children will understand what really happened and begin to heal. 'Is my story just another '50-year-old man has a midlife crisis and leaves his wife for a 20-something' situation? Maybe. But I lived to tell my story — not just for me, but in the hopes that my children will listen to my perspective and finally see the destructive path, choices, and behaviors of their father,' she shares. 'Because at the end of the day, it was a choice, not a mistake.' Her journey — and so many others like it — is a stark reminder that workplace affairs don't just happen in secret. They leave echoes. To protect their privacy, readers' names have been changed. The post Beyond the Kiss Cam Fail: What Prompts a Workplace Affair? appeared first on Katie Couric Media. Solve the daily Crossword
Associated Press
6 days ago
- Business
- Associated Press
ScalaHosting To Power California State University, Sacramento With Secure, Scalable, and High-Performance Cloud Infrastructure in New Partnership
ScalaHosting's secure, scalable cloud hosting solutions will be integrated into CSUS's digital services to strengthen campus cybersecurity and infrastructure reliability. This new alliance will accelerate digital transformation in higher education. ScalaHosting, a global leader in managed cloud VPS hosting solutions, is proud to announce a multifaceted strategic partnership with California State University, Sacramento (Sac State), one of the largest public universities in California and a recognized leader in academic excellence and innovation. Through this alliance, ScalaHosting will integrate its scalable, secure cloud hosting solutions across CSUS's digital services ecosystem to strengthen its cybersecurity and enhance the performance and reliability of its infrastructure. With growing demand for educational institutions to provide always-on access to online platforms, CSUS is demonstrating its forward-thinking approach to digital infrastructure through this partnership. As one of the most respected institutions in the California State University system, the university plays a pivotal role in shaping the academic and digital experiences of thousands of learners each year. This decision to move to ScalaHosting marks a significant milestone, reinforcing the institution's dedication to delivering web hosting solutions that meet the high standards and expectations of enterprise-level organizations and public institutions. At the same time, this move underscores the university's commitment to security, performance, and long-term scalability as it supports its thousands of students, faculty, and staff. ScalaHosting brings to this partnership its enterprise-grade reliability, ironclad security, lighting fast servers, 24/7 support, and managed VPS cloud hosting. The cloud solutions provider also offers access to cutting-edge tools like Spanel, a control panel designed to reduce complexity and boost control, enabling institutions to streamline their server management without sacrificing flexibility or compliance. In accordance with the partnership, CSUS has initiated the migration of its key websites, including its Moodle LMS websites, to ScalaHosting's cutting-edge Cloud VPS platform. Chris Rusev, the CEO and co-founder of ScalaHosting and expressed his excitement about this partnership, calling it an opportunity for ScalaHosting to flex its cloud hosting and management capabilities and demonstrate how educational institutions can future-proof their digital transformation with next-generation hosting solutions. 'We are excited and honored to support CSUS in its mission to provide secure, scalable, and high-availability services for its learners, staff and faculty. CSUS's trust in us reaffirms our ability to accelerate digital transformation for higher learning by helping institutions manage their key digital resources that support course delivery and academic operations.' This strategic partnership also highlights ScalaHosting's commitment to delivering high-performance hosting environments tailored to various sectors, including education, government, and enterprise. California State University, Sacramento, joins a growing list of organizations turning to ScalaHosting to upgrade their cybersecurity and digital infrastructure with managed cloud hosting. About ScalaHosting: ScalaHosting is a U.S.-based cloud solutions provider trusted by over 1,000,000 websites worldwide. With a focus on innovation, security, and service, ScalaHosting offers fully managed cloud VPS, dedicated servers, and cutting-edge tools like SPanel, the next-generation web hosting control panel. For more information, please visit Media Contact Company Name: ScalaHosting Contact Person: Chris Rusev Email: Send Email Phone: 214 306 6818 Country: United States Website: Source: Brand Push
Malaysian Reserve
23-07-2025
- Business
- Malaysian Reserve
CHLA Hospitality Foundation Awards $170,000 to 97 Hospitality Students
Empowering the Next Generation of Hotel and Culinary Professionals SACRAMENTO, Calif., July 23, 2025 /PRNewswire/ — Ninety-seven students pursuing degrees in hotel management, tourism and culinary arts at 21 California colleges and universities have been awarded $170,000 in scholarships by the California Hotel & Lodging Association Hospitality Foundation. CHLAHF supports the education and professional development of students who commit to pursuing a career in hospitality. This year, the Foundation received a record number of applicants and was honored to provide scholarships to 35 more students than the previous year. 'These students have the power to shape the future of the hospitality industry in bold and innovative ways,' said Michael Pace, Chair of CHLAHF and General Manager of the InterContinental Mark Hopkins Hotel in San Francisco. 'What excites me most about our scholarship program is that it allows us to support and inspire a passionate, talented group of future leaders to keep pushing forward in their pursuit of careers in hospitality.' Recipients will be honored at the 2025 Scholarship Awards Gala on October 23, 2025, at The Argonaut Hotel in San Francisco. We invite all hospitality professionals to join us and support our current and future scholarship recipients. This year's schools with the highest number of scholarship recipients are: San Diego State University: 32 recipients California State Polytechnic University, Pomona: 14 recipients California State University, Monterey Bay: 12 recipients California State University, Long Beach: 10 recipients University of San Francisco: 5 recipients We are grateful to the following hotel brands for their continued support over the past 15 years: Hilton, Hyatt, IHG, Marriott, Handlery Hotels, and others. About the California Hotel & Lodging Association Hospitality Foundation CHLAHF is a non-profit organization that provides scholarships and research in support of industry employees and hospitality students. Our aim is to raise the profile and promote excellence in the California hospitality industry. Learn more about how you can support the CHLA Hospitality Foundation at Contact: Jesse Geremia916.554.2660jesse@
Boston Globe
20-07-2025
- Science
- Boston Globe
Here's what shark experts do to stay safe in the ocean
You're more likely to die falling into a hole at the beach, in a riptide or in an alligator attack than from a shark bite, according to data from the Florida Museum of Natural History's International Shark Attack File. Last year, the museum recorded 47 unprovoked bites worldwide. 'They're not these monster killers that just come flying in whenever there's bait,' said Neil Hammerschlag, a shark researcher based in Nova Scotia, Canada, who charters cage-diving expeditions to bring tourists up close to blue, mako and great white sharks. 'They're very cautious.' Get Starting Point A guide through the most important stories of the morning, delivered Monday through Friday. Enter Email Sign Up Hammerschlag, who's been studying sharks for 24 years, said some are more curious about the color of the boat or the sound of the engine than the 20 pounds of sushi-grade tuna he brings on each trip as bait. Advertisement Chris Lowe, the director of the Shark Lab at California State University in Long Beach, said he has 'hundreds, if not thousands of hours footage' of sharks near the shore in California. And, most of the time, they're there to relax, he said. For three years, researchers in Lowe's lab surveyed 26 beaches from Santa Barbara to San Diego with drones and saw sharks swim right under surfers without changing course. 'It's like they are ignoring us,' he said. 'We're just flotsam, not food or foe.' Advertisement The Washington Post asked Hammerschlag and Lowe what they do and the advice they give beachgoers who want to avoid a shark encounter. Be aware of your surroundings Lowe said when he's out in the water he spends some time looking behind himself and others, 'like checking my mirrors when I'm driving.' Sharks are stealthy and try to approach other animals from behind. Don't treat the ocean like Disneyland, Lowe said. You're in a wild place where you can't eliminate all risks. His advice: Be vigilant. It will reduce your likelihood of a shark swimming up too closely to investigate you. And, do your homework about the body of water you're swimming in. 'Who are you going to be sharing the ocean with? Is it sharks? Is it stingrays?' Lowe said. 'When we go in the ocean, we are entering someone else's home.' Avoid swimming at dawn, dusk and night Sharks may confuse a human foot for a fish, or a surfboard for a seal, when visibility is poor, such as in lowlight conditions. Sharks use their mouth and teeth to inspect what's in front of them like we use our hands, Hammerschlag said. 'Most shark bites of people are not predatory,' he said. 'When sharks have bitten people, it seems that they're investigatory or mistaken identity.' Don't wear reflective jewelry in the water The light glimmering off jewelry can look like a fish scale to a shark, Hammerschlag said. He adds reflective stickers to the cage he uses on diving expeditions to try to catch a shark's attention. Don't swim near someone who's fishing A fish caught on a line could get the attention of a shark. 'Those vibrations are like ringing the dinner bell for a shark,' Hammerschlag said. Advertisement However, it can help to swim near other people, Lowe said, since groups of people might be more intimidating than solo swimmers. Don't swim where there's an 'unusual amount of fish activity' If you see fish jumping out of water or birds diving for a meal, there could be a 'bait ball' of fish nearby, and that's a feeding opportunity for sharks, Hammerschlag said. There's a myth that a pod of dolphins can ward off sharks. But, he said, the opposite may be the case. 'If there's a big bait ball of fish that dolphins are feeding on, the sharks could be feeing on that, as well,' Hammerschlag said. Don't panic when you spot a shark If you see a shark in the water, don't panic and swim away, Hammerschlag said. If you do, the shark might see you as prey. And, 'you're not going to outswim a shark,' he said. Instead, orient your body so you're always facing the shark and maintain eye contact, Hammerschlag said. Sharks can't sneak up on you if there's no element of surprise. 'You're showing the shark that you see it, and you're responding to it,' he said. 'And that is not a situation that a hunting shark wants to be in.' If you're scuba diving, you can also sit on the ocean floor; sharks tend to approach potential prey from below, Hammerschlag said.
Time of India
20-07-2025
- Science
- Time of India
Days before SC quashed assistant prof recruitment, nuclear astrophysicist was invited to present research paper at CSUF
Bathinda: Only days before the Supreme Court quashed the recruitment of 1158 assistant professors and librarians in government colleges of Punjab, nuclear astrophysicist assistant professor Rajesh Kumar had got an invite to present a research paper in California State University Fullerton (CSUF). As he failed to get a visa due to paucity of time, Rajesh presented his research paper in hybrid mode. Posted at government college Talwara, Rajesh was invited by California State University to present neutron star research in GravNu 2025, gravitational-wave astronomy meets nuclear astrophysics 'integrating contemporary observational constraints into a generalised chiral description of dense matter' as the researchers from multiple fields, working together to understand how gravitational-wave astronomy got together from July 7-11, to help understand the dense matter equation of state and heavy-element nucleosynthesis in the universe. Earlier, his research paper was published in physical review 'exploring the role of hexaquarks on quark deconfinement and hybrid starts' was published in peer-reviewed scientific journal 'Physical Review'. Rajesh remained in the US for 3 years at Kent State University Ohio for post doctorate research in nuclear astrophysicist. He said presenting research papers in California State University is an honour for me but the government college in Punjab. by Taboola by Taboola Sponsored Links Sponsored Links Promoted Links Promoted Links You May Like Villas For Sale in Dubai Might Surprise You Villas In Dubai | Search Ads Get Rates Undo A number of talented researchers were among those recruited in 1158 and now are on the roads. Mohammad Sohail Dhillon, PhD in Public Administration, is another teacher, having multiple achievements under his sleeve but is on the roads. He had done post doctorate research in universities in Canada, the US and Singapore over fellowships by renowned institutions including National University of Singapore. He also got funded post doctorate research work twice in China and in South Africa. Returned from Germany Gurdeep Singh, PhD in Chemistry was into post doctorate research at RWTH Aachen University in Germany and returned to join as assistant professor after a division bench of Punjab and Haryana high court upheld the recruitment in September 2024. Similarly, a couple Sukhpreet Singh and his wife Harpreet Kaur, both into Punjabi language returned from Canada to join services as assistant professors in government colleges at Patiala and Nabha. Priyanka in Chemistry returned from the UK to join as assistant professor in Punjab. The assistant professors are preparing to file a review petition and have a panel meeting with Chief Minister Bhagwant Mann on July 25 where they will press the state government to move a review petition. There is sanctioned strength of 2361 regular faculty in 64 government colleges in Punjab and upon the quashing of recruitment of assistant professors, presently there are around 900 teaching in government colleges which include nearly 700 as guest faculty.
