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Daily Record
16 hours ago
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- Daily Record
'I treated my son and his friend to a pricey day out but his dad never even thanked me'
The mother is peeved that her son's friend's dad never shot her a quick text to even acknowledge the gesture Parenting can be such a joy - watching your child grow up in front of your eyes and reach key milestones, all the while knowing that they are becoming a stand-up person because of your love, advice, support, and guidance. However, parenting can also be challenging, especially when they expand their social circle, and you sometimes find yourself being responsible not just for your own child, but other people's children, too. This is the situation one mother had found herself in, recently taking her son and his friend, aged 13, on a day trip. She paid for everything, which was "fine," and the friend was polite, thanking her before he headed back home. The boy's pal doesn't have a mobile phone, so everything was organised through the mother and the friend's father. However, while organising the day out and after, the friend's father never thanked the mother for the outing - at all. Taking to Mumsnet, the woman explained: "I thought he'd send a, 'friend had a great time. Thank you' text when friend got home. But nope. "I wouldn't expect that if my son and friend had organised it themselves obviously but am I unreasonable to think that because it was his dad and me [that organised it], his dad should have sent a quick thank you text?" Two options the mum posed to the parenting forum was that the dad should have sent a quick 'thank you' text, because she'd had to organise it all directly with him. Or, the friend said 'thank you,' and that was simply enough. The woman also said that the meal she treated them to was a rather pricey portion of fish and chips, adding: "How much is fish and chips these days?! I don't think I hid my surprise well when I was handed the card machine!" Getting back to the issue hand, referencing the lack of communication from the dad, she asked fellow parents: "This was rude, right?" The comments flooded in thick and fast. One user wrote: "Very rude not to thank you... I'd have definitely sent a text". Another reasoned: "I would have been more upset if the child hadn't said thank you actually. "It would have been nice if the Dad had but he probably knew his son was good mannered enough to do the thanks for himself." Join the Daily Record WhatsApp community! Get the latest news sent straight to your messages by joining our WhatsApp community today. You'll receive daily updates on breaking news as well as the top headlines across Scotland. No one will be able to see who is signed up and no one can send messages except the Daily Record team. All you have to do is click here if you're on mobile, select 'Join Community' and you're in! If you're on a desktop, simply scan the QR code above with your phone and click 'Join Community'. We also treat our community members to special offers, promotions, and adverts from us and our partners. If you don't like our community, you can check out any time you like. To leave our community click on the name at the top of your screen and choose 'exit group'. A third asked: "How do you know he didn't ask his son, if he thanked you? The fact that his son did, suggests he has been brought up with manners. "Also, you say it was your treat but now you're questioning the price of fish and chips - two separate issues and you feel peeved for paying. Maybe that's making you feel like you a double thank you." A fourth concluded: "His son said thank you, that should be enough. How many thank yous do you need? Bizarre to me how much people get wound up about such small things."
Yahoo
4 days ago
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- Yahoo
Woman Says Partner Won't Put Her on the Deed to His Home After He Asked Her to Leave Her Job to Raise Their Child
The woman — who shared her story on a community forum — said her partner claims she shouldn't be their home's co-owner because she's 'not financially contributing' A woman says that her longtime partner refuses to add her to the deed to his new house — despite the fact that they live together and share a child — and she's now wondering if she is 'expecting too much.' The woman detailed her story in the 'Am I Being Unreasonable?' forum on the U.K.-based community site Mumsnet, a place where women can go to seek input and advice from other women about a variety of topics. In her post, the woman said that she has been with her current partner for five years and that they share a 2-year-old. 'Things have been slightly rocky since having our child, but other than that, our relationship is good,' she explained. The original poster (OP) went on to say that they currently live in a home that her partner purchased before they met, and that they are planning on moving into a 'bigger family home' this year. 'I contributed to the [current] house before baby arrived, but haven't [gone] back to work as my partner very fortunately earns a good wage and doesn't want me to go back to work until our child is three and starts nursery [school],' she continued. The OP then said that while she isn't on the deed to their current shared home, she assumed that she would be made co-owner of the new one based on her contributions to their family. However, when she brought this up to her partner, he told her 'absolutely not' because she's 'not financially contributing.' 'I disagree with this as I feel that I am contributing in the sense that I'm bringing up his child and keeping his house clean, etc.,' she continued, adding that her partner claims he wants to eventually get married. 'I feel very insecure about this,' she admitted, before also stating that while her partner covers food and household expenses, she has been using her personal savings for all other purchases, and her 'savings are nearly done.' 'I feel that he is reluctant on making a commitment, and especially a financial commitment — not even just to me, but his own child. He also refuses to update his will or life insurance policy if anything were to happen to him,' she said. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. 'Am I expecting too much?' she asked, before adding that she feels as though she needs 'to have some sort of security about our relationship, especially since I'm dependent on him.' The vast majority of commenters said that they thought the OP's feelings were valid — but also said that she shouldn't have gotten herself into the situation in the first place. 'YABU [you are being unreasonable] for having gotten into this situation. You're not married and don't have [...] personal wealth, so a break from full-time work wasn't sensible,' said one person. They added, '[It seems] clear that retaining his personal assets and money is his priority. He also sounds sexist. For me, without immediate marriage and change of attitudes, the relationship would be over.' 'For the love of God do not have more children with him!' said someone else. 'You're taking all the risks here. Go back to work, stop being so dependent on him. I'd say get married, as that legal contract would be the best protection [...]. You need to put yourself and your child first because he certainly won't.' The PEOPLE Puzzler crossword is here! How quickly can you solve it? Play now! Another person said, 'I would be looking to get back to work full-time ASAP. He can 'not like it,' but he either needs to give you financial security [so] you can be a stay-at-home mom, or you need to get yourself paid employment. He can't eat his cake and have it.' Read the original article on People Solve the daily Crossword
Yahoo
4 days ago
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- Yahoo
Woman Driven 'Mad' by Sister-in-Law's Posts About Dad Who 'Died 10 Years Ago': 'At What Point Is This Just Attention-Seeking?'
"It drives me mad. I've gone so far as to silence her," the woman said A woman is taking issue with her sister-in-law over social media posts she makes about her late father — who died a decade ago. In a post on the U.K.-based forum Mumsnet, the woman said her in-law's dad "died 10 years ago, and yet, it's almost daily, but definitely weekly, she's posting her grief on Facebook." The woman further detailed that her sister-in-law will write about "[how] much she's missing him, how grief is so silent and misunderstood," and it "escalates" on holidays — including Father's Day, Christmas and Easter — as well as "the day he died [and] the day they found out he was ill," plus "her kids birthdays [and] her birthday." "I used to get on with her well, but she's always driven me mad by text and socials," the woman continued. "At what point is this just attention seeking? It drives me mad. I've gone so far as to silence her because I can't bear the 'hope you're okay, hun,' stuff." The Mumsnet user added that her sister-in-law's "behavior has absolutely trashed my opinion of her," and it was exacerbated when she claimed her in-law "even got in competition with a relative of hers raising money for charity, because she had to be the one seen to be doing it and wouldn't collaborate." Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. In the comments section of the post, the woman was met with support from others, many of whom suggested that her sister-in-law needs professional aid to help her cope with the loss. "It sounds like she needs some counselling to help her manage her grief," one Mumsnet user wrote, as another said, "This sounds like an abnormal grief reaction. She really needs therapy, if she has not had this already." The PEOPLE Puzzler crossword is here! How quickly can you solve it? Play now! Others, meanwhile, couldn't help but feel that the woman's sister-in-law was taking things a step too far — and possibly continuing to post about her grief solely to get the reactions she has become accustomed to. "There's a huge difference between missing someone on special occasions or memorable dates and actually posting about it ... No need," wrote a commenter. Said one more: "It may be cruel of me, but I have no tolerance at all for performative or over-sentimental public grief." Read the original article on People Solve the daily Crossword
Yahoo
4 days ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Woman Asks if It's ‘Petty' Not to Rearrange to Meet with Friends After Previous Plans Were Cancelled Twice
"Two nights now I have been ditched," the woman said of the cancelled plans A woman is on the verge of giving up on seeing her friends after their previous plans were canceled on more than one occasion. In a post shared on the U.K.-based parenting forum Mumsnet, the woman explained that she and two friends have been trying to plan a "wine and food night" together for weeks, but they've been forced to reschedule every single time so far. "We all have young children but managed to book in a date," the woman explained, adding that they decided the best place to host their small gathering was at her house. According to the woman, their group's plans were all set, her toddler would be in bed by 6:30 p.m. and her partner planned to meet a friend. However, she then received a text from her friend asking to reschedule. "On the day, friend messages around 12ish to ask if we can rearrange as she's not well. Fine. Sat in with [takeout] for one," the woman said. "The next day, however, she mentioned how her family had gone for a late lunch with other friends (on the day she canceled)." The Mumsnet user thought the cancellation was "a bit odd," but the trio locked in a new date to hang out regardless. As the next hangout date approached, the woman cleaned up her house again, purchased plenty of food and wine and her partner arranged to go out once more — before the friend suddenly canceled again, saying that she had accidentally double-booked. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. "Around 12 p.m., we get a message to say she has double booked, her partner forgot to mention his friend is staying over and would now be rude to head out for the evening," she recalled, adding that the friend immediately asked to rearrange their plans again. "She then messages to say they have tickets to an event now in the afternoon and excited to head back for food, games and drinks with her [partner's] friend for the evening and worried about [getting a] hangover," the woman continued of her friend. "Me and other friend aren't as close, so it doesn't really work for us two to carry on to be honest, and she didn't seem keen in the group message." The woman shared that she felt she had been "ditched" two nights in a row, especially considering her partner had gone out both nights as well. "I turned down other plans for today that came up a while ago!" she said, before turning a question over to the online community to answer. "[Am I being unreasonable] to not rearrange again?" she finished. "Is that petty?" Very quickly, the large Mumsnet community decided the original poster was entirely in the right to not want to reschedule, as she had changed her own family's plans multiple times to try and accommodate this friend. "That would p--- me right off," one commenter said. "She wants it, but you are having to host and clean your house for it to happen! If she suggests it again, say, 'OK — we'll come to you, as you're organizing it.'" "I can't bloody stand these people who consider every plan as tentative until the day of," another reply stated. "I'd tell her she's welcome to plan and host the next one, and you look forward to attending. And if you get a better offer in the meantime, ditch her with a clear conscience!" Read the original article on People Solve the daily Crossword
Yahoo
5 days ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Mom Says Daughter Was Uninvited to Classmate's Party — Wonders If She Should Throw Bigger Party and Exclude Other Kid
The woman — who shared her story on a community forum — said she doesn't want her daughter to feel "excluded" — but also doesn't want her to be the "mean girl A woman wants to host a party for her daughter — and not invite a 'mean' classmate who recently excluded her — but, she's unsure if it's the right call. The woman detailed her story in the 'Am I Being Unreasonable?' forum on the U.K.-based community site Mumsnet, explaining that her 10-year-old daughter was recently invited — and then uninvited — to a classmate's end-of-the-year party. The original poster (OP) said her daughter was uninvited because the girl throwing the party found out that the boy she likes has a crush on the OP's daughter. The PEOPLE Puzzler crossword is here! How quickly can you solve it? Play now! '[My daughter] doesn't even like this boy or care about boys in general (thank god), but the girl doesn't want [her] at her party because he will be there. [My daughter] has since been called names and been made fun of by this girl at school,' the woman said. The OP discussed the issue with the other girl's mother, but was merely told, ' 'You know what girls that age are like when it comes to boys.' ' The woman said she is now considering throwing her own, bigger party for her daughter's class and inviting everyone but the girl who had excluded her daughter. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. 'I don't want [my daughter] to be upset and excluded, but I don't know if I can let her be the mean girl, excluding someone else and making them upset,' the OP said in a follow-up comment. The majority of the woman's fellow community members said they thought that she should throw the party — and that it might even serve as a learning moment for the other family. 'Do it. You're teaching the girl and her mother a valuable lesson here — that its not nice to be mean. Her mother obviously isnt teaching her,' one person said. '[Throw a] bigger, better party for sure,' said someone else. 'I'd go full-on petty with this one, and if the mother complains, [say], 'Well, you know what girls are like with parties nowadays.' However, a few other Mumsnet users advised against it. 'Don't. Go high, not low," one person said. "A 10-year-old, we can forgive [...]. However, she's sadly got a weak, ridiculous parent. Go ahead and throw your daughter a party," someone else said before adding that they would invite the other child in order "to show the [other] mother how to behave properly.' Read the original article on People Solve the daily Crossword
