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Yahoo
26-05-2025
- Politics
- Yahoo
The Macrons have shown the world what can happen behind closed doors when couples argue
Credit: Reuters It was supposed to be a routine presidential visit. Emmanuel Macron's plane had touched down in Vietnam, the doors were about to open and out he would step to wave to the world. Instead, we got a rare glimpse inside a power couple's extraordinary dynamic. As the doors opened, the French president was seemingly shoved in the face by the red-jacketed arms of his wife Brigitte, stunning the waiting media and leaving the French leader to awkwardly wave as he composed himself. It was an excruciating start to their official Southeast Asia tour, forcing Macron to insist it was a case of 'simply joking with my wife as we often do' and rubbishing claims of a 'domestic incident'. 'It's a tricky one because the key element is we really don't know the full story,' says Peter Saddington, a relationship therapist with more than 30 years experience of counselling couples. 'If we imagine the scenario, for instance, in which one person tells the other person they've had an affair, there might well be a knee-jerk physical lashing out – perhaps a push or or slap – that won't have been thought through, and would be out of character,' he adds. 'In those circumstances you might understand, and forgive, how it might have happened.' It's likely the 16-hour flight may have frayed tempers (even though they were hardly travelling in the cramped conditions of commercial economy class). You can't help but wonder how any of us might feel if our own private altercations were played out in public. One writer, who wishes to remain anonymous, admits: 'I once waved a kitchen knife at my husband when he was driving me mad (much to his horror) and afterwards, in my shame, I wondered what on earth would have happened if a neighbour had looked through our window.' It could well have been a playful move, as Macron maintains. 'Perhaps he said something in jest, or tried to kiss her when she was trying to get ready for the cameras, and she was simply shoving him in a 'not now you don't' way,' says Saddington. We must all know some couples who seem to actively enjoy shared fiery outbursts. Saddington agrees he's worked with people who describe rows as 'passionate' and who admit to the odd push and, yes, shove. If this is genuinely mutual, then it may be unwise to pass judgment. 'But what I would be very concerned about is when one party is being physical, or coercive or controlling, and the other is forced to defend physically themselves,' warns Saddington. 'That would be very wrong.' 'What I think is the most telling thing is that Macron didn't seem particularly perturbed by what happened – he didn't look shocked or hurt. It didn't seem to put him off his stride. It's clear it's something he wasn't exactly anticipating at that moment, but his reaction wasn't to panic. What marriage doesn't suffer – and survive – the odd sniping comment?' But Saddington is clear that as a rule he believes any physical touch like this is never a good idea to manage or resolve relationship issues. He suggests instead of thinking about it inside a marriage, consider it on a more basic level: 'if you were out shopping and somebody hit, slapped or pushed you in some way, you'd rightfully claim it was an assault. That would be illegal. So equally it's not right in a relationship. Communication really is best achieved by talking issues through.' Some Telegraph readers who have seen the footage have rightly pointed out that if this situation had been reversed there would be a huge outcry. 'It's quite true there are different implications because men are stronger, and thus able to do more harm physically,' says Saddington. 'But I also work with men who are on the receiving end of physical assault from their partners. It's more unusual but perhaps it's reported less frequently because it comes with the added stigma of 'being weak'. It's taboo and men are less likely to seek help.' Whether it's a muttered row on the doorstep of a dinner party or a blazing row just before the world's cameras are trained on you, no one really knows what goes on behind the closed doors of any marriage. World leaders in particular face the pressure to always show a united front; why would the spouse accompany a president or prime minister unless it serves a purpose? Cherie Blair and Samantha Cameron paused their own careers to be the dutiful wife, while there's a reason why Angela Merkel and Theresa May usually appeared at events solo (male spouses don't have the same air of 'power couple'). Meanwhile Jill Biden loyally stood by her man – and came under flak – while some clearly can't face it. Melania Trump's way of swerving most of the togetherness image altogether also attracts criticism. Is it possible for the spouses to ever really win? The Macrons, especially, must know that the world has always had plenty to say about their relationship, so the scrutiny they are under means they must be even more careful than anyone else. When everything from height and weight to age and body language is pored over, it pays to have any disagreements firmly off the world stage. However Peter Saddington believes this is a couple who have long proven their own strength in the face of adversity. 'With the Macrons, I think what's notable is the fact that when they're out in public they do seem a couple who are [generally] comfortable and at ease with one another. 'Their relationship has always raised eyebrows – and they've always weathered the storm together,' he says. 'Having a relationship that looks different to most other people's has never really been a problem for them, which will make it easier to shrug this incident off in public.' His advice for any couple – famous or otherwise – who are disagreeing is to talk, apologise and listen. 'If any couple are both committed to wanting to sort it out, they will.' Diplomacy, you might call it. Broaden your horizons with award-winning British journalism. Try The Telegraph free for 1 month with unlimited access to our award-winning website, exclusive app, money-saving offers and more.
Scottish Sun
18-05-2025
- Scottish Sun
I knew he was a rapist, says prison guard who smuggled Calpol syringe into jail in bid to get pregnant with lag's sperm
Click to share on X/Twitter (Opens in new window) Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window) A BESOTTED prison officer who smuggled a Calpol syringe into jail to "artificially inseminate" herself with a lag's sperm "knew he was a sex offender". Cherri-Ann Saddington, 29, became obsessed with "exceptionally dangerous" Bradley Trengrove after he was moved to HMP The Verne on Portland, Dorset. 6 Cherri-Ann Austin-Saddington, 29, admitted she was ashamed of her relationship Credit: Social media - Refer to source 6 She said she knew Trengrove, 31, was a sex offender Credit: BNPS It has now been reported the officer was aware of his crimes but believed he would give her "a stable life", as reported by the Mail. The pair embarked on a six month relationship where they often had sex in prison workshops while nobody was around. A court heard Saddington and Trengrove had sex up to 40 times while she was on duty, although she disputes this figure. She became pregnant with his baby, but suffered a miscarriage. When Trengrove, 31, was moved to another prison she visited him using a fake name. She then smuggled a Calpol syringe in her bra so she could "artificially inseminate" herself with his sperm he had wrapped in cling film for her. Saddington has now admitted she knew he was a sex offender when she chose to strike up the relationship. "I knew he was a sex offender because it was sex offenders' prison," she said. "I wanted a stable life. That's what I wanted. I don't know why I even entertained the idea of Bradley. "I think I was just looking for someone to support me. I wanted that stable life that I wasn't getting anywhere else." Besotted prison officer caught sneaking into cupboard with inmate she 'proper fell in love with' is jailed It has also been revealed Saddington became entangled in another relationship just two months after her shock arrest. She is now married to him and spoke of her "relief" at being handed a suspended sentence. Her startling confession comes after Saddington, from Weymouth, was given a suspended sentence after pleading guilty to charges of misconduct in a public office. Trengrove, from Cramborne, Cornwall, was already serving a 13-year extended sentence for raping a woman and having sexual activity with a child in 2013 and 2014. 6 The mum was arrested after she smuggled a Calpol syringe into the prison to artificially inseminate herself upon Trengrove's request Credit: Kennedy News and Media 6 Saddington visited her lag lover under a false name in May after he moved prisons He was given another two years and three months to serve on top of his original sentence for his part in the sordid affair. Saddington spoke more of what led her into the relationship with Trengrove. She claimed to be "broken" and "homeless" after the dad of her two children left her. The former prison officer said things were "difficult" while struggling in temporary accommodation. After reflecting on her ordeal she blamed Trengrove for being "manipulative" and taking advantage of her vulnerable position. She argued the inmate fed her lies about building a home for them when he was released - which he claimed was in a few months time. According to the disgraced prison officer, the lag also begged her to have a baby with him. She claimed he removed her IUD coil himself and she fell pregnant shortly afterwards. However, the pregnancy ended in miscarriage. Saddington alleged Trengrove then threatened to kill himself if he couldn't have a child with her. "He told me to bring a syringe in and was asking me to to inseminate myself with it, which I was absolutely disgusted by when he said it," she added. The mum-of-two claimed she never had any intention to follow through with the plan, but did not want her prison lover to harm himself. Despite knowing he was a sex offender, the mum-of-two admitted she believed he had been framed for his rape and sexual activity with a minor. After being told by police the true nature of his crimes, Saddington said she was "shocked", "honestly disgusted", and "ashamed". This comes after Bournemouth Crown Court heard Saddington started working as a prison officer at The Verne, where Gary Glitter is reportedly serving his sentence, in July 2019. She was given a written warning in 2020 for concerns over her professionalism and interaction with prisoners. Her probationary period was extended because she was suspected of having an inappropriate relationship with two prisoners. The court heard the mother-of-three saved Trengrove's name in her mobile under "husband to be". Robert Bryan, prosecuting, read out some gushing messages the prison officer sent Trengrove stating he was "the one", that she would love him "til my last breath" and he was her "reason for living". Mr Bryan said: "He said things moved on from being friendly in August-September 2022. "He said, 'I did maintenance work around the prison, there were lots of workshops, we would meet down at the workshops where less people were around. "'It got to the point she was coming in for work on days off and we would work together for three or four hours at a time.' "He said they had unprotected sex 30-40 times. She told him in November she was pregnant with his baby. "He encouraged her to be less risky but she said that would mean less opportunity to meet. "She lost the baby at about eight weeks." Trengrove was moved to HMP Channings Wood in Devon in March 2023. Sadddington sent Trengrove intimate photos while he was at Channings Wood, but these were intercepted by staff. On May 26 she visited him under a false name. During a pat down search officers found she was not wearing any underwear and had the empty syringe in her bra and she was arrested. Emily Cook, defending Saddington, argued that her client shouldn't be jailed due to her ill health. She said: "She had this incredibly devastating physical event that has occurred since her offending. "In February 2024, her then partner awoke to find her on the floor. She doesn't know how but something was going on with her spine. "She is wheelchair-dependent. She has had her liberty curtailed for many months, not by the court but by her ill health. "You can see from the messaging, they formed a very intense and infatuated relationship. She takes full responsibility for what she did. She is very ashamed and upset. "You are not sentencing the woman who committed these offences, she's a very different woman now." Nick Robinson, defending Trengrove, said it was a "genuine infatuation", he was not corrupting her. He said: "Everything was driven towards having conversation with someone he genuinely cared about. "Before this he was a good prisoner, working hard towards the earliest possible release. "He knew what he was doing, his heart ruled his head." Judge Jonathan Fuller KC told Saddington: "The prison service expects the highest standards from their employees. "Failure to apply those standards can have an enormous and lasting impact on the prisons, the care of inmates, the integrity which is to be maintained and, of course, public confidence. "Your betrayal of that trust represents a serious and prolonged misconduct by someone in public office. "I am mindful of your current physical state and pending rehabilitation. For that reason only I reduce the sentence in order to suspend it. "Had it not been for the accident that befell Miss Austin-Saddington the sentence would have been an immediate sentence of imprisonment." He added: "The intensity of their feelings towards each other, as shown in the messages, could perhaps be described as mutual obsession with each other. "The expressed intention was that they should spend the rest of their lives together. "This was a relationship of equal halves, both making the wrong decision." 6 She claimed her inmate lover manipulated her when she was "broken" and "homeless"
The Irish Sun
18-05-2025
- The Irish Sun
I knew he was a rapist, says prison guard who smuggled Calpol syringe into jail in bid to get pregnant with lag's sperm
A BESOTTED prison officer who smuggled a Calpol syringe into jail to "artificially inseminate" herself with a lag's sperm "knew he was a sex offender". Cherri-Ann Saddington, 29, became obsessed with "exceptionally dangerous" Bradley Trengrove after he was moved to HMP The Verne on Portland, Dorset. Advertisement 6 Cherri-Ann Austin-Saddington, 29, admitted she was ashamed of her relationship Credit: Social media - Refer to source 6 She said she knew Trengrove, 31, was a sex offender Credit: BNPS It has now been reported the officer was aware of his crimes but believed he would give her "a stable life", as reported by The pair embarked on a six month relationship where they often had sex in prison workshops while nobody was around. A court heard Saddington and Trengrove had sex up to 40 times while she was on duty, although she disputes this figure. She became pregnant with his baby, but suffered a Advertisement Read More When Trengrove, 31, was moved to another prison she visited him using a fake name. She then smuggled a Calpol syringe in her bra so she could "artificially inseminate" herself with his sperm he had wrapped in cling film for her. Saddington has now admitted she knew he was a sex offender when she chose to strike up the relationship. "I knew he was a sex offender because it was sex offenders' prison," she said. Advertisement Most read in The Sun Live Blog Exclusive "I wanted a stable life. That's what I wanted. I don't know why I even entertained the idea of Bradley. "I think I was just looking for someone to support me. I wanted that stable life that I wasn't getting anywhere else." Besotted prison officer caught sneaking into cupboard with inmate she 'proper fell in love with' is jailed It has also been revealed Saddington became entangled in another relationship just two months after her shock arrest. She is now married to him and spoke of her "relief" at being handed a suspended sentence. Advertisement Her startling confession comes after Saddington, from Weymouth, was given a suspended sentence after pleading guilty to charges of misconduct in a public office. Trengrove, from Cramborne, Cornwall, was already serving a 13-year extended sentence for raping a woman and having sexual activity with a child in 2013 and 2014. 6 The mum was arrested after she smuggled a Calpol syringe into the prison to artificially inseminate herself upon Trengrove's request Credit: Kennedy News and Media 6 Saddington visited her lag lover under a false name in May after he moved prisons Advertisement He was given another two years and three months to serve on top of his original sentence for his part in the sordid affair. Saddington spoke more of what led her into the relationship with Trengrove. She claimed to be "broken" and "homeless" after the dad of her two children left her. The former prison officer said things were "difficult" while struggling in temporary accommodation. Advertisement After reflecting on her ordeal she blamed Trengrove for being "manipulative" and taking advantage of her vulnerable position. She argued the inmate fed her lies about building a home for them when he was released - which he claimed was in a few months time. According to the disgraced prison officer, the lag also begged her to have a baby with him. She claimed he removed her IUD coil himself and she fell pregnant shortly afterwards. Advertisement However, the pregnancy ended in miscarriage. Saddington alleged Trengrove then threatened to kill himself if he couldn't have a child with her. "He told me to bring a syringe in and was asking me to to inseminate myself with it, which I was absolutely disgusted by when he said it," she added. The mum-of-two claimed she never had any intention to follow through with the plan, but did not want her prison lover to harm himself. Advertisement Despite knowing he was a sex offender, the mum-of-two admitted she believed he had been framed for his rape and sexual activity with a minor. After being told by police the true nature of his crimes, Saddington said she was "shocked", "honestly disgusted", and "ashamed". This comes after Bournemouth Crown Court heard Saddington started working as a prison officer at She was given a written warning in 2020 for concerns over her professionalism and interaction with prisoners. Advertisement Her probationary period was extended because she was suspected of having an inappropriate relationship with two prisoners. The court heard the mother-of-three saved Trengrove's name in her mobile under "husband to be". Robert Bryan, prosecuting, read out some gushing messages the prison officer sent Trengrove stating he was "the one", that she would love him "til my last breath" and he was her "reason for living". Mr Bryan said: "He said things moved on from being friendly in August-September 2022. Advertisement "He said, 'I did maintenance work around the prison, there were lots of workshops, we would meet down at the workshops where less people were around. "'It got to the point she was coming in for work on days off and we would work together for three or four hours at a time.' "He said they had unprotected sex 30-40 times. She told him in November she was pregnant with his baby. "He encouraged her to be less risky but she said that would mean less opportunity to meet. Advertisement "She lost the baby at about eight weeks." Trengrove was moved to HMP Channings Wood in Devon in March 2023. Sadddington sent Trengrove intimate photos while he was at Channings Wood, but these were intercepted by staff. On May 26 she visited him under a false name. Advertisement During a pat down search officers found she was not wearing any underwear and had the empty syringe in her bra and she was arrested. Emily Cook, defending Saddington, argued that her client shouldn't be jailed due to her ill health. She said: "She had this incredibly devastating physical event that has occurred since her offending. "In February 2024, her then partner awoke to find her on the floor. She doesn't know how but something was going on with her spine. Advertisement "She is wheelchair-dependent. She has had her liberty curtailed for many months, not by the court but by her ill health. "You can see from the messaging, they formed a very intense and infatuated relationship. She takes full responsibility for what she did. She is very ashamed and upset. "You are not sentencing the woman who committed these offences, she's a very different woman now." Nick Robinson, defending Trengrove, said it was a "genuine infatuation", he was not corrupting her. Advertisement He said: "Everything was driven towards having conversation with someone he genuinely cared about. "Before this he was a good prisoner, working hard towards the earliest possible release. "He knew what he was doing, his heart ruled his head." Judge Jonathan Fuller KC told Saddington: "The prison service expects the highest standards from their employees. Advertisement "Failure to apply those standards can have an enormous and lasting impact on the prisons, the care of inmates, the integrity which is to be maintained and, of course, public confidence. "Your betrayal of that trust represents a serious and prolonged misconduct by someone in public office. "I am mindful of your current physical state and pending rehabilitation. For that reason only I reduce the sentence in order to suspend it. "Had it not been for the accident that befell Miss Austin-Saddington the sentence would have been an immediate sentence of imprisonment." Advertisement He added: "The intensity of their feelings towards each other, as shown in the messages, could perhaps be described as mutual obsession with each other. "The expressed intention was that they should spend the rest of their lives together. "This was a relationship of equal halves, both making the wrong decision." 6 She claimed her inmate lover manipulated her when she was "broken" and "homeless" Advertisement 6 Saddington started working as a prison officer at The Verne in July 2019 Credit: BNPS
BBC News
30-04-2025
- BBC News
Search for robber sentenced to 14 years for Lincolnshire attack
A violent robber is wanted by Lincolnshire Police after he failed to turn up to be sentenced for attacking a couple in their Saddington, 36, broke into the couple's bungalow in Wragby in the early hours of 5 January 2018, accompanied by Simon Noble, Police said the pair subjected the couple – both in their late 60s – to "a prolonged attack", before stealing guns, jewellery and cash.A warrant was issued for the arrest of Saddington, from South Yorkshire, after he failed to attend Lincoln Crown Court on Friday and was jailed for 14 years in his absence. Noble, from Nottinghamshire, was jailed for 11 years and eight months. Tied up Police said the couple had been asleep in bed when a brick was thrown through a bedroom window, injuring one of them and Saddington entered through the window, before one of them hit one of the residents with a baseball bat, knocking them victims had their hands tied with a cable. One was held in the bathroom, while the other was forced to get the keys for a safe and a gun shotguns were stolen, along with sentimental jewellery and cash. Noble and Saddington made their getaway in the victims' car, which was abandoned a short distance away.A police spokesperson said Noble and Saddington were pulled over in another vehicle several hours later. They were found in possession of a baseball bat and a quantity of cash. Noble was wearing muddy of no fixed address in the Worksop area, previously admitted aggravated robbery part-way through a trial in of Norwood Avenue, Maltby, was found guilty of the same charge by a jury. A spokesperson for Lincolnshire Police said officers were "making efforts to locate and apprehend him". Listen to highlights from Lincolnshire on BBC Sounds, watch the latest episode of Look North or tell us about a story you think we should be covering here.
