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People Who Were 'Coddled' as Children Often Develop These 11 Traits as Adults, Psychologists Say
People Who Were 'Coddled' as Children Often Develop These 11 Traits as Adults, Psychologists Say originally appeared on Parade. When people hold a newborn baby, they typically make a cradle with their arms. There's nothing wrong with this position—in fact, it's protective. However, sometimes caregivers can continue to "cradle" a child in a figurative sense long after it's age-appropriate, and psychologists warn this tactic can become coddling. "Coddling is essentially overprotecting a child from failure or discomfort to shield them from any emotional pain," explains , a psychologist with Thriveworks. "It is typically done out of love, but it can hinder their growth."Indeed, we learn from challenges and mistakes, which coddling can prevent. "When children are always coddled, it doesn't give them any room to learn problem-solving skills," Dr. Saidi continues. "They do not get to build any frustration tolerance or resilience. Even though the intentions are good, the result is often underdeveloped coping skills."As a result, people who were coddled as kids often develop certain traits. Psychologists share 11 common characteristics of adults who were coddled as children, along with tips for 11 Traits of People Who Were Coddled as Children, According to Psychologists 1. Low frustration tolerance As kids, some caretakers "snowplow" or remove hurdles so they can accomplish a task. One psychologist observes these effects decades later, revealing that her patients who were coddled as children now struggle to stand in line, sit in traffic or cope with unexpected weather conditions."People who were coddled as kids have difficulty persisting when tasks become difficult or uncomfortable in adulthood," explains ., a psychologist with Todey Psychology. "This is partly because they were not given enough opportunities as children to practice pushing through challenges on their own. Their threshold for discomfort is low, and they may give up quickly or feel overwhelmed by relatively minor obstacles." 2. Over-reliance on external validation Self-confidence comes from a strong sense of self. However, coddling can (often unintentionally) rob a person of that."Because they were praised often or rescued quickly, they may look outward to feel worthy," Dr. Saidi warns. "Without praise or applause, they may struggle to know if they are doing 'good enough.'"Related: 3. Dependency on others for emotional regulation People who were overprotected as children may require more than praise from others to feel whole. Dr. Todey warns that these individuals often didn't get much practice identifying, tolerating and managing big feelings."People who were coddled as kids may rely on others to soothe or rescue them, even in adulthood," she shares. "This can show up in romantic relationships, the workplace, or friendships and can lead to codependency or over-reliance on external validation to regulate emotions or maintain self-esteem."For instance, she has adult patients who have difficulties being single and may jump into or stay in unhealthy relationships to avoid being 4. Difficulty making decisions The big people in a coddled child's life often made decisions for them or didn't require them to live with consequences for poor choices."They may still expect others to make decisions for fear of making the 'wrong' one," Dr. Saidi warns. "They may also seek constant reassurance." 5. Lack of healthy boundaries A poor sense of self contributes to this one too, a psychologist warns."Coddling involves boundary violations that disempower the coddled," says Dr. Catherine Hormats, LP, MA, GPCC, a psychologist, psychoanalyst and Hope for Depression Research Foundation media advisor. "They are used to being misattuned to and may wind up in relationships where they are controlled or dominated, just like with their coddler."Related: 6. Entitlement Dr. Todey warns that rushing to meet a child's every need and prevent distress at all costs can lead to a sense of entitlement in adulthood."They may expect that others will accommodate their preferences or shield them from discomfort as adults," she says. "This sets them up for painful disappointment in the real world. At work, adults who were coddled as children may enter the workforce expecting a high starting salary, easy career progression or preferential treatment."Dr. Todey shares that it can extend to personal relationships too, such as expecting roommates and partners to do most of the household 7. Conflict avoidance Conflict isn't necessarily fun, but it's hard to coast through life without experiencing it. People who were coddled as kids may try, though—and it's a product of their upbringing."Coddling often means smoothing over any emotional tension quickly to avoid negative emotions," Dr. Saidi explains. "This may lead to never learning how to navigate disagreements. Adults who were coddled as children may be more likely to ghost, shut down or withdraw to avoid confrontation." 8. Difficulty with accountability Mistakes are learning opportunities. Yet, if people were overindulged as kids, they may not have learned how to sit with the discomfort of making mistakes—or even understand that they aren't perfect. "If parents constantly defend or excuse their behavior, these children may grow into adults who externalize blame or have difficulty accepting constructive feedback," Dr. Todey warns. "Adults who were coddled as children may have never been given the opportunity to build the emotional muscle to face hard truths. They may be prone to blame shifting and even gaslighting others who give them feedback." 9. Poor coping skills Life has its challenging moments, and effective coping skills help us navigate them—if you're given the chance to build them through experience."Adults who were coddled as children often have not experienced safe struggle or stress, so they may feel very challenged by ordinary life stressors," Dr. Saidi explains. "They may also tend to catastrophize small problems and shut down."Related: 10. Difficulty caring for themselves and others There's such a thing as caring too much—and it's the blueprint for a coddled child's upbringing. Unfortunately, and perhaps ironically, Dr. Hormats warns that these children can develop into adults who are unable to care for themselves."This includes emotional, physical, financial and psychological [care]," she explains. "I have a friend who bought new clothes every time his old ones got dirty because he never learned how to do laundry." 11. Emotional immaturity Dr. Hormats reveals that infantilizing children after they're infants can stunt their emotional growth. "Coddling may be a way of infantilizing someone, or treating them like a child, denying them a sense of maturity or autonomy," she says. "I have a friend who sometimes sounds like a 5-year-old girl when talking on the phone to her parents. I have the feeling that when they coddle her, as they often do, she regresses into a very childlike state."Related: How To Heal if You Were Coddled as a Child 1. Build frustration tolerance slowly Coddled kids often grow into adults with little to no frustration tolerance. However, it won't be built in a day—after all, you don't expect yourself to go from lifting no weights to 35-pound ones with one set of 10 bicep Saidi recommends developing the ability to cope with stress and setbacks progressively."Start with intentionally doing small tasks such as making a tough phone call or sitting with uncertainty," she suggests. "Journaling discomfort can help track growth."She also suggests reminding yourself that discomfort isn't dangerous but rather a normal part of growth. Dr. Todey also encourages patients to stay the course as their brain wires itself to manage frustration. "Each time you survive a challenge, your brain learns: 'I can do hard things,'" she emphasizes. 2. Practice emotional independence This one will reduce the chronic need for external validation."Learn to self-soothe rather than always seeking reassurance from others," Dr. Saidi advises. "Ask yourself, 'What do I need right now that I am hoping someone else will give me?'" 3. Learn to say no Boundaries are key, and you deserve to set and maintain them. Dr. Hormats suggests a mindset shift around the word "No.""NO means 'new opportunity,'" she says. "If you are feeling smothered with caretaking, learn to say 'NO' and walk away." Up Next: Sources: Dr. Crystal Saidi, Psy.D., a psychologist with Thriveworks Dr. Amy Kincaid Todey, Ph.D., a psychologist with Todey Psychology Dr. Catherine Hormats, LP, MA, GPCC, a psychologist, psychoanalyst and Hope for Depression Research Foundation media advisor People Who Were 'Coddled' as Children Often Develop These 11 Traits as Adults, Psychologists Say first appeared on Parade on Aug 17, 2025 This story was originally reported by Parade on Aug 17, 2025, where it first appeared.
Muscat Daily
10-08-2025
- Business
- Muscat Daily
South Batinah sees sharp rise in building permits
Rustaq – South Batinah recorded a 50% increase in major building permits in the first half of 2025, underscoring a surge in urban development and real estate investment, according to municipal data. The number of permits rose to 3,289 from 2,188 in the same period last year. Barka led with 1,786 permits, followed by Musannah with 634, Rustaq with 565, Wadi al Maawil with 127, Nakhal with 125 and Al Awabi with 52. Residential construction dominated, accounting for 2,994 permits. Industrial projects followed with 92 permits, residential-commercial (85), agricultural (56), government (29), commercial (28) and tourism (five). Minor building permits increased 29% to 275, while building completion certificates rose 51% to 2,515. 'These statistics reflect growth in construction indicators and the extent of the municipality's efforts to expedite procedures and improve service quality,' said Badr bin Mohammed al Saidi, Director General of South Batinah Municipality. He said the strategy aims to empower the urban sector, attract real estate investment and meet comprehensive development goals. Saidi highlighted the use of modern technologies and digital services to speed up transactions, enhance efficiency and ensure compliance with technical and safety standards. 'These positive indicators are a strong incentive for us to continue working to meet the needs of population and urban growth.' Mohammed bin Masi al Kindi, Director of Technical Affairs Department, said the increase in permits and completion certificates reflected 'significant development in urban planning and growing demand for residential and commercial projects'. He added that South Batinah is undergoing major urban expansion, requiring balanced and sustainable planning. The municipality, he said, is enhancing infrastructure and coordinating with other agencies to support housing and commercial projects in line with Oman Vision 2040 objectives.
Daily Express
08-07-2025
- Business
- Daily Express
Sabah boosts infrastructure with RM4.89 billion under SMJ Plan
Published on: Tuesday, July 08, 2025 Published on: Tue, Jul 08, 2025 By: Ricardo Unto Text Size: KOTA KINABALU: The Sabah Government allocated RM4.89 billion for infrastructure under SMJ 1.0 (2021–2024), resulting in a 982km increase in road length, bringing the total to 22,858km, said Assistant Minister Datuk Nizam Abu Bakar Titingan. Water treatment capacity rose from 1,505 to 1,630 million litres daily, with the number of plants growing from 85 to 90. Major upgrades, including Telibong II, are set to boost supply, while 18 more projects are ongoing. Non-revenue water loss was cut from 60pc to 52pc. On electricity, 11 projects generating 1,219MW were approved for completion between 2025 and 2031. Power reliability also improved, with Saidi dropping from 332 minutes in 2021 to 207 minutes in 2024. * Read full report in tomorrow's print paper or log in or sign up for e-paper and premium online news access. * Follow us on Instagram and join our Telegram and/or WhatsApp channel(s) for the latest news you don't want to miss. Stay up-to-date by following Daily Express's Telegram channel. Daily Express Malaysia
Business Wire
27-06-2025
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- Business Wire
CRCC Develops Local Expertise in Tanzania
BEIJING--(BUSINESS WIRE)--Tanzania's JP Magufuli Bridge opened to traffic on June 19, marking more than just a transportation milestone. Africa's longest low-tower cable-stayed bridge spanning Lake Victoria also represents five years of successful local capacity building and skills development. Built by China Railway Construction Corporation Limited (CRCC), the project implemented hands-on training programs during complex construction phases like cable installation and cantilever casting. This 'learn-by-doing' approach helped transform local workers from general laborers into skilled technicians and specialists. The project generated over 3,000 local jobs and trained more than 1,500 technical workers across structural construction, electrical systems, safety management, and materials handling. 'I used to do odd jobs around town,' says Joshua, a local employee now responsible for project-wide safety management who conducts weekly training sessions for new staff. 'The Chinese engineers taught me more than just procedures—they taught me responsibility and leadership.' Electrician Saidi's journey illustrates this transformation. Starting with basic light bulb repairs, he now manages the entire bridge's electrical systems independently. 'We sometimes communicate through gestures, sometimes in broken English and Chinese, but technical knowledge transcends language barriers,' he explains. 'This project showed me that any problem can be solved with dedication to learning.' Warehouse manager Michael credits Chinese mentors with teaching him systematic management principles of planning, controlling, and monitoring. 'Now I don't just manage inventory—I lead teams,' he says. Project leaders emphasize that these locally trained technicians participated in world-class infrastructure development and will contribute to future projects. CRCC's commitment to knowledge transfer strengthens China-Africa infrastructure cooperation while building sustainable capacity for Africa's continued development.
Daily Express
26-06-2025
- Business
- Daily Express
Madius signs off as Sabah Electricity chairman after two-year tenure
Published on: Thursday, June 26, 2025 Published on: Thu, Jun 26, 2025 Text Size: KOTA KINABALU: Datuk Seri Wilfred Madius Tangau ( pic ) concluded his tenure as Sabah Electricity Chairman on June 16, two years after his appointment. He said his decision to accept the post was driven by a desire to serve Sabah and Labuan, despite warnings from peers that it would be politically damaging due to widespread public dissatisfaction with electricity issues. During his tenure, Madius introduced reforms including community dialogues across Sabah, launched a pilot smart meter project, and oversaw efforts to reduce the System Average Interruption Duration Index (Saidi) from 1,000 minutes in 2012 to 220 minutes in 2024. He highlighted Sabah Electricity's financial sustainability challenges, noting its dependence on federal subsidies, and advocated for structural energy reforms such as the Bess project in Lahad Datu and broader grid connectivity. In his farewell message, recently posted on his Facebook, Madius urged continued public support for Sabah Electricity, warning against repeated opposition to critical energy infrastructure that could hinder future supply security. * Follow us on our official WhatsApp channel and Telegram for breaking news alerts and key updates! * Do you have access to the Daily Express e-paper and online exclusive news? Check out subscription plans available. Stay up-to-date by following Daily Express's Telegram channel. Daily Express Malaysia
