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15 hours ago
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Scheana Shay sees the beauty in turning 40. But she's 'trying to look 25 forever.'
After a challenging year, the "My Good Side" author says she's embraced therapy, medication and self-care. Scheana Shay has been on our screens for over a decade, but it's only in the pages of her new book that the reality star says she's giving us the full picture — unfiltered, unedited and, at times, very raw. "I think that reality TV is more nuanced than people are led to believe. I wanted to write this book to put the rest of it out there that was either left on the cutting-room floor or has never been a part of my story," she tells me, describing her just-released memoir, My Good Side, not as a tell-all but a tell-it-right. "I'm opening up about it all." In a conversation for Yahoo's Unapologetically series, Shay and I are Zooming from our respective California homes. Throughout our nearly 30-minute chat, the Vanderpump Rules alum proves she really is an open book — "almost to a fault where I may talk a little too much," she says at one point. But putting truth to paper meant confronting the hardest moments of her life, including one she'd kept hidden from the public. Shay surprised fans earlier this month when she revealed her husband, Brock Davies, cheated on her in 2020 when she was pregnant with their child, Summer Moon. It's something she went "back and forth" on deciding to include in her book. Shay tells me she hopes this revelation will give VPR fans more context about what she was going through during Season 11 — the season of Scandoval. In the spring of 2023, while friend and costar Ariana Madix was grappling with the fallout from her longtime partner Tom Sandoval's affair, Shay had just discovered her own husband's infidelity. That particular season was brutal for Shay, both on- and offscreen. She was frustrated by Madix's decision not to film with Sandoval and found herself criticized in some corners of the internet for her reaction. Shay says she 'was struggling to express my actual feelings because I was bottling them up.' "I had misplaced anger, mostly at Tom Sandoval, which was also deserved. But I think with Ariana, I was just like ... I have to film with my husband. I was just trying to survive at that point," she says. "I was trying to keep my head above water when I felt like I was drowning." Turning 40 in May helped bring Shay a new level of clarity and perspective. For the reality star, reaching the milestone was more than just about aging — it was a wake-up call for taking control of her mental health. 'I went into 40 figuring out what milligram of medication I needed to be on,' she says, acknowledging a period of depression leading up to her birthday. She says not being included in the Vanderpump Rules reboot and getting kicked off The Masked Singer first contributed to feeling down and not good enough. But she didn't stay stuck in that slump. 'I upped my meds, I've upped my therapy, I've started working out again." Here, Shay reflects on everything from learning to navigate her relationship with anxiety, to facing public scrutiny over her past — including her affair with Eddie Cibrian — and how being a mother has shifted her perspective on life. You've said that you've been misunderstood or mislabeled at times. What do you think is the biggest misconception people have about you? I think one of the biggest misconceptions people have about me is that I was [Eddie's] mistress. Because to be a mistress, I would have had to have been complicit in the affair, and I wasn't. I had no idea when I was 21, fresh out of college and met this really good-looking guy with dimples who said he was an actor [that he would be married]. Why would I enter into a relationship with someone who is married and has a pregnant wife at home? I would never do that. I don't care how young, old, naive, intelligent, whatever I am. I would never do that. You point out in the book that social media didn't exist in the same way when you started your relationship in 2006. It's not like they were posting family photos together and matching pajamas under the Christmas tree. I didn't know there was a family because I didn't even have a laptop to Google [him]. I'm not going to go walk down to the internet café while I'm printing out [headshots] for auditions and be like, 'By the way, that guy I went out with last night, let me Google him.' It was never even a thought in my mind. Do you think your book will give his ex-wife, Brandi Glanville, any peace? We've had several conversations over the years about it. The first one was on camera for the world to see, which made for the best transition in reality TV ever. But with Brandi, she and I have kept in touch over the years. I think she now understands that he was the one who lied. I never would have entered into a relationship, even a situationship, even hooking up, nothing with a man who was married. ... That's just not something I would do. What was the hardest part for you to write in this book? The hardest part for me to write in the book was definitely [Brock's affair]. When I met with publishing houses, I had a very vague description of what this chapter could look like in my proposal, because I was still deciding, Do we take this to the grave? After going back and forth through couples therapy and several conversations with my husband, we both decided that it needed to go in the book. This was a part of my story that I wanted to tell. I did not feel that my book would be complete or authentic if I did not put this chapter in. Making the decision was really difficult, but then actually writing it … I read him the first draft. He did not like it. He's like, "If you're going to put it out there, why are you trying to be vague? Why are you trying to scoot around it? You may as well write it all." So I did. I asked him if he wanted to read it before the final draft was due, and he said [no]. Then once we got the books printed and he read it, he goes, 'Oh, you really went all in.' I was like, 'You told me to add more detail, so I added every detail.' I think it was just hard for him to read because he didn't understand the magnitude of the hurt that I felt. He knew obviously it was devastating, but I think reading it a couple of years later really put it in a new perspective for him. And honestly I think our relationship has gotten so much stronger because of being honest about this. How are you doing now that it's out in the world? I'm doing OK, honestly. I have therapy scheduled for tomorrow and I had therapy last week. I think it's important to stay consistent with that for my mental health. It's a safe outlet for me to express how I'm feeling. I've tried to stay out of the comment section for the most part … I don't need to go and read what everyone's saying. I get the highlights from my manager or my publicist, things that I know I'm gonna have to address. But overall I've just been trying to let it all be out there, let people have their opinions. I expect people to have strong opinions about what I have to say in this book. That's OK. You mention anxiety for the first time when you are writing about your involvement with the Hooters lawsuit. You were secretly filmed changing in 2004. Anxiety wasn't something people really talked about back then. When did you finally realize, ? When I was going through that, I don't know that I completely understood the magnitude of what I was feeling. I've always had anxiety since I think I was a kid. I was always a perfectionist. I was finally diagnosed with anxiety toward the end of my [first] marriage, because in 2016 was when I got on [antidepressant] Wellbutrin for the first time. Prior to 2016, it was not something I talked about. I just kept that inside, the feeling that I had which was an anxious feeling. I buried it, like I did with a lot of things. How do you deal with anxiety now? Now I am being so much better about not burying my feelings. ... There are a lot of things around mental health now that are being talked about that weren't talked about when I was in school. I want to advocate for that. I want to be a person in the public eye who is not afraid to talk about these things because it helps people feel less alone and it helps them feel just seen and heard and understood. That's really important to me. Looking back on your time on , are there moments you see differently now? There are so many moments that I look back on and reflect on and wish I did things differently, wish I handled myself better. But that is the beauty and the curse of reality TV. You get to see yourself sometimes at your best, often at your worst, but then you can grow. You can learn. There's nothing normal about being able to go back in time. That's not a real thing. I'm going to mess up. I'm going to make mistakes. That is just a part of life. But the difference is: What do you do after you make that mistake? Do you learn and grow or do you make it again? The pressure for women in the public eye to look 25 forever — how do you deal with that? So trying to look 25 forever is something I'm trying to do. I have done Botox since I was 25 because it is preventative. I don't have wrinkles on my forehead. Now at 40, these smile lines are starting to stick. So I do the CO2 lasers. I do Cotrini eye patches that I put on my smile lines. I moisturize. I cleanse my skin. I take very good care of my skin because I would like to look 25 without having to inject fillers. I've done that before. I've reversed my lips because it just migrates, and I don't want that stuff in my face. There is a pressure to look young, but there's also a beauty in getting older. So trying to find that balance, trying to accept that I'm going to have some smile lines that maybe aren't going to completely go away, but that's OK. It's a part of life, and it's because I've laughed a lot. So trying to see it from that perspective instead of just harping on lines on my face. That's still a work in progress. Did turning 40 feel like a milestone for you? I had the most amazing party with no drama, no cameras other than the photographers I hired. So many of my Valley and Vanderpump Rules castmates and a ton of friends from my daughter's school. It was the perfect way to ring in 40. I was a bit depressed from November until May. I've upped my meds now, and I am feeling better. I was a combination of things that were putting me in a slump: getting kicked off The Masked Singer first, feeling like I'm not good enough. Then Vanderpump Rules gets rebooted, and as happy as I was, it was still a huge change in my adult life and career. It was just like so many little things: turning 40, new hormones coming through your body. I'm like, am I in perimenopause? What is this? But I did up my meds. What's something that you love about yourself now that you didn't when you were younger? All of the things that I think are wrong with me — my anxiety, my OCD, things that I just battled with in my head as a kid and adolescent and even an adult. I appreciate those things now on a different level. I think at times my intrusive thoughts suck, but my OCD does keep me safe. My anxiety shows me, Here are the potential threats and things that can go wrong. I do appreciate that I am cautious. How has becoming a mom changed how you see yourself? I have always known I'm a strong person. But this just extra shows me how strong I am. I was terrified to become a mom. I have to keep this human alive every single minute of the day? Then, when they go to school or there's a nanny, and you have to release control. It was a total battle for me. But now she can tell me when her tummy hurts and we can communicate like that, it has gotten easier. But it's really made me realize that I am a good mom. I am a strong person. I just want to give her the best life. I had an incredible childhood growing up, and I want her to have the same thing. And I feel like I've changed in a way where I look at friendships and relationships differently. If someone hasn't asked about my kid, if they have no interest in how she's doing, I have no interest for you in my life. When you become a mom, you really learn who your real friends are, who care not just about you and themself, but care about your kid. So that's been really eye-opening for me as well. This conversation has been edited for length and clarity. Solve the daily Crossword
Yahoo
a day ago
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- Yahoo
Scheana Shay recalls 'awkward' run-in with John Mayer
Scheana Shay had an "awkward" run-in with John Mayer years after they dated. The 40-year-old star dated John, 47, back in 2008, and they came face-to-face with each other at ChainFEST, a gourmet food chain festival in Los Angeles, two years ago. The reality star told People: "I saw him, and I awkwardly give him a hug, like, 'Hey, and then made a joke like, 'Oh, we should get a photo.' And he was like, 'No.' And I was like, 'I was kind of kidding.' But yeah, that was awkward." The celebrity duo actually came face-to-face for a second time at the same event in 2024, and Scheana decided to change her approach. She said: "I didn't even go in for the hug. He went out for a handshake. I'm like, 'Well, this is awkward, too." Meanwhile, Scheana recently confessed that she didn't know if she was "strong enough" to overcome her husband's infidelity. The reality star revealed that Brock Davies cheated on her while she was pregnant with their now four-year-old daughter, Summer Moon - but Scheana explained why she chose to remain tight-lipped about his infidelity. She said on the Scheananigans podcast: "At that time, I wasn't ready to talk about this. I certainly don't think you were ready to talk about this. I don't know that our marriage would have survived if we did talk about it that season. I felt like we were still very much in the middle of processing it privately." Scheana wanted to process the situation before she spoke about it publicly. She explained: "I wasn't about to start unraveling all of this on camera before I had even processed what it meant for our marriage, for our daughter, for our entire life." Scheana and Brock ultimately managed to overcome his infidelity, and she now has no regrets about keeping the situation to herself. She said: "I didn't know if I was going to be strong enough to stay. "It can be easier to just walk away after a betrayal, and hands are clean and be done. So sure, I could have disclosed it then, but I would have been speaking from a place of extreme confusion, pain, fear, [and] not clarity of any sort. "I just wasn't ready. And I think I've learned the hard way, once you say something on camera, it's out there forever."
Perth Now
a day ago
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- Perth Now
Scheana Shay recalls 'awkward' run-in with John Mayer
Scheana Shay had an "awkward" run-in with John Mayer years after they dated. The 40-year-old star dated John, 47, back in 2008, and they came face-to-face with each other at ChainFEST, a gourmet food chain festival in Los Angeles, two years ago. The reality star told People: "I saw him, and I awkwardly give him a hug, like, 'Hey, and then made a joke like, 'Oh, we should get a photo.' And he was like, 'No.' And I was like, 'I was kind of kidding.' But yeah, that was awkward." The celebrity duo actually came face-to-face for a second time at the same event in 2024, and Scheana decided to change her approach. She said: "I didn't even go in for the hug. He went out for a handshake. I'm like, 'Well, this is awkward, too." Meanwhile, Scheana recently confessed that she didn't know if she was "strong enough" to overcome her husband's infidelity. The reality star revealed that Brock Davies cheated on her while she was pregnant with their now four-year-old daughter, Summer Moon - but Scheana explained why she chose to remain tight-lipped about his infidelity. She said on the Scheananigans podcast: "At that time, I wasn't ready to talk about this. I certainly don't think you were ready to talk about this. I don't know that our marriage would have survived if we did talk about it that season. I felt like we were still very much in the middle of processing it privately." Scheana wanted to process the situation before she spoke about it publicly. She explained: "I wasn't about to start unraveling all of this on camera before I had even processed what it meant for our marriage, for our daughter, for our entire life." Scheana and Brock ultimately managed to overcome his infidelity, and she now has no regrets about keeping the situation to herself. She said: "I didn't know if I was going to be strong enough to stay. "It can be easier to just walk away after a betrayal, and hands are clean and be done. So sure, I could have disclosed it then, but I would have been speaking from a place of extreme confusion, pain, fear, [and] not clarity of any sort. "I just wasn't ready. And I think I've learned the hard way, once you say something on camera, it's out there forever."
Daily Mail
3 days ago
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
Jesse Metcalfe reacts to Scheana Shay revealing their fling in memoir
Jesse Metcalfe dismissed Scheana Shay's new memoir in an interview this weekend. In an interview Us Weekly on Saturday, the actor, 46, revealed he hadn't read his ex's new book, which was published on July 22 and shared details about their fling almost 20 years ago. Jesse said: 'I just became aware of the book, like, a couple days ago. So, no, I haven't read it yet.' When Scheana dated Jesse in 2007, she said 'it felt like I was living a real-life fantasy with this guy I'd watched on TV and in movies for years'. According to Us Weekly, Scheana also wrote that she had a 'great time' during their romance, adding: 'Our relationship didn't happen right away. Soon after we first met, he went to rehab, so we started hanging out often only after he finished.' Scheana wrote that Jesse took her on a date to the Cloverfield red carpet premiere. 'I then spent my 22nd birthday at dinner with him. I vividly remember sticking to water and Red Bull all night as a way of supporting his sobriety,' she said. Despite not having read her book, Jesse said he appreciated that Scheana spoke positively about him. He said: 'It's always nice when people speak highly of you. It's better than people speaking ill of you.' Days earlier, Jesse also addressed his former flame mentioning him when she appeared as a guest on Tori Spelling's MisSpelling podcast. He said: 'She spoke highly of me, which was nice. It was a long time ago, 20 years ago. We were dating. I mean, it was - overall - it was pretty brief, but we were seeing each other on a regular basis.' Jesse joked that he's made it a point to keep Scheana's memoir 'away' from his current girlfriend, Helene Immel, whom he's been seeing since 2023. Back in January, Scheana announced her literary effort and said readers could expect 'tea' on her ex-boss Lisa Vanderpump. Another relationship mentioned in My Good Side is Schena's alleged affair with actor Eddie Cibrian in 2006, which happened while he was married to future Real Housewives Of Beverly Hills star Brandi Glanville. She claims in the pages of My Good Side that Lisa knew more about the situation with Eddie than she initially let on. Scheana claimed Lisa purposefully put her and Brandi together on screen in a Real Housewives Of Beverly Hills episode in order to 'launch Vanderpump's TV empire'.
Daily Mail
4 days ago
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
Vanderpump Rules star Scheana Shay's ex-fling DISSES her new tell-all memoir
Scheana Shay 's former fling, Jesse Metcalfe, dismissed her new tell-all memoir in an interview this weekend. While speaking with Us Weekly on Saturday, Jesse said he has not read her new book. The tome, titled My Good Side, was published on July 22 and contains never-before-heard stories from the former Vanderpump Rules star, 40. Scheana writes about her fleeting romance with the 46-year-old heartthrob inside the pages of her tell-all, but the release was apparently not on his radar until very recently. 'I just became aware of the book, like, a couple days ago,' Jesse claimed to the publication. 'So, no, I haven't read it yet.' When the reality TV personality dated the actor in 2007, she said 'it felt like I was living a real-life fantasy with this guy I'd watched on TV and in movies for years.' According to Us Weekly, Scheana also wrote that she had a 'great time' during their romance. 'Our relationship didn't happen right away. Soon after we first met, he went to rehab, so we started hanging out often only after he finished,' she claimed. Scheana wrote that Metcalfe took her on a date to the Cloverfield red carpet premiere. 'I then spent my 22nd birthday at dinner with him. I vividly remember sticking to water and Red Bull all night as a way of supporting his sobriety,' she noted. Despite not having read her book, Jesse said he appreciates that Scheana spoke positively about him. 'It's always nice when people speak highly of you,' he told the outlet. 'It's better than people speaking ill of you.' Days earlier, the entertainer reacted to his former flame mentioning him when she appeared as a guest on Tori Spelling's MisSpelling podcast. 'She spoke highly of me, which was nice. [It was a] long time ago, 20 years ago. We were dating. I mean, it was — overall — it was pretty brief, but we were seeing each other on a regular basis,' he said, per Us Weekly. At the time, Jesse quipped that he's made it a point to keep Scheana's memoir 'away' from his current girlfriend, Helene Immel, whom he's been seeing since 2023. Back in January, Scheana announced her literary effort and said readers could expect 'tea' on her ex-boss Lisa Vanderpump. Another relationship mentioned in My Good Side is Schena's alleged affair with actor Eddie Cibrian in 2006 — which occurred while he was married to future Real Housewives Of Beverly Hills star Brandi Glanville. Shay claims in the pages of My Good Side that Vanderpump knew more about the alleged situation with Cibrian than she initially let on. The Bravo star claims Vanderpump purposefully put her and Glanville together on screen in a Real Housewives Of Beverly Hills episode in order to 'launch [Vanderpump's] TV empire' — which includes the RHOBH spinoff series Vanderpump Rules and Vanderpump Villa.
