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3 days ago
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28 Comfy Shoes Ready For All Of Your Travels
A handmade pair of closed-toe huarache platform sandals if you need some extra height (those flowy pants you just bought are a little on the long side), but also refuse to commit to walking around in heels all day. These beauts are the perfect compromise! A pair of Birkenstocks, aka the go-to summer vacation sandal. Reviewers rave about their signature cork footbed and for good reason — it molds to the foot for unrivaled comfort and support. A pair of Dr. Scholl's kicks so you can ditch the laces while still enjoying the benefits of supportive and comfy sneakers. Did I mention these have memory foam cushioning? Because they do, and you will love it. A classic pair of ballet flats since these darling little shoes fold up nice and compact for easy packing — and good thing, too, because you've only got about an inch of space left in your suitcase! Or, these memory foam-cushioned knit flats that are just as convenient (and comfy!) but offer a more elevated look with their textured design. Promising reviews: "These shoes are so comfortable. I used them on a trip where I did a lot of walking, and there was no need to break them in, and I had no blisters. I have not had to clean them yet, so don't know how they will wash up." —Charlotte"I wore these, new, on a recent trip and couldn't have been more pleased with the fit and comfort. Added bonus, you can toss them in the wash and they come out great!" —Amazon CustomerGet them from Amazon for $29.80+ (available in sizes 5–11, wide sizes, and in five colors). A gorgeous leather slide because it'll take you about .0002 seconds to throw them on and complete the day's ~lewk.~ There's not a second to be wasted when you're on vacation, right?! A cute pair of Toms block heels to wear at brunch, art galleries, high tea, happy hour, you name it! You deserve to ~treat yoself~ on vacation and these are shoes you'll want for all those fun, splurge-y activities. A chunky pair of Fila platform sneakers that just might be the ultimate travel hack. A comfy, supportive sneaker that also gives you a boost so you can see above the crowd and actually watch the busker's performance? Genius! A flexible pair of water shoes if your itinerary's got some water-based activities. Don't let soggy feet ruin the day's fun. Wear these, and thank me later. A cute and casual Sperry sneaker you can wear with just about anything and everything in your suitcase. Plus, they come with a removable footbed for added arch support. A pair of braided chunky heels to slip on whenever you need a chic little going-out shoe, like when you're checking out that cool speakeasy you saw on TikTok. According to reviewers, these are actually comfy enough to wear all night long, too! Keen rose sandals that I just adore and almost always bring on my warm-weather trips. They look so darn cute, are unbelievably comfy, and best of all, can handle miles and miles of walking (even if I decide to stroll through the waves a bit). I've brought these on hiking/camping trips, but also on city vacations, too. I love knowing I can tackle any sort of terrain I might stumble upon in my adventures, even though they don't really look like your typical "hiking sandals."Promising review: "I bought these sandals about a month before I went on vacation. I walked around in them all day in very hot temperatures (38–40 degrees Celsius) with my feet sweating and swelling, and did not get any blisters or hot spots. I thought for sure they would start to smell, but they didn't! I read reviews of others not liking the ankle strap not being adjustable, but I did not have any issues. I definitely would not go hiking in these sandals, but they are great for everyday casual wear and are super cute. I love the wide-toe box for my problem feet. I will definitely be buying more pairs in different colors. These are the most comfortable sandals I have ever bought! I did have some rubbing on my big toe from the toe box material, but I got used to it quickly with no issues." —Ldc8Get them from Keen for $120 (available in sizes 5–12 and six colors — not all styles available in all sizes). A lightweight mesh sneaker if you (or your S.O.) want to look ~sharp~ without having to sweat away in stiff, uncomfy dress shoes. In the words of one reviewer, they're "absurdly comfortably" while offering a business-casual kinda vibe. My boyfriend has these in black, and the first thing he commented on was how light and breathable they are. He's definitely a comfort first, style second kind of person, but he doesn't have to compromise anymore, thanks to these. They're pretty much his new go-to shoe when we're heading downtown or out on a date (and he always looks so good in them). Promising review: "I love them, I originally bought a pair for a vacation where I needed something business casual and comfortable for walking… I wore them on my first day back to the office (left my $750 pair of Ferragamo's at the office). I intended to throw on the expensive pair… I got more compliments on these than I have for a high-end shoe + they're way more comfortable!" —Bobby DGet them from Amazon for $36.54+ (available in men's sizes 6.5–14 and 14 colors) A beautiful pair of Greek gladiator-inspired sandals so you can feel like a real Mediterranean local as you navigate the streets and local seaside markets. Even if you're not headed to Greece, you'll still feel like a goddess wearing these. A pair of Swedish wooden clogs, just in case you're worried you lack the... uhhh... coordination for navigating cobblestone and brick streets in heels. Have no fear — these shoes are extra sturdy and even have a heel strap for added reinforcement. No wobbling here! A pair of Crocs sandals featuring the same comfort and convenience the brand is known for, only a more aesthetic design. Whether you're a diehard Crocs lover or new to the cult, you're gonna want these cuties in your collection. A pair of quilted sneakers featuring memory foam insoles beneath that stylish exterior, because you deserve to look and feel like a million bucks when you're out and about globe-trotting. Psst! Some reviewers say these shoes run big, and recommend ordering a size down. Promising review: "I bought these shoes for my trip to the UK in September. They proved to be some of the most comfortable shoes I have ever owned. We toured English stately homes and gardens and walked everywhere we went, and these shoes gave me great support and comfort. I wore them on the plane and in the airports, and they stood the test. Love these shoes, and I have put them aside to wear for my next UK trip!" —Louisa CornellGet them from Amazon for $27.19+ (available in sizes 6–11, including wide sizes, and eight colors — not all colors available in all sizes). A pair of cushioned slides for an easy-on, breathable shoe that's pretty darn supportive. Ideal for TSA, but more importantly, for heading to the pool (or beach) and back a bajillion times. Promising review: "These shoes are amazing. I have plantar fasciitis, and by the end of the day, my feet are in a lot of pain. I can now stand and walk with no pain wearing these shoes. They appear to be cheap, but whatever material these are made of is more comfortable than Crocs! I bought the grey and loved them, so I bought another pair in brown. I'm going to take them with me on vacation because I know I can walk long distances with them. My feet do not sweat in them either!" —GGet them from Amazon for $23.98+ (available in sizes 5.5–17W, 4–16M, and 29 colors). A waterproof sneaker so you can tackle all that sightseeing, regardless of the weather forecast. These will keep your feet dry, and unlike typical rain boots, are actually comfy enough for endless walking! Promising review: "Probably the best item I've ever ordered from Amazon. I wanted to look stylish, and rain boots would have looked silly. Found these all rubber sneaker/rain shoes, and man! I'm glad I got these. Wore them to Europe during quite a bit of rain. Walked a lot and they were surprisingly very comfortable, too." —Its meGet them from Amazon for $33.99+ (available in sizes 5.5–11, in four colors in the high-top style, and in five other styles). Braided Plaka sandals that combine functionality with a breezy boho aesthetic, aka the perfect combo for oceanside strolls. The straps fit snugly around the foot without rubbing or pinching while the rubber soles are durable enough for sand, beach rocks, and other rough terrain. The famous Allbirds runner — uber soft and supportive everyday sneakers made from lightweight and breathable eucalyptus fibers, which means they're 100% up to the task of keeping you cool and comfy as you explore the world. Promising review: "Love these shoes!! So comfortable and look great. Wore them as all-day shoes at Disneyland, no blisters or other issues. I am already looking at other pairs to buy. Also great for traveling, extremely lightweight." —Michaela them from Allbirds for $98 (available in sizes 5–11W, 8–14M, and 21 colors). Elastic-strap sandals since the twisted strap is not only super cute but also super stretchy, which means the sandal conforms perfectly to your foot for a secure, comfy fit. A pair of Cole Haan leather sneakers because they're a sleek, lightweight shoe that can be dressed up or down. Pretty much a no-brainer for vacation. Promising review: "This is the third pair I have bought for my husband (navy, tan, and black). We travel a lot and he always takes a pair for daily wear and loads of walking. He says they are the most comfortable shoes he has ever had, and frankly, they are so great looking, you can wear them anywhere. In Europe, many men wear shoes of this style with their suits, and they look so sharp. These are so versatile, go with anything, and have a super-high comfort level. Catch them when they are on special!" —vieuxcarreGet them from Amazon for $65.19+ (available in men's sizes 7–13, two widths, and in 11 styles). A super cute strappy sandal for something that's stylish *and* supportive — both non negotiable for your big summer trip. These have a thick, cushioned footbed that's similar to Birks, only much cheaper. A pair of platform, lace-up Oxfords so you can trick all the locals into thinking you're actually overseas for an important academic conference... are you a Rhodes scholar or genius mathematician? They'll never know! A pair of combat boots if your personal style is best described as pop-punk. These are just the edgy-chic traveling companion you've been waiting for. Promising review: "I am in love with these boots! First, they are great-looking. I've worn them 10 times in the past two and a half weeks and received compliments five times. They look amazing with leggings, maxi dresses, and short skirts. The ankle doesn't gap and is adjustable with laces, but they actually open by way of a zipper on the inside ankle. So, once you get them fitted to your arch and ankle, putting them on and taking them off is easy. I know as I had to remove them for TSA at two airports. I've worn them in rain, slushy snow, sub-freezing temps, and 70-degree weather. So far, with a wipe of a cloth, they still look brand new. No scuffs and no cracks. Yesterday, I took them off after 31 hours of travel, involving a number of airports and lots of walking, and they still felt good." —AliceGet them from Amazon for $39.99+ (available in sizes 5.5–10 and in four colors). Or Dr. Marten gladiator sandals so you can rock those spunky pop-punk vibes without your feet overheating. These are definitely the summertime equivalent of your fave combat boots, offering a similar aesthetic in a more breathable and lighter open-foot design. A classic pair of slip-on sneaks made from a breathable and stretchy canvas material, which means your feet will sweat less and probably won't rub too much either... the two things that tend to cause blisters.
Vox
4 days ago
- Business
- Vox
The internet is littered with advice. What's it doing to your brain?
As the eldest daughter in a family of six siblings, with a brain wired for strong convictions, Amy Lentz was born to give advice. Lentz is a 36-year-old with sea green eyes and wavy brown hair worthy of a shampoo commercial. She works as the chief people officer — the head of human resources — at Toms, the Los Angeles-based footwear company. To hundreds of thousands of followers on TikTok and Instagram, however, Lentz is known as @HackYourHR: a friendly face dispensing wisdom about career and workplace matters, from networking more effectively and receiving feedback without getting defensive to radiating 'executive presence' and navigating lowball job offers. 'As an older sister, I got called bossy,' she laughs, 'and in real life, as an adult, I get called helpful!' For decades, this kind of public-facing life advice was popular in syndicated newspaper columns, then on blogs and websites, and now it's everywhere on social media. While scrolling your platform of choice, it's easy to find yourself immersed in a world of bite-sized videos that, like Lentz's, dole out tips for performing better at work, optimizing your potential, and navigating relationship issues. (Exercise and diet advice are a whole other can of keto-friendly worms.) Some advice-givers are true subject matter experts, and others are ordinary people speaking from their personal experience. In either case, the creator's confidence and the gravity of the subject matter might make you pause your scroll. Here are the two books that will supercharge your business. Here's how to get over the fear that's stopping you from living the life you want. Did you know you can just wake up and have different standards for yourself? When Lentz started consistently posting videos in early 2023, she discovered that people were eager for professional guidance. 'The positive feedback really was kind of life-changing,' she says. 'For the first six months, I replied to every single DM and email that I received from people asking for my advice.' People sent screenshots of offer letters, asking her how to respond, and Lentz, locking into big sister mode, would just write the email for them. Some of the messages she received were painful and personal. After the death of a family member, one person felt they couldn't take time off, for fear of letting their team down, and wondered what to do. 'I think people are desperate to understand [whether] they're doing the right thing or not,' says Lentz. This is something of a desperate moment. Politically and economically, Americans are living through a period of tremendous uncertainty, as well as a loneliness crisis. For anyone worried about the security of their job or savings — and for anyone who feels they don't have close friends to consult on life's myriad challenges — there's an obvious appeal to video creators who seem sure of the path forward. A willingness to hear advice is not only understandable, but smart, as it leads to better decision-making. 'Research has overwhelmingly found that advice is really beneficial, and that people tend to under-utilize advice, usually causing them to make lower quality decisions,' says Lyn van Swol, a professor of communication science at the University of Wisconsin-Madison who studies advice and information-sharing in groups. The catch, she notes, is that most of that research looks at advice from one, two, or three other people, not dozens, hundreds, or thousands of strangers on TikTok: 'It's overwhelming — it's like a fire hose of advice.' When the right piece of wisdom reaches the right ears at precisely the right time, it can hit like a bolt of lightning. But for every earth-shaking revelation delivered on social media, you can spend hours scrolling through more mundane, but nevertheless urgent, guidance from self-assured individuals with varying levels of expertise. With so many voices on your screen, it would be reasonable to start feeling disoriented or anxious, unsure about your own decision-making skills. Short of deleting your apps, how are you supposed to wade through the morass, taking what's useful and discarding what isn't, as you make your way toward the better life that so many people already seem to be living? Seeking the wisdom of perfect strangers There are many ways of delivering advice, some more effective than others. It will shock nobody to learn that uninvited advice tends to go over very poorly. 'People are very resistant to taking unsolicited advice,' says Reeshad Dalal, a professor of psychology at George Mason University with a research background in decision-making and advice. Dalal then poses this question: Does a TikTok video qualify as unsolicited advice? Well, yes, in the sense that you didn't ask for that video to cross your feed. But then again, the algorithm did serve it to you based on your interests and viewing history — so could it be called semi-solicited advice? Van Swol categorizes advice videos as 'masspersonal.' They're interpersonal, but with mass reach; directed at the viewer, but not at you specifically. If part of the problem with unsolicited advice is that it feels judgmental, masspersonal advice smoothes away some of that unwelcome scrutiny and affords the viewer the buffer of anonymity. Offline, good advisers often employ the tactic of laying out a narrative around a problem before launching into their recommendation — a framework reflected on TikTok, where creators tend to blend advice with a personal story. Add in the parasocial element of social media, wherein influencers start to feel like your friends, and you have a recipe for advice that's surprisingly palatable, even though you didn't actively ask for it. According to social media creators, there's something else at play, too: a very real sense of loneliness and a hunger for answers. Chelsea Anderson, the self-styled 'Michael Jordan of babysitting' who shares hacks for child care and adult life on TikTok and Instagram, says that she has always consulted her female friends — 'a group of mirrors' — when she needs to make a big life decision. She feels that TikTok now serves as a space for people to do that external processing, not because it's better than in-person bonds but because they don't necessarily have anywhere else to turn. 'Community is disappearing, and I think that's why this content hits,' says Anderson. 'That room full of mirrors is harder and harder to access in real life.' In a world of unknowns, simple and concrete statements are a comfort — and the urge to seek out other people's advice is painfully, sweetly human. Americans are so lonely that the US Surgeon General's office released an advisory in 2023 stating that social isolation has an impact on mortality comparable to smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day. Although the hacks Anderson features in her videos are often lighthearted and imaginative, she has received messages from followers that seem like a true cry for help. 'Some of the questions people ask me make me really sad, because they're not questions you should be asking someone on the internet. They are questions you should be asking your best friend or your mom,' Anderson says, adding that she appreciates that people feel comfortable coming to her. Lentz has noticed a similar undercurrent of distress in the questions she receives about nailing job interviews and landing raises. 'I think people feel like they're getting left behind, for a number of reasons, and they desperately do not want to become irrelevant,' she says. Some of this fear is rooted in social comparison, but much of it is tied to daily concerns about funding retirement accounts and covering child care costs. ' If I were to get this promotion, I could afford more day care. So there's so much pressure on this interview,' Lentz says. 'There's so much weight to people's fears, and I think it's all justified based on our economy.' Doris Chang, an associate professor at NYU's Silver School of Social Work and a licensed clinical psychologist, understands the appeal of short-form advice videos on TikTok. 'There is a human attraction towards things that are really simplified,' she says. 'I can see people going, 'I feel like crap. This video is telling me something to do, and it's only two minutes long.'' She also notes that these videos aren't a substitute for therapy; professional counseling, however, can be expensive and difficult to access. In a world of unknowns, simple and concrete statements are a comfort — and the urge to seek out other people's advice is painfully, sweetly human. Who among us, grappling with a major conundrum, hasn't reached out to a trusted friend, family member, or counselor, hoping they'll shake a new solution loose or summon some wisdom we can't access yet? In these conversations, we lay ourselves bare, with our fears and insecurities on full display, and ask for help making sense of our mess. When we're meant to travel this life together, there's a deep loneliness in problems you don't feel that you can ask anyone about. So we do the next best thing — we go online. This is your brain on TikTok advice Self-improvement via TikTok is complicated by the fact that time spent on the apps can be a drain on mental health. Passive use of social media — scrolling — has been shown to be associated with anxiety and depression in adolescents, says Jacqueline Sperling, an assistant professor of psychology at Harvard Medical School and co-program director of the McLean Anxiety Mastery Program at McLean Hospital. (Active participation through posting and commenting, however, can have a positive impact on people, helping them find community and foster connections with others.) It's not just young people who are affected by social media: Research has shown that older adults who use social media are more likely to report symptoms of depression. Any wisdom gleaned from short-form life advice videos sits on a balance with these potential downsides. For people with anxiety in particular, looking at a lot of advice content on social media might end up exacerbating their worries. 'It can actually have this harmful function of feeding the desire for reassurance,' says Chang. 'There's an unlimited amount of information that can confirm or disconfirm your biggest fears and worries. For someone who's seeking certainty in the world, because that's what anxiety is really about, then being on social media a whole bunch is not going to be helpful.' In the field of decision psychology, too, Dalal sees a vicious cycle with anxiety and advice-seeking behavior. 'The finding is pretty robust: When people are anxious about a decision, they will seek out more advice. ... The reverse can be true as well,' says Dalal. 'Anxiety leads to seeking out advice, but knowing that there's all this advice out there might, paradoxically, increase anxiety as well.' Even among people who aren't particularly anxious, though, information overload can result in a feeling of overwhelm. 'There's a classical idea called 'the paradox of choice,'' says Dalal. 'If you go into a grocery store, and I show you 30 varieties of jam and say you can have one for free, that might stress you out. But if I give you three varieties of jam, you would walk away happy that you made the right choice.' Advice, he says, will operate in the same way. There is another way in which advice videos might affect viewers, and that is as a performance of confidence. In this corner of TikTok, creators are often the picture of self-assurance, speaking clearly and succinctly as they share their guidance, their eyes never straying from the camera. To a certain extent, advice videos are simply a vessel for the reality distortion that takes place across social media more broadly: People often present the most put-together versions of themselves online, leading viewers to feel badly about themselves in comparison. 'The contrast is really stark,' says Chang. 'You're like, my apartment doesn't look like that, and I'm not that confident, and I don't have the answers.' The most successful TikTok advisers may well be those who are most able to express self-confidence. 'A huge problem in advice research is that people are very persuaded by confidence,' says van Swol. It doesn't matter whether the advice is great or subpar: 'You have a lot of very confident people out there giving advice, and people cannot tell the difference.' (Meanwhile, people with a weak sense of self are especially prone to taking advice.) 'A huge problem in advice research is that people are very persuaded by confidence.' Some of those confident people are, no doubt, offering solid guidance and attempting to do so in good faith. Lentz is well aware of the power that she holds as someone giving advice online. 'I have high self-esteem, so if the person on the other end of the phone has a lower sense of self, sense of identity, they are susceptible,' she says. 'I do think there's responsibility with what you put out.' Still, when you're watching not one or two but dozens of advice videos, it's hard not to suspect that everyone has things figured out except for you — when, in fact, you're not as underqualified to navigate life as you might think. Nor is there a secret shortcut that nobody told you about. 'There is this desire for a magic formula,' says Chang, 'and if people are offering it with a lot of confidence, it does silence your own intuition about what might be best for you.' So, how do you navigate a world too full of advice? Across the board, experts say that the best way to move through the sea of life advice on social media is to spend some time interrogating a creator's credentials, background, and expertise before taking their suggestions. Sperling recommends using intriguing videos as a jumping-off point for consulting trusted sources and experts off of those platforms: 'The key thing is to not act immediately and to take that as an opportunity to learn more.' Interestingly, content creators say essentially the same thing. 'I think oftentimes, especially when it comes to people who post content, we assume they know something that we don't,' says Donavan Barrett, a 28-year-old tae kwon do teacher-turned-personal branding coach. 'Sometimes they do, but oftentimes they're just a regular person who decided to pick up their phone and record their opinion.' Barrett studied psychology in college and says he has always been the 'therapy friend' to those in his life. He now makes videos about mindset and motivation on TikTok, which reflect the type of work he does with private clients. In his videos, which often deal with overcoming self-doubt, he tries to show up as the person whose guidance he could have used as a young person. 'I come from a background where I wasn't given the education, the resources, or the know-how to trust myself,' he explains. Barrett knows how a green screen and a mini microphone can convey a sense of authority — he's made those kinds of videos, too. As a result, he recommends vetting creators before taking their advice and watching out for those who are overly prescriptive in their messaging, particularly when they've made it their business to issue guidance. 'The coaching industry, the advice industry, is huge and seems to only be growing,' he says. 'There are a lot of people who are going to project their experiences or shove you into their box.' Chang expresses a similar idea: 'Therapy is all about excavating and reflecting on your unique situation, strengths, resources, and contexts.' If advice videos don't accommodate an individual's specificity and instead offer one-size-fits-all solutions, she says, 'I think it's kind of a scam.' People are generally alike, 'ashamed of their needs and afraid to voice them, afraid to honor themselves, afraid to show their vulnerable hearts.' When figuring out which sources of advice to trust, Dalal recommends looking at trustworthiness, which encompasses both expertise and good intentions — the latter of which can be difficult to judge. As part of that due diligence, it's worth considering someone's financial incentives, which may or may not be 100 percent aligned with your best interests. Indeed, life advice videos can be a strong marketing tool for creators, who make much of their money via brand deals and affiliate marketing, or an on-ramp to related business pursuits. 'My entire business is from social media,' says Barrett; his clients find him through TikTok and similar platforms. Anderson is currently writing a book of child care and life hacks — she recently left her job at an advertising agency to become a full-time content creator — while Lentz looks at her online presence as a way of building trust and rapport with her audience. She's focused on her corporate career for the time being, but long-term, she would like to run for government office. Despite the thorniness of navigating advice on the internet — of opening your arms wide to that digital fire hose — there is a certain beauty in the guidance of strangers. 'A stranger and a friend can give the same advice, but when a friend gives it, it's easy to imagine that they have prejudices or limitations or resentments that will prevent them from being objective,' Heather Havrilesky, who has penned the advice column ' Ask Polly ' since 2012, writes to Vox in an email. 'It's easy with a friend to think, 'You're just saying that because you don't understand what it's like to be an artist and you never liked my husband and you think having kids is the most important thing anyone can do.' A stranger has the advantage of dropping down like a god and delivering a verdict without revealing their own prejudices and limitations.' Havrilesky isn't familiar with TikTok advice, but writing 'Ask Polly' for over a decade seems to have resulted in an approach to counseling strangers that is more complex — messier, perhaps — than what appears in some of those bite-sized videos. She used to feel that other people were usually the problem in her readers' lives: 'The early days were all about encouraging people to stand up for themselves and to refuse to settle for people, places, and things that they tolerated out of guilt, perceived obligation, or compulsive people-pleasing.' Now, she understands that people are generally alike, 'ashamed of their needs and afraid to voice them, afraid to honor themselves, afraid to show their vulnerable hearts.' Here, as in real life, there are no quick tips, no shortcuts, no magic solutions. Haley Nahman, who writes an advice column for her popular Maybe Baby newsletter, says she is rarely looking to provide answers, but rather to help readers reframe their questions. 'I find that you can wrestle with the wrong question for years,' she says, 'and when you reframe it, it's actually much simpler to answer.' Havrilesky doesn't attempt to offer a concrete path forward, either. Her goal is to incite catharsis or a perspective shift. She doesn't always know where an answer is going when she begins writing, but while unearthing her own feelings and facing her own fears (because people are generally alike), she ends up harnessing an energy that she hopes to impart to the reader. A bolt of lightning, passed from one hand to another.
Buzz Feed
24-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Buzz Feed
27 Shoes From Nordstrom Rack That'll Keep Your Feet Comfy And Your Wallet Safe
A pair of three-stripe Adidas for anyone who likes to stay true to the classics — this is a low-vibe, straight-fire shoe that will never go out of style. Promising review: "The cutest sneaker and super comfy… mine are pink with green stripes and I got a bunch of compliments!" —At323Price: $51.97 (originally $65; available in sizes 5–11 and in four colors) A stylish sandal with a textured strap that adds a touch of luxury to 'em that might make people think you spent way more on them than you actually did. We'll let them keep thinking you got it like that. Promising review: "The most comfortable sandals I've bought in a long time." —Roberta1153Price: $39.97 (originally $69.99; available in sizes 6–11 and four colors) Slingback sandals featuring large gold decorative buckles for an anything *but* boring shoe option that'll stand out among your black and tan slip-ons. Promising review: "They are so comfortable and versatile with different outfits. I'm so glad I purchased them!" —TeacherAnnPrice: $59.97 (originally $89.95; available in sizes 6–11 and in eight colors) A pair of mixed print sneakers carrying an giant amount of swaggy sauce, more than should be legal for one person to contain. If you're heading out to chop it up with the locals and want a shoe that'll quite literally stop traffic, look no further. Promising review: "Comfortable to wear all day!" —blkdymonPrice: $39.97 (originally $79.99; available in sizes 5–12 and five colors) A pair of platform Dr. Martens in a vibrant pink hue in case your wardrobe has started to accidentally give off some Wednesday Addams vibes. These will give you the splash of color your all-black ensembles have been lacking. Promising reviews: "I bought these boots in my normal size 9, they fit perfectly, very comfortable. No break in time at all. I'd highly recommend them." —Aroddy"Love the pale pink color and platform sole. Roomy for my wide foot. Comfy. Love the zip entry." —Julz100Price: $79.97+ (originally $210; available in sizes 5–15 and three colors) A pair of Tom's slip-ons whispering that you should take them out for a stroll along the beach to buy a snow cone, watch the breakdancers perform, and the kites sail. Promising review: "I've never had a pair of Toms before, and when these were available in my size and in a color I wanted, I thought I'd try them. They are cute and surprisingly comfortable — a perfect summer shoe!" —cue-PPrice: $39.97 (originally $50; available in sizes 5–12 and in five colors) A sporty pair of Dr. Scholl's sneakers with decorative laces so you can slip them on without tying. The insole is designed with special technology to provide more comfort and support. Promising review: "A few months ago, I broke my ankle, and for the next year or so, I will be wearing sneakers. I am so HAPPY with them! So comfy-nice style. I received so many compliments!" —CelestemichPrice: $27.98+ (originally $100; available in sizes 5–13 and 19 colors) An '85 vintage Reebok — just as comfortable as they were back in the day when your parents walked to school. The best part about this shoe is its off-white color, which makes it blend with any outfit. Promising review: "I'm a student-athlete and am constantly on the move. These shoes have allowed me to walk between classes as well as on the field in ease and comfort. They're also great quality and go with every outfit since they're not bright white, but a sort of cream/off-white." —anonymousPrice: $64.97 (originally $90; available in sizes 5.5–10) A braided sandal — pair them with a sundress or wide-leg linen pants if you wanna look like one of the fabulous Real Housewives you're always watching on Bravo. Promising review: "I LOVE THESE!! SO SEXY! Comfy and supportive! I can walk around all evening and be comfortable and stylish! I am a 8.5 but went with the 9 as I usually do with heels since my foot is a little wider. Glad I did! The toe strap fits comfortably enough, and it doesn't rub or leave blisters!! A great addition for the stylish but comfy dresser." —VanityLeePrice: $49.97 (originally $125; available in sizes 5–15 and six colors) A pair of classic ballet flats that resemble those you begrudgingly wore as a tyke, but now that you're older, you realize your parents were *actually* fashion-forward. Promising review: "The shoe is very soft and hugs your feet; I won't buy shoes unless they're comfortable with little to no break-in period. Think I might get the red pair as well. It's a sweet classic ballet flat that isn't too trendy." —JackiePrice: $69.97 (originally $130, available in sizes 4–13 and in eight colors) A pair of pointed-toe mules if you're looking for a shoe that has all the style and upscale elegance as a heel but you want to avoid anything with height. Promising review: "Love how they just slide on. Looks dressy. Can wear them with jeans or slacks. Seems perfect with everything. Comfy and roomy" —AG2024Price: $38.98+ (originally $140+, available in sizes 5–11 and in 13 colors) Mini Hunter rainboots so your feet can stay warm, dry, and comfortable even if you get the urge to hop in and out of a few puddles. Promising review: "These boots are fantastic! They fit true to size and are amazing! I bought them a little unsure of what to expect, but they are fantastic for the price. I have gotten so many compliments on them. They are snug to get on, but I just pull on the back tab, and they fit like a glove." —kittlesXPrice: $74.97 (originally $140, available in 5–11) An adorable slingback kitten heel with just enough elevation to get you off the ground but not enough to make you leave the party early. Promising review: "So cute and stylish! Matches everything and is simple and chic. There is a gold buckle on the strap, which is a nice touch." —Kris1082Price: $35.98+ (originally $120, available in sizes 5–11 and in eight colors) A pair of shiny loafers here to introduce a timeless but affordable shoe into your wardrobe. They're giving ~substitute teacher chic~ vibes that'll complement tons of styles. Promising review: "Super cute AND comfortable. I was afraid they would be stiff as I don't think they are real leather, but they are soft with a great comfortable foot bed. I get tons of compliments." —CareyPrice: $41.96+ (originally $110, available in sizes 5–11 and in six colors) A Brooks Trail Running Shoe made with lightweight foam that'll give you the kind of support you'd want whether you're running a 5K or trekking up and down the aisles at the grocery store. Promising reviews: "Worth it! These are great running shoes; supportive and cushiony." —Jenifer G"Very comfortable shoe after a foot injury." —PLJJPrice: $89.97 (originally $150; available in sizes 5.5–11 and in two colors) Platform Converse high-tops for anyone who is still nostalgic over the Chuck Taylors they wore in high school. Add these to your cart if you want an upgraded version that'll take your style to ~new heights~. Promising review: "I love it! Much cheaper than buying in a Converse store." —BeeXiPrice: $59.97 (originally $115; available in sizes 5–12) A pair of slingback platform sandals if you're looking for a shoe that'll also elongate your legs — they'll be a match made in heaven with the mini skirt you just picked up last week. Promising review: "I have been searching for the perfect summer platforms with a strap that I can use for work or on weekends. These were comfortable right out of the box! They appear to have a slight heel, which I like, rather than a completely flat platform; it adds some character. I appreciate that the soles of the shoe are quite rugged (Sorel style) so as to not slide everywhere." —PromisinggalakticPrice: $69.97 (originally $140, available in sizes 5–12 and in three colors) Dansko professional clogs — aka a saving grace for people with jobs requiring them to be on their feet for long periods. The memory foam footbed will have each step feeling like you're walking on a cloud. Ideal for healthcare workers! Promising review: "Working in a dental office during the COVID pandemic, I wanted a shoe that I could wipe down with a disinfecting wipe and take off without needing to touch the shoe. These clogs fit all my criteria, and they are super comfortable. There is a reason they are a top choice for nurses." —Karin VonPrice: $89.97 (originally $110, available in sizes 5.5–12) A timeless Puma sneaker just begging to be your staple sneaker for weekend getaways. It's a simple shoe you can pair with any of the outfits in your carry-on. Promising review: "I love my shoes! They are super comfy and stylish. I've worn them with sundresses, shorts, pants, sweats, and skirts, and I've gotten nothing but compliments!" —LannaGPrice: $46.97 (originally $65, available in sizes 5.5–11 and in nine colors) A pair of hot pink oxfords to add some serious pizzazz to any and every look in your lineup. These shoes will offer the unique pop you're looking for. Stand by; compliments are loading. Promising review: "Very pleased with this purchase!" —Kathleen PritchardPrice: $64.97+ (originally $94.99, available in sizes 5.5–12 and in four colors) Or a pair of platform oxford sneaker hybrids to give you the ~best of both worlds~ just like that girl Hannah Montana is always going on about. The gold details on the tongue and heel give the shoe an extra fancy touch. Promising review: "Love the look of these. The platform adds to comfort, providing extra cushioning while walking around the city." —BKMomPrice: $89.97 (originally $170, available in sizes 5–11 and in four colors) A pair of faux-fur slippers because why not treat your feet to the feeling of walking on fluffy teddy bears, even if you're just walking around the house? Promising review: "I have lived in these slippers every day since buying them!! Soft, warm, and comfy. Highly recommend them!!" —VivienneTPrice: $12.98 (originally $29.95, available in sizes S–XL and in four colors) A pair of Teva Midform sandals you'll be glad you have when it's time to pack for your family vacay — they take up minimal space while still providing maximum style. Promising review: "I love this sandal. The color goes well with most of my shorts and jeans; I can even wear them with summer dresses. They are comfortable and cute. Plus, they give me some height." —CristiRPrice: $34.97 (originally $70; available in sizes 6–11 and in three styles) Platform sandals for when it's too darn hot outside to wear your go-to jeans. Even Mister Golden Sun can't stand between you and your love of denim. Promising review: "I have never bought a shoe in four colors but I did with this one. Unbelievably comfortable. After having terrible plantar fasciitis for two years, I thought I would never be able to wear heels. I wore them the entire day, walking nonstop. That was it; I purchased three more colors, dark and light, for every casual or dressy outfit. Very happy :-)" — $59.97 (originally $89, available in sizes 5–12 and 17 colors) A platform clog sandal — who knew a shoe made of wood could actually be comfortable?! This dainty shoe is just begging to accompany you for your next picnic in the park or brunch date in the garden. Promising review: "If you don't like heavy shoes, this shoe is very light and very elegant, not hard on the feet, easy to stand up in, and very comfortable for walking. You can dress it up or down, and it looks very good with bell bottoms.❤️" —Baby KappPrice: $59.97 (originally $100, available in sizes 6–11 and in three colors) A stylish pair of block-heel slide sandals in case you're looking for the best main character shoe to be featured in the next *foot pop* photo, just like in The Princess Diaries. Promising review: "Love these shoes. Got them for a wedding and was able to wear them all night dancing." —NNDSLPrice: $39.97 (originally $79.95, available in sizes 6–11 and in five colors) And, finally, a pair of shiny patent sandals with cute lil' buckles ready to give you the strength to stand in line at the next barbecue so you can get the fresh hot links, right off the grill. Thankfully, they don't sink into the grass either. Promising review: "Cute, cute, cute; I love it!" —CarolePrice: $61.97+ (originally $94, available in sizes 6–12 and in four colors)
Vox
23-05-2025
- Business
- Vox
Everyone online wants to give you advice. Should you listen?
As the eldest daughter in a family of six siblings, with a brain wired for strong convictions, Amy Lentz was born to give advice. Lentz is a 36-year-old with sea green eyes and wavy brown hair worthy of a shampoo commercial. She works as the chief people officer — the head of human resources — at Toms, the Los Angeles-based footwear company. To hundreds of thousands of followers on TikTok and Instagram, however, Lentz is known as @HackYourHR: a friendly face dispensing wisdom about career and workplace matters, from networking more effectively and receiving feedback without getting defensive to radiating 'executive presence' and navigating lowball job offers. 'As an older sister, I got called bossy,' she laughs, 'and in real life, as an adult, I get called helpful!' For decades, this kind of public-facing life advice was popular in syndicated newspaper columns, then on blogs and websites, and now it's everywhere on social media. While scrolling your platform of choice, it's easy to find yourself immersed in a world of bite-sized videos that, like Lentz's, dole out tips for performing better at work, optimizing your potential, and navigating relationship issues. (Exercise and diet advice are a whole other can of keto-friendly worms.) Some advice-givers are true subject matter experts, and others are ordinary people speaking from their personal experience. In either case, the creator's confidence and the gravity of the subject matter might make you pause your scroll. Here are the two books that will supercharge your business. Here's how to get over the fear that's stopping you from living the life you want. Did you know you can just wake up and have different standards for yourself? When Lentz started consistently posting videos in early 2023, she discovered that people were eager for professional guidance. 'The positive feedback really was kind of life-changing,' she says. 'For the first six months, I replied to every single DM and email that I received from people asking for my advice.' People sent screenshots of offer letters, asking her how to respond, and Lentz, locking into big sister mode, would just write the email for them. Some of the messages she received were painful and personal. After the death of a family member, one person felt they couldn't take time off, for fear of letting their team down, and wondered what to do. 'I think people are desperate to understand [whether] they're doing the right thing or not,' says Lentz. This is something of a desperate moment. Politically and economically, Americans are living through a period of tremendous uncertainty, as well as a loneliness crisis. For anyone worried about the security of their job or savings — and for anyone who feels they don't have close friends to consult on life's myriad challenges — there's an obvious appeal to video creators who seem sure of the path forward. A willingness to hear advice is not only understandable, but smart, as it leads to better decision-making. 'Research has overwhelmingly found that advice is really beneficial, and that people tend to under-utilize advice, usually causing them to make lower quality decisions,' says Lyn van Swol, a professor of communication science at the University of Wisconsin-Madison who studies advice and information-sharing in groups. The catch, she notes, is that most of that research looks at advice from one, two, or three other people, not dozens, hundreds, or thousands of strangers on TikTok: 'It's overwhelming — it's like a fire hose of advice.' When the right piece of wisdom reaches the right ears at precisely the right time, it can hit like a bolt of lightning. But for every earth-shaking revelation delivered on social media, you can spend hours scrolling through more mundane, but nevertheless urgent, guidance from self-assured individuals with varying levels of expertise. With so many voices on your screen, it would be reasonable to start feeling disoriented or anxious, unsure about your own decision-making skills. Short of deleting your apps, how are you supposed to wade through the morass, taking what's useful and discarding what isn't, as you make your way toward the better life that so many people already seem to be living? Seeking the wisdom of perfect strangers There are many ways of delivering advice, some more effective than others. It will shock nobody to learn that uninvited advice tends to go over very poorly. 'People are very resistant to taking unsolicited advice,' says Reeshad Dalal, a professor of psychology at George Mason University with a research background in decision-making and advice. Dalal then poses this question: Does a TikTok video qualify as unsolicited advice? Well, yes, in the sense that you didn't ask for that video to cross your feed. But then again, the algorithm did serve it to you based on your interests and viewing history — so could it be called semi-solicited advice? Van Swol categorizes advice videos as 'masspersonal.' They're interpersonal, but with mass reach; directed at the viewer, but not at you specifically. If part of the problem with unsolicited advice is that it feels judgmental, masspersonal advice smoothes away some of that unwelcome scrutiny and affords the viewer the buffer of anonymity. Offline, good advisers often employ the tactic of laying out a narrative around a problem before launching into their recommendation — a framework reflected on TikTok, where creators tend to blend advice with a personal story. Add in the parasocial element of social media, wherein influencers start to feel like your friends, and you have a recipe for advice that's surprisingly palatable, even though you didn't actively ask for it. According to social media creators, there's something else at play, too: a very real sense of loneliness and a hunger for answers. Chelsea Anderson, the self-styled 'Michael Jordan of babysitting' who shares hacks for child care and adult life on TikTok and Instagram, says that she has always consulted her female friends — 'a group of mirrors' — when she needs to make a big life decision. She feels that TikTok now serves as a space for people to do that external processing, not because it's better than in-person bonds but because they don't necessarily have anywhere else to turn. 'Community is disappearing, and I think that's why this content hits,' says Anderson. 'That room full of mirrors is harder and harder to access in real life.' In a world of unknowns, simple and concrete statements are a comfort — and the urge to seek out other people's advice is painfully, sweetly human. Americans are so lonely that the US Surgeon General's office released an advisory in 2023 stating that social isolation has an impact on mortality comparable to smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day. Although the hacks Anderson features in her videos are often lighthearted and imaginative, she has received messages from followers that seem like a true cry for help. 'Some of the questions people ask me make me really sad, because they're not questions you should be asking someone on the internet. They are questions you should be asking your best friend or your mom,' Anderson says, adding that she appreciates that people feel comfortable coming to her. Lentz has noticed a similar undercurrent of distress in the questions she receives about nailing job interviews and landing raises. 'I think people feel like they're getting left behind, for a number of reasons, and they desperately do not want to become irrelevant,' she says. Some of this fear is rooted in social comparison, but much of it is tied to daily concerns about funding retirement accounts and covering child care costs. 'If I were to get this promotion, I could afford more day care. So there's so much pressure on this interview,' Lentz says. 'There's so much weight to people's fears, and I think it's all justified based on our economy.' Doris Chang, an associate professor at NYU's Silver School of Social Work and a licensed clinical psychologist, understands the appeal of short-form advice videos on TikTok. 'There is a human attraction towards things that are really simplified,' she says. 'I can see people going, 'I feel like crap. This video is telling me something to do, and it's only two minutes long.'' She also notes that these videos aren't a substitute for therapy; professional counseling, however, can be expensive and difficult to access. Related The secret to actually trusting each other In a world of unknowns, simple and concrete statements are a comfort — and the urge to seek out other people's advice is painfully, sweetly human. Who among us, grappling with a major conundrum, hasn't reached out to a trusted friend, family member, or counselor, hoping they'll shake a new solution loose or summon some wisdom we can't access yet? In these conversations, we lay ourselves bare, with our fears and insecurities on full display, and ask for help making sense of our mess. When we're meant to travel this life together, there's a deep loneliness in problems you don't feel that you can ask anyone about. So we do the next best thing — we go online. This is your brain on TikTok advice Self-improvement via TikTok is complicated by the fact that time spent on the apps can be a drain on mental health. Passive use of social media — scrolling — has been shown to be associated with anxiety and depression in adolescents, says Jacqueline Sperling, an assistant professor of psychology at Harvard Medical School and co-program director of the McLean Anxiety Mastery Program at McLean Hospital. (Active participation through posting and commenting, however, can have a positive impact on people, helping them find community and foster connections with others.) It's not just young people who are affected by social media: Research has shown that older adults who use social media are more likely to report symptoms of depression. Any wisdom gleaned from short-form life advice videos sits on a balance with these potential downsides. For people with anxiety in particular, looking at a lot of advice content on social media might end up exacerbating their worries. 'It can actually have this harmful function of feeding the desire for reassurance,' says Chang. 'There's an unlimited amount of information that can confirm or disconfirm your biggest fears and worries. For someone who's seeking certainty in the world, because that's what anxiety is really about, then being on social media a whole bunch is not going to be helpful.' In the field of decision psychology, too, Dalal sees a vicious cycle with anxiety and advice-seeking behavior. 'The finding is pretty robust: When people are anxious about a decision, they will seek out more advice. ... The reverse can be true as well,' says Dalal. 'Anxiety leads to seeking out advice, but knowing that there's all this advice out there might, paradoxically, increase anxiety as well.' Even among people who aren't particularly anxious, though, information overload can result in a feeling of overwhelm. 'There's a classical idea called 'the paradox of choice,'' says Dalal. 'If you go into a grocery store, and I show you 30 varieties of jam and say you can have one for free, that might stress you out. But if I give you three varieties of jam, you would walk away happy that you made the right choice.' Advice, he says, will operate in the same way. There is another way in which advice videos might affect viewers, and that is as a performance of confidence. In this corner of TikTok, creators are often the picture of self-assurance, speaking clearly and succinctly as they share their guidance, their eyes never straying from the camera. To a certain extent, advice videos are simply a vessel for the reality distortion that takes place across social media more broadly: People often present the most put-together versions of themselves online, leading viewers to feel badly about themselves in comparison. 'The contrast is really stark,' says Chang. 'You're like, my apartment doesn't look like that, and I'm not that confident, and I don't have the answers.' The most successful TikTok advisers may well be those who are most able to express self-confidence. 'A huge problem in advice research is that people are very persuaded by confidence,' says van Swol. It doesn't matter whether the advice is great or subpar: 'You have a lot of very confident people out there giving advice, and people cannot tell the difference.' (Meanwhile, people with a weak sense of self are especially prone to taking advice.) 'A huge problem in advice research is that people are very persuaded by confidence.' Some of those confident people are, no doubt, offering solid guidance and attempting to do so in good faith. Lentz is well aware of the power that she holds as someone giving advice online. 'I have high self-esteem, so if the person on the other end of the phone has a lower sense of self, sense of identity, they are susceptible,' she says. 'I do think there's responsibility with what you put out.' Still, when you're watching not one or two but dozens of advice videos, it's hard not to suspect that everyone has things figured out except for you — when, in fact, you're not as underqualified to navigate life as you might think. Nor is there a secret shortcut that nobody told you about. 'There is this desire for a magic formula,' says Chang, 'and if people are offering it with a lot of confidence, it does silence your own intuition about what might be best for you.' So, how do you navigate a world too full of advice? Across the board, experts say that the best way to move through the sea of life advice on social media is to spend some time interrogating a creator's credentials, background, and expertise before taking their suggestions. Sperling recommends using intriguing videos as a jumping-off point for consulting trusted sources and experts off of those platforms: 'The key thing is to not act immediately and to take that as an opportunity to learn more.' Interestingly, content creators say essentially the same thing. 'I think oftentimes, especially when it comes to people who post content, we assume they know something that we don't,' says Donavan Barrett, a 28-year-old tae kwon do teacher-turned-personal branding coach. 'Sometimes they do, but oftentimes they're just a regular person who decided to pick up their phone and record their opinion.' Barrett studied psychology in college and says he has always been the 'therapy friend' to those in his life. He now makes videos about mindset and motivation on TikTok, which reflect the type of work he does with private clients. In his videos, which often deal with overcoming self-doubt, he tries to show up as the person whose guidance he could have used as a young person. 'I come from a background where I wasn't given the education, the resources, or the know-how to trust myself,' he explains. Barrett knows how a green screen and a mini microphone can convey a sense of authority — he's made those kinds of videos, too. As a result, he recommends vetting creators before taking their advice and watching out for those who are overly prescriptive in their messaging, particularly when they've made it their business to issue guidance. 'The coaching industry, the advice industry, is huge and seems to only be growing,' he says. 'There are a lot of people who are going to project their experiences or shove you into their box.' Chang expresses a similar idea: 'Therapy is all about excavating and reflecting on your unique situation, strengths, resources, and contexts.' If advice videos don't accommodate an individual's specificity and instead offer one-size-fits-all solutions, she says, 'I think it's kind of a scam.' People are generally alike, 'ashamed of their needs and afraid to voice them, afraid to honor themselves, afraid to show their vulnerable hearts.' When figuring out which sources of advice to trust, Dalal recommends looking at trustworthiness, which encompasses both expertise and good intentions — the latter of which can be difficult to judge. As part of that due diligence, it's worth considering someone's financial incentives, which may or may not be 100 percent aligned with your best interests. Indeed, life advice videos can be a strong marketing tool for creators, who make much of their money via brand deals and affiliate marketing, or an on-ramp to related business pursuits. 'My entire business is from social media,' says Barrett; his clients find him through TikTok and similar platforms. Anderson is currently writing a book of child care and life hacks — she recently left her job at an advertising agency to become a full-time content creator — while Lentz looks at her online presence as a way of building trust and rapport with her audience. She's focused on her corporate career for the time being, but long-term, she would like to run for government office. Despite the thorniness of navigating advice on the internet — of opening your arms wide to that digital fire hose — there is a certain beauty in the guidance of strangers. 'A stranger and a friend can give the same advice, but when a friend gives it, it's easy to imagine that they have prejudices or limitations or resentments that will prevent them from being objective,' Heather Havrilesky, who has penned the advice column 'Ask Polly' since 2012, writes to Vox in an email. 'It's easy with a friend to think, 'You're just saying that because you don't understand what it's like to be an artist and you never liked my husband and you think having kids is the most important thing anyone can do.' A stranger has the advantage of dropping down like a god and delivering a verdict without revealing their own prejudices and limitations.' Havrilesky isn't familiar with TikTok advice, but writing 'Ask Polly' for over a decade seems to have resulted in an approach to counseling strangers that is more complex — messier, perhaps — than what appears in some of those bite-sized videos. She used to feel that other people were usually the problem in her readers' lives: 'The early days were all about encouraging people to stand up for themselves and to refuse to settle for people, places, and things that they tolerated out of guilt, perceived obligation, or compulsive people-pleasing.' Now, she understands that people are generally alike, 'ashamed of their needs and afraid to voice them, afraid to honor themselves, afraid to show their vulnerable hearts.' Here, as in real life, there are no quick tips, no shortcuts, no magic solutions. Haley Nahman, who writes an advice column for her popular Maybe Baby newsletter, says she is rarely looking to provide answers, but rather to help readers reframe their questions. 'I find that you can wrestle with the wrong question for years,' she says, 'and when you reframe it, it's actually much simpler to answer.'
Wales Online
13-05-2025
- Automotive
- Wales Online
Slapping tourist with 20mph speeding ticket branded 'lunacy' by some but welcome by others
Our community members are treated to special offers, promotions and adverts from us and our partners. You can check out at any time. More info North Wales Live readers have been having their say after a tourist was caught speeding on a Welsh road that could soon see its speed limit increased. Martin Toms, 74, from Melton Mowbray in Leicestershire, was visiting North Wales when he was snapped doing 31mph in a 20mph zone on the A548 at Greenfield. It was the first ticket for Mr Toms, who has been driving since 17. Mr Toms thought he was in a 30mph area due to the lack of built-up surroundings and was shocked to receive a fine a week later. He reluctantly forked out £95 for a three-hour speed awareness course. Adding insult to injury, the road is tipped to revert to a 30mph limit soon after a Welsh Government review. Totemlad1 simply says: "Welcome to Wales, we are all fed up by this lunacy." ThePickledLiver writes: "So he didn't spot the big 20 sign with a day-glo yellow border, roughly the size of a washing machine then?" Geedeebee adds: "Stop whinging, I've been driving nearly as long and I manage to determine the speed limits of roads I'm unfamiliar with." Bungle110 says: "He defeats his own argument. If he thought it was a 30 why was he caught at 31?" Haroc comments: "Like most tourists…the rules don't apply to them! The camera read his speed at 31 mph but car speedometer readings are usually higher than your actual speed by about 5 miles, so his may have read 36 mph which certainly isn't in either speed parameters of 20 or 30 mph." RSDENNIS adds: "No brainer, everyone is well aware of the default speed limit in Wales, which has been in force for a while. Get yourself to the SPEED AWARENESS course and you will actually learn something. It's better than points on your licence,as you confirmed doing 11 over the speed limit." RealityCheck remarks: "I don't think it matters in the eyes of the law if the speed limit is changing soon. The fact is very obvious - it was 20 mph when he was speeding - simple as that." Ofcourseitis disagrees: "That's not the issue, it's the motivation behind the enforcement, this man has paid £95 for a speed awareness course for a stretch of road that within weeks he would not be speeding and would not require the course, it's nothing to do with safety, he has a case against the unfair action taken against him, which cannot be justified as any other than profiteering." Iannwales believes: "Driving without due care & attention, driver needs further training." Kinaston says: "He was even over the 30 limit. What's the issue? Is it because he was speeding and was caught? I, too, have attended a speed awareness course. I think I was 3 or 4 mph over. I seem to remember that we were informed that a course was unavailable if you are excessively over. 11mph over is that excessive?" Do you have any sympathy for the speeding tourist or not? Join in the conversation HERE or in the comments below.
