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Telegraph
2 days ago
- Entertainment
- Telegraph
The Midults: We're going on holiday with another couple – and I fancy the wife
Dear A&E, My wonderful wife and I are going on a summer holiday, as we have for the last eight years, with some very good friends who live in our village. This year it's Greece. The children are at university and doing their own thing, so it's just the four of us – all very happily married – which would be very relaxing had I not, over the last six months or so, developed very intense feelings for the woman – who is not my wife. It started with me just noticing her sparkle, and now I can't stop thinking about her, and she is flirting back, so it's exciting. I am both thrilled and terrified about this holiday. It's too late to cancel – everyone will think I'm mad. - In A Sweat Dear In A Sweat, We are in a sweat just reading your letter. There's presumably a brilliant, therapeutic response to your situation. Warning: this is not going to be a therapeutic response, although we highly recommend that you seek some therapy to – perhaps – examine why and how these feelings came to be and to put some damage limitation in place. But we are not therapists, and so we are going to start by saying this: get a grip, man. Nothing good can come of this. Yes, you've got an empty nest and yes, you are in a certain midlife danger zone (whether or not one subscribes to the existence of that zone, you are in it) and, yes, familiarity can breed the very opposite of contempt but have a very strict word with yourself and proceed with extreme caution. Crushes happen. They are completely normal and strike at the most unexpected and inconvenient times. They can be directed at a complete stranger or at someone we have known all our lives. They do not make sense, just as we do not make sense. As for the 'rules' of attraction? Well, we know by now that there are no rules. We exist at the mercy of our hormones and our own good sense. Or lack thereof. If we avoided every single person whom we were remotely attracted to, then we would be totally isolated. Part of platonic friendship is the fizz and the fun of the harmless flirt – 'harmless' being the operative word. But we must be careful that crushes do not blossom into inappropriate obsessions. They will usually (not always) be only as dramatic as we allow them you be. And so, your talk of 'thrill' and 'terror' could do with some de-oxygenation. We say 'usually' because there is, of course, the odd, rare, apocryphal take about affairs that no one ever finds out about or even lifelong love stories forged in the fire of each other's marriages to other people. But they are hen's teeth. And we are too old for 'forbidden fruit' titillation, are we not, In A Sweat? Don't you agree? Is this woman really flirting back? Or is she being playful because you are, at this point, like a brother to her? Stop it and show some respect for your marriage, her marriage and yourself. Nothing good will come of this or, at least, the chances of great love triumphing over destruction are infinitesimally slender. It will be grubby rather than epic. Sad, rather than glorious. These things happen but for goodness' sake, be honest with yourself and keep your eyes open. Don't enable your own crisis. And remember that often one's fantasies do not – when it comes down to it – match one's desires. Just because you might get all hot and heavy in your own head about, say, being tied up by a stranger, doesn't mean you wouldn't call the police if someone attempted it. It is never too late to cancel. If you genuinely think that this holiday could imperil your marriage or your sanity, then you know what to do. That said, saying, ' I can't go to Greece because I am dangerously attracted to Cynthia,' is clearly unwise. Focus on your wonderful wife. Reignite the sparkle in her. Remember that she is a precious thing that needs nurturing. As are you. As is your marriage. 'Do you know what? Let's go away just the two of us, instead. The children have gone. We have the money. Let's drink too many martinis, swim naked under the moon and have some shouty sex.' Or your version of the aforesaid. She may be astonished. Woo her. They may be outraged. Pay them back the deposit (in instalments, if need be) and sail off into the summer with the woman who loves and trusts you. How absolutely sexy is that?
The Sun
4 days ago
- Health
- The Sun
I think about my girlfriend's niece during sex – she turns me on so much more and my self-control won't last much longer
DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner's niece really turns me on. I'm trying to keep away from her, but I can't resist. She's been staying with us and we have kissed. I keep fantasising about sex with her, but fear my partner will find out. What can I do to stop the inevitable happening? My self-control won't last much longer. My partner and I are in our early forties and we have been together for five years. Her niece is 21. She's studying locally and, as rental prices are ridiculous, my partner invited her to live with us in term time. When she arrived, I noticed how attractive she is — slim, with long legs and long, dark hair. I assumed she wouldn't want much to do with me, as she'd be out partying with her student friends. But she seemed keen to be around me, often staying up late to talk when my partner went to bed. Sometimes, I even thought she was flirting, but I told myself it was wishful thinking. Then, one evening, we shared a bottle of wine. She got tipsy and told me she'd always wanted to be with an older man. She moved very close to me on the sofa, then leaned over to kiss me. I have never been so aroused in my life. But, knowing it was wrong, I made my excuses and went up to bed before things could go further. The next day, she kept brushing past me in the kitchen. I thought that I would explode with desire. Since then, I haven't been able to stop thinking about it. During sex with my partner, I imagine I'm with her niece instead. My partner is going away for work soon. I know what's going to happen while she's away. I feel guilty, but I also don't want to turn down what promises to be the best sex of my life. DEIDRE SAYS: It sounds like you want permission to have sex with your partner's niece. I'm afraid I can't give you that. Neither can I give you self-control, you need to find that within yourself. Find something to do that will keep you occupied while your partner is away. Better still, go and visit a friend. As the older, more mature party, you need to talk to your partner's niece and tell her that this can't go any further. Remind her that it's not just a bit of fun. You're risking her relationship with her aunt, and yours with your partner. It's hardly a kind way to pay back her aunt's generosity in allowing her to stay. Perhaps you should also ask her to find somewhere else to live as soon as possible. THANK YOU FOR HELPING ME WITH ALCOHOLIC HUBBY DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I reached the end of my tether with my husband's alcohol problem, I wrote to you for help. He was in denial and I couldn't get him to take responsibility. Although I still loved him, I didn't see how I could remain married to a man who no longer had any interest in me, sexually or emotionally. My husband and I are both in our mid-fifties and have been married for 25 years. Since being made redundant during Covid, his life had revolved around alcohol. He drank every day, had stopped seeing friends and even talking to me. You acknowledged how unhealthy our relationship had become and said my husband sounded depressed. You advised that he needed to go to his GP, and recommended that we both saw a counsellor. You suggested I read your support packs, Dealing With Depression, How Counselling Can Help and Dealing With A Problem Drinker. I had a big talk with him and told him I would leave if he didn't get help. He finally agreed to see his doctor and is now drinking far less and being more affectionate. Thank you. DEIDRE SAYS: I'm glad things have improved. Overcoming alcohol addiction isn't easy, but it sounds like he is on the right path. WE SPLIT UP MONTHS AGO BUT HE WON'T MOVE OUT DEAR DEIDRE: ALMOST a year after we broke up, my ex and I are still living together. He won't move out or get back together, or even discuss the future. It's left me in limbo. We're in our mid-thirties and have a young son together. I always thought we'd get married one day. However, things grew tough after our son was born. We drifted apart, no longer had sex and bickered a lot over money. I resented doing all the housework and most of the childcare. Ten months ago, even though I love him, I told him that I thought we should split up because neither of us was happy, and he agreed. However, since then nothing has changed. He's sleeping in the spare room, but he hasn't moved out, and I still do all the washing, cooking and cleaning. I worry it's confusing for our son. I've asked him if he wants to get back together and try again, but he says he's not sure yet. It feels like he's taking advantage of having a nice home without having to make any effort with me. Should I wait for him to make up his mind, or should I find a way to get him to leave and move on with my life? DEIDRE SAYS: Your ex seems to be using the fact that you still have feelings for him and would be happy to get back together. He believes he can bide his time until he decides what he wants. But by not making a decision, I think he's given you an answer: Nothing has changed. If he really wanted you back, he'd make a big effort. It's time for you to be decisive. Perhaps you need to give him an ultimatum, for your son's sake, and stick to it. Couples counselling could be helpful, either to resolve things or to split. See my support pack, How Counselling Can Help, for more information. TEENAGE TROUBLES DEAR DEIDRE: IT was annoying when my bisexual friend kept holding my hand and telling me we'd make a cute couple but I didn't say anything as I didn't want to hurt her feelings. However, now another friend has told me she's been going round telling people I'm in love with her. I don't know what to do. We're 17-year-old girls and at sixth form college. I was supportive of my friend when she came out as bi but I'm straight and not interested. And I don't like having lies spread about me. Tell her it's making you feel uncomfortable and ask her to stop. Make it clear that you value her friendship but aren't interested in anything more. My support pack, Standing Up For Yourself, should help you have this conversation without making her too defensive. Porn ruined partner's sexual appetite DEAR DEIDRE: PORN has ruined my sex life with my partner – but he denies he has a problem. When we get intimate, it's over in two minutes because I know he has been secretly pleasuring himself. I love him, but I can't go on like this. We've been together for ten years, and he's had an issue with porn for the last couple. Before that, we had a great sex life. Now, he's rarely interested. He used to get turned on just by kissing me. Now, it takes more and more to get him aroused – he wants to try things that I don't enjoy or to make me dress up. It makes me feel unattractive and rejected. Once, I caught him watching porn in the spare room and told him I was worried. He said it wasn't an issue and he'd stop. But I know he lied. He often disappears for half an hour at a time, saying he has something important to do. How can I get him to stop and get our sex life back to the way it was? DEIDRE SAYS: Watching a lot of porn is now known to have an impact on both sexual appetite and function. And when someone's porn habit starts to interfere with their sex life and relationship – and they lie about it – it's a sign of an addiction. Your partner can get help to overcome this, but first he needs to admit he has a problem. Talk to him again and make it clear you can't continue in the relationship unless something changes. My support packs, Upset By Pornography? and Is Porn Ruining Your Life?, both have more advice and sources of help.
Daily Mail
5 days ago
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
Dave Grohl and Jordyn Blum make major public move amid fractured marriage after love child scandal
Dave Grohl and wife Jordyn Blum made a major public move this week amid their fractured marriage, nine months after he fathered a child outside of their marriage. The Foo Fighters frontman, 56, welcomed a baby girl with Jennifer Young, a 38-year-old LA-based, Florida-born rock-and-roll fan in August - leading him to post a public mea culpa admitting his affair the following month. However after it emerged the pair were working on their marriage, Grohl and Blum gave the biggest sign yet they were on the right track as they were seen enjoying a family dinner with their three daughters for her 49th birthday. This marked the first time the family had been seen together after his affair bombshell. Grohl and Blum looked happy and relaxed as they chatted after the event, with their daughters standing close by. Both were without their wedding rings. After he and Blum were spotted out together recently, a source told US Weekly in March the couple are giving their 22 year marriage another go. They said: 'Jordyn has forgiven Dave and is trying to move on. She is [still] completely devastated by the situation but is standing by his side. 'They are going to counseling, and Dave has been doing anything he can to win back Jordyn's trust. Neither of them wants the family broken.' contacted representatives for further comment. In February the mother of Dave's lovechild was finally revealed. Young was confirmed to be the mother of his child he fathered out of wedlock, Page Six reported. Jennifer also confirmed to the outlet that her baby was born on August 1, 2024, and she said Dave's last name is listed on the birth certificate. Jennifer did not want to reveal their daughter's name, telling the outlet 'because there's some really angry fans,' adding that 'protecting her identity is really important.' She lives with her mother in Los Angeles, and often takes their daughter for walks in their neighborhood. On September 10 2024, Dave took to his social media to announce in a statement that he had welcomed a daughter while vowing to try to 'regain [the] trust' of his wife and their daughters Jennifer Young, an LA based, Florida-born rock and roll fan, 38, has been confirmed to be the mother of his child he fathered out of wedlock, Page Six reported; Jennifer pictured Jennifer sports a number of tattoos - including ones featuring Paul McCartney lyrics and the rock band Metallica's band logo. She reportedly visited New York City over Valentine's weekend — the same weekend Dave was in the Big Apple for the Saturday Night Live 50 years anniversary special — however, Page Six reported that it is unknown if they met up. It is also unclear how they first met. Page Six noted that she does not have a public social media account and her current occupation is also unknown. However, she has dabbled in writing in the past and helped co-create the Cannibal comic book series where she is credited as one of the writers, per League Of Comic Geeks. Young also attended UCLA and received her Master's degree in the university's Producers Program. Back in 2021, she opened up about her passion for 'storytelling' during an interview with Voyage LA. 'I wrote a comic book that was published with Image Comics and turned it into a pilot that is currently in development,' she said at the time, while also discussing her love for the horror genre. Jennifer eventually went on to work on Eli Roth's History Of Horror series (2018-2021) for AMC as an assistant to the showrunner and was later promoted to an associate producer. 'I've never had more fun working on a project in my entire life and I was fortunate enough to work on another season of that show,' she shared. Jennifer also expressed to the outlet, 'I assist Directors and Producers in the development and production of film and television.' She also enjoys, 'making some short films and writing my own scripts that I would like to direct — hoping that all this shadowing will put me in the right position for the job.' She was pictured by Page Six taking her baby for a stroll, with the child wearing a cranial helmet with rock band stickers on it for artists including Led Zepplin, Metallica and Elvis Presley. A cranial helmet is used when a baby's skull shape has to be corrected. In October 2024, a People magazine insider noted that the whole situation has been 'rough' for Jordyn. 'Her mind is not on her marriage though,' they added. 'She doesn't trust Dave. She's not wearing her wedding ring.' Adding that Jordyn is 'focused on her own life and her girls.' A source told People magazine in November 2024 that the rocker is focused on working things out with her and their daughters, and that divorce is off the table. The source said: 'He's no longer working with a divorce attorney and instead hoping to work things out with his wife.' Another insider said that he 'loves his family,' noting that he has 'been prioritizing his family. He knows he messed up. It's one of those situations where you don't realize what you have done until you're about to lose it. He doesn't want to lose his family.' Multiple sources have claimed that Jordyn has known about the baby 'for a while,' and said she is a 'great mom and very dedicated to their daughters.' Jordyn and Dave shared daughters Violet, 18, Harper, 15, and Ophelia, 10. Dave and Jordyn were seen together in February for the first time since his shocking cheating and baby news. They were seen in the car together, after Jordyn picked him up from an LA area home. Neither appeared to be wearing wedding rings at the time.
Yahoo
5 days ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Coronation Street fans predict affair between characters before one leaves show
Coronation Street fans are predicting an affair will be taking place between two characters on the show soon, before one of the actors leaves the ITV soap in the summer. This speculation emerged after Wednesday's (May 28) episode, where Lou Michaelis (Farrel Hegarty) continued dealing with the fallout of Craig Tinker's (Colson Smith) death. Craig was attacked by Mick Michaelis (Joe Layton) and later died from his injuries in heartbreaking scenes. With Mick currently behind bars, Lou is being shunned by the community because of her husband's actions. After Maria Connor (Samia Longchambon) sacked Lou from her job at the salon, she exchanged words with Gary Windass (Mikey North) at the pub, asking what she's ever done wrong to him. Seeing Lou's card get declined, Gary bought them both a drink and sat with her. However, their conversation was cut short after Maria stumbled upon the duo and demanded that Gary return home. As reported by The Express, this short interaction between Lou and Gary caused some to believe an affair storyline was going to develop between them. Taking to social media, one person said: "Calling it now - IF Lou is staying around long enough, I wonder if she'll have an affair with Gary before she goes." Another wrote: "I think they may be pushing towards a Lou/Gary affair." A third posted: "Keep your undies on, Gary, don't be going down the Lou route." If this theory is to be proved true, it will have to be done quickly as Lou actress Farrel Hegarty is set to leave the soap at some point in the summer. A Coronation Street spokesperson said: "This is not a shock exit or an early exit. Recommended reading: Emmerdale star breaks silence on return after 6 years and fans 'can't believe it' Two Coronation Street legends set to quit show next week with a third teased Coronation Street legend Ryan Thomas speaks out on return to ITV show "Mick and Lou were brought into the show to cause chaos on the cobbles in the build-up to a major storyline in the summer and they are already making their presence felt. "Joe and Farrell were contracted for a specific length of time, some characters come in for a long time and some like Mick and Lou are brought to pass through and leave a trail of destruction behind them. "Both actors are still filming with the show and will be on screen until the summer."
Free Malaysia Today
7 days ago
- Politics
- Free Malaysia Today
Teacher suspended over alleged affair
Education minister Fadhlina Sidek said her ministry took such matters seriously, whether or not they were shared on social media. PETALING JAYA : A secondary school teacher in a southern state has been suspended from teaching following allegations that she had an affair, education minister Fadhlina Sidek said today. She said her ministry is currently conducting an internal investigation, as the matter involved teacher integrity and conduct, Sinar Harian reported. However, Fadhlina said the teacher is still working pending the investigation. 'She has only been suspended from her teaching duties. We need her to help out in the investigation process,' she was quoted as saying. Fadhlina said her ministry took such matters seriously, whether or not they were shared on social media. 'We are responsible for ensuring that all our teachers comply with standards of integrity and teachers' ethics set by the ministry,' she said. Fadhlina reminded all teachers to watch their conduct both within and outside the school. The case has gone viral on social media, with people sharing video clips of the man's wife confronting the teacher. Also shared were screenshots of lewd conversations on WhatsApp, said to be between the cheating pair.
