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Independent Singapore
12 hours ago
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- Independent Singapore
Woman calls it quits after realising she couldn't live in her boyfriend's former matrimonial home
SINGAPORE: A woman recently shared online that she ended a budding relationship after realising she couldn't bring herself to live in her boyfriend's former matrimonial home. Posting on Reddit, the 35-year-old explained that both she and her 39–year-old boyfriend owned HDB flats. She had purchased a four-room unit in the Canberra area last year as a single owner, while her boyfriend was in the process of taking over full ownership of a four-room flat in the east, which he had previously lived in with his ex-wife. Since HDB regulations don't allow couples to each own a flat, the pair had to discuss what to do next. That's when things got tricky. According to her, she didn't want to give up her flat to move in with him. The idea of living in a space that had been part of a seven-year relationship didn't sit well with her. 'I was not keen by the idea that he's lived there with his ex for over 5 years, together for 7 years?' she wrote. 'I wanted to avoid the emotional baggage that comes with it.' Her boyfriend, however, wasn't willing to part with his flat either. He felt it had better resale potential and that its value would appreciate significantly over time, while hers would likely stay about the same. A friend, who knew about the situation, told her she was 'being unreasonable' and suggested that they could simply renovate the space. 'He [my friend] was convinced that we could have spent some money on a complete makeover of his flat, i.e., hack the walls, floors, replace the furnitures, repaint the house, etc., to make it look as good as brand new but mentally, it still irks me knowing that they've shared the same space,' she wrote. 'I know some people are willing parties to buy over the ex's share of the flat (good for you!!!), but it's just not for me,' she added. At the end of her post, she asked the Reddit community, 'Was wondering if it's normal to feel out of place, or am I over-reacting over something simple like this?' 'Memories within the four walls can be rewritten with the present.' In the comments, many Singaporean Redditors strongly supported the woman's decision to end the relationship. 'Your concerns are valid. Would be pretty complicated moving into his matrimonial home since all his memories with his ex-partner (and kids) were all created there,' one Redditor wrote. 'If he doesn't agree to moving elsewhere, you are better off with someone else.' Another shared her own experience, writing, 'I'm living with my BF in the home he lived in with his ex-wife and their children. My circumstances are a little different because it's his family's multi-gen legacy landed kinda type, but sometimes I still get a little sad and feel little bit like the outsider because some of her things are still here and there.' A third said, 'Nahh, you're not overreacting or at least not for me, the thought of living in the same house as his ex-wife used to would give me the biggest ick.' Still, not everyone saw things the same way. Several Redditors felt that the woman was indeed 'overreacting,' and said it was 'unfair' of her to expect the man to give up his flat simply because he had lived there with his family. 'As a female, I do think that it's ridiculous to expect that from another guy. It's not like you don't have your own past relationships and baggages,' one Redditor added. 'Yes, it is a home he shared with his ex-wife, but memories within the four walls can be rewritten with the present. Personally, I'll be able to accept a guy like that, but then again, I'm not the emotional type.' In other news, an employer took to social media to share that her domestic helper refuses to care for her toddler, even when the child is sick or in distress. Posting in the 'Direct Hire Transfer Singapore Maid / Domestic Helper' Facebook group, the employer explained that she had clearly laid out her expectations when hiring the helper around five months ago. Read more: Employer says her helper refuses to care for her 3 yo daughter, claims she left child in soiled diaper and standing in her own vomit Featured image by Depositphotos (for illustration purposes only)
CTV News
a day ago
- CTV News
UC Berkeley professor killed in Athens: Suspect claims he ‘did it all for' victim's ex-wife, leaked police confession reveals
Greek police lead the ex-wife of murdered UC Berkeley professor Przemyslaw Jeziorski to court in Athens on July 17, alongside her new boyfriend and three others alleged to be involved in the Polish educator's shooting on July 4. CNN has added blur to this image. (CNN Greece via CNN Newsource) On the morning of July 4, an American marketing professor was walking towards his ex-wife's house in Athens to pick up their two young children. It should have been an unremarkable, if strained visit – the couple had apparently been disputing the terms of custody arrangements. But Przemyslaw Jeziorski never made it to the front door. In broad daylight, in this typically quiet, suburban neighbourhood of Greece's capital, he was shot multiple times at close range, according to police. Jeziorski died where he fell, police said, his body riddled with gunshot wounds seen in grim photographs taken in the immediate aftermath. As eyewitnesses rushed to his aid, the masked gunman fled. The alleged perpetrator, arrested 12 days later: His ex-wife's new partner. The motive, he told police: to prevent Jeziorski from taking away her children. 'I did it all for (her) and our children so that we could have a normal life without problems,' he said, according to a transcript of a statement he made to police in the aftermath of his arrest for premeditated murder as well as illegal possession and use of a weapon. One of the most remarkable aspects of the case is that the statements made to police by the alleged perpetrators have been widely leaked to Greek media, including a CNN affiliate, CNN Greece. The statements, verified as authentic by a senior police source speaking to CNN, offer an insight into how the alleged murder plot was put together, why it was undertaken, and provide clues as to who may have known what, and when. But there are key questions unresolved, too – not least the role, if any, of Jeziorski's ex-wife. According to Greek police, she is facing moral accomplice charges, which she denies, according to her lawyer, who spoke to CNN. Like all the suspects in this case, her identity is known to CNN but cannot be published due to Greek legal restrictions. The alleged perpetrator's confession, and other conflicting accounts from three alleged accomplices that were also leaked to the press, sets up what is likely to be a lengthy and high-profile trial. Meanwhile, the killing and the aftermath have shocked the friends and family of the victim, who say Jeziorski was a kind and introverted academic who loved his children. Jeziorski, 43, who went by the nickname Przemek or 'PJ,' was an economist and tenured professor of marketing at the University of California Berkeley's Haas School of Business. He was born in Poland and moved to the United States in 2004 to study economics and math at the University of Arizona, and he went on to obtain his PhD from Stanford. 'He was one of the sharpest people I've ever met,' said Robert Kowalski, the victim's friend from Stanford. 'He was a great guy, a genius in many regards.' UC Berkeley said in a statement that Jeziorski 'had a passion for teaching' and during his 13 years at the California university, he taught data analytics skills to more than 1,500 graduate and PhD students. His research work centered on emerging markets, which took him around the world for field research, and Berkeley described him as 'a leading expert in quantitative marketing, industrial organization, and the economics of digital markets.' The dean of UC Berkeley's business school, Jenny Chatman, said she was 'heartbroken' by the death of Jeziorski, who she described as a 'beloved member of our marketing faculty.' Custody battle Jeziorski met his ex-wife – a Greek national – in San Francisco in 2013, and they got married the following year, according to Kowalski. The couple's twins were born shortly after. In 2015, the couple co-founded a start-up called Keybee, a short-term rental property management platform. It's unclear what led to their relationship falling apart, but Kowalski told CNN the couple broke up around 2020 after moving to Greece during the Covid pandemic. Their children are dual US and Polish citizens, according to a statement from the victim's brother. The children had applied for Greek citizenship and were awaiting a decision on that, according to the ex-wife's lawyer. Jeziorski filed for divorce in June 2021, according to California court records. It appears to be one element in a years-long custody battle for the children, who ultimately lived with their mother in Greece, with a provision that their father, Jeziorski, could take the children for one month every summer. According to Kowalski, Jeziorski asked during the custody battle that his children attend an American school in Greece, so that they could be able to attend high school or college in the US one day. But his ex-wife was afraid of losing the kids much sooner, according to the statement to police from the principal suspect, her boyfriend. 'We were afraid that he (Jeziorski) would end up taking the kids completely. That would completely finish off (my girlfriend), who was overly fond of them. This summer Przemek wanted to take the children and take them to America. But (my girlfriend) did not agree and so she went back to court with Przemek,' the suspect said, according to the testimony transcript. On July 3, a custody judgement ruled that Jeziorski was indeed allowed to take the children for a month. Conflicting confessions 'A month and a half ago I made the decision to end this torment we were experiencing once and for all,' the suspect told police, adding that it was a 'good opportunity' given that Jeziorski was in Athens to attend the custody hearing. The statement details how the suspect says he bought a pistol more than a month ago and asked a friend, who is from Bulgaria, to help him 'find Przemek and scare him so that he wouldn't take our children away from us.' He said it all began in Nafplio, a coastal city about two hours from Athens, 'so that it would appear that I was there' and his cell phone would 'leave traces.' The suspect said that that he, his friend and two others – a man and a teenager from Albania – he paid drove to Athens and waited on the same street as the ex-wife's house, where the suspect said he knew Jeziorski was coming that afternoon to pick up the kids. 'I approached him and shot him a few times, but I don't remember how many times,' he said. According to the statement, the men had rented a gray Porsche Cayenne as a getaway car, but the murder suspect told police that his accomplices left him at the scene after they saw him shoot the victim. Police said Jeziorski died at the scene, where seven bullet casings were found after a masked gunman shot him in the neck and chest. The three unnamed men who allegedly helped, two Albanian nationals and a Bulgarian national, are facing accomplice charges, police announced Thursday. The suspected accomplices – one of whom is a minor – have confessed to their peripheral involvement in the killing, a Greek police source told CNN on Thursday. CNN has been unable to reach attorneys for those men. 'My client has confessed his actions but as you can see from the simplicity of some of the things that took place this was not an organized plan. His accomplices only knew about a plan to scare him (the victim) so he would stay away from the children,' the main suspect's lawyer, Ermis Papoutsis, told CNN. '(The ex-wife), his partner, knew nothing about any of this.' 'My client had come to me in the past to seek advice. He had said his partner's ex-husband had serious alcoholism issues and that he and the mother were worried about allowing access to the kids. He wanted to see if there was something he could legally do about limiting access,' the lawyer added. 'Now he is completely devastated after what happened. We will ask for a psychiatric examination because he has had some issues in the past.' Jeziorski's friends have denied the allegations that he abused alcohol. On Friday, CNN Greece obtained the police testimony of the alleged accomplice from Bulgaria, which contradicts the account of the alleged gunman. In this account, the alleged accomplice claims the victim's ex-wife had 'organized the whole thing.' He described his friend, the perpetrator, obtaining a gun and then asking 'me to find some people to take him to Athens the next day to scare and threaten the Pole so that he would 'back down' on custody of the children.' 'In fact, from what he told me, (the ex-wife) made him do it because she didn't want to give the children to the Pole,' the accomplice said in the testimony,' adding that the perpetrator offered him thousands of euros after he 'did something we hadn't agreed on.' As for the ex-wife – beyond the statement of her lawyer, denying all knowledge, there is no further information about her testimony. 'We continue to maintain her innocence. Based on the case file and what we will present both in our written submission and during the oral proceedings in the main inquiry, we will highlight the key points that prove she had absolutely no involvement,' the ex-wife's lawyer, Alexandros Pasiatas, said outside the court Monday. 'She is innocent, she declares her innocence, just as she did at the start.' For reasons that are unclear, nothing from her statements to police have made their way to the Greek media. These inconsistencies – and other unanswered questions – will all be dealt with at the trial. 'Our family is heartbroken' Meanwhile, the victim's family are dealing with the aftermath of an unimaginable tragedy. The victim's brother said in a statement that 'our family is heartbroken,' but grateful to Greek police and security professionals who made the arrests. 'Przemek's ten-year-old children, who are US and Polish citizens, are now under care in accordance with Greek child custody procedures,' the victim's brother Łukasz Jeziorski said in a statement. 'Our primary concern is their safety and wellbeing, and helping them reconnect with their family to minimize the trauma they have already endured.' Jeziorski's family started an online fundraiser to repatriate his remains to his native Poland and pay for legal representation in Greece. A US State Department spokesperson told CNN the agency is providing consular assistance to the family. On Monday, the five suspects were appearing in person in court for their plea, according to Michalis Dimitrakopoulos, the lawyer representing the victim's family. The court will determine whether the suspects will be remanded in custody pending the trial. A trial date will be set at a later stage, Dimitrakopoulos told CNN. 'The victim's mother and brother will take sole custody of the children,' Dimitrakopoulos told Greek media on Friday. The lawyer said that 'we've talked to the prosecutor for minors so that the victim's mom and brother can get full custody of the kids and live with them in Poland, where they are now.' 'They have the opportunity to raise them in a loving environment, in a completely protective environment,' Dimitrakopoulos said, adding that 'if the mother is acquitted, because we respect the presumption of innocence, then she has the right to request sole custody of her children.' CNN's Amy Croffey and Chris Dos Santos contributed to this report. By Lauren Kent and Elinda Labropoulou, CNN
Independent Singapore
2 days ago
- General
- Independent Singapore
‘Am I asking for too much?': Woman feels unloved as BF insists on going 50/50 for everything
SINGAPORE: A 30-year-old woman is feeling increasingly unfulfilled in her relationship after realising that her boyfriend of two months insists on splitting everything equally, right down to the last dollar. In a post shared on Reddit, she explained that even before they officially became a couple, her 25-year-old boyfriend, who currently works as a waiter and part-time tutor, had never once volunteered to pay for anything. 'He never offered to pay for anything—not even a dessert. Now that we're dating, we still split everything 50/50,' she said. 'He's never once said, 'I got this.' I'm the one who always asks, 'How much do I owe today?'' When she brought up how this made her feel, he responded that he preferred to split things equally. She then suggested they try taking turns instead, but he was hesitant and remarked, 'What if we argue one day and it becomes a problem?' 'That caught me off guard,' she said. 'To me, love isn't transactional. I'm generous with people I care about and don't keep score.' Although he eventually agreed to try alternating turns, the woman admitted she's now unsure whether they truly share the same values. 'Some people might think I'm expecting too much, especially since I earn more, but I'm not asking to be spoiled. I just want to feel that he wants to care for me. Right now, I don't feel that,' she continued. 'I once saw a reel that said, 'If your boyfriend had the chance to date his celebrity crush, would he still go 50/50 with her?' That stuck with me.' She also recalled that when their relationship became official, her boyfriend never once gave her flowers. On their one-month anniversary, all she received was a book about cats, which surprised her since she had never mentioned anything about liking them. 'I try not to compare, but seeing my friends' boyfriends give them thoughtful surprises makes me feel unimportant, both emotionally and materially,' she wrote. She then described other situations where she felt unloved. When she asked him to plan a date, he suggested going 'hiking,' despite knowing that she is not athletic and does not enjoy such activities. When she was sick, he brought over snacks and food, but some of the items had already expired. On another occasion, after attending a family gathering, he gave her leftover food to eat. 'I'm 30. I don't want to waste time. I know some things can be taught, but I also believe some things—like generosity, care, emotional initiative—can't be forced. He tells me he likes me all the time, but I don't feel loved in the way I need to be. Words don't mean much to me—actions do,' she said. 'I don't want to be a 'princess,' but as a woman, I want to feel cherished and provided for, even in small ways. I know he's a decent guy, but I can't ignore the fear that he'll want everything to be 50/50 forever—and I just can't live like that. Maybe he doesn't love me enough to invest emotionally or financially,' she added. At the end of her post, she asked the local community, 'I'd really appreciate both male and female perspectives: Am I asking for too much? Is this something I should wait and see, or should I walk away before I get in too deep?' 'It's clear that he's not that into you, and you know it too.' In the discussion thread, one Singaporean Redditor told her, 'You're young. Don't waste time hoping someone might change. You're putting YOUR growth and happiness on hold, sitting there waiting and hoping someone else will start doing better.' Another commented, 'I think you already know the answer because your post reads super clear. Trust yourself and don't look to others to validate your decision.' A third remarked, 'You can find better. Jiayou. It's clear that he's not that into you, and you know it too.' A fourth added, 'SG60 male / married here. Does not look promising. A marriage is about give and take, but you both have to be on the same page and on the same wavelength. There must be a meeting of the minds. I sense the absence here. Just my take.' In other news, an HR professional recently revealed on social media that she has been battling 'depression and mental distress' after her CEO falsely accused her of leaking company information during her notice period. On Saturday (Jul 19), she detailed her ordeal on the r/askSingapore Reddit forum, explaining that the stress has affected her so deeply that she now 'hears voices at night.' She added that every morning, she wakes up feeling overwhelmed by depression and finds it difficult to get out of bed. Read more: HR professional says she now suffers from 'depression and mental distress' after CEO falsely accused her of leaking company information Featured image by freepik (for illustration purposes only)
Daily Mail
3 days ago
- Lifestyle
- Daily Mail
DEAR JANE: My female bestie has become a third in my relationship. Her barefoot obsession drives my boyfriend crazy
Dear Jane, My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years and, a few months ago, we finally decided to take the next step: moving in together.
Yahoo
3 days ago
- General
- Yahoo
Boyfriend Is Mad About His Girlfriend's Outfit That She Wore in Front of a Male Neighbor During an Emergency
'I was getting ready to shower, so I was wearing a pair of boy shorts and a tank top,' recalled the girlfriend, whose shower knob broke offNEED TO KNOW A Reddit user described how her boyfriend is mad at how she responded to an emergency while she was home alone The 26-year-old woman's boyfriend took issue with the outfit she had on while trying to remedy the emergency While asking her neighbor for help at their apartment, the woman said she was wearing 'boy shorts and a tank top'A man is upset at his girlfriend for the outfit she had on when she asked her neighbor for help during an emergency while she was home alone. The 26-year-old girlfriend chronicled the emergency, how her male neighbor came to the rescue and how her boyfriend reacted unfavorably to the situation on Reddit's popular 'Am I the A------' forum. 'My shower knob broke off while I was going to turn it on, and as this happened, water began spraying out of the knob and into the tub, but I had zero idea how to turn it off,' she wrote of the emergency. 'My landlord wasn't answering, and I just so happened to catch my neighbor from across the hall as he was coming home, and in my panic I asked him for help,' she recalled. 'He very quickly was able to stop the water from flowing by sticking a pair of pliers in the broken knob and turning something. So the day was saved!' Her boyfriend, who has access to her front-door security camera, zoned in on the outfit she was wearing when she asked the neighbor for help. 'I was getting ready to shower, so I was wearing a pair of boy shorts and a tank top (nothing I'd even come close to wearing around others normally),' she said, adding that she was texting her boyfriend during the ordeal. 'He saw I was wearing essentially underwear while all of this happened,' she explained. 'My a-- was hanging out of my shorts because, well, they're underwear and had ridden up, which I almost immediately fixed.' Her boyfriend is 'extremely upset' that she didn't put on more clothes before she sought out help from the male neighbor. 'In the moment I literally didn't think about it … the entire situation was just a shit show as I was running around like a chicken with its head cut off,' she wrote. 'I tried explaining all of this, but he's still upset at me.' 'I just don't feel sorry … I'm not apologizing because I feel like I don't need to,' she continued, adding that her boyfriend texted her that 'if you don't see anything wrong with any of that (referring to asking my neighbor for help) then I don't know what to tell you.' Wondering if she's in the wrong, she asked Redditors, 'Am I the a------ for not getting properly dressed during an emergency?' Many people questioned why her boyfriend has access to the camera, as it makes him seem 'controlling' since he doesn't live with her. She addressed those Redditors' concerns, replying: 'He set up the ring camera for me, I had no idea what I was doing so that's why he has access to it, after reading everything on here I've since revoked it.' Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. In general, most people commented that the girlfriend had done nothing wrong in her approach to quickly resolve a timely emergency. 'In a healthy relationship, you might end up laughing about a butt cheek hanging out on camera,' one reader wrote. 'Him acting like you were choosing to flaunt your body to a neighbor ... is worrying to say the least.' Read the original article on People Solve the daily Crossword
