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The Sun
a day ago
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- The Sun
My boyfriend dumped me because his ex-wife won't let him see his daughter while I'm in his life – I'm devastated
DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend dumped me because his ex-wife won't let him see his daughter while I'm in his life. I feel so sad because things were going so well. We were in school together ten years ago and met at a school reunion. He remembered me so he came over for a chat. He's 29 and I'm 28. He said he was married but his wife had recently walked out on him. He admitted to feeling heartbroken because he has a little girl of five. I'd been single for 18 months and he was just my type. He gave me a lift home and I invited him in for a drink, but a drink turned into a kiss and then brilliant sex. We went on a second date two nights later and ended up back at my place again. He told me that he couldn't get me out of his mind and said, 'It freaked me out because I enjoyed the sex'. He said he thought he'd have to be drunk to want sex with anyone else. We then booked a holiday and he had to tell his ex he had met someone else. She went mad. She stopped all his regular contact with his daughter for six weeks. Dear Deidre After Dark- Understanding open relationships I've never met his child, I've only seen photographs so there was no threat from me but his wife wouldn't have it. His daughter has been asking him about me when he calls her on FaceTime, so it's obvious that his ex is pumping her for information. He called me yesterday sobbing down the phone, saying we had to call things off because she's threatening him with never seeing his daughter again. He wants us to be friends for now. Should I fight for this relationship? DEIDRE SAYS: His child is sadly being used as a pawn between her warring parents. He needs time to come to terms with his break-up and set some clear boundaries around access. Encourage him to find a couple's counsellor and family mediation. My support pack on Counselling explains more about how to put all of this in place. If you feel that your relationship has legs in the long-term, give him the space he needs. Things may feel very different for him in six months, if you're prepared to wait. Don't hang everything on this relationship, though. You may miss other opportunities that come your way in the meantime, so keep your options open. LONGING FOR GUY BACK IN MUMBAI DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend had to return to his home in Mumbai to look after his sick mother and since then, I've hardly heard from him. He's the eldest sibling of five so he has had to make arrangements for his mother's care and make some changes to their family home so that she can be comfortable. She's 64 and has cancer and they don't know how long she's got left to live. My boyfriend is 43 and I'm 41. I miss him so much and when I've called, I can never talk to him for long because he says he's so busy. He's told me he'll be home in a month but I'm going crazy without him. Should I end this relationship or hold on until he gets home and see how things are between us then? I feel he's checked out. DEIDRE SAYS: Sometimes life gets in the way of relationships. He's being a responsible son and this is a positive thing – he takes family life very seriously. He's gone back to do a job and put things in place. If he's worried about his mother's health, he'll be trying to make the most out of the time with her. He's reassured you that he's coming back so appreciate what he's doing for the greater good and focus on your friends and family while he's away. Ending the relationship now would leave you broken-hearted so be patient and see if you're both still committed to one another on his return. DUMPED PAL HAS TURNED TO BOOZING AND GAY SEX DEAR DEIDRE: I'M so worried about my friend at work because he's gone off the rails since his girlfriend left him for a better-looking guy. My friend is shorter than average and he's losing his hair, but he's the loveliest person ever. I'm male and 35. He's 36. We've worked together for five years and I've met his girlfriend a number of times. He always said he was 'punching above his weight' because she's really pretty. Now his chickens have come home to roost – she's left him for a taller, handsome guy whom she met in her gym. My friend has been constantly drinking every night and he told me today that he's even had sex with another guy. But he insists he's not gay. It all sounds so strange and I'm worried about him. DEIDRE SAYS: In a quiet moment you can tell him that you're concerned for his welfare. Don't become his therapist, though – just listen and if it's feeling too much, encourage him to get some professional counselling to help him. Explain that you're worried about his drinking too, especially because he may be jeopardising his job. He may be experimenting with sexual experiences to get some affirmation that he's still desirable. Boost his confidence by telling him how lovely he is and please pass on my pack Mend Your Broken Heart. WIFE A BORE IN THE BEDROOM DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife is never in the mood for sex, in fact you can count on one hand the number of times we've done it since we married a year ago. I thought things would improve but if anything, they're worse. She's 32 and I'm 34. Her upbringing was strict and we met at church. She lived at home until we got married and we rarely got the chance to have sex because her parents or younger brother were always around. We did manage it a couple of times when her parents went on holiday and when we went away for a weekend. I was longing to get married so that we could do as we pleased, but the rare times we've had sex it's been in the missionary position. She refused to try anything else. I've tried taking her out for dinner and she'll have a glass of wine or two which I'd hope would help her relax, but she still isn't interested. I know I've taken vows and I meant them, but it's nearly our anniversary and I'm so fed-up. I'm thinking of having an affair with a woman from work who likes me. DEIDRE SAYS: Please don't do that. You will complicate your life more if you cheat on her. The chances are, her strict upbringing has made her feel that sex is dirty or only for making babies. Find a quiet time to talk to her and tell her you love her and you want to enjoy a good sex life together because this is normal and natural. Ask her why she isn't keen. Is she worried about pregnancy or does she not enjoy it because you need to improve your technique perhaps? My support pack called Understanding Female Pleasure is full of information, which you can read together to help her see that sex is part of a normal loving relationship.
Daily Mail
2 days ago
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- Daily Mail
My boyfriend's sudden request for a wedding we are both attending has left me confused - is it a red flag? VICKY REYNAL replies
Dear Vicky, my boyfriend asked me to contribute to the present for his friend's wedding I am attending as a plus one. I'm really confused. Is this a red flag? A.R., via email
Yahoo
2 days ago
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- Yahoo
Woman Tells Boyfriend His Mom Can't Come to Her Birthday Dinner. His Response Ends Their Relationship
A Reddit user was stunned when her boyfriend asked if he could bring his mom to her birthday dinner hours before the big event The poster declined, resulting in a poor reaction from both her boyfriend and his mom After asking for advice from Reddit, she decided to end the relationshipShould I have to let my boyfriend's mom come to my birthday dinner? That was the question posed by a Reddit user in need of advice. The 20-something-year-old woman explained that she was planning to celebrate her birthday at a rooftop restaurant with her friends and her boyfriend, whom she'd been with for over two years at the time of the post. Two hours before the dinner, her boyfriend texted her, 'Hey, my mom's coming with me, cool?' The woman noted she didn't even know her boyfriend's mom was in town. While the poster didn't have any major issues with his mom, she explained that she 'calls him multiple times a day, shows up unannounced, and makes comments about how no woman will ever take care of him like she does.' The user texted her boyfriend back saying, 'I'd prefer if it was just us tonight, babe. This is something I planned with people I'm close to.' The boyfriend responded by saying, 'Wow, seriously? It's just dinner. She wanted to come support you.' Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. The user held firm and wouldn't let her boyfriend's mom come, resulting in him skipping the celebration altogether. Meanwhile, his mom posted passive-aggressive things online like 'Some people don't know how to appreciate others who genuinely care for them' and 'God don't like ugly.' Many Redditors sided with the poster, agreeing that she made the right call and should reevaluate the relationship she had with her boyfriend, noting that it feels like he's putting his mom above her. 'If he can't go to a birthday dinner without dragging his mom along like an emotional chaperone, he's not ready for an adult relationship. OP made the right call, she needs a partner, not someone who needs mommy's approval to function. Time to level up to a man, not a man-child,' wrote one user. Another added, 'Just run, this is never going to get better.' In an update, the poster added that after reading the advice of commenters, she "decided to break up with him." "I called him and let him know that things aren't going to work out," she wrote. "He cried, and I felt sad, but I had to let him go.' To which one person replied, 'Good update. He's already in a primary relationship and it isn't with you.' Read the original article on People
Yahoo
2 days ago
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- Yahoo
Woman Tells Boyfriend His Mom Can't Come to Her Birthday Dinner. His Response Ends Their Relationship
A Reddit user was stunned when her boyfriend asked if he could bring his mom to her birthday dinner hours before the big event The poster declined, resulting in a poor reaction from both her boyfriend and his mom After asking for advice from Reddit, she decided to end the relationshipShould I have to let my boyfriend's mom come to my birthday dinner? That was the question posed by a Reddit user in need of advice. The 20-something-year-old woman explained that she was planning to celebrate her birthday at a rooftop restaurant with her friends and her boyfriend, whom she'd been with for over two years at the time of the post. Two hours before the dinner, her boyfriend texted her, 'Hey, my mom's coming with me, cool?' The woman noted she didn't even know her boyfriend's mom was in town. While the poster didn't have any major issues with his mom, she explained that she 'calls him multiple times a day, shows up unannounced, and makes comments about how no woman will ever take care of him like she does.' The user texted her boyfriend back saying, 'I'd prefer if it was just us tonight, babe. This is something I planned with people I'm close to.' The boyfriend responded by saying, 'Wow, seriously? It's just dinner. She wanted to come support you.' Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. The user held firm and wouldn't let her boyfriend's mom come, resulting in him skipping the celebration altogether. Meanwhile, his mom posted passive-aggressive things online like 'Some people don't know how to appreciate others who genuinely care for them' and 'God don't like ugly.' Many Redditors sided with the poster, agreeing that she made the right call and should reevaluate the relationship she had with her boyfriend, noting that it feels like he's putting his mom above her. 'If he can't go to a birthday dinner without dragging his mom along like an emotional chaperone, he's not ready for an adult relationship. OP made the right call, she needs a partner, not someone who needs mommy's approval to function. Time to level up to a man, not a man-child,' wrote one user. Another added, 'Just run, this is never going to get better.' In an update, the poster added that after reading the advice of commenters, she "decided to break up with him." "I called him and let him know that things aren't going to work out," she wrote. "He cried, and I felt sad, but I had to let him go.' To which one person replied, 'Good update. He's already in a primary relationship and it isn't with you.' Read the original article on People
Washington Post
3 days ago
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- Washington Post
A stranger messaged me saying my new boyfriend is a liar
My boyfriend wants to move in with me, but not my cat February 8, 2025
