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The Sun
3 days ago
- Entertainment
- The Sun
I cheated on lovely boyfriend with handsome guy on holiday after drunken game of spin the bottle… should I be honest?
DEAR DEIDRE: A DRUNKEN game of spin the bottle got out of hand and now I'm eaten up with guilt for cheating on my lovely boyfriend. Worse still, all my family know what I got up to. I'm a 21-year-old woman and went on holiday to Cyprus with my cousin and her family. While we were there I met her best male friend, who was also on holiday. He is 24 and I fancied him when I'd met him before — and he was just as gorgeous as ever. Thoughts of my boyfriend quickly melted into the background. After a beach day, we all had a night out drinking cocktails, then headed back to our villa. Soon after the parents had gone to bed, we all started playing drinking games. As a dare I ended up sharing a kiss with him, but nothing more. The next day he came over for dinner. When he arrived, he winked and smiled at me, and I just smiled back, although my heart was racing. We had another fun night but this time we played spin the bottle and the forfeits became more sexual. When the bottle spun round to me and then him, he led me by the hand to my bedroom where we had the most amazing sex. Dear Deidre: Cheating and can you get over it The next morning I felt terrible. We left that day and when we landed back in the UK, I felt terrible. All I could think about was my boyfriend, who is 23. He trusts me even though he has been hurt in previous relationships. If I tell my boyfriend what happened I know I risk him ending our relationship. My cousin's best friend has definitely got feelings for me. I keep wondering whether it would work if we got into a relationship. DEIDRE SAYS: You may want to clear your conscience by confessing to everything, but you would hurt him enormously and possibly cause the break-up of your relationship. Be honest with yourself, would you realistically share more than great sex with your cousin's friend? He may just have been enjoying a fun holiday fling. You have to make up your mind. If you have doubts about your boyfriend then do the honest thing and explain that your heart isn't in the relationship any longer. Then leave a month or so for the dust to settle before even thinking about getting together with the new guy. My support pack, Torn Between Two Men, will help you to think this through. SO NERVOUS SINCE SON'S BIRTH DEAR DEIDRE: MY son's birth eight months ago has turned me into a nervous wreck. I love him dearly and I am so proud of him, but I worry all the time. I'm 27 and my partner's 25. We've been together for four years. Ever since my partner found out she was pregnant I started to worry. I became very protective of her and worried when she went out by herself in case something happened to her such as tripping over or someone accidentally bumping into her. My partner breezed through her pregnancy and had a relatively easy birth but ever since our son came along I can't help but think about the worst case scenario. The worst is if he cries for no reason. Thankfully my partner is coping much better than me and doesn't worry like I do. I'm a big bag of nerves most of the time. DEIDRE SAYS: Becoming a dad for the first time can produce a whole range of emotions but it is important to be kind to yourself. It is understandable that you are anxious but being a parent doesn't come easily to anyone. Remember that babies cry because it is the only way they can communicate. Once your son learns to talk, he can tell you why he is unhappy. Talking to other dads who have been through similar worries may help you. Visit the website My support pack Help For Stress has lots of advice. I CAN ONLY HAVE SEX ONCE DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER having sex, I can't get another erection for a good few hours. Is there something wrong? I am 28 and my wife is 25. We only married four months ago and we're in our honeymoon period, but I have to wait a long time to get aroused again. We have a very active sex life now but for cultural and religious reasons we didn't have sex before marriage. I love my wife dearly and want to please her sexually every time. Everything is fine the first time round, and even though I still feel turned on, my erection just doesn't show. It is embarrassing. I can't help wondering if my wife is becoming disappointed when I can't perform for a second time, even though she hasn't mentioned anything so far. This is not what I thought or imagined our sex life would be like once we were married. What is wrong with me? DEIDRE SAYS: Please don't worry about only being able to have sex once with your wife. There is always a space of time after a man climaxes before he's able to get another erection. It's called the refractory period, and it differs for everyone. You may even notice that your individual refractory period varies from session to session. If you are worried about how long it takes you to reach or recover from orgasm, talk to your doctor who will be able to reassure you. EMOTIONAL AFFAIR WILL DISTRESS WIFE DEAR DEIDRE: IF it wasn't for the fact that we have a big family holiday coming up soon, I would have told my wife I have met someone else. Instead, I have to wait until the end of the summer. I am 37 and my wife is 35. We have been married for nine years and have a four-year-old son. I don't feel the same about my wife any more. She suffers from depression, which hasn't helped our relationship. She can't help being unwell so there is no blame. She is receiving help through her doctor for her mental health. I have never cheated on my wife, but I have met another woman through work. It's an emotional affair as I'd never cheat while married, so all we do is talk. But I enjoy her company and see a future with her, and she says she feels the same way about me. I am going to give my son the holiday he deserves and then I will tell my wife our marriage is over. I know it will be distressing for her, but I can't go on living a lie. She deserves better than that. Is it wrong to want to be happy even though in the process I will upset the two people who mean the most to me? I don't feel I have a choice if I want a shot at happiness. DEIDRE SAYS: Depression is a mental health disorder that can have lasting effects on any relationship. Before you end your marriage, make sure it will be the right thing for both of you – and stick to your resolve. Your wife will understandably be devastated so you must tread carefully, ending it as kindly as you can with minimum damage to your son. Ask her to come for counselling with you because while it may not be possible to save your relationship it can reduce the pain. Contact Tavistock Relationships ( 020 7380 1975). My support pack Ending A Relationship will help too.
Yahoo
6 days ago
- Yahoo
Are Weddings Supposed to Be Stressful for Guests? One Fed-Up Guest Asks Reddit to Weigh In
"I actually think this is the most stressful event of my life," the original poster lamented. Weddings are meant to be a lot of different things: emotional, celebratory, and fun. What they're not supposed to be? Stressful, and that's especially true for guests. As ceremonies and receptions become more and more involved, spanning over multiple days, and requiring flights and special attire for wedding attendees, guests are feeling less excited about weddings and more stressed out. Case in point? One recent Reddit post, in which someone invited to a wedding posed the question "Are weddings supposed to be this stressful for the guests?" on the company's r/weddingplanning thread. The original poster noted that she and her husband were invited to a destination wedding for one of his cousins. Unfortunately, they couldn't afford the cost of attendance, which the OP noted was over $1,000 per person. To make things more complicated, it is set to be a child-free wedding, so even if they could find the funds to cover the cost of travel, they'd be forced to also pay for childcare at home or find a sitter in a foreign country. "Basically she is having a destination wedding and no one can go. Like, any member of her family," the OP explained. "Her own mom can't even go. I think her dad is trying to scrape it together to go but her mom is obviously very upset about the whole thing. I think thats what started [sic] the big issues in the first place." Related: How Much Does a Destination Wedding Really Cost? The guest went on to note that the entire experience has been extremely stressful for her. "When I tell you we've had no end of drama. Crying, fighting, begging. I actually think this is the most stressful event of my life and I've been through some s***," she wrote. "Every day she's asking of anyone has 'figured out' finances yet. She's upset because we've known about the wedding for so long (despite her only informing us a few months ago that it would even be a destination wedding). Everyone is half way between being angry at her and being upset that they're gonna miss it." This led her to ask Reddit if it's normal for weddings to be this stressful for guests. The internet's response? While it's certainly not "normal," it has become more and more common. "I think this happens way more than people realize with destination weddings," one user responded. Another added, "No, this is not normal. Unfortunately she has company though." One more Reddit user summed it up quite simply: "Not normal. Weddings are not supposed to be stressful on anyone." The editors at BRIDES agree that a wedding shouldn't be stressful for your family members and friends—they're there to celebrate your union, and part of your role as a bride or groom is to host your attendees. If guests can't make it due to costs, it's up to you to decide if a destination wedding is worth the tradeoff of not having loved ones there. Up Next: Guest Outraged After Being Charged for Water at Couple's Outdoor Wedding on a Humid, Sunny 95-Degree Day Read the original article on Brides Solve the daily Crossword
CTV News
22-07-2025
- General
- CTV News
Service dog saves a life during Louisiana house fire
Watch A Louisiana man is grieving the loss of his best friend, his service dog, who died saving the life of his cousin during a house fire.
Yahoo
17-07-2025
- General
- Yahoo
Woman's Dad Calls Her 'Selfish' for Refusing to House Her Cousin. But the Home Isn't Hers to Offer
NEED TO KNOW She thought picking her cousin up from the airport was no big deal until she heard where her cousin expected to stay Her dad's reaction left her stunned when she reminded him it wasn't her house to offer, as she lives with her mother Now, with her own plans conflicting with her cousin's arrival, tensions are only getting worseA woman turns to the Reddit community for advice following a complicated family situation involving her cousin's move to the UK. She shares her frustration after her dad assumed her cousin will be living with her and her mom, despite her mom having already made her stance clear. 'I live with my mum, and my relationship with my dad is separate,' she explains in her post, giving readers a glimpse into the dynamic. Her parents divorced 10 years ago after what she describes as 'a messy and traumatic relationship.' She mentions that her mother has since distanced herself from that side of the family. However, her mom remains polite and cordial with her ex-in-laws when necessary. The situation grows even more tense as the family continues to grieve the recent loss of her maternal grandmother. 'To make things even more emotionally difficult, my mum recently lost her own mum,' she shares, making it clear that her mother is already going through a tough time. When news of her cousin's move came up, her mom directly told her aunt that she would not be housing her niece. 'She said my dad should take responsibility for his niece,' the woman writes, adding that, as far as her mother was concerned, the matter was already settled. But despite this, her cousin, aunt and dad all seemed to assume her cousin would stay at her mother's house. This became clear when her cousin casually told her, 'I'd be picking her up from the airport.' Though she doesn't mind picking her cousin up, she clarified that she would be dropping her off at her dad's. To her surprise, her cousin looked confused and said, 'Nooo I'm coming to your house.' When she asked if her mother knew about this arrangement, her cousin insisted their mothers had spoken. However, when OP checked with her mom, she quickly found out that wasn't the case. 'My mum was like, 'I told them your dad should house her,' ' she recalls. This leaves her feeling caught in the middle of a situation that wasn't hers to begin with. Trying to straighten things out, she relayed everything to her dad. But her dad says that his living situation isn't ideal, as he lives with his girlfriend in a flat share. 'I said, 'She'll have to stay with you,' and he looked shocked,' she writes, clearly frustrated. He responded, 'Isn't she your cousin?' She didn't hesitate to clap back. 'Isn't she your niece?' she replied. She emphasizes in the post that it isn't her place to offer to house anyone, especially not at her mother's house. 'My mum has no obligation to house her ex-husband's relatives, especially not while grieving her own mother,' she explains. She points out that her mom was clear and respectful from the beginning, and yet, somehow, the issue has ended up back at their doorstep. OP admits she cares about her cousin and wants to support her, but she feels trapped. 'I feel caught in the middle of something that was never mine to handle,' she says, voicing her internal struggle. She wonders in the post if she's wrong for backing her mom or if she should be doing more. In a final twist, she shares that she won't even be able to pick up her cousin from the airport after all. 'She is landing while I'm away on holiday,' she reveals, explaining that she already told her dad he would have to handle it. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. But her dad doesn't take that news well, responding with attitude and frustration. 'He just gave me so much attitude, asking me why I didn't tell my cousin to choose a different flight and why I didn't let her know before she booked the flights that I'd be away,' she shares. Now, she's left questioning her role in the situation, wondering if she's in the wrong for standing her ground. Read the original article on People Solve the daily Crossword
Yahoo
17-07-2025
- Yahoo
I'm skipping my cousin's kid-free, out-of-town wedding. There's no rehearsal dinner, so I wouldn't even get to connect with her.
I wanted to attend my cousin's wedding, but was concerned about travel costs. When I found out kids weren't invited, I scrambled to find a babysitter. I changed my mind about going at all when I learned there was no rehearsal dinner. Outside a café, a stranger and I struck up a conversation. Somehow, it turned to weddings. I explained to her that my cousin was getting married in Chicago this summer, and I was considering going, but it'd be pricey to take my entire family. "You should go," she said, her eyes boring into mine. "I have learned over the years how important it is to take every opportunity to be with family." With that conviction, I began planning how to make the trip affordable by using credit card points and asking to stay with the bride's parents, my aunt and uncle, in the Chicago area. I decided we could make the trip work because, as the stranger said, you can't put a price on family time. Then I called my mom and learned that my aunt and uncle's house had already been claimed. A setback, but I'd see if I'd accrued enough points to cover the hotel. When the invitation came, it was addressed to only my husband and me. In "etiquette land," that meant my kids were not invited to the wedding. I respect the decision not to have children at a wedding — it saves money and there's something fun about an adult-only celebration. Still, it does make it difficult for us out-of-towners, who are left with a few less-than-desirable options: either taking the trip without children, hiring a stranger, or bringing a babysitter with us. In my situation, each option felt complicated. Leaving town without my children meant missing out on the summer memories I had been hoping to make in Chicago as a complete unit. Hiring a stranger in an unfamiliar city felt too unsettling, while bringing a babysitter along meant increasing the trip's already higher-than-anticipated costs. Then I learned there wouldn't be a rehearsal dinner. That was the last straw — I had to decline the invite. Rehearsal dinners are one of the most underrated parts of a wedding celebration I love rehearsal dinners. They feel like a chance to celebrate the bride and groom in a more relaxed environment because, let's face it, wedding days are such a blur. The bride and groom are often pulled in a hundred directions for photographs, formal dances, and toasts, among other things. As a guest, I've never managed to do more than offer them a quick hug or congratulations. The rehearsal dinner, however, is a break from the chaos — a chance to connect and have a meaningful conversation with the bridal party and family members. They don't need to be hosted at a Michelin-starred restaurant either. In my experience, they are just an excuse to have a mini family reunion. At my sister's dress rehearsal, I had a long conversation with my great-uncle, connecting over our mutual love of history. It was one of the last times I saw him before he passed away. Without a rehearsal dinner, we will spend less quality time with everyone who has traveled far and wide to be there, and I know I won't get to see the bride much anyway. I love my cousin, and I'm sad to miss out, but I know we will visit again at a later time when we can spend more quality time together, rather than a rushed "Hi, thanks for coming to our wedding." So, I sent the couple a nice gift and plan to gush over the wedding photos when they're posted. Who knows, maybe I'll still eat an honorary piece of cake that night and raise a toast to their union. Read the original article on Business Insider Solve the daily Crossword
