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Washington Post
35 minutes ago
- General
- Washington Post
My ex destroyed his relationship with our kids. Should I help fix it?
Dear Meghan: I have two teen sons, 16 and 14. Two years ago, their father moved out after deciding to pursue a relationship with another woman; the boys stayed with me by mutual agreement between all four of us. The kids were devastated by their dad's decision, and the months following his departure were awful. When they had planned time with their dad, he often changed plans, arrived late to see them, left early, spent the whole time on his phone and just generally made them feel like they were not a priority. My older son, then the younger one, eventually cut their dad out of their lives except for occasional text messages. Right now, both kids aren't interested in a relationship with their dad, and he doesn't seem very interested in a relationship with them, either. Although he professes to want a relationship, he has not done anything to try to repair things between them, instead insisting the boys need to 'grow up,' 'accept the way things are' and 'stop being so angry.' For now, things between them are at an impasse. I am struggling with my role. I am trying to balance their growing autonomy and their right (I believe) to set boundaries with their dad with the worry that eventually they will be sad they missed this time together. I have suggested to their dad that he make the overtures necessary to fix things between them, but he is not interested in my perspective. Fair enough. In my opinion, it would be best if their dad would apologize, make an effort to reconnect with the kids and work on showing them how much he loves them. I encourage the kids to keep an open mind toward their dad, and I require that they keep the lines of communication open. I think he has to be able to contact them, in case he does wake up one day and decide to try to repair things. I'm unsure of what my job is here. Am I more in a role of listening and supporting them through their complicated feelings or of actively encouraging/pushing them to reconnect with their dad despite his recent shortcomings? He was a really great dad to the boys while they were growing up, and I think his abrupt 'about face' in this regard is part of what has made the kids so hurt and angry. — What Next? What Next?: Thanks for writing in. I sighed deeply reading this; I hate to see the unnecessary pain parents cause their children when they disappear from their lives. The boys' father first hurt them by leaving (rightly or wrongly), but the continuous pain of not showing up is where the real damage lies. Many children can move forward — even through something hard like a parent leaving for another adult — if both parents are committed to staying connected to the children. But when one parent checks out, it re-wounds the children and places extra pressure on the connected parent. Your children's father has taken absolutely no responsibility for his choices, decisions or the pain caused. And worst of all? He is doubling down on his immaturity by blaming his sons for the rift! He has given his sons absolutely no reason to trust him, so my question to you is: Why would you push your sons to discard the evidence and not trust their intuition? Of course, it is awful that your ex was once a present and loving father, and we hope that he can see the light one day. That day is not today. By encouraging your sons to 'keep the lines of communication open,' you are essentially saying: 'Hey guys, don't trust your instincts, push aside your feelings and stay vulnerable to someone who has hurt you. Badly.' Oof. You are confused about what your 'role' is here, but it's pretty clear. Your sons are now old enough to know their own minds. What they think and feel and experience is valid; your role is never to talk them out of that. Here's the good news and the bad news: You don't need to do a lot to fulfill your role. You actually put it perfectly: 'I am trying to balance their growing autonomy and their right (I believe) to set boundaries with their dad … .' Boom, that's it. You are worried about them missing time with their dad, but the bad news is that it isn't your problem to solve. The worse news is that you will have to watch your sons be hurt and disappointed by their father, and there may not be anything you can do about it. But by subtly or overtly pressuring your sons to stay open to their father, you are encouraging them to mistrust themselves. That's not fair. Children (even teens) are not meant to 'be better' than their parents; it is always the parents responsibility to show up for their children. If their father wants to be in connection with them, he knows how to find them. When you ask if you should just be listening and supportive, the answer is yes. If your sons ask, 'Should we talk to Dad if he reaches out?' your only responsibility is to use curiosity and thoughtfulness. 'I don't know buddy, what would need to happen for you to want to talk to him?' By asking thoughtful questions, you promote reflection and responsiveness rather than anger and reactivity in your sons. Is this frustrating for you? You bet it is! There are no easy answers or solutions here, so follow your children's lead. Good luck.
News.com.au
2 hours ago
- Entertainment
- News.com.au
Huge sign Hugh Jackman's ex is finally over him
Deborra-Lee Furness is believed to be feeling ready to put herself back out there following her divorce from Hugh Jackman. Furness, 69, and Jackman, 56, stunned fans when they announced their split back in 2023 after 27 years of marriage. While Furness has remained single ever since their break-up, Jackman has entered a very public romance with fellow Broadway star Sutton Foster. An insider has now claimed that those closest to her are 'encouraging' her to be open to finding romance with a new man. 'Deb is finally starting to heal and talk about what she wants in her life going forward,' an insider told Woman's Day magazine. 'She's got an incredible support system that's been there every step of the way, helping her to pick up the pieces of her life. 'They are encouraging her to start dating again.' It's been a difficult few months for Furness, who shocked fans when she released a bombshell statement recently calling out Jackman. 'My heart and compassion goes out to everyone who has traversed the traumatic journey of betrayal,' Furness said. 'It's a profound wound that cuts deep, however I believe in a higher power and that God/the universe, whatever you relate to as your guidance, is always working FOR us.'' Furness went on to say that she had 'gained much knowledge and wisdom' through 'the breakdown of an almost three-decade marriage'. 'It can hurt, but in the long run, returning to yourself and living within your own integrity, values and boundaries is liberation and freedom,' she said. Furness finished the statement by offering the 'one thing' she had learned in the split: 'That none of this is personal.' She said she remained 'grateful' for her time with Jackman. Jackman was linked to his Broadway co-star Sutton Foster, 50, soon after his split from Furness was announced, and the pair were spotted kissing in public for the first time in January of this year. Foster had filed for divorce from her Ocean's Eleven screenwriter husband Ted Griffin after 10 years of marriage in October last year. Jackman and Foster, who had known each other for years, co-starred in The Music Man on Broadway from 2021 to 2023. Speaking to the Herald Sun in January this year, Furness said she was feeling positive about the future, offering that she was now in 'chapter three' of her life following her shock split from her husband of several decades. 'I've had a few offers for films back here so I'm still reading some scripts so if there's something that's great,' she said. 'I've got some projects in New York. I'm in my chapter three. I'm a creative, I love being creative in a variety of areas and I think I'll be doing more travelling.'
Daily Mail
2 hours ago
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
Scandal star Columbus Short heading to divorce as harrowing 'domestic violence' photos are released
The Scandal actor Columbus Short is reportedly cruising toward a divorce after his wife was granted a temporary restraining order against him. On Monday, a judge signed off on a restraining order request filed by Aida Abramyan-Short, who claimed that her husband had injured her at their home on July 7, according to documents obtained by In her request, Short's wife claimed that he attacked her after a day of heavy drinking while she was doing laundry. has contacted Short and Abramyan-Short for comment but hasn't yet received a response. Short's wife was granted a restraining order against him a week after he received his own temporary restraining order against her for alleged domestic violence after police were called by a neighbor and arrested her. And on Tuesday, sources told TMZ that Short, 42, is preparing to file for divorce after deciding that their latest run-in with the law was the end of the marriage. Short was granted a temporary restraining order against her a week ago, but his wife received her own TRO on Monday after alleging that he was the one who attacked her and outlining a pattern of domestic violence They said the couple had shown no 'humility' in their marriage and claimed the two had failed to move beyond their issues. In Short's restraining order request, he claimed that his wife kicked and tossed their 10-week-old puppy, before hitting him in the eye with a glass trophy that cut him. The actor had brought home the puppy — named Matilda — on June 21, and he claimed that its lack of house training led his wife to lash out at him He claimed that a neighbor heard her screams and proceeded to call the police, who arrested Abramyan-Short after arriving because they allegedly saw bruising on her husband. Short, who described his wife as 'emotionally unstable,' claimed that he was subjected to verbal abuse from her on a daily basis, including in front of their two children, eight-year-old Denzel and five-year-old Liam. He also accused her of pulling knives on him and of having bitten him in the past. Sources also said the puppy was doing well after allegedly being abused, though they noted that Short didn't take it to a veterinarian after his wife allegedly injured it. Abramyan-Short is currently required to stay 100 yards away from her husband under the terms of his temporary restraining order. She said in a statement to TMZ: 'Over the past week, my family and I have endured an extremely painful and deeply personal experience. I'm disheartened by the lies spread about me. As a wife and mother, my utmost priority is always the safety and well‑being of my children and myself. Following a distressing incident in July, I felt compelled to seek legal protection to help ensure our safety while matters are addressed in court. 'My focus remains on protecting and providing for my family, and on allowing the legal system to proceed without external interference. Additionally, my prayer is that my husband gets the help he needs.' In her own temporary restraining order request from Monday, she claimed that Short began shouting at her to not slam a door before pushing her and choking her with both hands. According to her, it was her own screams about her husband trying to choke her that led a neighbor to call police, who proceeded to arrest her. In addition to the disputed July 7 incident, Abramyan-Short claimed that her husband had grabbed her roughly and gave her a bruise on the arm on June 24, which she included a photo of. She also included a photo of red marks on her back and shoulder, allegedly caused by Short pushing and scratching her on June 22. One particularly disturbing photo in the restraining order request showed Abramyan-Short with an apparent black eye, which she claimed her husband previously gave her in October 2023 with his elbow after allegedly throwing her down the stairs. Another photo appearing to show a bloody scratch and bruises on her upper arm was allegedly from Short grabbing her roughly in March 2023. She also claimed that Short had sent her threatening and abusive text messages on multiple occasions. She noted that Short had been convicted of a DUI and claimed he was drinking daily, which led him to become 'violent and belligerent,' and she said she didn't think their children were safe in his presence. According to TMZ's sources, Short and his wife have previously taken and completed domestic violence programs in the past. The actor, who was previously married to Brandi Short from 2001–2003 and Tanee McCall from 2005–2013, has a lengthy history of violence that has led to run-ins with the law. In 2014, he pleaded guilty to misdemeanor domestic violence involving McCall in a deal that allowed him to avoid jail time in exchange for performing 30 hours of community service. That same year he was arrested in a separate incident in which he punched a man hard enough to knock him unconscious at a family gathering. He ultimately pleaded guilty to felony assault likely to cause great bodily injury in 2015, and the incident forced him to leave his role on Scandal, which he starred on for its first three seasons. However, he again avoided jail time in exchange for three years of probation and two months of community labor, as well as the requirement that he take 26 anger management course sessions. In Abramyan-Short's restraining order request, she noted that Short was convicted in 2021 of domestic violence against her. He was also previously convicted and sentenced to a year in prison for hitting her in a 2018 conviction. Short was later arrested and charged for domestic violence against Abramyan-Short in 2022, but those charges were ultimately dropped. According to TMZ's sources, Short's wife and their children have been staying with her parents since her arrest.
Yahoo
3 hours ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Justin Bieber Cozies up With Wife Hailey Bieber Amid Divorce Rumors
Justin Bieber has seemingly shut down divorce rumors with his wife, Hailey Bieber, with a heartfelt Instagram message for his better half. The couple's marriage has been in the spotlight for the past few months due to the pop singer's health and social media rant. However, with the new loved-up Instagram post, the singer has hinted that all is well in their paradise. Justin Bieber took everyone by surprise on Sunday by sharing multiple photos of himself hugging his wife, Hailey Bieber. The pop musician uploaded the lovely pictures set against a dreamy background. He even mentioned his wife in the post, saying, 'My forever n alwayssss,' hinting all is well between the two. The singer's Instagram pictures immediately sent his million followers into a frenzy. Some gushed over the photos in the comments section and called the couple 'the best love birds!' The post has received more than 4.2 million likes at the time of writing. The two-time Grammy-winning artist's candid post came as a surprise amid his divorce rumors. The couple has been married since 2018, but due to the singer's social media rant and overall health, rumors were afloat that their marriage had hit rock bottom. Some reports even suggested that the Biebers are staying together due to their son, Jack Blues. Their divorce chatter grew stronger when Hailey was spotted without her wedding ring while visiting New York in June. The missing ring led to speculations that they were having serious marital issues. Although neither of them has ever spoken publicly about their troubled marriage, the Rhode founder did hint about their strong relationship in Vogue's May cover. Referring to the online chatter about her relationship, she said, 'I thought seven years in it would've [died down] already, and it hasn't.' The mom of one also added, 'You would think after having a child, people would maybe move on, chill out a little bit, but no. So I guess these bitches are going to be mad.' Suffice to say, with the loved-up pictures with his 'forever n always,' Justin Bieber has put all divorce speculations to rest. The post Justin Bieber Cozies up With Wife Hailey Bieber Amid Divorce Rumors appeared first on Reality Tea.
Yahoo
3 hours ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Hailey Bieber Calls Out ‘Losers' While Supporting Justin Bieber's New Album
Hailey Bieber has seemingly clapped back at divorce rumors with Justin Bieber in a recent Instagram post. While supporting her husband's new album, 'Swag,' Hailey wrote a strong-worded message on her Instagram Story on Thursday. The proud wife responded to ongoing speculation about her marriage by writing, 'Is it finally clocking to you f—ing losers?' alongside an ad for Justin's upcoming project. Hailey Bieber recently shut down rumors of divorce or marriage trouble with her husband, Justin Bieber, by posting a message on her Instagram story on July 10. The model dismissed the speculations while supporting Justin's upcoming seventh studio album, 'Swag.' 'Is it finally clocking to you f—ing losers?' the 28-year-old wrote via her Instagram Story along with a picture of the album's billboard at New York City's Times Square. The billboard even featured a 20-song track list from Justin's upcoming project. The billboard of 'Swag' also featured a black-and-white snap of the couple and their son, Jack Blues Bieber. The Rhode founder's quip refers to a viral moment in which the singer confronted a paparazzi by asking, 'It's not clocking to you that I'm standing on business, is it?' The clip went viral on social media last month, and many users even turned the clip into a meme. However, with his surprise album, the Grammy winner is ending a four-year music drought. It will be his first project since the 2021 album, 'Justice.' Although the pop star hasn't officially confirmed when his new project will drop, according to The Hollywood Reporter, Def Jam will release the album at midnight on July 11. The album will also include features from rappers Gunna, Sexyy Red, and Cash Cobain. According to PEOPLE, a source claimed that Justin's new album is 'darker, more vulnerable and less polished. It's in no way depressing though.' Revealing more about the project, the insider added that the music is 'much deeper' and being a dad has 'shaped the heart' of the singer's new album as his 10-month-old son 'is the most precious to him.' The post Hailey Bieber Calls Out 'Losers' While Supporting Justin Bieber's New Album appeared first on Reality Tea.
