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Yahoo
25-05-2025
- General
- Yahoo
Dear Abby: My sisters treat me like the ‘failure' of the family
DEAR ABBY: I am the youngest of four sisters. I lost one of them, 'Rachel,' to cancer several years ago. She and I were considered the 'failures' of the family because we had to work hard to take care of our families, whereas our other two sisters married into money. Rachel didn't take part in many family get-togethers because, I'm guessing, she felt out of place. I didn't understand it then, but I do now that she's gone because I feel the same way. It's aggravating for me now when my sisters come to town. They don't understand how hard we have to work to get by. They think we and our children, who are out working hard too, can take time off anytime to get together with them when they come on short notice. It's aggravating, and I'm unsure how to approach this. Please help. — 'FAILURE' IN FLORIDA DEAR 'FAILURE': Your 'successful' sisters appear to be annoyingly obtuse. The next time you receive an invitation on short notice, patiently explain to them the difference in your lifestyle and theirs and point out that it precludes you changing your schedule at the drop of a hat. Then tell them the amount of time you need to prepare. (Why you would want to get together with anyone who makes you feel 'less than' puzzles me.) DEAR ABBY: I've been divorced for 10 years and have since remarried. I began dating my current wife nine years ago. I have four daughters, ages 24 through 37. Since the divorce, our relationships have been strained because my ex continues to hold them emotionally hostage by feeding her narrative that I'm the bad guy for initiating the divorce. Because my daughters seem to believe everything their mother tells them, it's been difficult to reintegrate back into their lives because they don't know what to believe or who to trust. My new wife gets frustrated when they don't call me for the big events (birthdays, Father's Day, holidays, etc.). And I feel horrible because her kids make a point of contacting me for every event. Should I continue accepting where things are with my daughters and wait for them to realize I'm not the monster their mother has painted me as? Or should I try having a hard conversation with each of them and take my chances on possibly saying the wrong thing and making things worse? — DAMNED IF I DO OR DON'T DEAR DAMNED: I'm not sure what the circumstances were that made you divorce their mother, but your daughters are no longer children. They are fully into adulthood. I do think a conversation with each of them is in order. If you approach the subject saying that things don't always work out as planned, and had you found living with their mother to be tolerable you would still be married, it might make the rest of what you have to say more palatable. If your ex has accused you of infidelity, you have a right to defend yourself as long as you don't assassinate their mother's character (which is likely what she has done to yours). Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
Fox News
18-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Fox News
Valerie Bertinelli's 'emotionally excruciating' year had star struggling to get out of bed
Valerie Bertinelli is reflecting on her painful past. On Friday, the "One Day at a Time" star, 65, took to social media to detail an "emotionally excruciating" eight months of internal struggles and share the lessons she's learned along the way. "I go back and forth and hesitate sharing vulnerable posts like I so often used to because I put the useless opinions of the minimal creepers above the many of you who have made this page so special," she began her lengthy Instagram post. "Those of you who understand and feel not so alone by sharing your own struggles too." "I started two jobs in different states and writing my new book all while going through some of the most emotionally excruciating eight months of my life," Bertinelli, who joined "The Drew Barrymore Show" as a lifestyle expert and began hosting the Game Show Network's "Bingo Blitz," said. "And I still got my exhausted, sleepless ass up in the morning, put on a good face, and showed up, when all I wanted to do was stay in bed and sob." "This is not to say I feel sorry for myself because I don't. Nobody has the market cornered on grief and heartache. People go through hard sh-- all the time. You just do what you have to do to get through what you have to get through," she continued. "And I don't know that I would change any of it. I've learned so much more about my strength, my weaknesses, my patience, my resilience, and my worth. I still have more inner work left to do." Bertinelli offered some sound advice for her followers fighting similar feelings. "If I could give you anything of value from my experience it would be this; don't let the challenging days make you forget how far you've actually come," she wrote. "No matter what, always believe in your core self. Do not allow the opinions of others or their experience with you, color what you think of yourself. You did your best with what you knew at the time." "Betrayal of your own self-worth is even worse than another's betrayal. You deserve kindness, respect, and confidence that can be trusted. Especially and mostly from yourself. We're here on this little floating rock to learn and to love. Learn to love yourself. Even that damn shadow," Bertinelli continued. "And if/when we fall or get pushed down again, we can either wallow, navel-gaze and be a victim or we can get our asses back up and live our big, beautiful life. Do that," the star concluded. In February, the former Food Network star — who called it quits with ex-boyfriend Mike Goodnough in November after ten months of dating — opened up about how her breakup has impacted her day-to-day. "When you feel hurt and wronged and know you deserve an apology but are being stonewalled by your partner because they're feeling shame, maybe this can shift your thinking," she began her lengthy post. "How are you bringing it up? Are you only pointing out what they're doing wrong, being hypercritical, and expecting them to just fix it? That could be making things worse. Change, real change, never happens through criticism, shame, or pressure. They most likely already feel all that. (I know when I f--- up, oof, do I feel shame)." "When feeling attacked, a natural reaction is to shut down and get defensive and feel overwhelmed about changing behavior that may be a coping mechanism since childhood,"she continued. "They'll feel judged and feel like they can't get anything right and they won't really hear you." "If you stop focusing on what they did wrong and instead approach with empathy and understanding, everything can then start to shift," she added. "Instead of saying, 'You always do this!' Maybe try, 'This is how I feel when this happens, can we figure this out together?' That one small change can make a difference." Bertinelli reminded her followers that it's important to work with your partner, not against them. "And hello, I'm not saying this is easy when you've been hurt and you want to lash out in anger (which is fear and/or grief and probably some of your own hidden childhood triggers). BUT, doing it differently may give you a better chance at getting the apology and amends that you deserve," she wrote. "Looking for ways to show up for each other is a love language and it takes two to do it," she continued. "Even when you feel wronged and think they should just know and do better. I think we all just want to do better and feel awful when we've hurt someone we love and shame prevents us from thinking clearly. Wouldn't it be nice to relieve the one you love from shame so they can truly give you the amends you're looking for?""Then again, what do I know?" she concluded. "I have two failed marriages and fumbled the last true good man I met. Maybe don't take advice from me."
Daily Mail
15-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
Zara Tindall admits the Royal Family faces the 'same struggles as others' - and reveals a VERY saucy detail about her romance with husband Mike Tindall
Zara Tindall has candidly spoken out about the 'struggles' of life within the Royal Family - insisting that they experience the same emotional challenges as anyone else. Speaking at a London Sporting Club lunch, the late Queen Elizabeth's eldest granddaughter offered a rare insight into the private world of the Windsors. She reflected on the pressures and personal struggles endured by Britain's most scrutinised clan, The Sun reported. 'It's very hard to see from the outside,' Zara, who turns 44 today, admitted. 'But, 100 per cent, it is a family that is still going through the same struggles other people do. 'Whether they're about relationships - which, obviously, are on display every day - we're still very supportive of each other.' In a touching tribute, Zara also spoke of her late grandmother, who died in 2022 at the age of 96. 'We had a very incredible person to look up to, who is sadly not here anymore,' she said. 'She was amazing and an inspiration to all of us.' Meghan Markle, Prince Harry and Zara Tindall at the National Service of Thanksgiving to Celebrate the Queen's Platinum Jubilee in 2022 The former Olympic equestrian also shared a cheeky tale from the early days of her romance with former England rugby star Mike Tindall. Recalling a dinner date in 2003, Zara, who has no royal title, revealed their flirtation took an unexpectedly bold turn. 'He asked me for a kiss,' she laughed. 'And I said, "If you get naked, I'll give you a kiss." 'So he got naked, I gave him a kiss, and then... well, anyway.' Zara, the daughter of Princess Anne and Captain Mark Phillips, recalled one night when Mike's partying got the better of him. 'He was so drunk he passed out and I had to leave him there,' she said. 'One of my mates had to come and pick him up. I can't move a 20-stone rugby player when he's out cold!' Zara and Mike's marriage has grown into a famously solid union. King Charles III and Zara Tindall hug as as they greet each other at the Endurance event at Windsor Castle in 2024 The couple, who wed in 2011, now share three children and regularly appear at both sporting and royal events. It comes after Zara took part in an equestrian trial last weekend, with her family gathered to show their support. Peter Phillips' daughters Savannah, 14, and Isla, 13, took selfies with their cousin Mia Tindall, 11 - who was on hand to cheer on her mother - as they took in the fifth and final day at the MARS Badminton Horse Trials on Sunday. Looking sporty and casual, Savannah opted for a slouchy quarter-zip with shorts, and wore her wavy hair down, while her sister Isla was trendy in a Von Dutch cap and grey top. Elsewhere, little Mia was adorable as ever in a chic white shirt and hat, teamed with a fun patterned skirt. The kids clearly enjoyed some girl time as they were spotted chatting up a storm in the stands. Their father Peter, 47 - who shares Savannah and Isla with his ex Autumn Kelly - looked after the royal cousins with his girlfriend Harriet Sperling, who looked summery and glam in a white and navy patterned dress. Meanwhile, Princess Anne's son looked ready for every weather in a pinstripe button-down, gilet and a cap - along with aviator shades. Meanwhile, Princess Anne's son looked ready for every weather in a pinstripe button-down, gilet and a cap - along with aviator shades In one sweet father-daughter bonding moment, Isla could be seen huddling up to her dad for a cuddle. The family was out to support Zara, who looked to be in high spirits as she collected a revered accolade at the event. The mother-of-three beamed as she posed with other attendees in Gloucestershire. Radiating sporty casual, the daughter of Princess Anne dressed for the warmer weather in wide-leg jeans and a blue cropped jacket, adorned with golden buttons. She kept her blonde tresses out of her face with a ponytail, and looked excited to chat with others at event - even being snapped giggling at something. Keeping her look practical yet classy, the mother-of-three donned simple white trainers. For her make-up, Zara opted for a fresh-faced visage that accentuated her eyes, and kept accessories minimal.
Yahoo
10-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Justin Bieber Shares Troubling Posts About Getting 'Exposed' And Asking 'God For Help' As Fans Worry
Justin Bieber recently opened up on Instagram about his emotional struggles, insecurities, and reliance on faith during a difficult period. The singer described himself as flawed and vulnerable, sharing thoughts on love, personal growth, and daily emotional battles. Justin Bieber's candid posts sparked concern among fans, especially amid rumors about his marriage to Hailey Bieber. Bieber took to Instagram to offer fans a raw glimpse into his emotional state. The 31-year-old artist shared multiple candid messages, revealing he's been leaning on faith during a challenging period. In one particularly vulnerable post, Bieber described himself as "just an average flawed guy," acknowledging to his 294 million followers that he "continues to do and say things that hurt others unintentionally." He continued, "Yet I woke up this morning with another opportunity to grow and not be so selfish today." Reflecting on the power of love and how it has shaped his journey, the "Baby" hitmaker concluded with an emotional message. "LOVE DRAWS US IN. LOVE DOESN'T CONDEMN. LOVE BELIEVES THE BEST," he wrote. "LOVE HOPES ALL THINGS. AND ENDURES ALL THINGS. IT DOESN'T KEEP RECORD OF WRONG. LOVE HELPS [YOU] TO FORGIVE AND LOVE EVEN YOUR ENEMIES." In a follow-up post, Bieber got even more personal and touched on deeper struggles, including lingering insecurities and feeling like he's been taken advantage of. "I sometimes think I'm gonna get exposed if I tell people how selfish I am," he confessed. "Like if I admitted that, maybe people wouldn't like me or trust me." The Grammy winner noted: "I thought if I was honest about the selfish things I was feeling that I was gonna be disqualified from the dreams I had of being included." "But the more honest I am about where I really am, the more freedom I actually have," Bieber added. Bieber also reshared a heartfelt message originally posted in one of his photo captions, reflecting on the emotional rollercoaster he has been on. "The truth is, I wake up every morning. Some days I'm optimistic. Sometimes I wake up pessimistic," Bieber admitted. "I can't control how I'm gonna feel." Bieber revealed that in the past, he sometimes found himself unknowingly blaming God for waking up in a low mood instead of reaching out in prayer for a shift in mindset. "I can't control how I'm gonna feel," he wrote. "I would find myself even subconsciously blaming god for the bad feeling I woke up with rather than communicate with him and ask him to help me have a change of perspective." He added: "I've been really asking god to help me see the best in people even after being used in the way I have." Bieber's latest post comes after a source revealed that he has left his former close circle worried about him. According to People Magazine, the source noted that the star has been plagued by a lot of "demons," which seem to include his past ties to embattled rapper Sean "Diddy" Combs, who is currently in jail awaiting trial, and his fractured relationship with his former manager, Scooter Braun. "He is facing a lot of different demons right now," the source told the news outlet. "He is making some really poor decisions lately, further impacting friendships, money, and business." "People are worried about him," the insider added. Meanwhile, concerns about Bieber's mental well-being continue to mount, with former collaborators speaking out in a recent piece by The Hollywood Reporter. Longtime musical partner Poo Bear, the hitmaker behind songs like "Despacito," "What Do You Mean?" and "Where Are Ü Now," expressed his hope for Bieber to be okay, stating "Whatever he's going through, I pray for him and hope he's OK." One former team member didn't hold back, describing a troubling decline: "Seeing him disintegrate like this… It's watching the embodiment of someone not living their purpose. He's lost. There's no one protecting him because there's no one there willing to say no to him. You say no, you get blown out." Despite growing public concern, someone from the singer's inner circle downplayed the speculation, telling the publication, "Artists are artists — they don't look at the world the way you and I do. He's healthier than all of us — physically and mentally."
