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Washington Post
3 days ago
- General
- Washington Post
Miss Manners: A few bridal shower invitees didn't get a wedding invite
Dear Miss Manners: A very dear friend is getting married in eight weeks. She and her betrothed compromised and negotiated a great deal to finalize the guest list, and 10 people didn't make the cut. Unfortunately, she mistakenly invited those persons to her bridal shower. I explained that they may feel slighted at being invited to the shower but not the wedding. She now wants to contact these 10 people to explain the couple's financial constraints and state that while the wedding guest list was final, these folks can forgo a shower gift because they are still participating in one small way.
Yahoo
4 days ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Woman Says Her Husband Made a ‘Strange' Comment to Her Female Friend — But He Says She's ‘Reading' into It ‘Too Much'
"He says I'm reading too much into it and he was just trying to be friendly as he could see my friend was upset," the woman said of her husband A woman is unsure if she's overreacting after her husband made a 'strange' comment to her female friend. In a post on Mumsnet's 'Am I Being Unreasonable?' forum, the woman explained that she recently had her best friend over for dinner while her husband was out with friends. 'My friend had been upset while talking with me about some relationship issues, one of which related to trying for a child,' the woman said, adding that the friend's husband often says he is too 'tired' from work to try to conceive. The original poster (OP) said that her own husband then came home and that it was 'clear that my friend had been crying.' She said her husband asked the friend what was wrong, and she explained that she 'was upset about not being pregnant yet, and that her [husband] was often giving reasons not to try.' The OP said that this was when her husband made the questionable comment. She recalled that he told her friend something along the lines of, '[Your husband] must be crazy,' and that he was 'surprised' that the other man wasn't taking the opportunity to have lots of 'fun' with her. 'This might be my insecurity, but I don't think [my husband] should have said what he did,' the OP said. 'I have spoken to him, and he says I'm reading too much into it and he was just trying to be friendly as he could see my friend was upset." In a follow-up comment, the woman said that the most recent comment came after a past incident in which her husband once asked her to wear an outfit that he saw the same friend wearing, as it would 'really turn him on.' 'He was drunk and apologized profusely in the following days. But it did make me think he finds my friend attractive,' she added. 'Now I don't know if I'm overreacting,' the woman confessed. The OP's post sparked a debate among her fellow Mumsnet users. Some commenters said they felt the comment was relatively innocuous and that she should try not to overthink it. 'I think he just didn't know what to say and felt awkward when he walked into [the conversation], so he made a light-hearted comment about it [...]. He was probably trying to make her feel better or make her smile. Yeah, it probably was a bit inappropriate, but I doubt he meant any harm by it,' one person said. 'Your [husband] was probably embarrassed to be faced with a tearful woman and gave a clumsy reply. I wouldn't be upset. Sounds like her [husband] is an a--, and your [husband] was trying to make her feel better,' another wrote. Other commenters, however, said that they thought what the husband said crossed a line. 'Inappropriate and icky,' said one person. 'He's 100% got a crush on your friend,' added someone else. A third person said, 'You're right, he massively overstepped. And considering he already told you you should dress like your friend as it turned him on, he definitely fancies her.' Read the original article on People Solve the daily Crossword
Yahoo
4 days ago
- Health
- Yahoo
Dear Abby: My friend has become mean since getting diagnosed with Alzheimer's
DEAR ABBY: An old friend of 50 years has recently been diagnosed with early Alzheimer's. She's still conducting her life as usual, driving and taking care of her banking, etc. However, she has lost her filter and talks to me about my figure ('Your thighs are shockingly thin'), and also my health ('Are you going to die? My mother had a cough like that, and she died'). I am struggling to control my anger at her presumptuousness and holding myself back from some very apt and mean comebacks. I don't seem to be able to let this go. I don't want to abandon her during this time (I took care of my husband with dementia for 17 years), but at the same time, I don't need to spend weeks spinning after her insensitive and cruel comments. Any ideas? — INSULTED IN SAN FRANCISCO DEAR INSULTED: If your friend is still well enough to 'conduct her life as usual,' she is also well enough to be told that you don't appreciate her comments. You don't have to jump down her throat, but do tell her that if they don't stop, she will be seeing less of you. When her Alzheimer's worsens, you may have to repeat it or redirect the conversation away from you. DEAR ABBY: My parents got into an argument because my father saw my mother looking at an old photo of herself from when she was younger. (It had been sent by her cousin via text.) In it, she was sitting next to 'an ex-boyfriend or friend.' My father thought it was disrespectful, but my mother didn't agree. Mom thought it was trivial for him to get upset since she was only 18 or 19 and the photo was taken 45 years ago. It was way before my mother had even met my father. Later, she mentioned to Dad that she remembered seeing an old picture of him and his ex-wife dressed up for a concert. He denied it, and she didn't get upset. She told me later she doesn't regret receiving the picture because she no longer has romantic feelings for my father. You see, my parents are not legally married; they are just roommates splitting the bills together. I don't know how to feel about this. I don't want to be involved, but they both have come to me separately expressing their feelings about it. What are your thoughts? — IN THE MIDDLE IN TEXAS DEAR IN THE MIDDLE: I suspect that your father was less upset about the arrival of that 45-year-old photo than he is about the fact that your mother no longer has romantic feelings for him. I also think you should stay out of this and no longer allow yourself to be put in the middle, which is what your parents are trying to do. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. Solve the daily Crossword
The National
5 days ago
- Lifestyle
- The National
Why it's important to align your money choices with your values
It's a crisp, sunny morning and you're standing near the finish line of a big-city marathon. You're here to support a friend who's trained for months, maybe years, for this. The energy is electric as spectators cheer and clap. The first elite runners cross the line in what seems like no time at all. It's impressive, no doubt. But it's not the most interesting part of the day. As the hours go on, hundreds – thousands – of others come through. Some grin. Some cry. Some raise their arms in quiet triumph. And the thing is, they all look like winners. You notice something. These people aren't racing each other. Some are trying to beat their personal bests. Others just want to finish. A few are ticking it off a bucket list. One guy's running in fancy dress. And it hits you: not everyone is running the same race. Life's a bit like that. Everyone's running, but we're all in it for different reasons. Some want to win. Some want balance. Some just want to enjoy the ride. As a keen cyclist, I've learnt this the hard way – especially during long rides when I realise I'm comparing my pace to someone who's training for an entirely different event. We're not even aiming for the same thing. And yet, we often fall into the trap of living like we should be chasing someone else's finish line. Whose game are you playing? A lot of people – especially smart, successful ones – haven't taken the time to figure out what really matters to them. It's not that they don't care. They're just busy. Busy in the grind of their careers, raising families, managing responsibilities. And when things do quiet down, they're often too exhausted to step back and reflect. So, they keep going. Doing what's expected. Measuring success by someone else's yardstick. Financially, that might mean chasing more income, a bigger house, or a flashier car – not because they want those things, but because it's what others seem to value. But when you live according to someone else's values, things feel off. You might look successful on paper, but you still feel restless, anxious or like you're missing something. What do you value? There are a few useful ways to explore this. One approach is to look at what you admire or aspire to. But another – often more revealing – method is to consider what annoys or upsets you. The things that frustrate or bother us usually point to values being ignored or violated. For example, if you get particularly irritated by people who are always late or disorganised, there's a good chance you value reliability or respect for others' time. If you find yourself frustrated in environments where no one listens, perhaps communication or feeling heard is something you deeply value. You can use this method to spark your thinking. Make a shortlist of things that regularly frustrate you – both in professional and personal settings. Then, consider what value might sit underneath each of those frustrations. Often, the opposite of what bothers you will highlight something that really matters to you. Once you've explored that, here's a practical next step. Write down a broad list of values, words like: Family Freedom Status Adventure Security Generosity Write down anything that feels like it might matter to you. Once you've got a list – 15 to 20 is plenty – write each one on a separate sticky note. Now sort them into three piles. Pile one: Your most important values, the ones that genuinely matter to you and that you want your life to reflect Pile two: Values that are not important to you, things that hold little or no meaning in how you live or make decisions Pile three: Values you feel neutral about or uncertain of, these might seem nice in theory, but they don't strongly resonate with you personally Once you've done that, take pile one and narrow it down further. Aim to pick your top five. Now you have your personal non-negotiables. Your core values. The principles that should ideally guide how you spend your time, make decisions and use your money. This process isn't about getting it perfect. It's about bringing more self-awareness to the table. You're creating a lens you can use to make better decisions, not just with your money, but with your time, energy and focus, too. Align your money with your life When your money choices reflect your values, life starts to feel more intentional. You stop chasing things you don't care about. You spend less time comparing yourself to others. And you gain confidence in the decisions you make – because they're rooted in what you want, not what someone else expects. You might realise that some areas of your life are spot on, while others need a rethink. That's fine. You're not behind. You're just getting clearer. Win your own race There's no universal scoreboard. No right answer. No medal at the end for living someone else's version of success. So, figure out what matters to you. Get clear on the game you want to play. And then make decisions – from the big financial ones to the small daily ones – that help you stay on track. You don't have to run faster. You just have to run in the right direction.
Globe and Mail
5 days ago
- Entertainment
- Globe and Mail
Your daily horoscope: July 26, 2025
The more challenging the goals you set yourself for the coming year the more you will enjoy life when it all comes together and you reach levels you thought were beyond you. Why settle for a limited share of success when you can have it all? The sun in your fellow fire sign of Leo at this time of year means there are precious few things you cannot accomplish, so the responsibility is on you to aim high and do something creative this weekend. Don't give less than 100 per cent. You may not want to forgive a so-called friend for what they recently said about you but it is actually the best move by far. The last thing you need now is to be wasting time and energy on petty vendettas. Get past it and move on. This is potentially one of the most enjoyable phases of the year for you, so don't sit at home in front of the TV, get out into the world and make some waves. It is also the perfect time to make travel plans for later in the year. Before you splash a significant amount of cash on something you've had your eye on for some time you need to ask yourself two questions: Do I really need it and can I really afford it? The answer to both questions is almost certainly 'no'. The more time you spend with people who inspire you this weekend the more likely it is you will come up with productive ideas of your own. Don't look back at the old ways of doing things, look ahead and be a leader for change. The fact that you are such a practical person gives you a big advantage over some of your more woolly-minded rivals. While they are held back by wishful thinking this weekend you will be moving ahead of them in leaps and bounds. The message of the stars this weekend is that you need to rise above incidents that enrage you. The world may be unfair but there is no point getting worked up about matters that you cannot possibly change. Aim to change yourself for the better instead. A bit of sweet talk will open a lot of doors over the next 48 hours, so lay it on thick and don't worry that you may be overdoing it. The people you will be dealing with are too stupid to realize they are being shamelessly flattered. If you feel the urge to get away from your usual environment then pack an overnight bag and hit the road. You are rarely happier than when on the move and what you see and who you meet on your journey will surely delight you. A clash of wills on the work front could result in a serious falling out over the next 48 hours. Do your utmost to make sure you are on the winning side, because the planets warn there will be no prizes for coming a brave second. You may not be the most touchy-feely member of the zodiac but if you reach out to someone this weekend they will respond in kind and a strong bond will be formed between you – a partnership of equals that can never be broken. You have wasted too much time on trivial matters in recent days and must now move on to activities that bring clear rewards. Ignore those who say that making a profit is in some way immoral – they have no idea what they are talking about. Discover more about yourself at
