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Yahoo
2 hours ago
- Yahoo
Dear Richard Madeley: My girlfriend is taking me on an active holiday, but I prefer cultural breaks
Dear Richard, My girlfriend has delightfully surprised me with a week away in Malta, a place I've spoken fondly about to her in the past, to celebrate my birthday in September. Unfortunately, the thing I like about it is the landscape and culture, but what it turns out to be more widely known for is active sport and clubbing – both of which happen to be enthusiasms of hers. So the resort we're staying at is not at all well situated to explore neolithic settlements or baroque churches, but we're booked in for a windsurfing course and even a Padi scuba-diving certificate. I have nothing against any of this but I'd rather save a few bob and do it in Dorset, frankly. Meanwhile, if I do manage to get away and explore some catacombs, I'm worried that I'll either annoy my girlfriend by leaving her alone with her paddleboard, or drag her along and leave her with the impression that I'm a dusty old bore – which I probably am, but I thought I'd managed to conceal the fact pretty well thus far. Is there a way we can both get what we want out of this while still getting to enjoy one another's company? – D, via Dear D, Of course there is! There's nothing wrong with having diverse interests! And anyway, clearly you share many of hers so there's plenty of overlap here. So stop worrying about what she might think of you if you declare your private passions to her. She loves you for who you are. I'd say being happy to go scuba diving or paddleboarding in the morning and then keen to wander round some ruins after lunch makes you a more interesting person, much less an old bore! So sit down and agree a rough schedule of how you'll divide your days in Malta. Be a gentleman and err on the side of generosity; offer a few more action hours than dusty diversions. But who knows? She may love a dive into the past as much as a dip in the Med. Send me a postcard! You can find more of Richard Madeley's advice here or submit your own dilemma below. Broaden your horizons with award-winning British journalism. Try The Telegraph free for 1 month with unlimited access to our award-winning website, exclusive app, money-saving offers and more. Solve the daily Crossword
Telegraph
3 hours ago
- Telegraph
Dear Richard Madeley: My girlfriend is taking me on an active holiday, but I prefer cultural breaks
Dear Richard, My girlfriend has delightfully surprised me with a week away in Malta, a place I've spoken fondly about to her in the past, to celebrate my birthday in September. Unfortunately, the thing I like about it is the landscape and culture, but what it turns out to be more widely known for is active sport and clubbing – both of which happen to be enthusiasms of hers. So the resort we're staying at is not at all well situated to explore neolithic settlements or baroque churches, but we're booked in for a windsurfing course and even a Padi scuba-diving certificate. I have nothing against any of this but I'd rather save a few bob and do it in Dorset, frankly. Meanwhile, if I do manage to get away and explore some catacombs, I'm worried that I'll either annoy my girlfriend by leaving her alone with her paddleboard, or drag her along and leave her with the impression that I'm a dusty old bore – which I probably am, but I thought I'd managed to conceal the fact pretty well thus far. Is there a way we can both get what we want out of this while still getting to enjoy one another's company? – D, via Dear D, Of course there is! There's nothing wrong with having diverse interests! And anyway, clearly you share many of hers so there's plenty of overlap here. So stop worrying about what she might think of you if you declare your private passions to her. She loves you for who you are. I'd say being happy to go scuba diving or paddleboarding in the morning and then keen to wander round some ruins after lunch makes you a more interesting person, much less an old bore! So sit down and agree a rough schedule of how you'll divide your days in Malta. Be a gentleman and err on the side of generosity; offer a few more action hours than dusty diversions. But who knows? She may love a dive into the past as much as a dip in the Med. Send me a postcard!
Washington Post
2 days ago
- General
- Washington Post
Carolyn Hax: Girlfriend's fury at partner's job is so raw they can't discuss it
Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My girlfriend gets angry when I talk about my job. I'm an editor at a web site and she is a project manager working with government contractors. She gets actively angry about my job for a variety of reasons. Sometimes she is mad that the website crashes, or she hates the way ads block the content. I offer to submit bug and crash reports, but she expects me to speak up at weekly editorial meetings to declare that things must change, must be fixed.
The Sun
2 days ago
- The Sun
Girlfriend dumped me after finding pictures on my phone I took during wild threesome – but I want her back
DEAR DEIDRE: STUPIDLY, I saved multiple screenshots and videos on my phone of naked girls and now I've been dumped yet again. I know I've got an issue. I've been viewing pornography since I was around 11 years old, when an older cousin showed me adult websites. I'm now 29 and I'd love a proper girlfriend, but I've only managed two decent relationships. The last one failed when my girlfriend found a secret file on my laptop. My latest girlfriend is 26 and we've had six months of bliss together. We met in a nightclub and all I could think about was having sex with her, but she kept me waiting for a long time. I knew she was good for me in that way. When we finally did it, I told her I loved her. I then did something stupid. I went to a club for a mate's birthday and I met a couple of girls. We went to a hotel and had a threesome. They let me take pictures of our wild night and I kept the images on my phone in case I was bored. Then my girlfriend began to get suspicious because I was guarding my phone. When she demanded to see it, I was hopeful I'd get away with it as there weren't any incriminating messages anywhere, and I hoped she wouldn't find my file. But she's pretty savvy with tech so immediately went to my secret file and found everything, complete with dates. Spotting the signs your partner is cheating She's the only girl I've felt so strongly about. I want her back. She went to a friend's house for a week and now says we are over for good. What can I do? DEIDRE SAYS: Compulsive behaviour and addictions can often have roots in childhood experience. If you started viewing pornography at 11, you may not have had boundaries or parents checking up on you. Now you are in over your head, which is spoiling your relationships. Make a pact with yourself that you'll get the help you need. You can find access to a free introductory course on pornography addiction through Pivotal ( If your girlfriend can see you're making strides to change, she may take you back but don't hold your breath. Work on yourself and your addiction first and, when you feel strong enough to avoid and resist acting up, then you will be in a much better place to build a long and lasting relationship. SICK AND TIRED OF MY MAN'S SNORING DEAR DEIDRE: ANGER is spoiling my relationship because I can never get a good night's sleep. My boyfriend snores like a freight train. I've got a stressful job in advertising. I often have early starts with clients and I need my eight hours a night. I'm lucky if I get five. I'm a woman of 33 and my boyfriend is 31. We have a great relationship in every other way but I'm so fed up with the piggy sounds that come from him at night – I'm seriously considering renting my own flat. I either lie awake and get cross, or I sleep on the sofa. My boyfriend feels terrible in the morning if I'm not beside him. He knows he's the problem. Perhaps I should get some sleeping tablets prescribed by my doctor. DEIDRE SAYS: It's your boyfriend who has the problem – not you. Sleeping pills are not the answer. There can be health risks attached to snoring, like sleep apnoea – taking a few seconds of subconsciously not breathing, which can be damaging. Tell him you're worried about him and suggest a check-up with his doctor. He can also find advice through the Sleep Apnoea Trust ( Drinking less alcohol can help if that is a factor and sometimes, it's as simple as losing a few pounds. My support pack called Stop Snoring explains more. DEAR DEIDRE: IF I know that sex is on the cards, I get so nervous that we cannot physically do it. My boyfriend's 23, I'm a woman aged 21. We've been going out for two years. We are together most of the time, either sleeping at his parents' home or mine, but it's not being in the family house that puts me off sex, it's the physical act of doing it. He's kind, caring and patient and after another failed attempt he says, 'Don't worry. We'll try again at the weekend'. I've tried lots of things to relax – warm baths, a glass of wine, even scented candles and low lighting when his parents have been on holiday, but nothing helps. It's all in my head but I know that if I can't find a way of lessening the anxiety, my boyfriend will not hang around forever. I'm not being fair to him. Can you help? DEIDRE SAYS: Do you know why you feel so tense? Was there an early sexual experience that was upsetting for you, or perhaps a friend or family member warned you that it would hurt? Sex may be a little uncomfortable the first time, but it is supposed to be fun. The vagina can increase enough to give birth to a baby so physically, most people are capable, but if you have some mental block to relaxing, your body and vagina will simply say 'no'. My support packs called Exciting Foreplay and First Time Fears will give you tips on how best to relax. NERVES MAKE IT IMPOSSIBLE FOR ME TO HAVE SEX DEAR DEIDRE: WOULD putting a needle through our condoms enable me to have the baby I'm longing for? I'm not a woman who feels her biological clock is ticking – I'm a man. I'm actually a gay man but I've suppressed my feelings for all of my life. I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend who is clueless about the real me. I care for her but she doesn't excite me like a man would. I can't stop these feelings of wanting to be a dad, though. It's my dream. I have even considered that we have a 'contraception failure' and I'd encourage her to go ahead with the pregnancy, but then I feel horrible for even thinking about it. This whole situation is overwhelming. I'm not happy in my relationship because I know I'm not being authentic. My girlfriend is 28 and lovely. She talks about 'putting a ring on it' and what sort of a wedding she'd like, but there's no way I am going to pop the question any time soon. I'm a fraud and I'm living a life of lies. I wish I was a straight guy and could be happy. The people at work have started to notice I'm down. I don't know how much longer I can put up with living like this. If I come out, I might never have the chance to be a father. DEIDRE SAYS: Your focus on being a parent is keeping you tied to your girlfriend. It isn't fair. Gay men become fathers through adoption, fostering and surrogacy, your sexuality needn't stop you. It's not easy to come out, especially if your family hold old-fashioned views, but start by getting some help with your confidence through LGBT ( 0345 3 30 30 30), a charity that offers help for those in the LGBTQ community. My support pack Ending A Relationship will help you to bring things to a close with your girlfriend in the kindest way possible.
Independent Singapore
5 days ago
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- Independent Singapore
‘She could be with someone who has more time and money' — Man wonders why his rich, beautiful GF never gave up on him
SINGAPORE: A young lad recently confessed on social media that he struggles to understand why his girlfriend, who is rich, beautiful, and academically brilliant, has never walked away from him despite his flaws. In a lengthy post on Reddit's SGexams forum, he shared that he and his girlfriend come from completely different worlds. 'I'm from a single-parent, low-income household, currently studying in a mid-tier JC (junior college). I wear thick glasses, look pretty average at best, and spend most of my time buried in books trying to survive A-levels and break my poverty cycle,' he wrote. 'She, on the other hand, is rich and hot. Her GPA (grade point average) in poly is a perfect 4.0.' Despite their vastly different backgrounds, he said she never once made him feel inferior and has always stood by him through thick and thin. She showed up to all his band performances with flowers in hand, and for his birthday, she surprised him with concert tickets because she knew how much he wanted to go. Eager to spend more time with him, she even downloaded 'Valorant' so they could play together. Also, whenever he needed time to focus on his studies, manage his part-time job, or look after his mum, she always gave him the space he asked for. Even with her tendency to overthink and worry, she never questioned his need for distance and continued to be understanding and supportive. In contrast, the man said that he failed her in almost every way. On her birthday, the only things he could give her were 'a handmade card, an origami cat, and a plushie he sewed himself using old clothes,' as he couldn't afford to buy flowers. 'She said she loved it and even teared up, saying she preferred handmade gifts, but still, I felt so, so lousy.' When it came to her sports finals, he couldn't be there to support her because of his exams, but even then, he said she completely understood. Beyond that, he confessed he wasn't the easiest person to love. He struggled with 'poor emotional regulation' and often found himself getting frustrated with her too quickly, especially when he was stressed or overwhelmed by financial pressures. But she never reacted harshly. 'She just stays patient, tries to understand, and gives me space when I need it. I hate that she has to deal with that side of me. She gives me so much love, and I don't understand what I've done to deserve any of it. She could be with someone who has more time, more money, more to offer, but she's with me… and I love her for it, but at the same time, I'm scared I'm holding her back,' he wrote. 'I keep wondering why. Why would someone like her choose someone like me? I want to believe she's truly happy, but there's this constant voice in my head that says I'm not enough. I don't know if I'm overthinking or just deeply insecure. I love her, and I want to be better for her. I just wish I could feel like I deserve her, too. I don't know how I can be better for her,' he added. 'It's the heart and thought that count.' Hoping to encourage him, many netizens left kind and supportive messages. One after another, they pointed out the traits his girlfriend likely noticed and appreciated in him. 'Give yourself some credit. She sees you fighting despite your limitations (e.g., taking care of your mom, studying for As, making handmade gifts). There's nothing more attractive than a man that refuses to surrender and does the best he can,' one comment read. 'You don't need to be rich or match up to her; this ain't a competition. It's the heart and thought that count—that's why she says she prefers handmade gifts, because if you think about it, no matter how rich you are, if you replace love with money, then the relationship is doomed to fail anyway,' another chimed in. See also Man says the dating & employment world are the same 'Sewing a handmade plushie for someone's birthday is such a big W. Shows you put in effort and you love her,' a third said. 'She just wants YOU. That's all she wants; she just wants you to love her. So love her. It's really that simple. You're not in a competition; there is no competition. There's just you and her together, making a life out of it. Marriage, or children, eventually. Old age. Till death do us part,' a fourth added. Some also encouraged him to open up to her about his feelings and work on managing his emotions, warning that unresolved issues could eventually put a strain on their relationship. In other news, one frustrated local recently took to Reddit to vent about how everyday expenses in Singapore seem to be quietly inching up 'almost overnight.' In a post on the r/asksg subreddit, he wrote that the 'daily life in Singapore' has started to feel noticeably 'more expensive' in recent months, even though his spending habits have remained the same. Read more: 'Cai png now costs me S$6' — Local says everything in SG is becoming more expensive quietly but quickly
