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Yahoo
17 hours ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Woman Is Shocked After Finding ‘Affectionate' Photos of Her Partner with His Ex on His Laptop: ‘Why Keep Them?'
A Mumsnet user is seeking opinions on whether it's normal for her partner to keep old photos of himself with his ex-girlfriend 'He said he doesn't want to delete them as they were part of his experience in life,' she said of the photos on his laptop A reader replied that she's being unreasonable and that 'the problem is you think he needs your permission'A woman is having a complicated relationship with her partner's laptop. The girlfriend explained on the community forum Mumsnet that she stumbled upon photos of her boyfriend with his ex on his computer — a triggering moment that she admitted 'honestly doesn't sit well with me.' 'I just want to know what the norm is/is acceptable in regards to keeping pictures from previous relationships,' she wrote. 'He gave me his laptop to view some pictures we took today and a picture with his ex popped up. To be fair, he quickly immediately closed it. It wasn't a casual picture.' 'It was one where they were showing affection on a holiday. It did make me feel some type of way as we were on holiday too,' she added. 'When I brought it up he said he doesn't want to delete them as they were part of his experience in life and that he wants to be able to look back at them when he's old as part of his experience in life.' She noted that she might just be feeling 'silly' about it all and that he's 'definitely not getting back' with his ex-girlfriend. 'I just don't want pictures of him being affectionate or romantic with another girl popping up randomly in my face,' she confessed, before detailing what she might tell him to potentially reach a compromise. 'I thought of suggesting he files them in a separate folder away from his main one or archive it somewhere, but I don't even think that's right,' she said. 'Why keep them for God's sake if the relationship has ended?' In a Mumsnet poll under her post, 88% of the more than 150 voters selected 'You are being unreasonable' as their voting option. 'He told you why,' one person pointed out. 'He wants to have them when he is older to look back on as part of life's experience. The problem is you think he needs your permission, or to offer a reason that you get to decide is acceptable. You are being off the wall horrible and super controlling.' is now available in the Apple App Store! Download it now for the most binge-worthy celeb content, exclusive video clips, astrology updates and more! 'There is no need to eradicate every trace of one's former life if your relationship is rock solid,' another reader replied. A third user liked the woman's suggestion but agreed with most readers, commenting, 'Filing the photos away so they don't pop up randomly on the screen is fine. Asking him to delete them is not reasonable.' Read the original article on People
The Sun
17 hours ago
- General
- The Sun
I had a threesome with my girlfriend and her best friend – but she is now pregnant with my baby
DEAR DEIDRE: MY life is spinning horribly out of control ever since I agreed to have a threesome with my girlfriend and her best friend. While the sex was fun, her mate now says she's pregnant with my child and my girlfriend thinks it would be a good idea if we all lived together. It's a nightmare. I am 27 and my girlfriend is 24. We have been together for almost a year. I thought our sex life was great — she's the most gorgeous girl and I know she is in love with me. But she told me one night that her best friend liked me and kept hinting that it would be fun if we all went to bed together. Although I was reluctant, it's never been one of my fantasies to have a threesome. I thought, however, that if I agreed we could move on. So we arranged a date and the friend came over. We had a few drinks to get us in the mood. I was nervous but they were both very keen. It felt as if they were old hands. There was no awkwardness between them. I must admit the sex was amazing and, to my relief, everything went back to normal afterwards. Then to my horror, the friend announced she was pregnant. My girlfriend now wants her mate to move in with us — she thinks it would be the perfect solution. On top of everything she's started talking about having a baby as well. Dear Deidre After Dark- Understanding open relationships It's all too much and too fast. Our relationship still feels so new and I'm not ready to take such a big step. I don't want to be a dad to one baby, let alone two. The decision over whether to have this baby belongs to your girlfriend's friend. My support pack Unplanned Pregnancy will help the friend look realistically at her options. Tell her you are not ready to be a dad and you will need a DNA test to prove paternity if she goes ahead with this pregnancy. If it turns out it is your child, you will have a legal obligation to help support your child. In an ideal world, a child will have two loving parents. Even if you aren't together, you can still be a positive force in a child's life. Having unprotected sex also risks jeopardising your sexual health, so please make sure everyone visits the local sexual health clinic to be tested. SHE HAS DAYS OUT WITH EX DEAR DEIDRE: MY girlfriend plays happy families with her ex and their young son. They go on day trips to the seaside, and theme parks, and I am supposed to just accept it. I know a few people who have kids but have split up, but they don't behave like this. Is it normal for an ex-partner to be so involved? I'm 27 and my girlfriend's 25. We've been together for eight months. I love her and accept that she has a child but I am uncomfortable about her being around her ex. I see him whenever he comes to collect his son. We get on OK. But my girlfriend has let slip that her ex is still very fond of her. One thing that concerns me is, when she goes out with him, she always switches her phone off so her ex doesn't get upset by me contacting her. I am trying to understand, but I have feelings too. DEIDRE SAYS: Her relationship with her ex is over but it's better for your girlfriend and ex to put aside their feelings for the sake of their child. Rather than her turn her phone off, can you agree that you will only contact her in an emergency? At some point you need to take a leap of faith and trust her. Would she be happy to keep her phone on if you can resist keeping tabs on her? Arrange to do something special yourself, with your own friends, to avoid wallowing in a negative imagination. Organise special times of your own with your girlfriend and her son. BOYFRIEND'S SO AFRAID OF BEING NAKED DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend says the reason we haven't had sex for a while is because he doesn't like being naked. And when we do have sex, he puts his pants on immediately after. I am 23 and he is 25. We have been together for six months. He is always telling me how much he loves me, but he never shows me that he does. I want to have sex with him, but it's not happening. I'm not the slimmest and have my own body image issues, but they don't stop me wanting sex. I love him. He's fit and very attractive. I have told him he's drop-dead gorgeous, but I can't help but think he may be going off me. How do I tell him that this situation is weird, without it causing an argument. What kind of man is afraid of being naked in private? DEIDRE SAYS: How sad. It may be that he's suffering from shyness. Tell him you love his body, and let him know there's no reason for him to feel embarrassed or awkward. It's positive that he tells you how much he loves you. Keep telling him how gorgeous he is – and not just when you want sex. Suggest sharing all-over body massages, which will get you physically close and boost both your libidos. My support pack on Reviving A Man's Sex Drive will help too. HE KICKED OFF WHEN I BROUGHT MY FELLA HOME DEAR DEIDRE: I FELT like a naughty child when my brother told me off for letting my boyfriend stay the night in my room, even though I am 32. My boyfriend is 34 and we have been dating for seven months after meeting online. It's not like my brother doesn't know him. This particular night we'd been out at the pub for a meal and a drink, had a great time and my boyfriend walked me home. It was late and it made perfect sense for him to stay the night. Me and my brother share the house which was left to us when our dad died almost a year ago. My brother is 37. He accused us of keeping him awake all night, which simply wasn't true – we hadn't been 'up to anything' and we fell asleep as soon as we got into bed. I am disappointed in my brother because he then let other members of the family know. I accused him of being petty and that he had no right to tell anyone, but he just said they would have found out anyway. After thinking about it, I realise I perhaps should have asked my brother if it was OK for my boyfriend to stay over, but it was a spur-of-the-moment decision. I didn't mean to upset him. He thinks that because no man ever came to the house when our dad was alive, it should continue. He is not your parent. Can you rearrange the shared living spaces so you both can have more privacy while living under one roof? It would also be a good idea to discuss boundaries around overnight visitors so that you both are on the same page. My support pack Standing Up For Yourself could also help.
Yahoo
a day ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Man Is Upset His Girlfriend Texts Another Guy, Who Sends Her 'Mostly Selfies and Memes': 'It Just Makes Me Uncomfortable'
A man wrote in a post on Reddit that his girlfriend's texting habits with another guy are making him upset He said the other guy sends "selfies and memes" and has "an over 320-day Snapchat streak" with his girlfriend The man said his girlfriend now "thinks I'm being cold and distant for no reason" because he is "uncomfortable"A man is upset that his girlfriend is exchanging messages with another a post on Reddit's "Am I the A------" forum, the man, 22, said he and his 21-year-old girlfriend of almost two years are having issues because of her texting habits. The man said he and his girlfriend reunited a year ago after being on a break, but a month after they got back together, he discovered that she was texting a guy on Discord, who was sending her "selfies and memes." "Now she has an over 320-day Snapchat streak with this guy and sends him pictures of her dog," he wrote. The man added that the text message exchanges made him 'uncomfortable.' After learning about the text messages, the man said he addressed the situation with his girlfriend, and she offered to block the other guy. 'I said I wouldn't force her, but imagine if it was the other way around, and she agreed she wouldn't like that,' he wrote. Still, the man said his girlfriend has not cut off contact with the other guy. He admitted that he has since 'been a little quieter and showed my displeasure in subtle ways," and his girlfriend now "thinks I'm being cold and distant for no reason.' As he asked if he was wrong for being upset with his girlfriend, most Reddit users sympathized with the man, but suggested that he needed to be more direct with his girlfriend rather than 'go sulky and silent.' One commentator wrote, 'I would talk about the fact that you even need to tell her to block him in the first place, it should be a no-brainer to anyone who wants a serious relationship.' is now available in the Apple App Store! Download it now for the most binge-worthy celeb content, exclusive video clips, astrology updates and more! Another agreed that the relationship was compromised since the man has 'to question where her boundaries are, and that she doesn't seem to care how this affects you.' One other person, meanwhile, said the man should simply move on. 'Extricate yourself from this love triangle,' they wrote. Read the original article on People
Washington Post
2 days ago
- General
- Washington Post
Asking Eric: Husband's ex keeps posting photos of him on social media
Dear Eric: An old high school girlfriend of my husband's (more than 40 years) creates social media posts about him and tags him, including photos of him or of the two of them together. In my husband's defense, he has always responded or reacted appropriately with only a short neutral comment or reaction.
The Sun
3 days ago
- Health
- The Sun
My girlfriend had sex with a man who loves S&M & now she wants me to treat her like dirt and call her a s**t during sex
1 DEAR DEIDRE: MY on-off girlfriend and I recently got back together and everything was going brilliantly until she started to ask me to belittle her during sex. We'd had a good sex life before, nothing wild, but it was far from boring. Still, her request completely threw me - mostly because it's an unwelcome reminder of her x-rated antics while we were apart. I know she had a couple of flings but there was one guy who she was with for a couple of months and he was into everything - sex parties, S&M, the lot. My girlfriend told me she doesn't have feelings for him but has admitted they had "a lot of fun in the bedroom together". So now when she asks me to call her derogatory names - all I can think is that she is imagining this other bloke. It's killing me. The other problem is that she now says she can't get sexually excited unless I call her names, or role play being her pimp, but the whole thing is a complete turn-off for me. She literally begs me to call her worthless or a filthy sl*t. She wants me to dominate completely in the bedroom. The last time we had sex, I felt so uncomfortable but managed to call her 'dirty'. Afterwards she told me it wasn't enough. She complains I'm not convincing enough, and I hated every second of it. I love her, so why on earth would I want to treat her like dirt? But what does our long term relationship look like if I can't give her what she wants sexually? I'm worried she thinks I'm boring and unadventurous and that she may even be re-thinking getting back together with me. DEIDRE SAYS: Your girlfriend has developed a kink after being introduced to being belittled in the bedroom by another partner. Half-heartedly going along with her new demands, in the hope the issue will somehow miraculously resolve itself, is unrealistic. Talk to your girlfriend and let her know why this new development makes you feel so uncomfortable. Dear Deidre: Understanding why your man's gone off sex Explore if there is a compromise to be had while making sure you are outlining your boundaries. But also know there is nothing boring about caring for your girlfriend. You have your preferences and have every right to own them with pride. Nobody - male or female - should ever do anything that makes them uncomfortable just to keep their partner happy. You have a right to refuse to degrade her, and if she loves you she will accept your decision. If she doesn't, it suggests she cares more about her own sexual thrills than your feelings. My support pack, Standing Up For Yourself, should help. Perhaps you could experiment with other sexual activities which are kinky but not degrading. If you can't find a compromise or other ways to enjoy your sexual connection, I'm sorry but you may have to accept that she is not the girl for you. My support pack Kinky Sex Worries explains more. Dear Deidre's Kinky Sex Files Deidre's mailbag is stashed full with kinky dilemmas. One reader started questioning everything after learning about her husband's disturbing kink; a different subscriber wrote in because his wife blamed his sexual kinks for her affair, while one man struggled to communicate his discomfort about his wife's extreme fantasies. The Kinky Truth No form of sharing physical pleasure and satisfaction is wrong between a loving couple, as long as both are participating willingly and with genuine enjoyment, and as long as neither of you is being hurt, either physically or emotionally. If something is sexually off putting for one partner but a turn on for another, it won't help to tag it as dirty or perverted. What one of us finds erotic, another finds degrading. What one thinks of as stimulating and erotic, another rejects as pornographic and disgusting. It helps enormously when trying to sort out this kind of issue as a couple not to start taking moral standpoints and judging one another, but to see it as a practical problem you need to negotiate your way around. What actually matters here is that you don't want to do it. If you'd only do it under pressure, then it cannot be fun or pleasurable for you. That's not to say it isn't worth trying some new things that might be pushing the boundaries for you. If the rest of your relationship is a strong one then you may surprise yourself and find you are wonderfully turned on by the very thing you have never dared try. At the least, even if you don't enjoy everything you try, you may find you and your partner can now enjoy enough variation to take the heat out of the conflict. In fact, serious conflicts over sex usually come down to a problem in the relationship generally. If you are with a partner who really loves you, they aren't going to want to upset you by pressing for out-of-the ordinary sex that you find distasteful or worrying. If this is causing a great deal of conflict between you, it's well worth while making an appointment to see a counsellor to find out what is really at issue and how it can be resolved. By Sally Land, The Sun's Agony Aunt. Get in touch with the Dear Deidre team Every problem gets a personal reply from one of our trained counsellors. Sally Land is the Dear Deidre Agony Aunt. She achieved a distinction in the Certificate in Humanistic Integrative Counselling, has specialised in relationships and parenting. She has over 20 years of writing and editing women's issues and general features. Passionate about helping people find a way through their challenges, Sally is also a trustee for the charity Family Lives. Her team helps up to 90 people every week. Sally took over as The Sun's Agony Aunt when Deidre Sanders retired from the The Dear Deidre column four years ago. The Dear Deidre Team Of Therapists Also Includes: Kate Taylor: a sex and dating writer who is also training to be a counsellor. Kate is an advisor for dating website OurTime and is the author of five self-help books. Jane Allton: a stalwart of the Dear Deidre for over 20 years. Jane is a trained therapist, who specialises in family issues. She has completed the Basic Counselling Skills Level 1, 2, and 3. She also achieved the Counselling and Psychotherapy (CPCAB) Level 2 Certificate in Counselling Studies. Catherine Thomas: with over two decades worth of experience Catherine has also trained as a therapist, with the same credentials as Jane. She specialises in consumer and relationship issues. Fill out and submit our easy-to-use and confidential form and the Dear Deidre team will get back to you. 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