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Yahoo
20 hours ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
New Book Unearths Secrets Involving Clint Eastwood's Marriage to Maggie Johnson
Clint Eastwood was married to Maggie Johnson from 1953 to 1984, but according to a new book, the Dirty Harry legend wasn't faithful. Far from it. 'By many accounts, including his own, he more or less comported himself as if he were a bachelor,' Shawn Levy writes in Clint: The Man and the Movies. Levy claims Maggie knew all about her husband's wandering eye and says Clint reportedly told Photoplay magazine in 1963, 'One thing Mag had to learn about me was that I was going to do as I pleased. She had to accept that, because if she didn't, we wouldn't be married.' Clint is also quoted as adding, 'I'm independent … and [Maggie] accepts me as I am and doesn't strangle me with female possessiveness.' Years later, Clint told Playboy that he thought Maggie was 'a woman who knows how much room I need.' In his book, Levy says Clint would pick up women in his acting classes, on the studio lots where he was working and even in the apartment complex where he lived with Maggie. The Rawhide star's dalliances even produced children: He and stuntwoman Roxanne Tunis had daughter Kimber Lynn in 1964. Clint also had a longtime romance with Sondra Locke, whom he cast in his 1975 Western, The Outlaw Josey Wales. Their affair ended in 1989. Sondra writes in her 1997 autobiography, The Good, the Bad, and the Very Ugly: A Hollywood Journey, that she had had two abortions and a tubal ligation because he didn't want any more children — a fact Clint denies. Sondra also claims Clint had told her that 'there was no real relationship left' between him and Maggie. The pair divorced in 1984 after 31 years of marriage. Solve the daily Crossword
News.com.au
a day ago
- Entertainment
- News.com.au
Can't get enough of the Coldplay cheating scandal? You're not alone
Cheating scandals have always been top tier gossip fodder, but the response to the Coldplay 'kiss cam' affair has exposed a wild 'cheating' trend that is blowing up marriages. Andy Byron, the married CEO of software company Astronomer, resigned from his high-flying tech role after being publicly outed for seemingly having a fling with his co-worker Kristin Cabot. Meanwhile Ms Cabot, who is also married, is currently on leave from her HR manager job. But it's not just their careers taking a hit, with the pair likely both facing the music at home after being caught together at the Gillette Stadium near Boston, in the US, on Wednesday night. The very public fall out from the viral moment has become a global topic of conversation, so huge that one person even lied about being Mr Byron's daughter, presumably to cash in on the ferocious appetite for new information on the sorry affair. But the act of straying while in a committed relationship is nothing new, in fact the culture of infidelity dates back to when civilisation first began – so what is it about this particular case that has the whole world hooked? To date, the original video – posted by fellow concertgoer Grace Springer – has been viewed over 30 million times, with thousands of reshares also clocking up staggeringly high figures. But it's what happens in the 15-second clip that holds the secret to why everyone is so obsessed, Melbourne psychologist Carly Dober explains. Why we're so obsessed with the Coldplay 'cheating' scandal 'This story has all the elements of drama and spectacle,' she told 'The initial video is quite comedic even when you don't know the background of the people, so this would arguably have been somewhat of a viral moment anyway. 'Then the background story of the attendees makes it so much more dramatic, with a high profile CEO allegedly engaging in this behaviour with a colleague.' Ms Dober, the clinic owner at Enriching Lives Psychology, said the fact that infidelity touches many people's lives at some point will have played a part in the public's obsession with the story. 'Many people have been hurt by, engaged in, or know someone who has been cheated on, so it is a tale many people are familiar with,' she explained. 'But with the added spectacle of a CEO losing their job for this behaviour, it feels a lot more high stakes than other videos that have gone viral. 'People are also highly curious and the clip evokes a number of different feelings, 'Would I be able to predict if this was my partner?', 'What if this happens to me?' 'It touches on some very vulnerable thoughts people might have.' Lauren Muratore, an accredited psychosexual therapist from Melbourne, agrees stating that stories of adultery resonate because they touch deep psychological nerves. 'Cheating is just a phenomenon that people are very interested with as a lot of people have been cheated on or have cheated on somebody, not everyone, but evidence says approximately 30 to 70 per cent of people have engaged in infidelity. So if that's the case, such a global story will touch us and bring up some feelings,' she told The director of the Integrated Sex + Relationship clinic went on to explain that cheating scandals activate innate fears around abandonment, broken trust and betrayal. 'To be so publicly exposed, that would have felt quite awful, and I guess the viewer is watching that and tapping into how they're feeling about that, then also making a judgment.' Interestingly, both Ms Dober and Ms Muratore noted that 'the moment would've likely been forgotten and maybe not even spoken about had they just played it cool', but it was their panicked reactions that made the video so compelling. Wild 'cheating' trend blowing up marriages The clip's popularity also exposes a wild 'cheating' trend that has been booming in popularity recently, which sees social media users outing strangers whom they've seemingly caught in the act. The Coldplay 'kiss cam' cheating scandal is the latest in a long line of videos that have clocked up millions of views by those who post them. But the clips, some of which often promote a virtual witch-hunt as internet sleuths attempt to identify the 'cheaters' involved, also simultaneously destroy marriages and relationships in the process – and this is often forgotten or ignored by those in the public domain. 'Being exposed like this can leave the person who has been betrayed feeling embarrassed and publicly humiliated,' Ms Dober explained. 'Knowing your partner is not respecting you and their relationship can be awfully difficult to deal with, but even more so when everyone on the internet knows your business. 'We also don't know the mental health and emotional resilience levels of the person who is filmed which could have dangerous consequences.' Kiss cam victim speaks out Deyvi Andrade, who was outed for cheating on a kiss cam while attending the Barcelona soccer match against Delfin in January 2020, spoke previously about the havoc the viral footage of him locking lips with another woman caused. 'You don't know the psychological damage you have caused with your hatred directed at me,' Mr Andrade said after the widely-criticised moment amassed millions of views. 'I hope you never have to be in my position. 'I am really sorry and this is why I've come out in public to comment on this nonsense, so I can ask (my partner) to forgive me.' Why we're angry at those who get caught Outrage surrounding these moments, including that now infamous clip of Mr Byron and Ms Cabot, also highlights societal expectations surrounding monogamy. 'There are definitely still very strong social expectations about appropriate behaviour in monogamous relationships,' Ms Dober told 'People are also naturally very curious about other peoples relationships, especially when they can be something so fundamentally hurtful such as. 'Those who have stepped outside their relationship may also find the story very interesting and consider how they would respond if their cheating was shared at this scale.' While the debacle as been undeniably entertaining, the experts urge people to remember the people not in the video who have been affected, such as the extended family and their significant others. 'I've seen many cases where this sort of a 'witch hunt', actually is part of the trauma for the person who was deceived,' Ms Muratore said. 'That's a really, really awful thing to go through. And you know, does the truth set us free? Do these people want to know the information? Is it right? These are all such massive moral dilemmas to consider when exposing a cheater.' Ms Springer has since spoken out about her guilt surrounding the global reaction to her video, stating, 'a part of me feels bad for turning these people's lives upside down'. 'I had no idea who the couple was. Just thought I caught an interesting reaction to the kiss cam and decided to post it,' she said. 'I hope their partners can heal from this and get a second chance at the happiness they deserve with their future still in front of them.'
The Sun
a day ago
- Entertainment
- The Sun
Subtle signs your partner is having an affair – from shut eyes during sex to Wi-Fi error that instantly catches them out
AFTER a clip of a couple seemingly being caught out in their affair by a kiss cam at a Coldplay gig went viral, how must their partners feel? Tech CEO Andy Byron and his company's HR chief Kristin Cabot leapt apart at the Boston gig, red-faced - clearly embarrassed and panicked. 6 6 6 It is reportedly Byron who has a wife and children, while Cabot is divorced from her ex-husband. One can only imagine how Byron's wife must feel - discovering her husband's illicit relationship in such a public way. Most of the time, the signs of an affair are far more subtle. 'Infidelity doesn't always come with lipstick on the collar or suspicious late-night texts,' says Annabelle Knight, a psychosexual therapist and couples' coach. 'Sometimes, the signs are subtle little shifts in behaviour that trigger that something feels 'off'.' Here, she reveals seven subtle signs that your other half might be unfaithful… THEY SHUT THEIR EYES DURING SEX 6 An affair can change your partner's bedroom behaviour in one of two ways. Some lose interest in sex because they're emotionally checked out. If your partner's started something new with someone else, they may avoid being intimate with you. But often the illicit excitement can boost a partner's sex drive. It can make them want you more or become more adventurous, either out of guilt or because it has boosted their confidence between the sheets. They might also be distant in bed, such as stopping looking at you during sex as they might be reliving their last encounter, or take longer to climax. If it feels 'different', pay attention. THEIR FRIENDS GIVE YOU THE COLD SHOULDER Are your partner's friends, family or colleagues giving you a wide, awkward berth? It might be because they know your partner is up to no good and are scared of letting it slip. Guilt forces cheats to confide in people and rely on them for alibis. So a sudden cold-shouldering could be a sign. Similarly if your partner is shutting you out day-to-day, confiding in others and not sharing details of their day or being vague about their schedule, their affections could lay elsewhere. A NEW DEVICE HAS JOINED YOUR WIFI We all deserve privacy. But if your partner used to casually leave their phone around and now it's always face-down, locked, or glued to their hand - even in the loo - then it could be a sign they're hiding something. Likewise, if you notice them pinging you a WhatsApp message and then swiftly deleting it before you can read it, it might imply they sent it to the wrong person… In some cases, sneaky cheats will invest in a second phone they keep in their car or stuffed somewhere like their gym bag. Check your wifi router to see if any new devices have joined your network. THEIR SOCIAL MEDIA STATUS SUGGESTS SINGLE A cheat's social media accounts will rarely mention their partner. They either want to look like they are single or they don't want to annoy their lover with mentions of the wife and kids. Likewise, their WhatsApp profile icon might suddenly switch from a cute couples shot to them alone – or even no picture at all. Tag your partner in a photo of the two of you and see how they respond. If they like it and reply, this is a good sign. If they ignore it or delete it, start looking for clues in their friends lists. THEY ARE LOOKING HOT 6 New clothes, new aftershave, a sudden interest in getting fit can be red flags. If this glow-up came out of nowhere and isn't tied to a birthday, promotion, health news or something else tangible then it might be about impressing someone else. And if they insist on washing these new clothes themselves, where previously they were allergic to doing laundry, take note. Cheats prefer to scrub out suspicious stains before you sniff out the dirty truth. Tell them the washing machine is on the blink and offer to take their load to the laundrette, then watch the whites of their eyes widen in panic. THEY PICK FIGHTS Emotional distance often leads to nit-picking or irritability. Why? Because guilt and frustration need somewhere to go. If small things are suddenly causing big drama, it could be a projection of their own unease. If you feel as though there's been an uptick in arguments then your partner may be hiding something. In some cases, they might even project their bad behaviour onto you and accuse you of cheating. This could be as a way of gaslighting to shift suspicion or to give them a reason to storm out and visit their fling. YOUR GUT JUST KNOWS 6 It sounds unscientific, but psychological studies show our intuition often picks up on subtle behavioural changes before our brain catches up. If something feels off, don't ignore that inner voice - it's a lot smarter than you give it credit for. But also remember that while these signs could suggest cheating, they might point to stress, low mood or some other personal change. Use this as a cue to talk honestly and encourage them to open up. A healthy relationship should feel open, safe, and honest. If it doesn't? That's a red flag all on its own. Four red flags your partner is cheating Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating. They start to take their phone everywhere with them In close relationships, it's normal to know each other's passwords and use each other's phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something. Aaron says: "If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful." "You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something." They start telling you less about their day When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you. "If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don't want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag." "Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it's an easy way to get caught out," says Aaron. Their libido changes Your partner's libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron. Aaron says: "Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren't there before." They become negative towards you Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify. "To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven't walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating," warns Aaron.
Times
2 days ago
- Entertainment
- Times
The Coldplay kiss cam saga? There's more!
Obviously I know there are more important things in this world than the Coldplay kiss cam infidelity-in-action story. It's just that I don't really care. I mean, I do! Of course I care. About death and war and climate change and corruption. I care about them hugely… For the five or so minutes between me realising there's been another incredibly minor yet also absolutely crucial update in the Coldplay kiss cam story. Because this is the single most mesmerising news story on the planet right now, and I know you feel that too, so don't even try it. A summary — for the non-existent group of people who don't yet know what I'm talking about. During a Coldplay concert in the Gillette Stadium in Massachusetts last Wednesday, a camera trained on the audience zoomed in on a particular couple: leaning against each other and swaying, caught up entirely in the music and the magic of the night and one another. Those images were then projected on to the vast screens that surround the stage. On realising they'd been caught in such candid intimacy, this couple did not (as tradition dictates) embrace the moment and one another, doubling down on their closeness and turning to kiss… But, rather, turned their backs and frenziedly ducked out of shot. 'Either they're having an affair or they're just very shy,' pronounced Chris Martin, lead singer of Coldplay, one half of a historic 'conscious uncoupling' (from his former wife, Gwyneth Paltrow), from the stage. Which do you think it was? A rhetorical question yet again, partly because we all know! He is Andy Byron, the married millionaire chief exec of the data company Astronomer (until Saturday anyway, when he resigned). She is Kristin Cabot, head of its human resources. Also married. But mainly because it was so incredibly obvious as it happened. • Tech CEO resigns after Coldplay embrace with HR boss So here we all are. Obsessing over it. Thinking and talking about little else. At best, at our most human, feeling a bit sorry for them — the exposure! — considerably sorrier yet for their respective wife and husband and their kids. But mainly revelling in it, because: this story has everything. Doesn't it? An incredibly neat, made-for-Netflix-type narrative — lives turn on a dime, in public (and Chris Martin's involved). It's got the kind of unnuanced black-and-white morality we can all support, because combing through the knotty braids of actual modern morality, wading our way through all that damn grey? That's such hard work, and always so inconclusive! Busted cheating in public, on the other hand, is not. We the multitudinous observers are now allowed to feel either a giddy, thrilling frisson of 'there but for the grace of God go I' or righteous fury, depending on our life choices. And its got rich people, which means, even if we do feel ever-so-fleetingly sorry for Byron and Cabot, we can stop now. Serves them right — for the cheating, sure, but also for having more stuff than we do, and nicer hols. It's got Coldplay, which adds something elusive but palpable, because Coldplay are so wholesome, so mainstream, so not affairy. Also because we all pretend we don't like Coldplay, yet we actually long to see them live (everyone says they're amazing live). It's got the work-fling angle, the classic trope that we'd feared modern dating and the apps and MeToo had eliminated, but apparently not; and last but by no means least, and in relation to that, it's got human resources! This is perhaps my personal favourite element of the story. Cabot, who is presumably charged with making sure things like this simply do not happen at Astronomer, not ever, who is part of a larger cultural movement intent on making Christmas parties less fun for all, is breaking every last rule she ever implemented, live, and in front of Chris Martin! Never mind those pressing questions newly raised regarding the legitimacy of her promotion to head of Astronomer's HR in November 2024, an appointment Byron himself heralded as rewarding 'Kristin's exceptional leadership and deep expertise in talent management'. Which is inviting a joke too prurient for even me to make, so I shan't. Are the alarms from stolen Lime bikes the sound of the summer? The Guardian thinks so — it has even named the beep, beep, beep they emit as they're ridden around by some tyke refusing to pay the initial £1 to unlock them, never mind the subsequent 27p a mile to ride, 'Hackney birdsong'. I am inclined to agree — though I take issue with the geographical specificity. I've been calling it the 'sound of Archway' for months now, because that's where I live, and that beep, beep, beep — often accompanied by an infernal clicking — reliably fills the air of my postcode, every late afternoon, around the time of school kick-out. And I suppose it'll only get worse and more sustained now that school has broken up. Oh dear. It's become the No 1 sensory assault of minor illegality round my way, more intrusive even than the lingering smell of weed (which I call 'Archway's signature scent' or 'Arome d'Archway'). To be fair, I find it and its perpetrators marginally less annoying than those middle-aged men on insanely overpriced bikes, clad in full Lycra, who suddenly seem oblivious to the notion the Highway Code might apply to them too, with specific reference to their never, ever stopping at pedestrian crossings. They can't! Because they've got a PB to improve upon, and they're saving the planet anyway, and also they're never going to die. Not them. Too fit. Far fitter than they were at 20. So they'll just speed on through, whoosh past any poor soul attempting to dash across a road, in those paltry designated seconds of paused traffic, because who cares about them?
Yahoo
2 days ago
- Yahoo
Dear Abby: My daughter blames me for HER infidelity
DEAR ABBY: When my daughter, 'Trish,' and her husband separated, I reached out to each of them for occasional check-ins. Trish left him after confessing to infidelity via email. He messaged me with a copy of what she'd written, which included some damning things about me — that she was 'like' me and that I am 'not a good person.' She never forgave me for crossing the line with a longtime friend decades ago. My husband owned his part in the situation, and we've moved past it. Apparently, she has not. Although Trish and her husband reconciled briefly, she's moved out again and plans to divorce him. I've offered to go to counseling with her if that would help, but I don't know if she knows I know what she said about me. My son-in-law apologized when he realized what that revelation must've felt like. He shouldn't have shared her email without permission, but it can't be undone now. My daughter is cordial but guarded when we occasionally speak. She lives far away. Should I tell her I know what she said about me, and hope she sees it as an opportunity to get to the bottom of issues between us? Do I continue to reach out in love and compassion, not knowing if she's still holding this grudge, showing her that I love and forgive her, regardless of our mistakes in the past? — IMPERFECT MOM IN FLORIDA DEAR MOM: Amid the turmoil in her marriage, your daughter attempted to blame her infidelity on the example you set for her during her impressionable years. Her husband may have shared what she had written in an attempt to damage her relationship with you, which would be not only unkind, but also manipulative. I don't know what other issues you have with your daughter, but I see nothing to be gained at this point by telling her you know what she said. Bide your time. DEAR ABBY: My 15-year-old grandson races BMX bicycles. Last year, he had a traumatic brain injury and had to be medevaced to a pediatric hospital. Once he recovered, he went right back to racing. Last week, he crashed and damaged both of his kidneys. He's in intensive care as I write this. We don't know how long he'll be there or if he will need dialysis afterward. His parents plan to drive him right back to the BMX track the minute he recovers! I think they are extremely irresponsible. I've read that 15-year-olds aren't able to assess risk properly. What can I do to stop this? — CONCERNED GRANDMA IN THE SOUTH DEAR CONCERNED: There is an adage that suggests if someone falls off a horse, they should get right back on. However, when it comes to life-threatening accidents, common sense tells me the circumstances should not be repeated. That your grandson is now contemplating returning to racing is shocking. That his parents would encourage it seems irresponsible. That said, there is nothing you can do to prevent the boy from risking his life, so start praying. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. Solve the daily Crossword
