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a day ago
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Burnt-Out Mom Leaves Family Vacation Early—and Sparks a Debate
Is this an unnecessary peace out, or protecting your peace? While parental stress season lasts year-round, it can really kick into high gear during the summertime. The irony is, it's often due to the very thing that's supposed to give us a recharge: family vacation. Even if you do plan the perfect trip six months in advance, the unpredictable is bound to happen—especially when young kids are in the picture. And it can cause a domino effect that sends everything spiraling. But what if you could it? Tap out. Call the game. Pull the plug. Whatever cliche you want to use to say you're leaving vacation early, you as a parent actually do have that power. One mom who was stressed out during a recent family trip with her in-laws shares how she remembered her "Eject Button" and pressed it hard. Abort Mission Kelly Hubbell, a 37-year-old mom of three (ages 6, 4, and 2), went on Instagram to explain how her family spends a few weeks at a lake house every summer with her husband's family. She writes that they love being there and spending time together, but it's "a lot to juggle." That's because they are traveling with young kids for over seven hours, including a flight, a car ride, and a ferry. But on this year's trip, Hubbell says that she was sick, which of course, depletes the energy and patience meters quickly. "Our youngest learned to crawl out of the pack + play. We were away from our usual routines. And after a 6-hour BBQ with three kids under six running in three different directions (in an extremely water safety hazard environment), I hit my limit," Hubble writes. So they left and went back home, five days early (which was on day 12 of their trip). In an interview with Today, Hubble says her husband "was disappointed and I know he felt guilty about it, but he understood.' Her in-laws? She says they're "taking it personally." Despite this, says she has no regrets about the decision, writing in the Instagram caption, "Despite what mom guilt propaganda might tell you, you ARE allowed to protect your peace." She adds that when one parent is running on empty (even during family vacation), everyone looses. "The only way your family thrives is when you do. When you are rested. When you are supported. When you have a system that actually works." Opinions Are Strong, but Mixed As for the responses in the comments, they are, of course, full of very strong opinions about this mom's decision. Granted, full context is lacking; and we don't hear any other perspectives about the trip. But it didn't stop commenters from giving their two cents. Many applaud Hubble for her agency: "12 days is about 10 days longer than I can stay with anyone. Family or Friend. You did good mom!" empathizes one responder. "On my way home now early from the same situation. Go us," writes another. "You totally did the exact right thing. Self-care then family care! If you're exhausted, then everyone else is missing out on your best you," comments someone else. But other commenters aren't so rosy about how it went down. "You're the problem," writes one commenter, bluntly. "You would never let your husband pull this stunt if it was your parents lake house," another assumes. A commenter who isn't so definitive responds in part with, "I'm on the fence. I get why you left. But from the end result I'm assuming there was no game plan between you and your husband before you left." Continue To Count the Cost As parents and as adults, we're constantly counting the cost of our actions—even when we don't necessarily have options to weigh. While it can be a really hard for some of us to put ourselves first (mentally, physically, and emotionally), the cost of not doing so will eventually catch up with us. This is especially true for those of us who feel obligated to please others. I can't say that's what this mom was feeling when on this trip, but she certainly didn't have enough in the emotional bank account to stay. So I can't blame her for wanting to leave. However, I do wonder if there could've been a more cost-effective way to handle this with her husband, either before they arrived or before they left. Not knowing exactly how the conversation went down or what other options were on the table, it's tough to draw too many conclusions like those in the comments. Twelve days is a long time, though. Was the length of stay discussed between mom and dad? Did other family members offer to ease some of the burden? Was mom accepting of help? These are answers we likely won't get. But having been in somewhat similar situations with my own family in the past, I can say there is often at least some compromises that can be made with good communication. Either way, it's absolutely true that self-care is important—for you and for your family. And getting there might require making a quick withdrawal. Read the original article on Parents Solve the daily Crossword
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2 days ago
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Tired mom leaves vacation with in-laws early to ‘protect her peace' — and doesn't have any regrets
Kudos to this mom. Spending too much time with in-laws can drive anyone bananas — let alone for a few weeks. One woman took to social media to share that while on an annual family vacation with her husband's side of the family, she decided to leave early and never look back. Kelly Hubbell is a mom of three children, all under the age of seven. The 37-year-old and her family recently trekked up to a lakefront home in upstate New York — which required a 5-hour flight, 2-hour drive and a ferry from Oregon — to spend time with her husband's family. Everyone was all under one roof — which meant Hubbell and her family of five were crammed into one bedroom for what was supposed to be 17 long days. The scene sounded just as chaotic as one would imagine — hyper kids running all around, dealing with in-laws of all kinds and being far away from home. By day 12 — Hubbell had had enough and it didn't help that she was also feeling under the weather. 'I was just feeling really overwhelmed,' Hubbell told So, the 37-year-old packed up her kids and decided to leave the family vacay a few days early. 'And every year, I try to show up with a smile and make it work, not because we don't love being there, but because it's a lot to juggle,' she explained in her Instagram post caption. '…I hit my limit. So we left. (On day 12 mind you). Five days early. No apology. No regret,' she continued. Hubbell was well aware that her husband was bummed and her extended family might gossip about her early deperture but the inspiring mom put herself first — something many women often struggle doing. 'Despite what mom guilt propaganda might tell you, you ARE allowed to protect your peace.' This mom isn't the only one who reached her breaking point on this type of trip. A survey of 2,000 US travelers pointed out that 34% of people don't consider visiting family as a real 'vacation.' 71% of the survey participants said they often feel like they need a vacation from their family vacation to truly unwind and relax. Six in 10 travelers admit to enoying the quality time with friends and family — but they are often left feeling exhausted by the end. Solve the daily Crossword
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4 days ago
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Mom Feels Overwhelmed on Vacation With In-Laws ... So She Leaves. Would You Do the Same?
After 12 days vacationing with her husband's family under one roof, with children ages 6, 4, and 2, Kelly Hubbell reached her breaking point. The kids were staying in one bedroom, fueled by ice cream and running on barely any sleep. Hubbell, 37, says she spent her days chasing toddlers around a lakefront property in upstate New York, gasping for a moment's breath. To make matters worse, she was sick. 'I was just feeling really overwhelmed,' Hubbell tells So, she left — and shared her decision on social media, to mixed reactions. With less than a week left, Hubbell chose not to stick it out and instead decided to fly back to Oregon. She asked her husband, Shane, to deliver the tough news to his parents that they would all be leaving. 'He was disappointed and I know he felt guilty about it, but he understood,' Hubbell reveals. Her in-laws, whom she says she loves, were less accepting. 'They're taking it personally,' she adds. Hubbell opened up about the early departure on Instagram, posting a candid video of herself and her kids aboard an airplane. In the post, she acknowledged that while Shane was 'bummed' and his family was still talking about the abrupt exit, she had no regrets about cutting the visit short. 'Despite what mom guilt propaganda might tell you, you ARE allowed to protect your peace,' Hubbell wrote. "(News flash: you don't get a medal for being the 'easygoing' one.) Because when you're running on empty, everyone loses.' She says that when mom is 'running on empty' the impact ripples through the whole family: Tantrums escalate and joy is harder to come by. 'You're allowed to say: 'This isn't working.' 'I need support.' 'We're going home,'' she continued. 'The only way your family thrives is when you do.' Hubbell's position struck a nerve, prompting a wider conversation and a wave of mixed reactions. Some applauded her for speaking openly about burnout and boundaries; others viewed her departure as selfish. 'So because you haven't learned to regulate your own emotions as a grown adult, the whole family had to suffer? This isn't a win, ma'am,' one person wrote. Other comments include: "I've done this twice on both sides of our family. Everyone ends up getting over it! Hurts in the moment but your sanity is most important to keep you and the littles alive.' 'You ruined your kids' trip, your husband's time with his (aging) parents, and made it weird for everyone else... because you were tired? That's not self-care. It's narcissism.' 'I probably would have just said 'all right, your turn' to my husband and then locked myself in a bedroom and read an entire book.' "Bravo for doing what worked for your family and your sanity." "It's perfectly acceptable to go home early. It's also OK to just stay home. Moms and parents are allowed to do whatever they need to do to remain sane.' 'On my way home now early from the same situation. Go us.' For Hubbell, the experience highlighted the need for greater empathy toward families traveling with young children, and the heavy mental load that usually falls on the primary parent, often the mom. 'We were at a six-hour barbecue, and I didn't have the luxury of sitting back with a cocktail and enjoying a grown-up conversation because I was constantly running after my kids,' she says. 'There were so many water hazards, and what I've found is, if everyone's watching your kid, no one really is.' She's hopeful that her in-laws will eventually sees things from her perspective. 'I adore them. We share so many moments of joy together,' she says. 'But it had become an unhealthy situation, and my anxiety was through the roof. Sometimes, you just have to stop people-pleasing. It's not selfish, it's protecting your peace." This article was originally published on Solve the daily Crossword
Yahoo
14-07-2025
- Lifestyle
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Woman Is Tired of Her In-Laws Referring to Her as 'Bougie' and 'City Slicker'
A woman says her in-laws refer to everything she does as "bougie" or "fancy" — and she doesn't know how to respond In a post on Reddit, the woman writes that her in-laws make "constant" comments about what she wears Now, she's seeking advice on how to handle the situationA woman says her in-laws refer to everything she does as "bougie" or "fancy" — and she's had enough. In a post shared to Reddit, she writes that her in-laws "grew up very poor," and admits she likes "nice things," but has worked hard to get where she is. "But my in-laws literally call everything that I do or everything that I buy bougie or fancy," she adds in the post. "If they said this once or twice then I would find it more playful, but it's CONSTANT. I'm talking every single time I see them, one of them makes this comment." She offers one example that took place during a recent vacation to a lake, when she didn't go swimming due to frigid temperatures. "My nephew says, 'She's not getting in cause she's a city slicker'…like what does not wanting to be cold have to do with being a city slicker??" she writes. "Which I am not. Like do I not live in the country in the same house as my husband?? I do." Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human-interest stories. In another recent instance, the woman visited a winery with her husband and in-laws and wore a "very simple maxi dress." Her sister-in-law immediately said she was "so fancy" and brought "enough bougie for the whole family." "If anyone else in the family gets something nice or new, nobody bats an eye and just is supportive and says normal things like, 'Wow that's nice,' or 'Congrats,' or whatever. It's only directed at me, which makes it feel like a put-down, especially since it happens every time I see them," she adds. She continues: "I truly don't understand why they do this and am looking for advice/opinions on how I should respond. I don't want them to know it bothers me because it'll either make them do it more or then I'm being sensitive. I've tried flat-out ignoring it but that hasn't worked, my husband has tried giving it back/leaning into it, but that hasn't stopped it either. I feel like I can't have anything nice or try to look nice, etc. around them or it's going to be ridiculed or judged and that's ridiculous." Other Reddit users are encouraging the woman to keep a distance from her in-laws. "Just limit interactions with people who have a chip on their shoulder," writes one commenter. Adds another: "Lean into being very bougie. What's wrong with it? Nothing. It's not my style but I totally think people should embrace what makes them happy. If they comment, I'd call them out." Read the original article on People
Yahoo
13-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
37 Terrible Wedding Guests Who Should've Been Uninvited
guest, who took off her shoes and kept them on the table (you know, where people eat) all night: guest, whose gift was certainly unique: guest, who tried to get guests to ditch the wedding and go to a karaoke bar: anonymous guest, who sent a letter to the bride quoting scripture and attacking her for her registry items: guest, who wrote this on one of the wooden hearts used in place of a guestbook: guest, an acquaintance of the bride and groom, who had a million demands: guest, who switched out their gift with someone else's so they looked better: in-laws to be, who protested the wedding by not attending and then gave this as a wedding gift: "guests," who weren't actually invited but showed up anyway: relative, who responded declining the invitation and advertising their MLM: guest, who brought their kid and then stole a high chair meant for another guest's kid: guest, who RSVPed with their 12-year-old son and foreign exchange student, who were not invited: mother of the bride, who ate wedding cake off her hand before the cake cutting: this guest, who helped themselves to the wedding cake even though it was just for the bride and groom: guest, who got naked at a friend's wedding: aunt of the groom, who wrote this letter calling the ceremony "tacky and tasteless": maid of honor, who probably should've dialed it down a bit: guest, who decided to make an offensive comment: uninvited guest, who posted all her dirty laundry with her sister online: brother of the groom, who gave a low-key threatening gift: guest, who was insisting on singing a wildly inappropriate song as a wedding "gift": guest, who literally asked the bride to move the wedding for her: this guest, who decided her nephew's wedding was the perfect place to advertise her MLM: guest, who tried to wear this to the wedding before the bride set him right: guest, who tried to bring her adult children to set them up with other guests: guest, who got angry they couldn't bring their unvaccinated kid: wedding guest, who wore white: mother of the groom, who complained throughout the entire event: this guest, who thought this was sweet and appropriate advice: maid of honor, who was wildly late: guest just read for yourself: plus one, who used a stranger's wedding as a performance venue: guest, who invited extra guests and asked for an extra meal, just 'cause: guest, who added FOUR people to their days AFTER the RSVP deadline: guest, who wore all-white and was wildly disruptive: guest, who also dressed like a bride: finally, this guest, who wore a white pantsuit to the wedding then got confused that they weren't in photos: What's the worst thing a guest did at your wedding? Let us know in the comments!
