13-07-2025
Woman Asks Husband to Acknowledge All the Housework She Does. But His Response Makes Things Worse
A 25-year-old woman told her husband that she feels "invisible" to him
She says she does everything around the house and he never thanks her or notices
However, he told her that she was "overreacting"A woman feels like her effort around the house isn't being adequately appreciated by her partner, leaving her to wonder if she is more like a "maid" than his wife.
On Reddit, the 25-year-old woman shared that she works part-time while studying online, and her 26-year-old husband works full-time.
The woman noted that she does all the housework, including cooking, doing the dishes, laundry, taking out the trash, buying groceries, and picking up after him — such as "cleaning his nasty beard trimmings off the sink" and "scrubbing the microwave after his spaghetti exploded."
"I don't expect a parade. I'm not asking for roses every time I mop the floor. But a 'thanks' wouldn't kill him, right? Or even just acting like he notices?" she writes. "The thing is, he doesn't. Like, at all. He just comes home, plops on the couch, and acts like the place magically cleans itself."
When she tries to bring up the things she has done around the house, her husband rarely even looks up from his phone.
"I told him calmly that I feel invisible. I told him it really messes with me, feeling like my effort means nothing. He said 'You're overthinking. It's not a big deal,'" she continues. "So the hours I spend trying to keep our life running... not a big deal."
The "real kicker" came the other day, when her mother-in-law visited. The woman cleaned for hours so her mother-in-law wouldn't have something to "comment on" like she "always" does.
"She walks in, looks around, then says, 'It's about time you started keeping the place tidy,'" she recalls. "I just stood there like what?"
The woman's husband just laughed at his mom's comment, as if it "was funny," and his wife "didn't just spend five hours bleaching grout for this woman."
His lack of support was her tipping point.
"I told him, 'I need you to start appreciating the work I put in. Because I'm drowning here. And the least you could do is not laugh when someone disrespects me in our own home,'" she recalls. "He rolled his eyes."
"Now he's been distant. Like I'm the problem. Like I created drama for no reason," she continues. "His mom? Still acting like she's queen of the damn castle. And me? I feel like a maid. A ghost maid."
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People in the comments of her post agreed that she did the right thing by standing up for herself, and assured her that "being single is not the worst thing in the world."
"I can't think you would want to waste any more time in this farce of a marriage," one user wrote.
Another commenter suggested that she stop doing things for him, writing, "Only clean up after yourself, wash your clothes only. Let him see how much you actually do by leaving his stuff to pile up! Cook only for yourself, too. Yes, he works full time, but you work part time and study and still manage to get everything done! Don't feel bad for not cooking and cleaning for him, let him learn!"
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