25-05-2025
Woman Who Lives Abroad Says Her Husband 'Won't Discuss' the Possibility of Returning Home: 'What Do I Do?'
A woman who lives abroad with her husband and daughter says she would ultimately like to move back to their home country in the U.K. now that they are "a little older"
She says that her husband, however, has no interest in moving back and 'won't discuss it'
The woman shared her story on the U.K.-based community site Mumsnet as she sought advice from her fellow community membersA woman who lives abroad says her husband 'won't discuss' the possibility of returning to their home country someday — and she's not sure how to move forward.
The woman shared her story in the 'Am I Being Unreasonable?' forum on the U.K.-based community site Mumsnet. In her post, the woman shares that she and her husband live in a 'beautiful place,' noting that they had a 'great time' living there when they were 'a bit younger.'
However, the woman says that they are now 'a little older (mid-40s),' and she's increasingly starting to think about the possibility of moving back to the U.K., where they are originally from.
The original poster (OP) says she has more job opportunities in the U.K., and that she'd ultimately like their daughter to go to school there. She also shares that she would ideally like 'to be around' for her parents as they age.
'The thought of being here when we're older and retired makes me feel uneasy,' she admits. 'I don't feel as secure as I'd like.'
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The problem? The woman says that her husband 'hates the thought of returning to the U.K.' and he 'won't discuss it.'
'What do I do?' the OP asks at the end of her post.
The vast majority of commenters said they appreciate that the OP is in a difficult situation — but also noted there are no easy solutions here.
'[Your husband] hasn't opted out of the conversation by the sounds of it,' said one person. 'He's clearly communicated that he doesn't want to return to the U.K. You can't make a decision for him, only for yourself.'
Another person said, 'I'm not sure what there is to discuss — you want to move, he doesn't. There isn't a solution that's going to make you both happy.'
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'You may have to accept that for now your life with your husband and child is where you are,' said someone else, adding, 'If you are set on moving, do that when your child is an adult and move alone if need be. You'll have to decide what is more important to you ... living with your husband [or] returning to [the] U.K.'
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