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16 hours ago
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19 Times People Realized They Got A "Shut Up" Ring And Their Partner Didn't Actually Want To Get Married
For a while now, the internet has gotten into a lot of discussions over "shut up" rings. A "shut up" ring refers to someone proposing just to appease their partner — but in reality, they don't actually want the commitment. The term was popularized by TikTok user Cecilia Regina (@ceciliaregina275) who has created several videos about the subject on her page. So, we recently asked the BuzzFeed Community to tell us the moment they realized they got a "shut up" ring. They shared the heartbreaking signs that their partner actually wasn't committed that they wish they knew before. Here's what they had to say: 1."My brother-in-law proposed to his girlfriend with a shut up ring. This was after they dated, broke up, got sort of back together, and went for couple's therapy. He gave her a ring and asked if she still wanted to get married. The weekend after they got engaged, her parents went to visit and celebrate with them (about a 400 km drive for her parents). He went off camping, alone, with his dog. He finally broke it off a month before their wedding." "I always had a weird feeling about their relationship, like something between them wasn't right. My BIL actually got a lot of support after breaking it off. Even the minister who was supposed to marry them told them that she didn't think they should get married. They are both now married to other people. My current SIL is definitely a better match for my BIL." —mjjk31314 2."The problem wasn't the shut-up ring — it's that I didn't realize that's what it was until after the divorce. My judgement was so clouded by how much I wanted it and that's how he kept it dangling in front of me on a string for as long as he did. I remember crying on Valentine's Day 2015 because in my head, I had made up that that would be our wedding day back in 2011, but we were still boyfriend and girlfriend and not doing anything for the day." "It made me feel so stupid that I'd even set a date like that in my head, but in retrospect, when you're in a relationship for four years when you're in your mid-20s and living together that long, having shared finances, and 'loving' each other is a natural progression, and I shouldn't have been ashamed to expect that. Well, I should have called it quits then, but I didn't. I thought we both wanted the same thing in the didn't. Didn't get married until 2019. Divorced in 2022. Eleven almost 12 years, man — one-third of my life! —grimchbettahavemymoney 3."We'd been dating about a year. I had mentioned marriage, but he wasn't feeling it. I went out to get Taco Bell for lunch and came home. He pulled out the ring and said, 'Thanks for the food.' I was thrilled at the time (I was 20), but looking back, it was definitely a shut up ring. We lasted eight years." —dtpapworth 4."I was young, around 20, and super naive. Unfortunately, I fell for a guy who was in a relationship with another woman and had two kids with her. They all lived in his parent's house. He left his family to be with me and moved into my house with my parents, leaving his baby mama to move out to her sister's house. For the year and a half we were together, he would cheat on me with her and vice versa — in addition to being extremely abusive, controlling, and manipulative. I eventually gave him an ultimatum, and my parents said he couldn't live in their house anymore. So, he drove me to the jeweler and asked me to pick out a ring because he 'chose' me." "I moved into his parent's house with him after that, in the space his little family used to live. I spent days deep cleaning it out and packing up their remaining things for our 'fresh start.' A week later, I found a messaging app on his phone that he was using to tell his baby mama that the proposal wasn't real, that she should know who he 'truly loves' (insinuating her), and that it wasn't an engagement ring that he gave me. I packed up all my things immediately and called my dad to tell him that I was finally done with this man. When he saw me waiting with my things packed, he threw my bags out of the house. I left, but months later, still reconnected with him. I realized that I had outgrown this mistake and finally cut him off for good. I found out nine months later that he died in a car accident from driving under the influence and crashing into a tractor-trailer that was pulled over on the highway due to a flat tire. I messaged the baby mama and asked if I could go to the funeral. She said yes, and we cried together there. I told her that it was time for her to finally be free and focus on herself. I think about her often." —vitamincc 5."I had a friend who really wanted to marry her boyfriend, and after several years, he finally gave her the 'shut up' ring. A few weeks later, he asked her if he could wash her ring for her. (He was a neat freak.) He dropped her ring down the drain and 'couldn't' recover it." "The ring was uninsured, and he didn't replace it. A couple of years later, she broke off their relationship and married someone else." —EventHorizon1028 6."The first sign was that he proposed with a ring pop. He thought it was hilarious when I started to cry after seeing it was a joke. Fast-forward a few months, he got me a real ring. It was being sized, and the jeweler called and told me it was ready. He freaked that they called me. Called the store and told them not to give it to me. Management got involved. It was humiliating. We broke up." —43, Missouri 7."Me and my boyfriend had been dating since the beginning of college, and he was more of the party, don't-give-a-f***-type, while I was more practical and organized. I always wanted a family, and he never really thought about the future. Fast-forward four years into our relationship, I was talking to one of my girlfriends on the phone, and she told me that her brother was getting married. She then asked when my boyfriend was finally going to propose to me, and I didn't have an answer — which worried me that I didn't have a clear future." "Afterwards I sat my boyfriend down and asked him what his plans for the future were (*cough, cough* marriage). He avoided the question and found an excuse to leave the room. The next moment, he gets on one knee. I said yes because I thought, 'Maybe he was being weird yesterday because he'd already planned this out, and he didn't want to give it away.' Nope. A month later, I was anonymously texted that he's been cheating on me for TWO years, and he only proposed so I'd stop being clingy, so he could get out to see her more. I fact-checked, and it was true." —26, Colorado 8."When after months of my pressing him to set a date, he picked the anniversary date of his wedding to his ex-wife. Right in the kisser!" —34, USA Calendar with red heart around fourteen number 9."We had been in a relationship for five years and had a child together; it seemed like the next natural step. About 10 months after the wedding, his side piece came to my job to let me know that they had been seeing each other for the majority of my relationship and the entirety of my marriage. I left and filed for divorce a week after our first anniversary. Afterward, they were married, and I began dating someone new. My ex and I fell into a comfortable pattern of co-parenting." "My phone rings one day, and it's his now-wife asking if I knew where he was because he hadn't come home from work and that she had been out looking for him. I couldn't believe her nerve that she wanted me to show her sympathy. It gave me so much pleasure to say to her, 'Sorry, you wanted him so bad that I gave him to you. Not my problem anymore, sweetheart!' Before hanging up the phone." —50, Michigan 10."I've struggled with mental health issues since before I met my husband. Three years, two kids, and one purchased house into our marriage, we had an argument while I was in the middle of a particularly nasty bout with depression and OCD. He complained that he always knew I would never change. I asked him why he had married me if he'd always felt that way. He said, 'I felt obligated.' Four years later, that answer still haunts me." "I can still hear the exact way he said it, right down to the venomous inflection in his voice, and the deafening, earth-shattering silence that followed. We're still married and have moved past that dark time, for the most part. But I'll carry that with me for the rest of my life." —32, California 11."He wasn't involved in actually planning the wedding except to tell me what he wanted, not what I could afford. A year into our marriage, he wouldn't celebrate our anniversary. We were married for 13 years, and three children later, we divorced, and I was still fooling myself that he cared for me. After the divorce, I took a hard look back to see that he never really wanted me in the first place." —66, USA 12."First words he said after giving me the ring were, 'Thank God that's over.'" —32, Virginia 13."My boyfriend kept moving the goalposts. First, it was when he graduated college, then when he got a career established, and then when he got a little more security. In the meantime, I was watching everyone around me get married, and I'll admit, I started dialing up the pressure for caring, and he got one." "The next several years, he deflected any wedding talk, quit his job, got involved in a Star Trek fanfic circle, and then, it became when he sold his script to Paramount. One night, he waited until I was at work, and he packed all his stuff and moved back into his parents' home. I gave up." —55, New York 14."When I walked in on him banging FIVE chicks at once. I took the ring off and threw it at him. One of the girls bit me. It was rough. Anyway, I ghosted him on what would have been our wedding day." —34, New York 15."We were together for four years, and when I turned 30, I told him I wanted to get married or there was no point in staying together if we were not moving forward. Eventually, two months later, he proposed to me. I was overjoyed, but immediately after, he told me that proposing was one thing, organizing a wedding was another one, and we would do that later. I picked the venue with his mom, and in the following months, he kept changing what he wanted for the big day: religious/non-religious, small/big, etc." "Eight months after the proposal and one year before the wedding, he told me out of the blue that he was leaving me for a 25-year-old girl from work who was like him because she didn't want to be married but just 'live the moment.' It was horrible." —32, France 16."He proposed on Christmas — the ring was my present. We'd been together two and a half years at that point, and I said I wasn't going to be a forever girlfriend. He was divorced, and I don't think he will ever remarry. He proposed, I said yes, then nothing. No excitement, no planning, no talks of actually getting married; he did it to buy time. But what do you do when you get what you think you want? You shut up, too. I never pushed marriage and neither did he. We lived like that for two years, and then, I was done." "By the time I physically left, I'd been checked out for months. I started dating a guy not long after, and it was everything I'd been missing for years. I felt wanted, not a matter of convenience. We have a fun, caring relationship, and a sweet baby. It all works out for the better, but you have to know your worth and don't accept less than, ever. If you have to beg for something or someone, you probably don't need it. I've learned that lesson for you!" —39, Tennessee 17."I gave him an ultimatum after six years of dating, and after, he said he still didn't know if he wanted to marry me. He finally proposed, and he asked me how I felt. 'Happy!' I exclaimed. 'You?' I asked. He replied, 'This is a big commitment...' Not the answer you'd want during a proposal." "Two years later, he tells me he regrets marrying me. I filed for divorce. Looking back, when he told me he had doubts after six years, I should've walked away then and found someone who can't live without me." —34, Arizona 18."I had been dating my boyfriend at the time for two years. He kept talking to me about marriage and family and how 'when we get married' — you know, this and that. It was my 21st birthday, and he told me he was going to get me something. We had been looking for apartments to rent to move in together. He tells me to go get his coat out of his car. When I get back, I hand him the coat. He threw it back at me and said, 'I think there is something in the pocket?' He then told me to pull it out. It was a tiny box, I opened it, and it was a cute promise ring. I got excited and said, 'What does this mean?' He said, 'You know what that means.' I was so excited that I didn't realize I was never asked. He just assumed because it was a ring that he didn't have to ask me." "It was later that I found out his controlling parents said they would disown him if we moved out and had a place together before we got married. I was so stupid, young, and ignorant. I would never wish I hadn't married him, but only because I wouldn't have my two beautiful daughters if it wasn't for him. We ended up eloping because we were moving into that apartment soon. I just wish sometimes I would have run instead of wasting 10 years of my life on someone who wanted me to be his wife, mother of his children, maid, chef, secretary, and servant — all because he had no backbone and allowed us to be bullied into marriage before we lived together. It could've saved me thousands on the divorce that was a nightmare, the trauma my girls and I dealt with after I left him, and the abuse I suffered at the hands of his 'perfect' parents. Barf!" —bethannjauron1 19."It was the same day I decided it was time for a divorce. I always kind of knew my first husband wasn't as deeply in love with me as I was with him, but I had at least thought he respected me. Then, I came home from work early one night to a note taped to my door. From my best friend. To him. Telling him how awesome the night before was, and asking when they can do it again." "Apparently, I was wrong on all counts, and I began making my exit plan as soon as I stopped throwing things." —bloodwynne Have you ever gotten a "shut up" ring? In the comments below, if you feel comfortable sharing your story and what you learned, tell us the signs of a "shut up" ring that you noticed. Or, if you prefer to remain anonymous, feel free to use this Google form. Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity. Solve the daily Crossword
Daily Mail
17 hours ago
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- Daily Mail
Kelly Osbourne reveals her mother Sharon is planning her ENTIRE wedding to Slipknot's Sid Wilson
Kelly Osbourne has revealed that her famed mother Sharon will be planning her entire wedding as she confessed she 'wants nothing to do with it'. The singer, 40, who is the daughter of music manager Sharon and Black Sabbath star Ozzy, got engaged on July 6 after her now fiancé Sid Wilson got down on one knee back stage at her father's farewell show at Villa Park. Sid, 48, who is the DJ for Slipknot, got down on one knee to propose to Kelly with an 18K yellow gold ring adorned with white and yellow diamonds, as well as citrine accents. Looking happier than ever, the couple, who share son Sidney, two, shared the sweet moment with their fans on social media as their closest friends and family watched on. But despite looking ecstatic about the proposal, Kelly has told Closer Magazine that her mum Sharon will be planning everything as she wants 'nothing to with it'. She told the publication: 'I want nothing to do with it, because if it was up to me, we'd get married at the registry office and then take over a pub. 'But it is not up to me – I'm letting my mum plan it.' To avoid any guests who are not genuine about wanting to celebrate the star's nuptials, she has revealed she has planned to have a destination wedding. Kelly explained: 'That way, only the people who really like you will come.' Speaking in October, Kelly revealed that Sid 'really wants to get married,' but it wasn't important to her. The couple began dating in 2022 and welcomed their son Sidney in November 2023. Although she isn't keen on getting married, Kelly confirmed last year that she would exchange vows with Sid because it's important to him. 'I found my guy. We don't need the certificate. But I know Sid really wants to get married, so we will get married. It's not as important to me,' she told Us Weekly. 'I've worn so many beautiful dresses and had so many moments that have been just about me, so that whole idea of a big day isn't as important to me ... 'Never in a million f****** years did I think I'd end up with a rock star partner, but I did.' Kelly went on to reveal she also hopes the couple will be able to expand their family in the future, saying: 'I definitely want more babies!' The couple are currently trying to map out their future plans and are trying to decide whether to move back to Kelly's native UK after her parents Ozzy and Sharon recently returned after many years spent living in the US. 'We're going to get a bigger house; we're just trying to figure out where. Do we want to be close to the studio? Or do we want to go back to England?' Kelly said. 'My son is going to go to school in England. The school system is a bit different in the UK, and I like the idea of uniforms. I like the idea of no guns [in] schools.' Kelly has also been open about her 85lb postpartum weight loss after welcoming her son with Sid and has denied having used Ozempic to help her shed the weight. She revealed she 'rapidly' lost the weight by cutting out 'sugar and carbohydrates' and not by using Hollywood's favorite weight-loss drug. Kelly has undergone many changes in her appearance over the years. In 2020, she revealed that she had quietly undergone gastric sleeve surgery two years before, leading to a jaw-dropping 85lb weight loss. She also previously admitted to having injections to change the shape of her face, and make her jaw look 'skinnier,' after suffering with TMJ (temporomandibular joint dysfunction). However, Kelly has repeatedly and furiously denied that she has had any cosmetic procedures besides Botox. Last year, she declared that she was a 'huge fan' of plastic surgery, but insisted that she was too scared to get anything done after seeing her mother go under the knife so many times. She told People: 'I am a huge fan of plastic surgery. What it does for people is amazing. It can change people's lives and give them the confidence they've been lacking, and make people feel beautiful in the way they want to feel beautiful. 'But I've never done anything but Botox. I'm too scared. I've always been in the camp of if you think it's broken, fix it. You don't have to be stuck with a nose you hate for the rest of your life. So yes, I'm a huge fan.' She explained the root of her fear, saying: 'I watched my mum go through every recovery from everything she's ever had done, and it looks awful'.
Yahoo
a day ago
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- Yahoo
Women Who Proposed To Their Boyfriends Are Sharing What Happened After They Got Down On One Knee
Recently, I asked the women of the BuzzFeed Community who've proposed to their boyfriends to share their experiences. Here are 26 of their top responses: Some responses are from this post and these Reddit threads (1, 2, 3). 1."I had planned out this big, elaborate scene to tell him. I was going to drop to one knee in St. Augustine and everything. I ended up cracking beforehand and told him like two weeks before my planned trip because he knew I was keeping a secret from him (I apparently suck at keeping secrets), and it was causing issues in our relationship. He cried. It was adorable. Made me love him so much more. I never realized that I could have that kind of emotional impact on someone. Other people's reactions to me telling them I asked have been interesting. Most people's first reaction is, 'Why?' Because he told me he wanted to marry me months previously, but knew I wasn't ready (I had just gotten divorced when I first met him). He told me that when I was ready, I would have to ask him. I was ready, so I asked." —sallyface 2."I proposed. He said yes. But the dynamic was off after that. We never planned the wedding and broke up a year later. Some men can't handle it. If I ever get married in the future, it will not be because I propose. 2/10 don't recommend." —Samantha, California 3."I proposed on New Year's one week after our first date. Me: '(Husband's name), are you going to marry me?' Him: 'If you'll have me.' I had him." —miss_trixie 4."We had been talking about getting married for the past year, and I couldn't wait any longer due to excitement. It was Memorial Day weekend, and I had just gotten back from a 10-day trip during which I had the realization that I had to propose to him when I got back. I suggested that we go for a walk around our neighborhood, and when we got to a park, I stopped us in front of one of our favorite trees and stood facing him, holding hands, and looking into his eyes for what felt like forever. My heart was beating so loudly, and he could feel it. And then I chickened out, and we started walking again." "Once we were a little ways out of the park, I turned around and led him back to the tree and tried again. When I finally got the courage to ask, he said, 'Oh my god, oh my god. Yes!' We walked back home, opened some champagne, drank it outside on the sidewalk, and talked about our future together. We didn't announce our engagement until a year later, when he proposed back to me with a ring. We waited because he wanted his family to get to know me better so they would be more supportive and excited about our engagement." —kekienitz 5."Moved to Las Vegas in May 2006 and met my future husband in October 2006. I was currently dating another guy and then started hooking up with my future husband on the side. One night, we stayed out all night doing the fun things, and he told me he loved me. Fast forward to August 8, 2008, and we woke up hungover AF, and I rolled over in bed and said, 'If I ever was going to get married, I would get married today.' YES, I was one of THOSE people who got married on those stupid triple-number dates (08/08/08). He said, 'Okay,' and the rest is history. We went down to the courthouse before work that night and got the marriage certificate, and we finally got married on August 8, 2009. Coming up on 17 years, two kids, and one blind dog, and we couldn't be happier. I know what you are thinking, 'A wedding in Las Vegas, how original!'" —Anonymous, 41, Las Vegas 6."We had already planned the wedding, and we didn't really know how to tell our parents. So, I got a ring and asked him on the way to his parents' place for Christmas Eve." —Anonymous, 37, Austin, TX 7."I proposed one night in bed while we were cuddling. I didn't have a ring or anything. But the Christmas lights wrapped around my headboard were on, so there was a soft red glow everywhere. There was rain pitter-pattering outside. My cat was purring at the end of the bed, and I just thought it was a good moment. I blurted out, 'Marry me?' He smiled and replied, 'Okay. On a Sunday?' And I was like, 'Yeah, let's do it on a Sunday.' A month later, we were in bed cuddling, and he asked me, 'Marry me?' I replied the same way he did. He gave me a ring, and that was that. So in the days leading up to the wedding, we would jokingly whisper, 'Suuuunday" into each other's ears like Gollum would say, 'Precious.' We did not get married on a Sunday though, because that's a weird day to get married, LOL." —cheddarbiscuitcat 8."My now husband told me multiple times while we were dating he didn't want to get married until we had $25k in the bank and a house. After living together for three years, moving to a new place for his job, and me working at a shitty brokerage firm with no health insurance, I came home one day frustrated and asked him where this was going. (Back-to-back UTIs costing me $150 a piece were becoming expensive to handle.) His employer didn't allow health coverage for cohabiting couples. I was worried one little thing could send us into bankruptcy. It wasn't a romantic proposal at all." "Basically, it consisted of me coming home from work and asking him if he saw our relationship going anywhere. If he did, what were we waiting for, really? We got married six weeks later (his parents insisted on a formal ceremony), and that was that... I don't know if we would have gotten married if I didn't need health insurance. The ironic thing now is that my current job has covered his health insurance for the last three years, so I guess it worked out." —magnoliafly 9."When my parents first got together, my dad told my mum that if in six months she hadn't made a decision about being in a serious relationship with him, he was gone. So six months later, my mum comes back from work on a Friday, throws some rings at my dad, and tells him they're getting married on Sunday." —unic0rnp0opz 10."I proposed to my SO at Christmas. We'd had a general conversation about getting married, and he'd brought home a ring sizer, so I knew he was serious. But I was ready and wasn't interested in waiting for him to summon the courage. I bought him a ring. It's even got a stone — an amethyst. I put the ring box in the bottom of his Christmas stocking, and when he opened it, I just said, 'Well, can we get married now?' He said yes, then he ran into the bedroom and came back with the ring he bought me, got down on his knee, and proposed right back. Although we bought each other surprise rings, my ring also has amethyst in it, so they match." —u/[deleted] 11."We had agreed that we would get engaged in 2015, and we had bought rings and hid them in a drawer so either of us could propose at any time. On June 17th, my SO got his MSc, and he was going to move back to his hometown the next day to start a new job. I decided that I didn't want us to live apart without being engaged, so after we had celebrated his graduation, I took our rings out of my pocket and asked if he was interested in celebrating one more thing. He was! We are now fortunately living together again, and are getting married next Saturday, exactly two years later!" —noodlebamboo 12."I proposed to my now spouse at a dive bar on New Year's. We were drinking PBR tallboys and watching a band, but it was like we were in this love bubble. I had this thought, about love being different from 'I can't live without you' versus 'I don't want to go through life without you by my side.' I proposed, and he said yes! We ordered my ring together, and he proposed with it two weeks later. I was insecure about it, but this post empowered me!" —Anonymous, 33, Tennessee 13."He had asked once, and I said no. I knew he wouldn't ask again." —YouAreAllJerks 14."I came to visit him on a Sunday evening at the end of my road trip, where I was to return home the next day (1,300 miles and three states away). Our history was one amazing date three YEARS earlier. So, technically, on our second date, after a lot of wine, he said, 'I'd wear a ring for you.' To which I responded, 'So we're getting married now?' He agreed, and we were married that Friday. We conceived our son that evening. Our life has been one big, happy road trip ever since. We bought a huge travel trailer and have been exploring, kid in tow, for the last year and a half. At nine months-and-change pregnant, we traveled to the most beautiful place I'd ever been to so our son would be born there. It ended up pretty well, I'd say." —kittehwolf 15."I'll share what happened to a friend of mine. They were both married for a few years, and things got kind of rocky. He owned a business and started working in another state. A few months go by, and the relationship gets worse, and eventually he just calls and says, 'Just send me whatever I need to sign. I'm done.' After a few more months go by. He comes home, and his wife gives him a ring. She says, 'This is for you... Keep it, sell it, throw it I'm giving this to you because I want to be married to you.' And he took the ring, and they've been (re)married for over 10 years now." —u/[deleted] 16."I was writing my senior thesis for my major, and my mother was slowly dying from mini-strokes. We hadn't had the best relationship, my mother and I. But he and I had been dating for six months, and he had repeatedly made me realize that I could fix my mother's relationship with me, and the terrible one I had with my father. And I had to finish this 45-page essay, without my parents and without my strength. So I finished it. The entire piece just came together in my head. I called him up to pick me up, since I was two hours away at a different school. While I waited, I began to vibrate with understanding or some type of epiphany. I knew that I was going to ask him the moment I got into the car." "We made some small talk about how we would celebrate me being done, and I asked him if he would mind marrying me after I graduated. He sort of stalled the car and answered, 'Well, I guess I won't have to wait for that ring I bought to arrive.' We got married a year later." —mspoisonisland 17."My dad is a railway worker. My mum proposed to him by saying, 'If you marry me, I can go anywhere on the tube for 50p. And if you don't, I'll tell everyone you're a tight bastard.' Been together 30 years now." —boscastlebreakdown 18."I proposed to my boyfriend of five years last October. I bought a ton of balloons and a really nice bottle of wine, walked into our house, and read him a handwritten, heartfelt letter. I got down on one knee, started bawling my eyes out, grabbed his hand, and asked him to marry me. He said yes! We're getting married this October. He had no idea it was coming. He did say he was planning to propose to me but was very happy either way. I didn't get a ring for him, and I didn't want an engagement ring either. We're just doing bands at our wedding." —mslovelypants 19."Well, I guess I did, as a woman. We were walking in the park playing with his dog and talking, and I just noticed how happy I was and how comfortable I was when I was with him, and I just blurted it out: 'Marry me.' He was taken aback at first, and we didn't really discuss it more that time, but later we both agreed to it. I'm not engaged yet, because I'm waiting for the ring and for him to propose, but we already talked about what we want." —meliosa114 20."I proposed to my now-husband after too many drinks at an empty biker bar. He said yes and that he had been thinking about it already. Our friends were there, and we did a 'cheers'. I don't remember if we talked about it again until one morning, a couple of months later, we woke up to get ready for work, and he said, 'So you wanna get married?' We went ring shopping together so I could pick out what I liked. It had to be resized, so he went and got it the next week and surprised me with it by getting down on one knee to give it to me. We were both in our early thirties, each with a kid from previous relationships, so I think we were both in the mindset of doing things our own way. I like to think we somehow made it modern and traditional at the same time. He's my best friend and my rock. We've been married seven years now." —Anonymous, 39, Texas 21."I had moved to his country to go live with him, but fixing a visa for me wasn't as easy as he had thought. So when we were driving back home up the mountain after a fruitless visit to the immigration office, I said, 'Well, we could also just get married...' Admirably, he didn't crash the car, stared at me for a moment, and then answered, '...Are you sure? Yeah, ok, let's do it!' We got married some two to three months later on a lovely sunny day in Cyprus, with just our parents in attendance. It was wonderful, and now, almost seven years and two kids later, it still is." —CompanionCone 22."I did it because I had an idea for how to do it, and because I was the one most opposed to marriage. He'd been wanting to marry me for a while, but I was too sure something would go wrong to say yes to him. Instead, I watched and waited, and when I realised that we were sticking together through anything, I asked him. No one felt pressured, and it was what we both wanted." —Quouar 23."We had been together about six years and had endless talks about being ready to get married. The idea of planning a wedding was really my stumbling block, but he didn't want to elope. We were on a family reunion on a cruise around Alaska, and the night before we got on the ship, I said, 'Hey, everyone's here, we wouldn't have to plan... want to get married this week?' He said yes. We were married three days later in Juno. I wore a dress I had found in Vancouver in a few hours before we boarded the ship, and he already had his best suit packed." "Our first dance was alone in the ship's ballroom with an iPod plugged into the PA. I think he was happy but not too surprised because we had talked about it a lot. I wanted to take the pressure off of him with the whole ring thing... He couldn't afford a big rock but was the kind of guy who felt it was important. We got divorced four years later, but no regrets. Certainly wasn't because of how we got hitched!" —criscotwistr 24."We were sitting in a pub having a drink, and he asked me about what I thought about us long term and where he fit in the future. I asked him to marry me, and I thought he was going to explode into glitter. We went ring shopping the next day. Just celebrated our two-year anniversary at the end of March and have a baby girl now! Life is good!" —u/[deleted] 25."Technically, we had discussed marriage prior, so I knew he was into the idea. I know he wouldn't be confident buying me a ring because I'm pretty particular about jewelry. On Halloween morning (which was a Saturday), he brought me coffee in bed, and when he gave it to me, I said, 'Do you wanna go get a ring today?' and he said yes. Then we went out for breakfast while we waited for the shops to open, and we were so obviously giddy, and we bought a ring right after breakfast." —lucidcheesedream finally: "We never talked about it beforehand. I thought something weird was going on, and I was frustrated. One night, it just bubbled up my throat, and I was horrified that it actually came out of my mouth. I later learned that that very same night, my husband's plans to propose to me during his college play practice session were put on hold due to practice being canceled. Talk about a weird but really awesome coincidence." —scribacious If you're a woman who proposed to her boyfriend (or you're a man whose girlfriend proposed to him!), what was the experience like? How did the other people in your life react? Let us know in the comments or in the anonymous comments box below! Note: Some responses have been edited for length/clarity. Solve the daily Crossword
News.com.au
2 days ago
- Entertainment
- News.com.au
Olympic legend Cate Campbell shares huge personal news after ‘biggest heartbreak'
Eight-time Olympic medallist Cate Campbell has announced her engagement to long-time partner Adam Kerr, sharing the dreamy proposal on Instagram. 'A complete and wonderful surprise,' the 33-year-old captioned a carousel of photos showing off her sparkling diamond ring. Kerr, a geologist and geotechnical engineer, had no idea who Campbell was when they first met five years ago through mutual friends. 'He maintains he never Googled me, he wasn't star struck!' Campbell told The Sydney Morning Herald in 2023. Campbell shot to fame as a teenager, qualifying for her first Olympics in Beijing at just 16. She went on to represent Australia at the London 2012, Rio 2016, and Tokyo 2021 Games. Competing in freestyle sprint events - the 50m and 100m - Campbell became a powerhouse in individual and relay races. Over her glittering career, she's collected four Olympic golds, one silver, and three bronze medals, and still holds the short course world record in the women's 100m freestyle at 50.25 seconds. Although she officially hung up her goggles in June last year, she's now diving into a new pool of personal joy. 'Last Saturday while watching the sun rise at our new local beach, Adam turned and said: 'Cate, I have a question for you.' 'I thought maybe he was going to ask what kind of plants to put in our gardens, what kind of dog we should get, or what we should make for dinner. 'Instead, he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. Of course, I said 'yes'…(and cried a lot). 'Simply the perfect way to start the next chapter of our lives.' The couple briefly broke up, something Campbell told The Sydney Morning Herald was her 'biggest heartbreak' when Campbell and her sister Bronte relocated from Brisbane to Sydney in late 2018, to train under coach Simon Cusack, who had joined the NSW Institute of Sport. The move was aimed at improving their chances ahead of the Tokyo 2020 Games. But for Cate, things quickly spiralled. In June that year, after the Tokyo Games were delayed due to the first wave of COVID-19 lockdowns, she hit rock bottom. Campbell recalled sitting in the dark on her kitchen floor, sobbing uncontrollably after a power outage. 'I was trying to make myself a cup of hot chocolate before I went to bed,' she told Wide World of Sports. 'It was like something switched in my brain,' she said. 'I just remember having what I can only call a breakdown. 'I was so distressed, and it was almost like I was watching myself having this reaction ... big sobs and tears and noises. 'I was like: 'Oh, I've never heard myself make those noises'. 'Being unable to cope with the fact that the power had tripped for the second time ... there's something wrong here. This is not a normal reaction. This is not OK.' She later opened up to Nine about what the New York Times has dubbed 'post-Olympic blues.' 'You can go and have the most incredible time, and then you come back and you feel a bit down or suppressed ... you're just kind of like wondering about what's next, because you've been so geared towards this one thing for so long,' Campbell explained. 'When you're preparing for something as big and intense as an Olympics, it takes over your whole life. 'As much as we try and tell our athletes you need balance and you're more than just the athlete and you're more than your achievements, it is an all-consuming career choice. 'Your preparation for the 100m freestyle, you'll prepare two million minutes, and your race will be one minute ... that's crazy.' Fellow Aussie swimmer Mollie O'Callaghan broke down in a poolside interview with Campbell while talking about her own struggles post-Paris Games. Kaylee McKeown also admitted she'd been in a 'really dark place.' Even 28-medal winning legend Michael Phelps has spoken about battling similar emotions. 'You work so hard for four years to get to that point, and then it's like you're … at the top of the mountain, you're like what the hell am I supposed to do? Where am I supposed to go? Who am I?' he told Healthline. But for Campbell, it was her break-up with Kerr that hit hardest. When she returned to Brisbane in late 2020, resuming her training ahead of the rescheduled Tokyo 2021 games, the couple reconnected, and have been together ever since. News of her engagement has been met with a flood of support from the swimming community. 'Congratulations!!! This is so beautiful, so happy for you both,' fellow gold medallist Shayna Jack commented. Campbell's Rio teammate Emma McKeon wrote, 'Congratulations,' while Tokyo champion Ariarne Titmus added, 'The best news.' As for kids, Campbell told The Sydney Morning Herald she's still undecided. 'I need to figure out who I am outside of the pool before I go into something as time and identity consuming as parenthood.'
Bloomberg
3 days ago
- Politics
- Bloomberg
Zelenskiy Says Ukraine Proposed Meeting With Russia Next Week
Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelenskiy said his country had proposed holding a meeting with Russia next week, more than a month after the previous round of direct talks. Rustem Umerov, who was appointed secretary of the National Security and Defense Council on Friday, made the proposal to the Russian side, the Ukrainian leader said in his daily address to the nation.
