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Washington Post
3 days ago
- General
- Washington Post
Carolyn Hax: At yo-yo's end with supporting friend through cyclic breakups
Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: I am probably at this point overinvested here, but my really good friend has been in a terrible relationship for eight years now: They break up, friend dumps on me, there's a few good months, they get back together, friend distances from friends, they break up again, etc. They just broke up again. I am dreading the process but feel like not being there would be problematic for my social life. I am just done with the drama and feel like saying so. Anyway, can you help me understand why otherwise great people do this yo-yo thing? — Yo-yo's Friend Yo-yo's Friend: Not fixing a near-decade problem mystifies me, too, so I'm not sure I can help you understand. You would think they'd tire of it. Or maybe we're both missing the point — maybe they include the on-and-off as part of the whole. It must satisfy a need for both of them, or else they'd stay apart one of these times. An unhealthy need, or else they'd stay together. So — two unhealthy needs they use each other to avoid fixing. How's that. As for what to say to your friend this time, now that you're 'done with the drama' and possibly a little salty, I think eight years of getting dumped on gives you standing to speak your mind. You wrote a fine start: 'I am probably at this point overinvested, but you have been in an unstable relationship for eight years now. You break up, dump on me, have a few good months, get back together, distance yourself from friends, break up again, etc.' Then maybe just: 'I don't know what to say anymore. But acting like this is normal or okay doesn't seem like the right call. Is there anything else I can do here?' Like I said, though — this may be their normal. They may be life partners, in their yo-yo way. As designated friend, it might help you to see it this way: to assume there is no 'process' to 'dread' because there is no off or on, it is all of a piece, and to divest from the drama and expect nothing besides seeing your friend when your friend is available. And don't try to fix anything — just be 'sorry to hear that.' Dear Carolyn: I live in the East and work full time even though I am past retirement age; I like to work, I'm good at my job and it gives me something to do. I have lots of friends and plan lunches and classes weekly. Some of my grandchildren live in the West, and I feel guilty that I don't move there to take care of them, especially 9-year-old twins. Both parents work round-the-clock, and they rely on the older kids to take care of the twins. I don't want to move where they live. However, I feel like I'm being selfish, and they could really use my help; they need someone to pick up the kids from school, prepare dinner, help with homework — a housekeeper. Should that be my job? — Grandparent Grandparent: 'Should' you, no, not if you don't want to and you're deeply rooted. It's alarming that older kids are being pressed into parent duty for youngers, if they're more than just helping out. But it doesn't make sense to me that your cross-country relocation, maybe effectively for good, is the only solution for at most a six- or seven-year problem. Can you afford to help them hire steady after-school child care? Then you stay above your social safety net, which is so important, and they get responsible relief.
South China Morning Post
15-05-2025
- South China Morning Post
Diver drowns in Indonesia, Japanese woman cuts off lover's finger: 5 trending stories
From Japanese woman cutting off her lover's finger to Chinese teenager's stolen crying photo, here are five stories from SCMP's recent reporting We have selected five Trending in China stories from the past seven days that resonated with our readers. If you would like to see more of our reporting, please consider subscribing. A Chinese woman reportedly drowned after she dived deep to retrieve a GoPro camera that accidentally fell into the sea. Zhang Xiaohan, 30, was found dead at a depth of 87 metres at the Kelapa Dua dive site near Kakaban Island in Indonesia's East Kalimantan province, the local media outlet Antara News reported. A court in China has ruled that the death of a security guard during workplace sex with his lover was an industrial accident. Photo: SCMP composite/Shutterstock The death of a man in China who died while having sex with his girlfriend during working hours has been declared an industrial accident. The decision, which entitles his family to compensation, has captivated mainland social media. A Japanese woman has been arrested after she cut off her boyfriend's ring finger to prevent him from marrying someone else. Photo: SCMP composite/Shutterstock/IG@oreno_eromanga A Japanese cosplayer shocked the internet after reportedly cutting off her boyfriend's ring finger and keeping it in the fridge. The woman claimed she 'loved him too much' and did not want him to marry anyone else or exchange wedding rings. A young Chinese woman whose crying photograph was stolen and is being used on pornographic websites and in advertisements for sex products is battling to restore her reputation. Photo: SCMP composite/Weibo/Jimu A young woman whose crying selfie was stolen and misused on pornographic websites and in advertisements for sex products has aroused widespread attention on mainland social media. The 19-year-old, surnamed Liang, is a first-year student at a university in Harbin of Heilongjiang province, in northeast China. A Chinese man has broken up with his 'cheating' girlfriend after her phone automatically connected to the Wi-fi of a hotel they were visiting together for the first time. Photo: SCMP composite/Shutterstock A Chinese man broke up with his girlfriend after he discovered her phone automatically connecting to the Wi-fi of a hotel they went to for the first time together. Newsletter Every Friday Lunar By submitting, you consent to receiving marketing emails from SCMP. If you don't want these, tick here {{message}} Thanks for signing up for our newsletter! Please check your email to confirm your subscription. Follow us on Facebook to get our latest news.
Daily Mail
14-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
James Argent's 'explosive row with ex Nicole Arthursson was over a deleted post alluding to his friendship with former flame Lydia Bright'
James Argent's explosive row with ex-girlfriend Nicoline Artursson was reportedly over a cryptic post she put online alluding to his friendship with former girlfriend Lydia Bright. The former TOWIE star, 37, was handed a six-month suspended prison sentence and a two-year restraining order against Nicoline, 32, after shoving the beauty queen during a violent row in Spain. According to The Sun, the argument happened just hours after Nicoline shared a post on 10:44pm on May 4 which read: 'Is it OK if your boyfriend or girlfriend is talking and hanging out with their ex and the exes family daily and liking their Instagram posts etc? 'No kids involved with the ex. And then it shows up on your explore page that your partner showed that interest with them but they blame you for seeing it and now the ex is supposedly their 'best friend' 'I know what my family and friends think and certainly what I think. If you're in a serious relationship with your partner you've got to respect your partner and leave the past in the past.' The post was said to have been deleted shortly after it was posted. James pleaded guilty to charges of domestic violence and has been handed a two year restraining order meaning he will be jailed if he contacts Nicoline, who onlookers claimed looked 'severely hurt' following the attack. A source told the publication James believes the post was alluding to Lydia Bright who he dated for five years until 2012. The insider added James knows his behaviour was 'inexusable' and that's why he told the police what happened. MailOnline has contacted representatives of James Argent for comment. Fans have questioned whether James's behaviour was sparked by a return to his wild drug and alcohol abusing days, which saw the reality favourite spend several stints in rehab. But speaking exclusively to MailOnline, James confirmed he is still sober and the police incident was not triggered by a relapse. James said: 'I haven't relapsed. I am still three years and four months clean and sober. I am devastated by what's happened.' An eyewitness told MailOnline that James was heard 'yelling' before forcing the former Miss Sweden out of her apartment door in Spain, which caused her to fall down some steps. The witness, who did not want to be named, told of how they heard a loud commotion from the Costa del Sol property, which James shared with Nicoline, and has now recalled watching the 'brutal' row unfold. They said: 'We were out walking our dogs when we suddenly heard an aggressive man yelling. We saw him throwing objects from the terrace of a nearby house. We were frightened by his shouts. 'Then, the door of the house opened, and the man threw a women out and she fell down the steps, causing her to scream. We couldn't believe what we were seeing. She was severely hurt and cried out for help.' It's understood that James 'continued to throw things' as Nicoline 'lay injured' on the steps. The eyewitness continued: 'The situation escalated quickly, and we were scared and unsure of what to do. Another woman arrived to assist the injured woman, who was lying helplessly at the foot of the steps. At that moment, the man slammed the door and fled. 'Within moments, concerned bystanders had gathered to help the woman, and the police arrived swiftly.' The witness said Nicoline 'appeared to be physically and emotionally devastated.' 'We were in utter shock,' they continued, adding that they were later told Nicoline's mother had arrived and taken her to hospital. 'This woman deserves justice; she was left utterly devastated. We have never seen anyone so emotionally hurt as she was. 'What we witnessed was a brutal act of abuse... there were many witnesses and bystanders who helped Nicoline during the incident.' After tumbling down two steps, Artursson's screams alerted neighbours to the incident, who then informed the police. She is understood to have needed hospital treatment. Argent was arrested shortly after the incident in La Cala de Mijas and was kept in police cells for several hours before being dragged in front of a court in nearby Fuengirola. During the hearing he admitted a domestic violence charge, with an insider telling The Sun the couple's nine-month relationship is now over. He was handed a two-year restraining order which prohibits him from being within 250 metres of Artursson. Artursson was in court to hear Argent admit the charge where he was handed a six-month suspended sentence. Argent was also told to a complete a 'resocialisation course in the field of gender violence'. Artursson has remained in Spain, while Argent is believed to have flown back to Essex. The model was spotted for the first time since the arrest on Wednesday, wearing gym clothing as she typed away on her phone. She was joined by her mother Pernille Artursson, who has been supporting her since the incident with her ex Argent. Artursson covered her face with a pair of large sunglasses during their outing. Speaking about how Argent is now, a friend told the Sun he is 'extremely sorry', saying: 'He said he had a row with Nicoline and that he tried to end the argument. 'James said he pushed Nicoline and that she fell. He is remorseful about what happened but is insisting he never meant any harm.' Andalucia's High Court of Justice confirmed the suspended prison sentence and two-year restraining order as officials warned any violation of the strict conditions Argent agreed to abide by as part of his plea agreement would land him in jail. He is understood to have taken the decision to admit his crime after being told he could face a more serious charge carrying a prison sentence of up to five years if he denied wrongdoing and forced a full trial which would have been held in open court and rescheduled for a later date. Andalucia's High Court of Justice said: 'The matter was resolved in Fuengirola's Court of Violence Against Women. There was a plea agreement on May 5 and a trial the same day. 'In trials of this kind it is the prosecutor who suggests a conviction after negotiating with the defence. It implies that the defendant acknowledges the facts and admits the penalty. 'The judgment is now final having been accepted. It consists of a sentence of six months in prison for the commission of a crime of mistreatment in the ambit of gender violence. It also implies a prohibition on approaching and communicating with the victim for a period of two years. 'The convicted person will not enter prison as he had no criminal record in Spain. 'For this reason, the sentence is suspended but on condition that, over a period of two years he does not approach or communicate with the victim and has to carry out a re-socialization course in the field of gender violence. 'The suspension would be revoked if it fails to comply with the measures imposed. The sentence will be sent to a criminal court that will be responsible for its execution and compliance with the measures implicit therein.' Prison sentences of two years or less are normally suspended for first-time offenders in Spain. It is not clear if Argent has been ordered to pay his victim any compensation. Argent confirmed their relationship last September, telling OK! magazine in their first interview together last November they were living together and were already looking ahead to starting a family together. He gushed at the time: 'Nicoline is absolutely beautiful. She's a combination of Julia Roberts and Claudia Schiffer.' She said: 'James is so kind, funny and handsome. He's a gentleman.' Reliving the moment they met for the first time as Argent walked to a gig at Olivia's La Cala, he said 'All of a sudden I see this woman coming towards me. I was like, 'Wow, she's beautiful.' She was just in her gym clothes, wearing no make-up. She'd actually just fed a stray cat. 'We both smiled and kind of giggled at each other. And Nicoline carried on walking. Then I thought, 'What have I got to lose?' So I turned around and said, 'Hey'.
The Sun
14-05-2025
- Entertainment
- The Sun
James Argent's Miss Sweden girlfriend ‘sobbed to stranger in street' after he pushed her down steps in Spain
JAMES Argent's beauty queen girlfriend sobbed to a stranger in the street after being pushed down the steps by her famous boyfriend, it has been reported. Argent abandoned Nicoline Artursson, 32, after the incident which forced her to turn to the passerby for help. 4 4 According to The Mirror, the witness had been dining in a restaurant in Mijas, Spain, when he noticed a commotion. The witness said that they heard 'a lot of screaming in the house', while Argent threw all of his clothes from the balcony. Then, the former Towie star 'ran out with a large bag'. The witness went on to say: 'Nicoline was crying a lot and very nervous and agitated on the street, trying to call the police, but they didn't speak English, so I went to help her translate. 'She said nothing like this had ever happened before.' The former Miss Sweden then said: 'I can't believe what's planned to have a family." She added: 'I'm in total shock…my life with Arg was so happy before this."' According to the witness, the incident occurred at 11pm with both Nicoline's mother and the police arriving after Argent had fled. The passerby claimed that the police encouraged Nicoline to report the incident. He added: 'Her mother told her to grab some clothes and said 'we'll go'. I went home but I told them if they needed help, I'm here.' Dan Edgar breaks silence on Arg's return to Towie - and behind the scenes Dancing On Ice struggle According to the witness, he had no idea that either Nicoline or Argent were famous. They said: 'I just saw a girl crying on the street trying to call the police, and I went out to help and translate. 'Then she stayed with the police, and I went home. 'She kept thanking me for being with her and helping her.' Argent was arrested by the police on bank holiday Monday, shortly after fleeing from the scene. He was eventually hauled in front of a court, where he admitted a charge of domestic violence. The former Towie star was given a suspended sentence, as well as a two-year-restraining order which prevents him from seeing or contacting Nicoline. He was also forced to attend a 'resocialisation course in the field of gender violence' by the Court of Violence Against Women in Fuengirola. His former girlfriend sat in the Fuengirola court while his sentence was handed down. Nicoline remained in Spain after the incident, while Argent returned to Essex in the UK. Step in to prevent it By Emma Armstrong, CEO of charity I Choose Freedom MOST abuse incidents happen behind closed doors and, because of low conviction rates, no one knows the full scale. In this case, the restraining order is important as domestic abuse is rarely a one-off. Including a gender violence course also shows the Spanish court knows prevention is critical. We will see a meaningful reduction in cases only when we combine a response that deals with the immediate issue, and prevents abuse in future. Argent finally broke his silence on May 14, after days of silence, by talking to the MailOnline. He said: "I haven't relapsed. 'I am still three years and four months clean and sober. "I am devastated by what's happened." One of his friends also revealed more about the star's whereabouts after his arrest. The friend told The Sun: 'James has been at home in Essex since this happened. 'He said he had a row with Nicoline and that he tried to end the argument. "James said he pushed Nicoline and that she fell. He is remorseful about what happened but is insisting he never meant any harm. 'He's extremely sorry for it. 'James said he was honest when he spoke to the police and told them everything that had happened.' Domestic abuse - how to get help DOMESTIC abuse can affect anyone - including men - and does not always involve physical violence. Here are some signs that you could be in an abusive relationship: Emotional abuse - Including being belittled, blamed for the abuse - gaslighting - being isolated from family and friends, having no control over your finances, what you where and who you speak to Threats and intimidation - Some partners might threaten to kill or hurt you, destroy your belongings, stalk or harass you Physical abuse - This can range from slapping or hitting to being shoved over, choked or bitten. Sexual abuse - Being touched in a way you do not want to be touched, hurt during sex, pressured into sex or forced to have sex when you do not consent. If any of the above apply to you or a friend, you can call these numbers: The Freephone National Domestic Abuse Helpline, run by Refuge on 0808 2000 247 for free at any time, day or night Men who are being abused can call Respect Men's Advice Line on 0808 8010 327 or ManKind on 0182 3334 244 Those who identify as LGBT+ can ring Galop on 0800 999 5428 If you are in immediate danger or fear for your life, always ring 999 Remember, you are not alone. 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men will experience domestic abuse over the course of their lifetime. Every 30 seconds the police receive a call for help relating to domestic abuse. 4 4
Daily Mail
07-05-2025
- Daily Mail
Glamorous hairdresser who broke into her ex-boyfriend's house and climbed into his bed learns her fate in court
A hairdresser who slashed through her ex-boyfriend's flyscreen to crawl into bed with him has fronted a court on assault charges. Paris Coudounellis, 20, broke into her ex's house last June before causing $1,200 in damage to his car following an argument weeks later. She appeared at Waverley Local Court on Wednesday wearing a red Gucci belt and dress pants before pleading guilty to three counts of damaging property and one count of common assault. She also pleaded guilty to breaching an apprehended violence order (AVO) protecting her ex, Luke Paterson. Paterson had been her boyfriend for two years before the split. Documents revealed Paterson heard scratching at his bedroom window on the night she broke in, but could not locate its source. Later that night, Coudounellis sliced open two flyscreens and crawled into his house. She then climbed into bed with Paterson without stirring him from his sleep. She was only discovered the following morning when Paterson's mother walked into his room. Later that month, Paterson took his mother's Mercedes Benz to work in Coogee, east Sydney and parked outside the Coogee Surf Life-saving Club. There, Coudounellis entered the car, began crying, and accused Paterson of being with another woman. The hairdresser then began kicking the inside of the car, causing about $1,200 in damage to the internal dials and air conditioning vents. In August, Coudounellis and Paterson were at Anytime Fitness in Kensington, Sydney, when they began fighting. He left the gym to go home and shut the door on Coudounellis upon arrival. The hairdresser then pulled the flyscreen panel from Paterson's bedroom window and told him: 'I'm not leaving until you come outside to talk to me.' An argument ensued for an hour and police arrested and charged Coudounellis later in August. On Wednesday, the case was adjourned for six weeks to allow time for a sentencing assessment report. Coudounellis will face court again in June. Following a separate alleged incident in March this year, Coudounellis reported an assault to Maroubra police. She alleged Paterson knocked on her bedroom window after midnight on her birthday, and she allowed him to climb in. Police documents stated Paterson allegedly choked Coudounellis during the visit. When she reported the alleged incident, Maruobra police noticed she had breached the standing AVO, leading to her own arrest.
