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Yahoo
a day ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Woman Labeled 'Pick-Me' for Saying Sister Should Wear 'Sexist' Dress to Rekindle Romance with Husband
A Reddit user is getting hate for supporting her sister's decision to spice up her love life with a revealing dress The sister, Becky, had asked her husband to pick out a dress for her to wear on their next date night — but Becky's friends thought her husband's tastes were "sexist" Becky's sister, on the other hand, figured it wasn't that deep and supported her sister buying the dressA woman is questioning her decision to weigh in on her sister's style. In a post to Reddit's "AITA" forum, a woman recalled a recent shopping trip with her sister Becky and some of their friends. Becky told the group she and her husband were in the "roommate phase," but has been putting in effort to get out of the rut — most recently, she asked her husband to pick out a dress he thought was "sexy," with the intention of her buying it and wearing it to their next date. Becky showed the group the photo her husband sent back, and got a slew of negative reactions. It was a clubbing sort of dress, the woman wrote — a short bodycon number with thin straps, a high slit and a deep neckline. "Like if you Googled 'generic sexy dress,' I bet it would come up," the woman added. The group of friends called her husband's choice "gross and sexist," adding it spoke to his values. Some suggested that Becky's husband thought of her as a "trophy," or that he had a sexist view of women, based on the dress. "I thought this was a huge overreaction. Like ... it's definitely not her style but I didn't think it was THAT bad," the woman said of her sister in the post. "So I told her to just get the dress and stop overthinking it." Just as they condemned the dress, Becky's friends condemned the woman for supporting it. Others in the group called the woman a "pick-me" for not thinking Becky's husband should love her as she is. The woman argued she didn't believe her brother-in-law was trying to change her sister, but the group was adamant. Now, Becky's sister is worried she said the wrong thing — she assumed it was a "support, not solutions" situation, she wrote, but is concerned she approached it incorrectly. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. Users in the comments widely agreed that the group of friends was overreacting, and the woman wasn't wrong. One argued that the dress was more or less a "fantasy," of which the point "is that it's fantastical." "She didn't ask him, 'How do you want me to dress?' She told him, 'Send me an example of a dress that you find sexy,' " one commenter wrote. "He never asked her to dress like that. She took that challenge upon herself. If she's not up to it, then she shouldn't do it, but that's not his fault or yours." Others noted that Becky's husband's suggestion wasn't unprompted — Becky asked for his opinion. One user said her friends should have supported Becky, who seemed to need a boost of confidence to step into the dress more than anything else. "She said she's trying to save her marriage. It's just a dress — as her friend, I would've hyped her up," another wrote. Read the original article on People
Yahoo
6 days ago
- General
- Yahoo
Dear Abby: My sisters treat me like the ‘failure' of the family
DEAR ABBY: I am the youngest of four sisters. I lost one of them, 'Rachel,' to cancer several years ago. She and I were considered the 'failures' of the family because we had to work hard to take care of our families, whereas our other two sisters married into money. Rachel didn't take part in many family get-togethers because, I'm guessing, she felt out of place. I didn't understand it then, but I do now that she's gone because I feel the same way. It's aggravating for me now when my sisters come to town. They don't understand how hard we have to work to get by. They think we and our children, who are out working hard too, can take time off anytime to get together with them when they come on short notice. It's aggravating, and I'm unsure how to approach this. Please help. — 'FAILURE' IN FLORIDA DEAR 'FAILURE': Your 'successful' sisters appear to be annoyingly obtuse. The next time you receive an invitation on short notice, patiently explain to them the difference in your lifestyle and theirs and point out that it precludes you changing your schedule at the drop of a hat. Then tell them the amount of time you need to prepare. (Why you would want to get together with anyone who makes you feel 'less than' puzzles me.) DEAR ABBY: I've been divorced for 10 years and have since remarried. I began dating my current wife nine years ago. I have four daughters, ages 24 through 37. Since the divorce, our relationships have been strained because my ex continues to hold them emotionally hostage by feeding her narrative that I'm the bad guy for initiating the divorce. Because my daughters seem to believe everything their mother tells them, it's been difficult to reintegrate back into their lives because they don't know what to believe or who to trust. My new wife gets frustrated when they don't call me for the big events (birthdays, Father's Day, holidays, etc.). And I feel horrible because her kids make a point of contacting me for every event. Should I continue accepting where things are with my daughters and wait for them to realize I'm not the monster their mother has painted me as? Or should I try having a hard conversation with each of them and take my chances on possibly saying the wrong thing and making things worse? — DAMNED IF I DO OR DON'T DEAR DAMNED: I'm not sure what the circumstances were that made you divorce their mother, but your daughters are no longer children. They are fully into adulthood. I do think a conversation with each of them is in order. If you approach the subject saying that things don't always work out as planned, and had you found living with their mother to be tolerable you would still be married, it might make the rest of what you have to say more palatable. If your ex has accused you of infidelity, you have a right to defend yourself as long as you don't assassinate their mother's character (which is likely what she has done to yours). Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
News.com.au
24-05-2025
- General
- News.com.au
The ultimate way to deal with a toxic friendship
COMMENT As a high-performance coach and organisational psychologist, I've seen all kinds of workplace dynamics. But one of the most unsettling is successful women tearing down other women. It's corrosive, often subtle, and incredibly damaging. Ask women who've been on the receiving end of female bullying how it felt, and the response is often the same – 'sucker punched', 'blindsided' and 'sideswiped'. They never saw it coming. Toxic friendships, particularly between women, are more common than we realise. And here's the kicker – when female friendships go south, they often come with emotional complexities that make them harder to escape. That's because we're wired for connection. We expect kindness and camaraderie from other women. So, when betrayal creeps in, it feels worse than when it comes from, say, an acquaintance or even a romantic partner. The emotional toll runs deep because we don't expect it from another woman – we're sisters after all. So why is it that sisterhood can sour so quickly? Anthropologists and psychologists have long studied female relational aggression, and some research suggests that competition among women can be traced back to evolutionary instincts, territorial disputes, social hierarchy struggles, and even subtle forms of sabotage. Regardless of whether the toxicity stems from deep evolutionary instincts or just personal baggage, staying in a harmful friendship isn't recommended – it's harmful. If you've reached the point where the relationship is taking more than it's giving, it's time to step back. Here's how: • Acknowledge the reality – If a friendship consistently leaves you feeling stressed or drained, that's a sign it's no longer serving you. If it's a workplace situation don't explain what's happening away. Face what's going on. Identify the type of toxicity it is – are they being disrespectful or something more sinister like frequent and repetitive bullying? • Choose your approach – Some friendships require a direct break-up conversation. Others benefit from gradual distancing. If it's a workplace relationship gone wrong, approach it strategically – consult with a mentor, or if necessary, HR if safe to do so. • Set clear boundaries – If you decide to talk it out, be firm and honest: 'I don't feel our friendship is healthy for me anymore, and I need to step away.' At work it might not be so cut and dry, especially if it's a peer or your boss. I would advise getting support to come up with a strategy that maintains your sanity and doesn't end your career. Often when a woman outs another woman it is a career limiting move to call it out. Figure out how much support you will receive from your workplace and whether it is worth the risk. Maintain professionalism at all times. • Bury your guilt – Prioritising your peace isn't selfish. If leaving a toxic friendship means walking away from a job, a social circle, or an environment that no longer serves you, so be it. At work, it's the same deal but it needs to be managed differently. If you have to leave the organisation because you can't see a constructive way to remove yourself from the toxic colleague's firing line, get out before you lose your confidence and strength to pursue better professional opportunities. Ending a toxic friendship isn't an act of cruelty, it's an act of self-preservation. And when you finally step away, you create space for friendships that feel lighter, genuine, and mutually uplifting. So, here's your reminder. You get to decide the terms of your relationships. You hold the power. You write the script.
CBS News
23-05-2025
- Sport
- CBS News
Michigan high school rowing team heading to nationals
The crew team at St Mary's Preparatory High School in Orchard Lake, Michigan, has been competing since the 1970s, taking home 28 state championships and numerous national appearances. For decades, the historically all-boys school competed in the men's races. But five years ago, the school accepted its first class of girls, an idea that was met with skepticism by some in the school's community. "I will be the first to admit that I was not enthusiastic about the girls starting here, I mean, we've been an all-boys school since 1885. But I couldn't be more wrong about something," said head coach and English teacher Chris Czarnecki. "They are very much a mirror image of the boys. Ambitious, driven, competitive." Student Sadie Ross will be heading to the nationals in her boat. She tells CBS Detroit that when she was a freshman, there were no senior girls. "I'd say it's weird, especially considering it's an all-boys school and coming in and being like, oh there's a whole bunch of girls here," she said. "I think we've worked really hard to create this sisterhood instead of a brotherhood. And I'd say, honestly, all the girls, it's like we're one big family." "It's nice to have that coed group because it's not just around all guys the entire time," said sophomore Evan Cadieux. "They're all very hardworking, and it's nice to be around them." The athletes carry their boats to the dock and carefully lower them into the water. Once they are far enough out in the water, they begin their drills. Assistant varsity coach David Stration is an alumnus of St. Mary's Prep and graduated when it was still an all-boys school. "Obviously, when everyone found out, there was a lot of apprehension with it," he said. "A lot of people were talking, like: 'Is this a good idea, is it not?' But it's been amazing to have them. It just adds so much more to the school and to the rowing program as a whole." The women's team has remained competitive against established programs across the state due to a rigorous training schedule that includes two practices a day near the end of the season, with the first practice starting at 5 a.m. Stration said he's proud of what the team has accomplished in such a short time. "The fact that within five years we've already had a national championship on the girls' side, we've sent multiple, multiple boats to nationals, we've won a Midwest medal in the eight, which is one of the more prestigious medals to be winning," he said. "It's wonderful to see how fast and how quickly they've taken on and really made it their own."
Daily Mail
13-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
'A smash hit': The best Contemporary novels out now - Under a Riviera Moon by Helen McGinn, Slags by Emma Jane Unsworth, Favourite Daughter by Morgan Dick
Under a Riviera Moon by Helen McGinn (Boldwood £9.99, 272pp) This deliciously romantic story set in Paris and Cannes is perfect to curl up with on a sunny afternoon. After years of infertility which ended her marriage, Maggie is distraught to discover that not only is her ex engaged but his fiancee is pregnant. Heartbroken, Maggie takes up her mother's offer of a trip to the South of France to pick up some of her grandmother Elizabeth's things from her best friend, Allegra. American and impossibly glamorous, Allegra talks Maggie through the photos in the box Elizabeth left for her before she fled Paris in 1961. Maggie and Allegra's connection in the present day is contrasted with Allegra and Elizabeth's whirlwind year in the City of Love. It romps along and is brilliant on grabbing opportunities when they appear. Wonderful. Slags by Emma Jane Unsworth (The Borough Press £16.99, 288pp) Former party girl Sarah is in her early 40s, flirting with sobriety, single and bored. Her sister Juliette, a wife and mother, is approaching her 40th birthday, so to celebrate the pair set off on a road trip around Scotland. The narrative alternates between their teenage years and now, exploring what happened to Sarah then and how those events have shaped her present emotional landscape. However, as the trip progresses, Sarah discovers that Juliette's life isn't as glossy as it looks on the outside either. The more demons they exorcise, the better Sarah begins to feel. It's beautifully written and terrific on sisterhood, sex and obsessions. Favourite Daughter by Morgan Dick (Viking £16.99, 352pp) Another story about sisters, this one is hilarious, heart-breaking and utterly original. Mickey and Arlo are half-sisters who share a recently deceased father but have never met. Mickey blames her dad for every ounce of sorrow she has ever experienced; Arlo, who grew up with him and was his carer before his death, couldn't adore him more. Grief-stricken Arlo is horrified to discover her father cut her out of his will before he died. Mickey can't believe it when she's told that his considerable estate is passing to her – on the condition that she attends seven therapy sessions. Arlo is a therapist – guess where Mickey ends up? Fantastic. I think it might be a smash hit.
