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Independent Singapore
21-07-2025
- General
- Independent Singapore
‘Am I asking for too much?': Woman feels unloved as BF insists on going 50/50 for everything
SINGAPORE: A 30-year-old woman is feeling increasingly unfulfilled in her relationship after realising that her boyfriend of two months insists on splitting everything equally, right down to the last dollar. In a post shared on Reddit, she explained that even before they officially became a couple, her 25-year-old boyfriend, who currently works as a waiter and part-time tutor, had never once volunteered to pay for anything. 'He never offered to pay for anything—not even a dessert. Now that we're dating, we still split everything 50/50,' she said. 'He's never once said, 'I got this.' I'm the one who always asks, 'How much do I owe today?'' When she brought up how this made her feel, he responded that he preferred to split things equally. She then suggested they try taking turns instead, but he was hesitant and remarked, 'What if we argue one day and it becomes a problem?' 'That caught me off guard,' she said. 'To me, love isn't transactional. I'm generous with people I care about and don't keep score.' Although he eventually agreed to try alternating turns, the woman admitted she's now unsure whether they truly share the same values. 'Some people might think I'm expecting too much, especially since I earn more, but I'm not asking to be spoiled. I just want to feel that he wants to care for me. Right now, I don't feel that,' she continued. 'I once saw a reel that said, 'If your boyfriend had the chance to date his celebrity crush, would he still go 50/50 with her?' That stuck with me.' She also recalled that when their relationship became official, her boyfriend never once gave her flowers. On their one-month anniversary, all she received was a book about cats, which surprised her since she had never mentioned anything about liking them. 'I try not to compare, but seeing my friends' boyfriends give them thoughtful surprises makes me feel unimportant, both emotionally and materially,' she wrote. She then described other situations where she felt unloved. When she asked him to plan a date, he suggested going 'hiking,' despite knowing that she is not athletic and does not enjoy such activities. When she was sick, he brought over snacks and food, but some of the items had already expired. On another occasion, after attending a family gathering, he gave her leftover food to eat. 'I'm 30. I don't want to waste time. I know some things can be taught, but I also believe some things—like generosity, care, emotional initiative—can't be forced. He tells me he likes me all the time, but I don't feel loved in the way I need to be. Words don't mean much to me—actions do,' she said. 'I don't want to be a 'princess,' but as a woman, I want to feel cherished and provided for, even in small ways. I know he's a decent guy, but I can't ignore the fear that he'll want everything to be 50/50 forever—and I just can't live like that. Maybe he doesn't love me enough to invest emotionally or financially,' she added. At the end of her post, she asked the local community, 'I'd really appreciate both male and female perspectives: Am I asking for too much? Is this something I should wait and see, or should I walk away before I get in too deep?' 'It's clear that he's not that into you, and you know it too.' In the discussion thread, one Singaporean Redditor told her, 'You're young. Don't waste time hoping someone might change. You're putting YOUR growth and happiness on hold, sitting there waiting and hoping someone else will start doing better.' Another commented, 'I think you already know the answer because your post reads super clear. Trust yourself and don't look to others to validate your decision.' A third remarked, 'You can find better. Jiayou. It's clear that he's not that into you, and you know it too.' A fourth added, 'SG60 male / married here. Does not look promising. A marriage is about give and take, but you both have to be on the same page and on the same wavelength. There must be a meeting of the minds. I sense the absence here. Just my take.' In other news, an HR professional recently revealed on social media that she has been battling 'depression and mental distress' after her CEO falsely accused her of leaking company information during her notice period. On Saturday (Jul 19), she detailed her ordeal on the r/askSingapore Reddit forum, explaining that the stress has affected her so deeply that she now 'hears voices at night.' She added that every morning, she wakes up feeling overwhelmed by depression and finds it difficult to get out of bed. Read more: HR professional says she now suffers from 'depression and mental distress' after CEO falsely accused her of leaking company information Featured image by freepik (for illustration purposes only)
Yahoo
05-07-2025
- Yahoo
This viral ChatGPT prompt can teach you anything — and I'm officially hooked
When you buy through links on our articles, Future and its syndication partners may earn a commission. If you've ever asked ChatGPT to explain something and felt like the answer was too vague, too fast or just not sinking in, you're going to want to try this viral prompt. As a power user, I have tested a thousands of prompts and definitely have my favorites. But now, I have a new one. I used to get overwhelmed trying to learn new topics, but since discovering this now-viral Reddit prompt, all of that has changed. Unlike other prompts that may be designed for productivity or brainstorming, this particular prompt is designed to turn ChatGPT into a customized, interactive tutor. The prompt, originally shared on r/ChatGPT, gives the AI a structured role: to ask questions before answering, tailor explanations to your level and then offer multiple paths of exploration. In other words, instead of dumping information at you, it's more interactive so it builds a learning plan tailored to you. After testing it across topics from neuroscience to personal finance, I can confidently say: it works. You Can Learn Everything With This Prompt. BEST LEARNING PROMPT! from r/ChatGPTPromptGenius The Reddit prompt is dense and might be confusing because it looks a little different than most prompts. But, you're going to want to copy the entire prompt into ChatGPT and hit send. From there, the AI will prompt you with follow up questions. Too bulky? I've streamlined a version of it for you: "Act as a private tutor. Ask me what I already know about the topic, how deep I want to go, and how much time I want to spend learning. Then create a personalized explanation plan and quiz me along the way to check understanding. Don't move on until I confirm I'm ready." Immediately, ChatGPT shifts from reactive assistant to proactive guide. It starts by asking smart, clarifying questions, then delivers layered responses that build on each other. Whether I wanted a summary or a deep dive, it adjusted. It even offered practice questions and examples tailored to my interests. "Explain this topic to me like I'm 12 — then like I'm a college student." "Give me a beginner, intermediate, and advanced breakdown of [topic]." "Quiz me on what I've learned so far. Use multiple choice." "What are common misunderstandings about this subject?" "How can I apply this knowledge in real life?" I tried the viral prompt to take a deep dive into the history of 1960s rock n' roll and learned stuff my parents didn't even know. The add-on prompts helped me deepen my retention, fill in gaps and stay engaged. I have used them for everything from world history to animal facts. There is realy no limit to how helpful this prompt can be for continued education. What makes this prompt so effective is that it aligns with the way people learn best: through interaction, scaffolding and feedback. When ChatGPT asks what you already know, it avoids wasting time on the basics or skipping too far ahead. When it checks your understanding, it simulates the feedback loop of a live tutor. That back-and-forth is what turns passive reading into active learning. It also adds accountability. You're not just being told information that can be misread or overlooked, you're being quizzed, nudged and guided to ensure you 'get it.'That makes it easier to stay focused and retain the material. Plus, when you tell ChatGPT how much time you want to spend, it shapes the experience into something manageable and realistic, which reduces overwhelm. If you're serious about learning something new and want to dive deeper than just surface-level answers, this Reddit prompt is a game-changer. It transforms the chatbot into a true learning coach, guiding you step-by-step with clarity, structure and interaction. Add a few follow-up prompts, and you'll wonder why you ever tried to learn from static Google results or explainer videos that couldn't answer your specific questions. Try it and let me know in the comments what worked for you. Meta's new 'Superintelligence' team could upend the entire AI industry — here's why OpenAI should be worried I've tested ChatGPT for everything — and it still fails at this These 7 AI prompts will instantly boost your results — here's how
Malay Mail
18-06-2025
- Malay Mail
Singapore court jails tutor for molesting students, secretly filming 951 lewd videos in public and at home
SINGAPORE, June 18 — A private tutor was sentenced to four years and nine months in jail yesterday for committing obscene acts behind his female students, secretly filming them and engaging in lewd acts in public. Michael Martin Lee Teck Heng, 58, pleaded guilty to multiple charges, including one count of committing an obscene act, one count of making obscene films, three counts of molest and one count of aggravated molest, according to CNA. Ten additional charges related to the same incidents were taken into consideration for sentencing. Deputy Public Prosecutor Daphne Lim said the accused was 'clearly one who has no qualms violating young women for his sexual perversion'. 'Further, the offences committed by the accused against his tutees are difficult to detect and were committed by the accused in his capacity as a tutor, and as someone in a position of authority over them. Both specific and general deterrence comes to the fore,' Lim said. His crimes were uncovered after he was caught engaging in indecent exposure in a public place. Lee gave one-on-one mathematics and science tuition to primary and secondary school students in his home. He disguised his actions by placing his hand on the back or shoulder of his students while committing the indecent acts. The victims were unaware of Lee's actions, but a 15-year-old girl sensed something was wrong and felt uneasy about his close proximity. She suspected the nature of his actions but hesitated to confront him, fearing she might be misinterpreting the situation due to her perception of him as religious. She also feared that, being alone with him, he might escalate his actions. The youngest victim, who was only 13 years old at the time he committed the offences, was unaware that he took videos of her. In May 2019, Lee started to take videos of himself committing sexual acts in public behind or at a distance from unsuspecting women. Lee was arrested on September 30, 2019, after a woman saw him exposing himself at a bus stop and alerted the police. Police officers checked his mobile phone and discovered videos of Lee committing sexual acts, leading to his arrest. During investigations, police officers raided his home and found at least 951 videos recorded by Lee, including 406 showing him exposing himself or making inappropriate physical contact with his students. An additional 545 videos depicted Lee engaging in lewd acts in public. Lim emphasised the need for public protection, highlighting the extensive number of incidents in which Lee had exposed himself in public while women were present. 'Taken together, the offences cumulatively show that the accused is a menace and a threat to the community. A lengthy sentence is called for to protect the community,' she added. Lee's defence lawyer Joyce Khoo argued in mitigation that he had been diagnosed with multiple mental illnesses since 1997 and was suffering from exhibitionistic disorder at the time of the offenses. She presented four medical reports from the Institute of Mental Health (IMH), dating back to 1997, to support her claim. Lee had been receiving treatment for adjustment disorder since 1997. The prosecutor, however, said that the disorder was a 'nothing more than a psychiatric label to describe a perverse behaviour'. The judge ruled that his condition did not impair his ability to exercise self-control and gave no mitigating weight to Lee's mental condition. The court found that Lee had abused the trust of his students, who were vulnerable victims. A gag order prohibits the publication of the victims' identities and the location of the offenses to protect their privacy. * If you are experiencing sexual violence, the following hotlines offer free and confidential support: Talian Kasih at 15999 or WhatsApp 019-2615999 (24/7); All Women's Action Society at 016-2374221/016-2284221 (9.30am-5.30pm); and Women's Aid Organisation (WAO) at 03-30008858 or SMS/WhatsApp TINA 018-9888058 (24/7)
Malay Mail
07-06-2025
- Malay Mail
Tutor under investigation for allegedly buying vape for 13-year-old student in Singapore
SINGAPORE, June 7 — A private tutor in Singapore is being investigated by authorities after allegedly helping a 13-year-old student purchase an e-cigarette. The incident came to light after the girl's secondary school contacted her father on May 21 to inform him that his daughter had been caught with a vape device. According to Shin Min Daily News, the school's discipline master said the girl had admitted to asking her Chinese tutor to help buy it online. The father, surnamed Zhu, 33, told the paper he was 'extremely shocked' and later checked his daughter's chat history with the tutor. 'I saw that the tutor purchased the e-cigarette online and even sent screenshots to my daughter. She handed the e-cigarette to my daughter on May 19,' he reportedly said. 'At the time, my daughter said she would pay S$78 (RM256) to her during the next lesson.' The tutor had been hired through an agency in 2024 to provide weekly Chinese lessons while the girl was in Primary 6. Lessons were conducted behind closed doors in the girl's room every Monday. Despite nearly a year of tuition, Zhu said her grades did not improve. 'My daughter's Chinese grades this year were failing. I originally thought it was her own fault, but now I know the tutor wasn't teaching seriously at all,' he said. He added that after the first three proper lessons, the tutor had spent most of her time chatting with the girl and even bought her snacks and cosmetics. Zhu said: 'Later I called the tutor directly, and she initially denied it. It wasn't until I told her I had already seen their chat records that she immediately hung up and blocked me.' He added, 'The tutor should have known better than to satisfy the curiosity of the girl by buying the vape on my daughter's behalf.' The Health Sciences Authority (HSA) confirmed with Shin Min that it is investigating the case. It reminded the public that importing, distributing, or selling e-cigarettes and their components is illegal in Singapore. First-time offenders face fines of up to S$10,000, jail of up to six months, or both. Repeat offenders face double the penalty. Zhu also reported the incident to the agency that had arranged the tuition. A spokesman told Shin Min that the agency has removed the tutor from its roster and taken steps to prevent similar incidents in future. Following the discovery, Zhu has taken stricter measures at home. He said he now leaves the door open during tuition sessions and regularly checks his daughter's school bag.
Yahoo
31-05-2025
- Business
- Yahoo
Tutor Wonders If It's Okay to Ask a Family to Pay Her Throughout the Summer Despite Not Providing Lessons
A tutor turned to Mumsnet for advice on how to handle her challenging financial situation over the summer break She is contemplating asking one of the families to pay her over the summer, despite them not requiring any lessons 'In future, price accordingly, assuming that you won't be needed for the holidays. Incorporate your holiday 'pay' into the usual fee and set some money aside,' one reader suggestedA tutor is worrying about staying afloat financially over the summer break — and wondering whether it would be presumptuous to ask one of the families she works for to help. She detailed her dilemma on the community forum Mumsnet, explaining that she works for three families, all of whom have different schedules and payment approaches. One continues to employ her over the summer, and the second does not require her services during the break but still pays her year-round. The third family had the OP (original poster) working year-round the first year, but then the second year she was informed at the last minute that they would be away all summer, throwing her for a loop. "I didn't realize this was the plan and I wasn't paid all summer. I get the majority of my income from them and found it a real struggle for a couple of months," she said. Now that the current school year — her third with this particular family — is drawing to a close, the OP is anxious about her financial situation. The family has already informed her that her last lesson will be in a couple of weeks — "much earlier than I expected," the OP said. "This will leave me without pay for 3 months, which will set me back a lot," she continued, before explaining why adding new clients to her roster to cover the gap isn't feasible. "I'm unable to commit to other families who have asked for tutoring as they would want all the time, not just in the holidays." Her solution? To ask the third family to help her out — but she's not sure it's the right move. "Would it be cheeky to put this to the father and ask if there's any way they can pay me over the holidays and explain the situation?" she wrote. "I enjoy working with this family and would rather stay with them if possible, I know that I'm valued there, as the mom has told me in the past that they're keen to keep me/continue with me," she added. In the comments section, a lot readers shared the opinion that it would be wrong of the OP to make such a request of her employer, pointing out that her situation is the reality of being "self-employed." They argued that she should be budgeting her money better throughout the year to cover this window of time when she has less money coming in. "YABU [you are being unreasonable]. That is the nature of self-employed work. You need to plan for the times when you won't be working, not just ask your customers to pay you for nothing," one person wrote. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. "I think this is probably something you should have discussed with them prior to starting," another reader pointed out. "If they haven't previously paid over the holidays or paid a retainer, I would imagine they will not be happy to start now." Many people advised the OP that, going forward, she should negotiate full-year contracts with her tutoring clients or raise her rate to compensate for the summer downtime. "In future, price accordingly, assuming that you won't be needed for the holidays. Incorporate your holiday 'pay' into the usual fee and set some money aside," one suggested, while another threw out the idea of asking for "a retainer" from the family to keep their slot for the upcoming school year. Others wondered why someone working as a tutor would even expect that her services would be needed during a time when kids are on an extended break from school. "If the child is finishing exams in a couple of weeks, I'm not sure why you'd think you'd be needed throughout summer. They won't have anything to study for and will be taking a well-earned break," one person pointed out. Several people also suggested some ways the OP could supplement her income over the summer, such as waitressing jobs, proctoring exams or offering "summer catch-up sessions" for clients. Read the original article on People
