My father-in-law gave us £15,000 towards our home renovation as a Christmas gift... but now he wants the money back - with interest! Help, what do I do? VICKY REYNAL replies
When my father-in-law retired at 70, he gave us a fabulous Christmas present of £15,000 towards our house renovation. It came in a box with a bow and a card that read, 'Our present this year is a contribution towards your home.'
Three years later he is asking for the money back (plus interest!), referring to it as 'the loan' from three years ago. I wish I still had the card and that my mother-in-law was alive to back us up. I don't want to ruin the good relationship we have but I don't want to give the gift back either! What do I do?
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