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NJ event to honor three 'women of courage and resilience', support domestic violence help

NJ event to honor three 'women of courage and resilience', support domestic violence help

Yahoo15-03-2025

In recognition of Women's History Month and in support of victim-survivors of domestic violence, Women Aware will host its first "Voices of Courage & Change" event at the New Brunswick Performing Arts Center (NBPAC) on March 25.
The event will honor three "women of courage and resilience" who support survivors of abuse in their respective fields. They are New York Times best-selling author Regina Calcaterra, state Sen. Linda Greenstein and Middlesex County Sheriff Mildred Scott.
All proceeds from the event will support Women Aware's free and confidential services for victim-survivors of domestic violence and their families in Middlesex County.
In 2024, Women Aware served 3,035 women, children and men through its comprehensive array of services that include 24/7 hotline, 24/7 emergency shelter, legal advocacy, support groups, children's trauma reduction therapy and community outreach. Women Aware is the lead agency in the Middlesex County Family Justice Center, the first in the county and fifth in the state to bring multidisciplinary and multilingual victim services under one roof as a best practice in the field of domestic violence intervention and prevention.
More: Women Aware serves domestic violence victim-survivors in record numbers
The evening's program, which runs from 5:30 to 8 p.m., will present the "Voices of Courage and Change" video. The film features testimony from victim-survivors of domestic violence and was filmed and produced by students from Rutgers University's Mason Gross School of the Arts. An awards ceremony will be followed by remarks from Calcaterra, who penned the memoir "Etched in Sand: A True Story of Five Siblings Who Survived an Unspeakable Childhood on Long Island.'
Individual tickets are $150 and may be purchased for yourself and/or for a victim/survivor so they may attend the program.
email: cmakin@gannettnj.com
Cheryl Makin is an award-winning features and education reporter for MyCentralJersey.com, part of the USA Today Network. Contact: Cmakin@gannettnj.com or @CherylMakin. To get unlimited access, please subscribe or activate your digital account today.
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