28 Things That Will Bring Order To Your Home In A Snap
1. A plastic bag dispenser that neatly fits in your drawer so you don't have to battle with five crushed cardboard boxes. You can store this horizontally in a drawer or get fancy and mount it vertically in a cabinet.
These come with optional sticker labels, so you know which size bag you're grabbing.
YouCopia is a woman-owned small business that specializes in home storage solutions.
Promising review:"I like it very much. Not so large. Lightweight. Would look nice on top of the counter. What I like is that you do not have to wrangle the box into the slots. Simply pick up the roll of bags from their packaging and put them in the designated slot." — Amazon Customer
Get it from Amazon for $19.99+ (available in three- or four-slot models).
2. A set of airtight food storage containers so you can ditch all the ripped cardboard and leaky flour bags you have in the cabinet right now. Speaking as someone who recently dealt with a pantry moth problem, airtight storage is the way to go.
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This 14-piece set comes with reusable labels, a marker, *and* a measuring spoon set!
Promising review:"No matter how many times I tried to make the package clutter in my pantry look nice, it wasn't happening. I tried the pop-top containers before, but things still got stale and were too expensive to do the entire pantry. This set was so affordable that I bought two of them and was able to finally get everything organized! I've had no issues with things getting stale, and my 4-year-old is now able to easily see, access, and open cereal or snacks when he wants to. Definitely recommend!" — Fisch
Get a pack of four from Amazon for $25.99+ (available in four colors and various multipacks).
3. Under-cabinet containers you can install in areas that were previously considered at capacity. They maximize space under sinks, in pantries, and beneath shelves, meaning you can finally fit even more stuff in your home! The jars are airtight and self-seal when you put them back, so you can store anything from coffee beans to cotton swabs in them.
Each jar is sold in a set of two or three and comes with its own magnetic rims and one stainless steel shelf plate.
Vascito is a Michigan-based small biz that provides high-tech home storage and organization products.
Promising review:"AMAZING! I love this product. The containers are a good quality and the rims unscrew for easy cleaning. They really are tightly sealed, and there is no need for a lid. The customer service was fab, providing personalized labels, and the delivery was amazingly quick considering I'm in England!" — samhhawk99
Get it from Vascito on Etsy for $51.95+ (available in four sizes and two colors).
4. An interlocking storage organization set that lets you harness the power of CUBES. Assemble them in whatever grid works best for your closet. The set comes with a little rubber mallet so you can feel like Bob the Builder while creating your ideal storage unit.
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Promising review:"I put these in my closet to make extra shelves for sweaters/sweatshirts. They were easy to assemble and worked great at adding additional space to my closet. I like that my clothes don't topple over into the pile next to them anymore. They were easy to put together, and if I move, they will be easy to take apart, put in a small box, and move. I'm very happy with this purchase." — Goldensummerdog
Get it from Amazon for $29.99+ (available in five colors and two sizes).
5. A slender storage cabinet you can sneak into the little space next to the toilet. Cleaning supplies, extra toilet paper, and reading materials are now conveniently within reach!
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Promising review:"So easy to put together I could put it together with my eyes closed. Fit amazingly perfectly between the tub and the toilet, and it has created so much more space, and my bathroom is no longer cluttered because of this product." — COS45B
Get it from Amazon for $35.68+ (available in three colors).
6. A silverware sorter that takes up very little space in your drawer but can fit up to 24 pieces of cutlery. With the extra space, the possibilities are endless. Maybe it's time for a novelty monstera slotted spoon?
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Promising review:"I have a tiny kitchen with only three drawers, so space is at a premium. My silverware organizer took up almost all of one drawer, so this organizer is a godsend. You can fit quite a few spoons, etc., in each slot. My beater attachments fit perfectly into the top two hollows. I will say I have to flip my forks over face down in order to be able to shut and open my drawer, but then the drawer itself is kind of shallow. You NEED this if you have a small kitchen with few drawers!" — mialro
Get it from Amazon for $9.52+ (available in three sizes and styles).
7. A wineglass rack you can put anywhere in your home: on the bar cart, under kitchen cabinets, under floating shelves — you name it. This feels a little safer than just having them floating around in the cabinet, ready to fall out and shatter.
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BTW, one rack can hold up to nine standard size glasses.
Promising review:"Overall, very pleased with the product. Found some floating shelves to match a cabinet. Then added these to make my custom wine stem rack. Quality is better than expected, and I love the darker finish and not the standard Chrome option. These also were the right size for the width and depth of the Shelf. So far, I've gotten several compliments." — Ms Lila
Get it from Amazon for $19.93+ (available in four colors and three sizes).
8. A thin rolling shelf to slip in that weird space between your fridge and cabinets. Or between your laundry machine and the wall. Or in the garage next to your car. Wherever you have a tiny sliver of unused space.
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Promising review: "I bought this for my bedroom to hold extra things next to my bed. It was so easy to put together. I would highly recommend it to anyone who might need something like this. 😀" — william
Get it from Amazon for $16.89+ (available in two sizes and five colors).
9. A tea bag organizer for avid tea drinkers who are sick of getting hit with an avalanche of boxes every time they open their cupboard. This slim device can fit up to 120 standard-sized bags.
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Promising review:"It holds so many; the storage capacity is wild! It was able to clean up all of our various types of tea boxes and slim down the space. I should have bought this sooner." — BB
Get it from Amazon for $22.94+ (available in two sizes).
10. An elastic organizer to detangle the huge ball of cords and chargers tumbling around in your bag.
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Promising review:"I used to be like you. Wake up, blindly shower, maybe make some eggs if you have any energy left after those other chores. Weren't you planning on going to the gym this morning? Ugh, sorry, health, lifting all the hard drives and other electronics from one bag and putting them in the other will have to do again because it takes forever to get everything I need later in the day across the border from pack to duffel. Grid-It is like a Nexus pass for bags. Cross packs in seconds securely and hassle-free. You will be amazed by the gear combos you can pack on just one of these. I carry envelopes and stamps in the zip-up pocket on the back now and get a weird amount of admiration for keeping such old-school yet extremely relevant supplies on hand for friends or passers-by." — Josh
Get it from Amazon for $14.24.
11. An under-cabinet drawer that'll bring order to whatever cabinet you've been avoiding lately. Grabbing a sponge will now be a two-second activity instead of a 15-minute scavenger hunt.
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Promising review:"These are nice pieces that helped me organize underneath my bathroom sink! They fit perfectly! After organizing everything, I was so surprised I had so much more room that I grabbed more items out of the linen closet to fill it up. I still have a lot of room left. I bought these based off the high ratings, and they hold true." — Brad J. Leahy
Get it from Amazon for $29.99+ (available in two colors).
12. A set of Sheet Keeper bands ready to keep your sheet sets together and properly labeled. GOODBYE, frantically searching for a matching pillowcase before your guests arrive in 30 minutes.
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Sheet Keeper is a woman-owned small business based in Los Angeles, and their adorable bedding bands will actually make staying organized fun!
Promising review:"Great product. Came quickly,y and they work great! Such a great idea to keep sheets organized and together while being able to tell what size bedding it is. Will order again for sure!" — devonhansen1
Get a set of two from Sheet Keeper on Etsy for $10.99 (available in sizes twin—California king, as well as in duvet and comforter labels).
13. Or a bedding holder to hide your poorly folded fitted sheets in tidy-looking bundles. The bags, which come in three sizes, are meant to hold and compress your bedding to save room and keep your sets together.
Bumble Made is a small business that created the O-Sheet bedding holder for sheets, pillowcases, and other linens.
Promising review: "This is literally one of the best products I've ever purchased. It keeps my sheets so organized, it's good quality, and it makes my life so much easier. I will definitely be buying more for the larger blankets and spare room sheets! Thank you!" — Jennifer Briney
Get it from Bumble Made on Etsy for $16.80+ (available in three sizes and five colors).
14. A shower shelf for the corner of your bathroom or shower because every inch of your home deserves multi-level storage options. The cute little soap dish is honestly enough to sell me on this, tbh!
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Promising review:"This is great for my stand-up shower. There is no space for my things and the shower racks that hang over the showerhead were not enough. This fit perfectly in the corner and got everything I needed. Would definitely recommend." — Destinie Arguello
Get it from Amazon for $24.99.
15. An expanding file folder you can fill with up to 200 pieces of paper and free up sooo much desk space. As an accordion folder follower, I have to say these things are top-notch for organizing everything from restaurant menus to ticket stubs.
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Promising review: "I am going through some legal things, and this folder has been perfect for keeping all my paperwork together! And boy can it hold a lot! The snap closure is very sturdy, and the color is spot on!! An amazing value and great quality!" — MomOf2
Get it from Amazon for $6.98 (available in 16 colors).
16. A set of 3D-printed KitchenAid Tool holders so you finally have a place to store those darn things. They come with Command strips for easy installation, but you could also drill them in.
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McMaster3D is a Langhorne, Pennsylvania-based Etsy shop that specializes in 3D printing.
Promising review:"These are great! They come with Command Strips, and I installed mine sideways on a cabinet instead of underneath, and it's working great! Saving so much drawer space." — Etsy Reviewer
Get the set of three from McMaster3D on Etsy for $11+ (available in 12 colors).
17. A hanging set of rainbow folders to give you some filing cabinet space and add a pop of color to your cubicle. And who doesn't love a chance to color code?
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Promising review:"I use this to keep paperwork in order that I bring back and forth from my office and home. It's easy to see everything when it's hanging up or collapsed down in my work bag. Great design!" — Invalid
Get it from Amazon for $10+ (available in four colors).
18. An over-the-cabinet-door holder so you can fit even more cooking sheets, cutting boards, and other flat kitchen items in your kitchen.
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Promising review:"I bought this for under-the-sink storage where I keep a lot of cutting boards. They were continually falling over and I couldn't find the exact one I wanted. This added much needed storage by attaching to the cabinet door." — S. Isselhardt
Get it from Amazon for $17.97 (also available in a two-pack).
19. A set of Shoe Slotz that lets you stack shoes on top of each other, meaning you can DOUBLE your storage space. In the words of Kelly, let's get some shoes.
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Promising review:"I will spare you the horrific 'before' picture of the complete nightmare that was my closet floor. Just imagine a dusty mess with shoes thrown all over each other in a sad attempt at giving some appearance of order, and you will have a good idea of why buying this shoe organizer was one of the best ideas I've had this year. The floor now looks so neat and tidy I can't believe my eyes every time I open my closet doors." — Veronica, just an average reader, you know?
Get a set of 10 from Amazon for $29.99 (also available in multi-packs).
20. A set of Command spray bottle hangers to stick to the inside of a cabinet door for easy storage, so you can grab the multi-cleaner *the second* you hear food hit the floor.
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Check out a TikTok of the Command spray bottle hangers in action.
Promising review: "Love these! They have helped organize all my products underneath my kitchen sink. The Command hooks are strong, and nothing has budged, even with the weight of the spray bottles! Highly recommend." — Talayfor87
Get a set of two from Amazon for $8.99.
21. Rainbow nesting storage containers that will make a hue-ge difference in your cabinet space. No more free-floating containers and mysterious lids!
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The lids snap together so everything is contained and organized.
Promising review:"If you don't have one yet, get these!!!! No complaints at all; they're versatile and always useful. Great for every occasion. So far no problem with leaks or loose tops, they always work just as intended. A must-have for your kitchen!" — Jenise Negron
Get a set of six (12 pieces) from Amazon for $27.99.
22. A pill organizer with removable trays that break pills into day and time. It'll come in handy for people like me, who can barely remember what month it is, let alone if they took their midday vitamin.
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Promising review:"I have had this for a few months now. Don't think I've missed any medicine since I started using it. I am on 10 different meds, which I take several times a day. This is perfect. I love that I can put the day in my purse or pocket, and I am set for the day. As a side note, when you pull out your new pill pod, you know what day it is. Lol. I keep the tower in our medicine chest, and if home, just leave the day I am using it on top of the tower. Mom saw mine and ordered one. Everyone who I've shown it to is sold. It's a great product. So far, it is one of the few products I have rated 5 stars." — Karen R. Starken
Get it from Amazon for $14.88.
23. A foldable jewelry organizer made with quilted cotton to keep your precious accessories safe and untangled while traveling. There are spaces for earrings, bracelets, and necklaces, plus two zippered pockets for watches and other accessories.
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Promising review:"Absolutely love this! I purchased it for a week-long vacation, and it kept my jewelry safe and untangled. I had stopped traveling with necklaces because they always wound up a tangled mess. No more! The bonus is that the soft pink case is beautiful. It is also very slim, so it's easy to pack or carry in your purse. Highly recommend this product! My favorite purchase in a long time!" — Petite and Pampered Boutique
Get it from Amazon for $15.99+ (available in two sizes and 11 colors).
24. And a dust-free sectioned tray that'll help you sort your jewelry and various baubles, encouraging you to wear more than the same pair of earrings every day. Remember those gold studs your grandma gave you? Now you can actually find them!
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Promising review:"I love these stackable jewelry trays. They take up less space on the dresser but organize the jewelry remarkably well. When stacked and the top one covered, your jewelry can remain dust-free. There are more than enough holders, which are lined with a non-abrasive cloth. Well made and great for organizing." — Alot2do
Get it from Amazon for $32.99+ (available in four styles and different pack options).
25. A six-piece set of clear, stackable refrigerator bins to increase your storage space and help you sort items into categories, like sandwich ingredients, drinks, and condiments so old they might have already been there when you moved in.
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It comes with two wide and two narrow bins, an egg holder, and an organizer great for cans.
Promising review:"I bought them to try to solve the clutter mess in the fridge, and so far, it has been awesome! Now, my husband respects the space for every kind of item. Really satisfied with my purchase! P.S. The plastic material is really durable and resistant, which is a plus." — Erika Shelton
Get a pack of six from Amazon for $39.99.
26. An expandable, cabinet-lining, two-tier shelf that will make every bottle you own visible and easily accessible. You'll never have to settle for paprika when you wanted smoked paprika ever again.
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Promising review:"Where has this been all my life? This is the best invention ever. Very easy to assemble and fit my cabinet easily. Buy this, you won't regret it!" — Kindle Customer
Get it from Amazon for $29.99+ (available with or without spices).
27. Or a spice drawer organizer to transform your chaotic and, quite frankly, scary drawer into something orderly and easy to scan. With this, you'll never accidentally re-buy cumin six times over.
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These drawer liners are made of a soft foam to keep your jars in the right position (label up!) so you can quickly grab what you need. You can trim them to fit your drawers.
Get a 10-foot roll from Amazon for $16.99 (available in two colors).
28. A retro acrylic beauty organizer offering you the unbelievable chance to actually see your bathroom counter. Thanks to the two drawers and roomy top compartment, it has space for all your makeup and skincare essentials — up to 16 full-size bottles!
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Here's what BuzzFeed Shopping editor Maitland Quitmeyer has to say about it: "I have this organizer, and I love it! It holds a good amount of stuff, keeps the dust at bay, and looks much neater than my old organizer, which just had slots with no lid. Because I regularly try a ton of beauty products, I paired it with a set of stacking drawers from another seller, which aren't a perfect match for the shade of green, but look good together on my vanity!"
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Are you a victim of ‘dry begging'? Here's how to make sure passive-aggressive manipulation doesn't ruin your relationship
Even in the healthiest of relationships, conflicts are bound to arise. But how you deal with them speaks volumes about the strength of your bond. Passive-aggressive phrases like 'I guess I'll just do all of the laundry this week' or 'most people would be happy their partner does this' are prime examples of 'dry begging,' a phenomenon that couples counselors, therapists and other mental health experts are starting to call out. Advertisement Uncomfortable as it can get, direct communication is the leading way experts recommend dealing with dry begging. oulaphone_00168 'Dry begging operates by exploiting social cues and emotional signals rather than making direct requests,' explains Darren Magee, an accredited UK-based counselor, in a YouTube video that has since amassed almost half a million views. 'It usually involves dropping hints, displaying some kind of need or vulnerability, or making emotional demonstrations,' Magee elaborates. 'All of these are aimed at creating a sense of obligation in others.' Advertisement Whether the person dry-begging realizes it or not, the tactic creates a situation where the other party feels compelled to help or agree — essentially preying on empathy. 'The key to a healthy, long-term relationship is the ability of a couple to communicate and understand the other on a deeply vulnerable level where each person lets their guard down,' relationship therapist Hope Kelaher tells Brides. 'Taking a passive-aggressive stance is the exact opposite: In worst-case scenarios, I have seen it not only leads to communication breakdown, but to increased conflict, partner withdrawal, mistrust, confusion, poor self-esteem, and, in the worst cases, the end of a relationship.' Advertisement Though it's not an expression you'll find in psychology or counseling textbooks, it's a surprisingly common move that you or your partner may not even realize you're doing. On a Reddit thread that broached the topic of the relatively new term, one user was shocked to find that dry begging is more common in relationships than many would assume. 'When I saw this a few days ago, my reaction was, 'Wait, there's a word for that?!?!'' they replied under the original post. Magee suggests that while sometimes dry begging is unconscious behavior that stems from a fear of rejection or worries over coming across as a burden, it is also a tactic of emotional manipulation that narcissists often employ. Advertisement 'Narcissists generally have a fragile self-image that they want to protect. Asking for help directly might make them look or feel vulnerable, weak or dependent. These are traits they might associate with inferiority. 'Dry begging allows them to hint at their needs without compromising their sense of superiority or self-sufficiency,' he adds. Excessive dry begging can often drive wedges between people, leading to neglect or avoidance. That being said, in many relationships — whether they're platonic, familial or romantic — people are unaware of their own red flags. Dry begging 'is not always manipulative — it certainly can be — but I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. First, look at what's the intention, and is it a pattern,' Aerial Cetnar, a therapist and owner of Boulder Therapy and Wellness in Colorado, tells HuffPost. 'It's common that people are not really taught how to ask for things in a way that's really clear and direct,' Cetnar continues. 'Sometimes they resort to dry begging because it feels like it's a hint and they'd rather it be a hint that gets rejected than a clear ask to be rejected.' Experts agree that when a pattern of manipulation arises, even if it seems as subtle as dry begging on occasion, it may be time to have an open conversation about the issue and seek help from a professional to resolve it. Any pattern of behavior is difficult to break, but whether you or your partner is the dry beggar in question, experts advise, it's an important step to recognize that people can't read minds. Communication, in other words, is key. Advertisement Identifying the presence of dry begging in a relationship is only the first step to mending damage done by passive-aggressive manipulation. The Bay Area Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) Center suggests engaging in a grounded, calm conversation that can prevent triggering a defensive reaction from either party — avoiding blame is important, according to experts at the center. From there, Magee and Cetnar both emphasize that setting boundaries, engaging in direct communication, seeking personalized professional guidance, and, if necessary, evaluating the status of the relationship itself are excellent next steps to preventing future dry-begging incidents.
