I'm a psychologist - this is the unusual behaviour that shows your partner is emotionally immature
A clinical psychologist has revealed the three warning signs that your partner is emotionally immature.
Dr Julie Smith, from Hampshire, took to TikTok to raise awareness of behavioural red flags in relationships.
The expert often speaks on mental health online, including videos on how to build self-confidence, why we procrastinate, and signs that your friendships might be fake.
In a recent clip, Dr Julie urged social media users to keep their eyes peeled to for this attitude.
The first sign is that your partner doesn't want to take responsibility for themselves and will often point the finger at someone else.
The medical professional added: 'They tend to become very dependent on people and to blame them for everything that goes wrong.'
Those who are emotionally immature will also lack empathy, according to Dr Julie, which means they struggle to see past their own wants and needs.
'They guilt trip, or deceive or manipulate into doing what suits them,' she said.
The third and final sign that someone lacks emotional maturity is being hostile and quick to get angry about things.
'[They] attack others who challenge or disagree with them,' Dr Julie said.
She added that sometimes the signs are easier to notice based in our own reactions or how the other person's behaviour makes us feel.
Dr Julie said: 'For example, being around someone who is emotionally immature can feel exhausting.
'There is a sense of always having to walk on eggshells to accommodate their tendency to perceive almost anything as criticism and the intense reaction that follows.
'That highly defensive reflex might be volatile, but it can also be more passive aggressive.
'So, every now and then you notice you are being ignored and the guessing games begin as you try to work out what you have done wrong.'
She said that it can be challenging when you love someone who is emotionally immature as you often have to 'yo-yo' between working hard to gain their approval to then reject them out your own frustration.
The TikTok racked up almost 100,000 likes, with TikTokers commenting their thoughts on the clip
Dr Julie added: 'Rather than going round in circles with them, breaking that cycle comes from making the radical decision to stop seeking validation and approval from someone who is not emotionally mature enough to give it.
The TikTok racked up almost 100,000 likes, with TikTokers commenting their thoughts on the clip.
One wrote: 'Such an insightful message. Recognising these signs in relationships is the first step toward healthier boundaries and emotional well-being.'
Another penned: 'That's my ex wife. I can't believe I lasted 13 years with her.'
A third said: 'These three things go way beyond emotional immaturity more like narcissism.'
A fourth commented: 'Ohhh sounds like my soon to be ex husband. He also runs away at the slightest thing goes off sulking for days on end and then goes silent for months on end.'
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