Woodburn: Dadvice for Father's Day

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Father's Day cards will be opened two days hence, so it seems apropos to share a Hallmark-worthy thought from Mark Twain who famously observed: 'When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much he had learned in seven years.'
More recently, classical pianist Charles Wadworth, who died two weeks ago at age 96, once expanded on Twain's quip: 'By the time a man realizes that maybe his father was right, he usually has a son who thinks he's wrong.'
Or daughter.
Barry Kibrick, an Emmy-winning TV host on PBS, once insightfully told me of raising his two sons: 'I never worried about over-praising them and building up their self-esteem too much because there are plenty of people in the world who will try to tear them down.'
Author Jan Hutchins had a similarly wise dad, sharing: 'When I was a kid, my father told me every day, 'You're the most wonderful boy in the world, and you can do anything you want to.' '
Clarence Budington Kelland, a 20th-century novelist who once described himself as 'the best second-rate writer in America,' made a first-rate compliment about his own father: 'He didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.'
Best-selling essayist Robert Fulghum put it this way: 'Don't worry that your children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you.'
American inventor Charles Kettering likewise advised, 'Every father should remember: one day his son will follow his example, not his advice.'
With attribution unknown comes this pearl: 'One night a father overheard his son pray: 'Dear God, Make me the kind of man my Daddy is.' Later that night, the father prayed, 'Dear God, Make me the kind of man my son wants me to be.' '
The rock band Yellowcard offers this lovely lyric about the power of a dad as a role model: 'Father I will always be / that same boy who stood by the sea / and watched you tower over me / now I'm older I wanna be the same as you.'
Hall of Fame baseball player Harmon Killebrew apparently had a Hall-of-Fame Dad, the son recalling: 'My father used to play with my brother and me in the yard. Mother would come out and say, 'You're tearing up the grass.' Dad would reply, 'We're not raising grass — we're raising boys.' '
A great attitude for Girl Dads as well, naturally.
Speaking of little girls, John Mayer strikes the perfect chord with these lyrics: 'Fathers, be good to your daughters. You are the god and the weight of her world.'
Getting further to the heart of the matter, John Wooden, who believed 'love' is the most important word in the English language, opined: 'The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.'
From another basketball coach, the late Jim Valvano: 'My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person — he believed in me.'
Wayne Bryan, father of doubles legends Mike and Bob who are even better people than they are tennis players, advises parents: 'Shout your praise to the rooftops and if you must criticize, drop it like a dandelion. On second thought, don't criticize at all.'
In closing, this home-run thought from Hall of Fame singles hitter Wade Boggs: 'Anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad.'
Woody Woodburn writes a weekly column for The Star and can be contacted at [e-mail]. His books are available at www.WoodyWoodburn.com.
This article originally appeared on Ventura County Star: Woodburn: Dadvice for Father's Day