
Test whether your sex life is normal by taking a three-minute quiz
It's often seen as a taboo subject. But a new test is finally lifting the lid on our sex lives - and how they compare to one another.
Experts from Psychology Today have developed a three-minute Sexual Satisfaction Test that reveals just how content you are with your sex life.
'Sexual desire and satisfaction can manifest very differently in men and women,' Psychology Today explained.
'Both men and women, however, commonly experience low desire.
'This can be resolved by addressing conflict, consistently sharing affection, communicating outside the bedroom, and making sufficient time for intimacy.
'See where you fall on this scale.'
If you're disappointed with your score, panic not - the researchers have also given their top tips to 'kick it up a notch in the bedroom.'
You can take the test on the on Psychology Today's website.
It is free to take, and includes 20 statements, which you'll be asked if you agree or disagree with.
Statements include 'I rarely feel bored during sex,' 'Foreplay is a big part of my sex life,' and 'Sex feels like a chore.'
At the end of the test, you'll be given a score of 0-100, and told what it means.
For comparison, the average score for the test is 63.
If you scored between 0 and 18, you have 'very low sexual satisfaction', according to Psychology Today.
'Your score indicates you are low in sexual satisfaction,' it explained.
'A healthy sex life can be a passport to bonding, intimacy, pleasure, and growth with your partner.
'While sexual satisfaction may change over the span of a relationship, persistent low sexual satisfaction could indicate that your relationship is not on solid footing.'
A score of 40-62 puts you 'in the middle'.
'Your score indicates you are not low or high in sexual satisfaction,' Psychology Today said.
Meanwhile, if you scored between 82 and 100, you have 'very high sexual satisfaction.'
'Your score indicates you are high in sexual satisfaction,' the experts explained.
'Continue to enjoy sex, it's an important part of life!'
If you're looking to spice up your sex life, the psychologists also provide three key tips.
Firstly, while it sounds simple, the experts advise communicating with your partner.
'Give and get feedback; ask your partner how they feel about their sexual experiences. Be honest and avoid blame and criticism,' they said.
Next, if sex feels like it's becoming a chore, take a break from it altogether and focus on emotional connection.
'Enjoy each other's company - without the sex - through yoga, meditation, or taking a walk together,' the experts advised.
Finally, while it might feel embarrassing, talk about your desires with your partner.
'In new relationships, both partners generally feel an active desire. Over time, it is not unusual to lose this appetite. Don't pathologize this change,' the experts added.
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