The Art of Splitting Up
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Just as the institution of marriage has evolved, so has the institution of divorce. In a review of Haley Mlotek's new divorce memoir, the writer Rachel Vorona Cote traces the introduction of 'no fault ' divorce—a split without the designation of blame. California was the first state to legalize such divorces, in 1969; New York, in 2010, was the last.
Sometimes, splitting up involves placing or sharing blame. Other times, it's more simply about making a new choice for where you want life to take you—but simplicity doesn't mean ease. Today's reading list rounds up Atlantic stories on saying goodbye.
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