Fall of Saigon: Children of Vietnam's war refugees reconcile a painful past

Wakala News

30-04-2025

Hanoi/Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam – Although a child of war refugees, Victoria Ngo got to learn more about her Vietnamese identity only during her college years in the United States in the 1990s.
The eldest daughter in a refugee family with a Vietnamese father of Chinese descent, Ngo grew up in a Chinese-speaking community in the US and for a while thought of herself essentially as just Chinese.
As an inquisitive schoolgirl, Ngo had noticed the differences, though, between her experience as Vietnamese and those of the Chinese people she grew up with.
Curiosity about her identity increased over the years, partly because questions she asked about Vietnam went unanswered by her parents and other relatives.
'I lived with people who only spoke Chinese. My siblings and I went to Chinese school on the weekends,' she told Al Jazeera.
'I also speak Vietnamese, and my name is a Vietnamese name. My experience is very much a Vietnamese experience in the sense that I came as a refugee and came during the wave of the Vietnamese refugee,' she said.
But Vietnam was just not spoken about. And certainly not the war that ended 50 years ago when South Vietnam's then-capital, Saigon, fell to North Vietnamese forces and their leaders in Hanoi.
Trying to fill in the missing pieces of her family's past, Ngo recounted how she signed up to attend a conference about the war in Vietnam at her college, 'thinking that my father would be proud of me'.
His response was stark and unexpected.
'He said, 'If you go to that conference, you are not my daughter!'' Ngo recounted.
'And I was like, 'Wow, I thought I was just learning about our history,' to which he responds: 'That is not our history.''
Ngo's experience is not uncommon among Vietnamese families who fled their country as refugees after Saigon fell on April 30, 1975.
The fall of Saigon ended the war and marked the reunification of North and South with Hanoi as the new capital of post-war Vietnam.
But many of those who worked under the US-aligned government of the Republic of Vietnam, or South Vietnam as it was then known – its civil servants, soldiers, businesspeople – chose exile over unification and living in a communist Vietnam.
Too many lives had been lost. Too much blood had been spilled – North and South – that many, like Ngo's father, could never forgive nor live with their wartime foes in peacetime.
For others, exile as refugees would be a choice taken to stay with relatives who feared persecution – or so they believed – if they stayed in Vietnam after the war.
'There is this void in our history that doesn't get talked about'
The US-backed wars in the three countries of Indochina left huge losses in their wake. Laos and Cambodia suffered an estimated 1.45 million deaths under US bombings.
In Vietnam, there were an estimated 1.1 million military deaths on the communist North's side alone and more than 254,000 on the side of the South Vietnamese republic. Compounded with civilian deaths, the estimated death toll from the war in Vietnam stands conservatively at 3.1 million people.
For the victorious communist forces, they were left with a country in ruin. The northern part of the country was subjected to heavy US bombings. The railroads were inoperable. Most of the major roads were bombed into cratered tracks. Its economy was shattered. The northern population had also witnessed decades of conflict after the onset of French colonial rule in the late 19th century.
Southern Vietnam's urban infrastructure was less damaged by the war. The countryside was in ruins as rural areas had become the front lines in the guerrilla warfare that marked most of the fighting in the South.
Croplands and forests had been poisoned by the US use of defoliant, better known as Agent Orange, the highly toxic chemical compound that was sprayed from the air to deny communist fighters on the ground the cover of trees and other concealing foliage.
Millions of Vietnamese people were affected by the use of Agent Orange, including at least 150,000 children who would be born with severe physical, mental and developmental defects, and others are still being affected to this day because the soil remains poisoned.
Unexploded bombs – in the many hundreds of thousands of tonnes – still 'contaminate' up to 20 percent of Vietnam's territory due to the millions of tonnes of ordnance used in the war, according to the Vietnam National Mine Action Center.
While their April 30, 1975, victory marked an end to the war for the North Vietnamese, for the defeated US-backed government and people of the South, the war's end was for many the start of lengthy separation from family in 'reeducation camps' or permanent exile to Western countries, such as the US, Australia, Germany and Canada.
Before the fall of Saigon, Ngo's father was a high school principal in South Vietnam. After April 30, 1975, he was placed in reeducation camps twice before he made a desperate decision to take his family out of the country on a rickety, overcrowded boat in 1978.
The family would spend half a year in a refugee camp in the Philippines before being accepted by the US as refugees.
By the time of their arrival in the US in the early 1980s, Ngo's extended family had lost everything. Her immediate family, two aunts and uncles, and a grandmother and her relatives shared a two-storey, 30sq-metre (323sq-ft) subsidised housing unit in Los Angeles.
Her father could not teach in the US and ended up becoming a deep ocean fisherman as well as doing odd jobs to put food on the table.
The Vietnam they fled became a bad memory to be forgotten, Ngo said.
'There is this void in our history that doesn't get talked about. You don't know about what's happened in the past,' she told Al Jazeera.
A profound sense of loss is a narrative shared by many Vietnamese refugee families – deep pain from the past that is felt across generations.
Within some families, any mention of the war risks evoking strong emotions and triggering past griefs. The sensitivity is such that silence about the past is sometimes preferred.
'Deep pain from her past'
Cat Nguyen, a young American Vietnamese poet, experienced similar evasiveness when it came to family experiences of the war.
Now based in Ho Chi Minh City – the name given to Saigon after the war in honour of the founding father of the Vietnamese Communist Party – Cat Nguyen said little was shared about their family's past before coming to the US.
'My family, in particular my grandma, harboured deep pain from her past,' Cat Nguyen told Al Jazeera.
Cat Nguyen's family also has a complicated political history.
While a maternal grandfather was an active revolutionary who supported anticolonial efforts against the French in pre-independence Vietnam, a paternal grandfather served in the government of South Vietnam and a maternal grandmother was the principal of an American-English school in Saigon.
But in 1975, Cat Nguyen's family on both sides, and its political divide, left Vietnam.
Cat Nguyen's father was just 10 years old and mother was 13 when they left Vietnam. They were 'uprooted from their native land in the blink of an eye' for a new life in the US, Cat Nguyen said.
'The first few years in the US were filled with sadness for them: difficulties adjusting to a strange land, a language they were not fluent in, a people who did not understand the world they (the Vietnamese refugees) were coming from,' Cat Nguyen said.
The trauma of fleeing Vietnam was also compounded by official accounts that cast the refugees and Vietnamese diaspora as abandoning their country in its hour of much-needed national reconstruction.
This year's 50th anniversary of the fall of Saigon will be celebrated by the Communist Party of Vietnam as a day of unification and also 'liberation of the south'.
That message speaks to the aspirations of millions of Vietnamese in the north and south who made great sacrifices during the war, but the party's official history is inevitably limited.
To this day, the experiences of many in southern Vietnam and their perspectives on the war – what motivated them to resist North Vietnam's political leadership, including Ho Chi Minh – remain absent from the celebratory narratives.
In this fateful historical showdown, southerners who fled overseas as refugees are cast in the role of puppets or traitors, lured and manipulated by the enemy's luxuries and propaganda into abandoning their own people.
Seeing their experiences erased and delegitimised after the war added to the pain of displacement for Vietnam's diaspora communities. It also explains the anger still harboured towards Vietnam's leadership by an older generation of refugees, such as Ngo's father.
This is a multigenerational resentment that still rears its head when refugee parents believe their children are being exposed to positive narratives about bustling, economically thriving Vietnam five decades after the war – which they brand as 'the North's propaganda'.
'You crossed an ocean for me to cross another'
It is not only contemporary Vietnam's official version of history that is problematic.
Cat Nguyen realised there were also gaps when turning to American high school textbooks to learn about the war in Vietnam.
In those schoolbooks, Washington's decades-long military involvement in Vietnam, which left millions of people dead and millions scattered across the world as refugees, only 'a small paragraph' was devoted to 'how the US fought against communism in Vietnam', Cat Nguyen said.
Although supposedly sympathetic to their former South Vietnamese 'allies', Cat Nguyen told of a US-centric perspective that still subjects Vietnamese refugees to an 'Americanised gaze'.
'An Americanised gaze of refugees, meaning that Americans viewed all Vietnamese as either dangerous, threatening communists or as helpless, infantilised refugees,' Cat Nguyen said.
Such narratives had helped to justify US intervention and military occupation of Vietnam to 'save' the Vietnamese from themselves and communism.
'While it is true that Vietnamese refugees suffered greatly, this gaze strips human beings of their own agency and humanhood, displacing them into a framework that upholds the system of white supremacy,' said Cat Nguyen, who has called Vietnam home for more than two years.
Vietnamese American writer Viet Thanh Nguyen noted in his book Nothing Ever Dies that Vietnamese refugees were able to find in the US – in whatever limited space that was available to them – opportunities to tell their immigrant stories, to 'insert themselves into the American dream'.
But it was precisely that 'dream' that Cat Nguyen would eventually grow disenchanted with along with its 'capitalist propaganda'.
The 'American dream' has erased 'the history of the US's genocide of Indigenous populations, enslavement of Black and racialised peoples, and violent colonial and imperial projects', they said.
It is not that Cat Nguyen never had tried to fit into US society. Rather, from a young age, Cat Nguyen told of constantly being made to feel different in a society that 'never sees them as American enough'.
'Throughout my life, I watched as the Vietnamese parts of me slowly eroded. It wasn't until the passing of my grandmother – the person who taught me the most about where I come from – that I began desperately searching for a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual return to my ancestral homeland and my humanity,' Cat Nguyen said.
Seeking to reconnect, Cat Nguyen has become involved in art projects in the form of poetry, performance and filmmaking that experiment with a range of elements in Vietnamese folklore and traditional musical instruments to 'unapologetically' recommit to 'the fight against colonisation, imperialism and capitalism'.
Drawn to identify with Vietnamese revolutionary fighters from 'the other side', Cat Nguyen spoke of finding a source of personal strength in their wisdom and dying for their cause.
That conviction has not led to a dismissal of Cat Nguyen's own family's suffering as refugees in the US, but the acknowledgement of the coexistence of intergenerational trauma that Vietnam's official history fails to include.
One of Cat Nguyen's poems pays homage to their late grandmother: 'You crossed / an ocean / for me / to cross / another and then you crossed / a world / before I / could follow.'
Ngo never did attend the university conference on the war in Vietnam that her father had threatened to disown her over all those years ago.
That was out of respect for her father's wishes. Since then, she has gradually come to see events in Vietnam during the war years and after from the North's perspective – albeit with critical eyes.
'I definitely see that when anything is too centralised and too authoritarian, you have corruption. But if the leadership is very strong and competent, things can move very efficiently,' said Ngo, who relocated to Vietnam more than 20 years ago.
Like Cat Nguyen, Ngo understands the trauma her family members from the South suffered.
It inspired her to pursue a career in psychology and public health focused on underserved communities. She became an associate professor of community health and social sciences at City University of New York's Graduate School of Public Health and Health Policy.
'One of the reasons why I work with marginalised populations and vulnerable populations is because I also understand that experience having grown up as a refugee and in the early years not having very much,' Ngo said.
After more than two decades in Vietnam, Ngo has focused on equipping primary care clinics with the capacity to take care of poor people who suffer from mental health problems but lack access to care.
'I feel like my experience as a refugee has really made me think a lot about the human condition and what kinds of social resources and economic resources we need to put in place to help people in transition and who are marginalised, to help people who are displaced in one way or another,' she said.
For both Ngo and Cat Nguyen, being part of the Vietnamese diaspora and its painful past has given them a nuanced perspective on Vietnam's history that is not readily found in the competing narratives of North and South.
Divided by the flag
Kevin D Pham said there was a recurring story he was told while growing up in a Vietnamese refugee family in San Jose, California.
'I was told by my high school teachers and especially my family that communists were bad, essentially,' said Pham, an assistant professor of political theory at the University of Amsterdam.
Pham's paternal grandfather was imprisoned by communist Viet Minh forces in the 1950s, and his maternal grandfather was imprisoned in a reeducation camp after 1975 and died there from malnutrition.
From a young age, Pham was taught to be proud of his Republic of Vietnam family heritage. Although he appreciates this perspective, he did not uncritically accept what he was taught. After graduating from university, he lived in Vietnam for eight months and, there, came to learn about and sympathise with perspectives from the 'other side'.
But growing up in the US, he told of listening to his uncle, who was a pilot, as he recounted the glory of his younger days when he fought 'the communists' during the war.
Pham's father, on the other hand, was only 16 years old when he was forced to leave Vietnam and did not have much direct experience of warfare. Still, his patriotism for the vanquished US-backed Southern government was still unwavering.
Pham recounts how, during his youth, older Vietnamese men would stop and salute as he and his father cruised down the streets of San Jose in his father's bright yellow Ford Mustang, which had three horizontal red stripes painted on the bonnet to represent the flag of South Vietnam.
In Vietnam to this day, the South Vietnamese flag is still taboo.
Among staunch Vietnamese nationalists, the south's 'three-stripes', or 'ba que', flag has become a popular slur, symbolising betrayal of the nation, defeat and humiliation. Any association with the former government's flag, however remote, has also been used to denounce and alienate.
In early 2023, Hanni Pham, an Australian-Vietnamese singer with the Korean band New Jeans, got caught up in the flag controversy and was subjected to an online campaign, which started when online activists spotted a South Vietnamese flag in a video recording made when she visited her grandparents' home.
The only public place where you can still find an actual three-stripe flag in Vietnam is in Hanoi at the newly built Vietnam Military History Museum, where one is displayed as a historical artefact.
Yet attempts to reconcile Vietnam's fractious past date back decades.
In 1993, under Vietnam's then-prime minister, Vo Van Kiet, the Communist Party's Politburo issued a resolution that marked the first official attempt at reconciliation by encouraging the country to 'respect differences, join hands in dismantling prejudices, shame, hatred, and look forward to the future'.
Kiet was sensitive to the plight of Vietnamese refugees, something that he witnessed within his own family. In a well known interview in 2005 that drew both praise and criticism, he described April 30, 1975, as a 'great victory' but one that left 'millions happy, millions in sorrow'.
'It is a scar that needs healing rather than left to bleed,' he said.
In November, then-president and incumbent general secretary of the Communist Party of Vietnam, To Lam, made a historic appearance at Columbia University in the US with Lien-Hang Nguyen, the daughter of a refugee family who became the first director of Vietnamese studies at the university and who has worked on building bridges between the diaspora and Vietnam.
Their meeting reflected a broader spirit of unity and healing emerging among Vietnamese people long divided by the scars of war and political differences.
Kevin D Pham said he noticed how those who have strong views on the historical North-South divide in Vietnam commonly use the word 'puppets' as a slur, whether referring to supporters of the South Vietnamese government as 'puppets' of the Americans or the North's supporters as 'puppets' of the Soviet Union and China.
'There is this tendency on both sides of seeing the other side as puppets who cannot think for themselves,' Pham said, adding that it indicates a 'lack of curiosity' about the other side's perspective and has become 'an obstacle to true reconciliation'.
'What I encourage instead is the ability to understand multiple perspectives,' he said.
For Cat Nguyen, what is fascinating is that the current national flag of Vietnam – a yellow, five-pointed star on a red background – which once brought painful memories to family members still in the US, is now a source of comradery throughout Vietnam.
This was experienced firsthand when the Vietnamese national football team won the 2024 ASEAN championship in January. Cat Nguyen described flag-waving crowds storming onto streets across the country in celebration of a sporting, not a political, event.
'I am empathetic to the suffering from both sides despite which flags they identify with, either the three-stripe or the red flag with yellow star,' Cat Nguyen said.
'Everyone experienced so much violence, and ultimately I assign the most blame to US imperialism.'