What We Are Reading Today: ‘You Will Find Your People'
Author: Lane Moore
Most would agree adult friendship is hard. TV shows made us believe we would grow up with a tight-knit group of best friends, but real life often looks very different.
In her 2023 book 'You Will Find Your People: How to Make Meaningful Friendships as an Adult,' Lane Moore walks us through this tough reality.
It opens with the line: 'I really thought I would have friends by now.' Relatable, right? Moore reflects on how the ages of 18 to 22 years old are prime friendship years. After that, things get harder.
As the author of 'How to Be Alone' (2018), Moore shifts from solitude to connection. She explores how making friends as adults — especially for those with trauma or rejection — is a messy, emotional process.
Friendship, she says, can feel like a game of musical chairs that started before we noticed.
The book is not a tidy guide. There are no checklists or guaranteed strategies. Instead, Moore offers her own stories — raw, funny, and deeply honest.
She speaks to those who have felt left out or always been 'too much.'
For the exhausted over-givers and the hopeful hearted, this book does not offer easy answers — but it does offer comfort. And sometimes, that is enough.
Also, she dedicates it to her dog.
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