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The Sun
3 days ago
- General
- The Sun
Women reveal when they truly knew they'd hit their 40s – do you agree?
BRITISH women have revealed the tell-tale signs they knew they'd hit their 40s. A poll of 1,500 aged 40 plus revealed the top signs that made them realise they had hit their 40s. 3 3 Some of the top signs were when they start sounding like their mum, are excited by the latest home appliances, and prefer baths to nights out. A poll of 1,500 women aged 40 plus found 19 per cent didn't accept they'd completed their fourth decade until they were at least two or more months into it. With other moments of realisation including being unable to drink coffee after 4pm and having to explain just how big the Spice Girls were to those younger than them. Going to bed before 10.30pm, realising their favourite album is 25 years old, and developing a tendency to complain about the price of things were similarly revelatory. The research was commissioned by Vitabiotics Wellwoman Perimenopause which provides nutritional support for women before the menopause when the body begins to change. It forms part of a campaign to raise awareness of perimenopause among women in their 40s and highlight the support available to them. More than half (51 per cent) of those aware of perimenopause tended to think of it as something which happens to women when they get old – which 81 per cent don't consider themselves to be. While 12 per cent admitted they hadn't heard of this "rarely discussed" natural stage in a woman's life prior to taking part in the study. Perimenopause expert Emma Bardwell, and author of The Perimenopause Solution, said: 'Life is constantly teaching us new things. "As you get older, these revelations can turn out to be real wake-up calls. "When I entered the perimenopause at the age of 42, it was an incredibly challenging time. "I couldn't find the support I needed, and didn't know where to turn. "Women don't always want to hear this but, if you're in your forties, you're likely to be perimenopausal as hormone levels are changing at that time. "Fortunately, we now have so much more information and are better educated than ever about this time of life. And, the good news is, it's never too early to start putting yourself - and your health - first." Other instances where being in their 40s truly hit home, include having to look up slang used by younger people and having a predominantly 2000s and 2010s Spotify playlist. With thinking your celeb teenage crush is now 'getting on a bit' and feeling relieved when social gatherings get cancelled similarly revelatory. Despite these moments of realisation, 15 per cent consider their 40s to be the best years of their lives so far. With the top three best things about this decade including caring less about what people think, appreciating the little things in life, and knowing themselves better. It also emerged 75 per cent of those polled have taken their health more seriously than they had before since hitting 40. And for many, perimenopause is likely to be part of their reason for prioritising this more – 50 per cent have been or going through this stage of life. Although 80 per cent wish they had known more about it before they experienced it. They described the experience as emotionally draining (21 per cent), physically tiring (17 per cent), and stressful (10 per cent). Carried out through OnePoll, the research identified the one piece of advice those polled would give their younger selves, with 22 per cent revealing it would be to read more about the perimenopause. A spokesperson for Vitabiotics Wellwoman Perimenopause, a one-a-day tablet providing 25 nutrients including vitamin B6 to help reduce tiredness and fatigue, said: 'When it comes to the perimenopause, there is a clear lack of understanding, and what this means for women. "Although some may know what the perimenopause is, this stage of life comes with plenty of myths, misconceptions, and misunderstanding. "Advice is often lacking, and women are not sure where to turn. "There are steps you can take for advice, with talking to a health professional a great starting point.' TOP 40 - MOMENTS WOMEN REALISED THEY WERE IN THEIR 40s Caught yourself talking about how fast the year is going Began enjoying the idea of a "quiet night in" Started going to bed before 10.30 Realised you sound like your mum You felt relieved when social events were cancelled Having to look up slang used by younger family members, friends and colleagues You now can't read the 'small print' because it's too small to read Realised you'd rather have a nice bath than a night out Realised your favourite album was 25 years old or more Noticed once fashionable items of clothing had become fashionable again Heard a song from your youth in a supermarket and realised it's now considered a "classic" Became more interested in healthy eating Took a multivitamin as part of a new health routine Realising a song you still know all the dance moves to was released last century (e.g. Hit Me Baby One More Time, Macarena, Saturday Night) Realised you couldn't drink without a three-day hangover Noticing you make a noise when standing up / sitting down Became annoyed at forgetting reusable bags You finally understood the importance of a good nap Forgot your own age - more than once Started using the phrase "back in my day" unironically Looked forward to weekends mainly for cleaning or gardening Being unable to function without your morning coffee Realised you were getting irrationally excited about home appliances Realised you enjoyed complaining about the price of things Cared more about the weather forecast than weekend plans Bought a pair of "sensible shoes" - and liked them Spoke to your younger colleagues and friends about bands they knew nothing about Thinking your celeb teenage crush is now "getting on a bit" Started choosing seats over standing at gigs Complained about modern music and how it was too loud Realising people are looking to you for advice Felt surprised by how young police officers' look Became irrationally worried about younger people not wearing coats in cold weather Became extremely loyal to a particular brand of tea Realising you had a predominantly 2000s and 2010s Spotify playlist Stopped being able to drink coffee after 4pm Had to explain just how big the Spice Girls were to someone younger Made a conscious decision to stop dyeing grey hairs Suddenly became more active on Facebook Began treating your house plants as your children 3
Yahoo
24-05-2025
- Lifestyle
- Yahoo
Woman Asks If It's ‘Normal' to Lose Friends in Your 40s: ‘My Network Is Crumbling Away, One by One'
A Mumsnet user shared that she is going through a phase in her life during which close friendships are ending 'one by one' Many Mumsnet users expressed how they related, admitting that their friendship circles are also getting smaller as they age 'There is that old saying that friends can be either for a reason, a season or a lifetime,' one reader commentedA 40-something woman feels 'isolated and alone' after several of her close friendships have unexpectedly ended in succession. The concerned woman is now wondering if it is 'normal' for people in their 40s to lose many friends, so she turned to the community forum Mumsnet to find out whether other 40-year-olds are experiencing this. 'Many of these women and I are growing, putting up boundaries and being less tolerating,' she explained. 'I feel my network is crumbling away, one by one — and that people don't care about each other.' Among the friendship fallouts is one friend having a 'meltdown' about her re-homing her cat. She then continued to list more rifts in her friend circle. 'Another mom friend chose not to continue our friendship when our children fell out, and now I discover a very good friend who I've known since childhood betrayed my trust by telling another friend of mine she'd met once at my birthday party some confidential things,' she wrote. 'Another friend dated a man after I asked her for his number as I liked him only for her to suddenly open her eyes to him and start dating (well, f------ only actually),' she continued, before opening up the forum. is now available in the Apple App Store! Download it now for the most binge-worthy celeb content, exclusive video clips, astrology updates and more! Many Mumsnet users expressed how they related to her, admitting that their friendship circles are also getting smaller as they age. 'Same! For me, it's been due to just not keeping in contact during child-rearing years, when my working commitments also drained my energy,' one reader replied. 'I see it like when you don't water a house plant, it dies. All people my age (mid-40s) have their established networks.' 'There is that old saying that friends can be either for a reason, a season or a lifetime,' another wrote. 'Some of these could still be lifetime friends, but they are all human, have their own agendas and it's unrealistic to expect any of them to offer you everything you need in terms of support.' 'Widen your circle, see more people less often and try to let all this poor behavior wash over you by focusing your friendship time elsewhere either temporarily or permanently,' the same person recommended. Read the original article on People
Yahoo
23-05-2025
- General
- Yahoo
I was so scared of being alone after my divorce that I immediately jumped into a new relationship. I regret not taking the time to heal.
When I got divorced, I was so scared of being alone that I immediately went on the dating sites. I jumped into a relationship very quickly without realizing we had different values. When that relationship ended, I learned to heal and focus on myself. It was only six months since my divorce became final that I did something I still regret. I created a profile. I was just a week away from turning 40 and newly alone. I was hiding my pain so well that my friend suggested I start online dating. I knew it was a bad idea, but I took her advice anyway. I quickly got into a relationship with a man when I should have been focusing on myself and my healing post-divorce. Getting divorced in my early 40s was not in the plan. When it became my reality, I struggled with loneliness. I had been married for almost 16 years and had known my ex-husband for 18 years. The idea of suddenly being alone at night and having no one to share my day with was scary. It also meant having no financial support and having to rely solely on myself for the first time. Instead of facing it, I buried that pain. I distracted myself by reading the messages from guys on dating apps. There were too many choices on the apps, and I quickly found out that you don't know a person unless you've gone out with them a few times and learned to ask the right questions. So that's what I did. I felt I was interviewing and hiring a man to be a boyfriend; it did not feel great. I wanted a more natural way of meeting someone, but with my busy work schedule, long commute, and kids, the apps were the best way to meet someone. The dating apps were helping to distract me from my pain, but also making me feel even more alone. I knew I needed to get into a relationship and off the apps fast. I wanted a nice, kind guy, and I did not care if he was older or younger. I wanted somebody who could be a great friend and show much-needed love and care. I thought I found someone who fit the bill right after my birthday. He was tall, handsome, and a little bit older. He portrayed himself as a strong, caring man. He also made me feel safe. He accepted my flaws, weirdness, and sense of humor. I filled the emptiness in my heart with the occasional dates with him. I felt alive again when I heard his laughter. It was exciting and fun when we spent time together. But something didn't feel right. We dated for two years, and ultimately, I realized we had different priorities and values. He was not my match; I just started dating him and stayed with him to avoid the cold, empty bed at night after my divorce. I made the biggest mistake of looking happy and making my friends believe I was ready for a new relationship after my divorce. The fact is, I was not prepared for a new relationship, not even close. I was so eager to find a man to walk down the aisle with again, but I made the wrong move. I forgot to find myself first. It's been 10 years since that relationship ended, and I have since invested money, energy, and time into my spiritual and personal growth. I can now say I am OK with being single as I approach my 50th birthday. I now value the relationship I have with myself. Read the original article on Business Insider
Washington Post
23-05-2025
- General
- Washington Post
Carolyn Hax: As their wedding plans stall, daughter's groom suggests eloping
Carolyn Hax is away. The following first appeared Feb. 27, 2011. Dear Carolyn: My 34-year-old daughter is engaged to a wonderful man, 40. They plan to be married in her hometown (his family is from out of state), but that is all they can agree upon in regard to the wedding. Her fiancé would like to have his family there but knows it will be a disaster if he does. His mother has spoiled his siblings' weddings, and his brother has been cruel to him. (His father is deceased.) His mother is apparently a major control freak who will do anything to either sabotage, control or load on the guilt.
Daily Mail
17-05-2025
- Health
- Daily Mail
After decades of red wine, no exercise and 15 cigarettes a day, these are the super-easy lifestyle tweaks that gave me a scientifically proven biological age of 20 - at 61: SANDRA PARSONS
For more than 25 years, I smoked 15 cigarettes a day. I loved smoking. It was the one thing in a busy, stressful life of work and motherhood that gave me a little 'me time'. It wasn't the only thing about my lifestyle that was unhealthy either. Until I hit my 40s, my diet was poor: I'd shove a ready meal into the oven at least a couple of times a week. Most nights I drank a glass of wine or two to unwind. I craved sugar in the afternoons and ate a chocolate bar every day. I did no exercise. None at all.
