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Boston Globe
4 days ago
- Entertainment
- Boston Globe
‘Disney princess energy': Good or bad?
– Princess A. Disney princess energy. DPE. I know it when I see it. My friend Lauren has DPE (very Snow White). A girl I went to high school with named Heather had such intense DPE that I always expected woodland creatures to follow her around and start singing. Basically, it's a vibe — that you, the Disney princess, are on a positive quest to know yourself and help people, and that you might Some people have the kind of DPE that makes them seem like they need to be saved, while others have save everyone else . Get Starting Point A guide through the most important stories of the morning, delivered Monday through Friday. Enter Email Sign Up Take the comment as a compliment, but give yourself a moment to decide how the tone of that message made you feel. Does the person who sent it have DVE (Disney villain energy) in dating? That might be like Beauty and the Beast — a handsome man (and one of my favorite characters ever), but no one wants to deal with him at dinner. Advertisement By the way, I say this as someone with FGE ( Advertisement – Meredith READERS RESPOND I googled it. 'Princess energy' refers to a way of 'being characterized by grace, confidence ... often associated with a sense of royalty or a playful, joyful demeanor.' Is this you? KMC11B Dating is a numbers game that's especially difficult to navigate online. Kudos to the guy for thinking up some kind of ruse to get you to take notice. If he simply said he liked your energy or personality, your eyes would glaze over, and he would join all the other guys vying for your attention that you tossed into the woodpile. So he went all in with a Disney princess reference and it not only flummoxed you, but got you to write in to an advice column. So I'd say the guy is a genius, even if he may eventually turn out to be creepy. ALLUSERNAMESARETAKEN DPE is not a compliment. It means you are high-maintenance. AUNTTIGGYWINK I would NOT take it as a compliment. KWINTERS1 Not sure anything with the word 'princess' in it is complimentary, unless he's a monarch. THE_BRIDE I imagine he believes it's a compliment to tell a grown woman that she appears innocent/naive, frilly/girly, and conforms to conventional beauty standards. In my opinion, when someone compares you to an animated woman, that's what he wants you to be: someone who is superficially attractive and will behave in a scripted manner. BONECOLD At first I thought it was an insult, but the way Meredith explained it ... now I want Disney princess energy. I think we ALL do. JUSTMYOPINION I didn't take it necessarily as a compliment. Two things came to mind: naivety or you expect a guy to be your hero, to sweep you off your feet and save you. And he is tacitly implying—no guy is perfect—there is no guy riding in on a white stallion. Honestly, I would follow up on his comment. What exactly does he mean? PWEET Advertisement '… Gaston in Beauty and the Beast —a handsome man (and one of my favorite characters ever), but no one wants to deal with him at dinner." … Sauf pour LeFou. PEREAGAIN Listen to the new season of the
Boston Globe
10-04-2025
- Lifestyle
- Boston Globe
I have a crush on a fellow teacher
Should I bother asking her out for coffee? I thought if she was remotely interested in me, she'd be interested in the camping trip. Not sure what I should do. I feel like I should also say that I know that the idea of always being together leads to a crush. But we don't work together regularly. Same department, yes, but we each teach our separate classes, maybe pass each other in the halls now and again, and sit close enough to talk at the lunch table maybe once per week. I find myself hoping there's a chair to sit near her so we can chat more… Advertisement Would love some advice! HOPING Related : A. It doesn't sound like it's an issue to date a colleague at your school. Other people are doing it, and it's not like she works for you. Advertisement The issue is the camping trip, I think. It confused everything. You asked this woman to commit to hanging out with co-workers on her big week off from the job. You did the right thing by asking a group of people — so you could soft-launch the idea of a date later — but it was spring break . That's the time for her to be away from everything related to school. She probably spent the week with family. I'm surprised she said yes to begin with. If she reciprocates your crush, it would have been nice of her to counter your camping idea with a plan of her own, to keep the momentum going. But she might not understand your intentions, or her own, just yet. Related : My advice is to ask her to something smaller, maybe a walk outside or yes, a coffee. If she gets excited about another way to hang out, then it's a re-start. If she bails on that too, move along. MEREDITH READERS RESPOND: While I don't know much about dating rules or relationships, I do happen to know quite a bit about camping. People say that they like camping and even think that they enjoy camping, but when it comes down to it they don't really want to go camping. Especially if the weather is dicey, which I'd expect it to be during spring break. People will also back out if something better (just about anything else) comes along, and not feel bad about doing so. ALLUSERNAMESARETAKEN I remember a trip that my co-workers went on once at someone's family ski house. It involved some skiing, copious amounts of alcohol, hookups, a fistfight, and a lost manager who was found at 11 p.m. at the mountain groomers' bonfire, blackout drunk and speaking French. Oh yeah, and some leopard-print lingerie strewn about the bunk room that ended up belonging to the extremely shy receptionist who barely spoke the entire trip. Good times. Best to start by asking your co-worker for a coffee first. Advertisement LUPELOVE You don't pitch a tent at the beginning of a first date, letter writer. And a camping trip is NOT good first-date material, especially with other co-workers in the mix. Go with the coffee plan. BLISTERED-TOE Related : Next time you're chatting her up at lunch ask her directly if she'd be interested in coffee or a drink sometime. Keep it casual. You'll know immediately if she's interested or not: If she waffles for any reason, you have your answer. PENSEUSE Send your own relationship and dating questions to or Catch new episodes of wherever you listen to podcasts. Column and comments are edited and reprinted from .
