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Indian Express
14-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Indian Express
After visa issues steal Uorfi Javed's Cannes 2025 dream, she calls upon netizens to share their ‘rejection stories': ‘I ain't stopping…'
Former Big Boss contestant and content creator Uorfi Javed was all set to make her Cannes debut this year. However, an unfortunate set of events dashed her French Riviera dreams. In an emotional post on Instagram, Javed revealed that she has been missing in action for a while, owing to multiple failed businesses and rejections. 'I haven't been uploading anything or been seen anywhere cause I was going through a phase. My business didn't work, I tried a bunch of other different things, only to face rejections,' she wrote. Amid it all, she had received an opportunity to go to Cannes, and her team was busy preparing for the momentous occasion. 'Got an opportunity to go to Cannes… But as fate would have it, my visa got rejected. Was working on a few crazy outfit ideas, my team and I were very disheartened. I'm sure a lot of you guys must be going through rejections yourself, and I would love to know your stories,' she added. Ever resilient in the face of odds, Javed continued, 'After rejections, feeling dejected and crying over it is normal, in fact healthy. Even I do cry but what happens after? Every rejection is an opportunity if you look carefully. After so many rejections in life. I ain't stopping and so shouldn't you.' The post was supplemented with an inspiring caption: 'Rejections don't define you. It's what you make out of that situation. Guys let's all share our rejection stories and inspire others. Upload a story using #rejected and tag me. Let's talk about it!' Counselling psychologist Srishti Vatsa told that crying is the body's natural way of processing emotions—much like a pressure valve releasing steam. According to her, finding a safe space to cry rather than bottling up feelings is important. 'Allowing emotions to be expressed healthily helps prevent emotional overload,' she said. Rima Bhandekar, psychologist at MPower, Aditya Birla Trust, added that rejections can feel disheartening, and emotions run high. 'The journey often is accompanied by moments of self-doubt, loneliness, and conflicts with those who disagree with your classification of success. However, going through challenges and learning and growing from them can lead to tremendous joy, personal satisfaction, and resilience in the face of rejection,' she said. Muskan Marwah, psychologist at MPower, concurred that instead of taking it to heart and losing all hope, you should reframe your mindset to seek approval from within instead of external sources. 'This mindset involves shifting your belief that your value depends on others' opinions. You are worthy, regardless of how others see you. Focus on self-validation and find ways to build your self-esteem through self-compassion and personal accomplishments,' she explained. Marwah also suggested practicing self-care. 'It is essential for recharging and maintaining emotional health. When you care for yourself, you become more equipped to engage with others healthily. Remember, self-care is not selfish—necessary for a balanced life,' she added. According to her, these strategies help you clearly focus on what excites and motivates you to reach further and what initially inspired you to fulfill your dreams. This sense of meaningful purpose helps you avoid constant comparison, which can sometimes lead to moments of vulnerability, along with feelings of inadequacy and powerlessness.
Indian Express
27-04-2025
- Entertainment
- Indian Express
‘Now, if mama has to go to work, she deals with it': Kalki Koechlin shares tips to balance time between mother and baby
Actor Kalki Koechlin gave birth to her daughter Sappho during the COVID-19 pandemic, and they spent the first seven months holed up at home due to the lockdown. 'There was no pressure to go back to my tiny body because people didn't see me, and we all know actors are always expected to look a certain way. While it initially felt like the stomach would never go, I did eventually get my body back after a year,' the Margarita with a Straw actor told Hindustan Times digital in a recent interview. Her postpartum phase was not without obstacles, and she found it extremely difficult to have some kind of a routine because she was 'too busy breastfeeding, cooking and cleaning.' 'My priority was just sleeping,' added the actor. During the candid conversation, Koechlin shared some tips on how to balance parenting while finding time for oneself. Get creative 'She didn't understand that boundary when I worked from home, eventually. It was challenging when she couldn't access me for a few hours. My partner (Guy Hershberg) has sometimes taken colouring pencils and paper along with her to parking spaces under our building, so she's excited and distracted. It took some creative thinking as parents. Now, if Mama has to go to work, she deals with it,' Koechlin told the publication. Staying away from phones 'We're all attached to our phones, but my rule now is to keep mine in a separate room when I sleep. I have a proper alarm clock that wakes me up, though my daughter does it before that (laughs). This ensures that I'm present while finishing my daily routine, I don't even check my phone before that,' she explained. View this post on Instagram A post shared by Kalki Koechlin (@kalkikanmani) According to her, parental anxiety is real, along with general anxiety. 'I have accessed a lot of therapy in the last couple of years, which has helped a lot. I have also understood that I cannot solve everything,' she added. Rima Bhandekar, Psychologist at Mpower Helpline, Aditya Birla Trust, said that Kalki 's style of parenting focuses on providing children ample independence and distance to develop and at same time support when required. It is very different from helicopter parenting where parents are around all the time. Such kind of parenting lets children know that their assistance is available when wanted by the children. This style of parenting is about balancing independence with care. According to Bhandekar, this helps children start handling challenges themselves without expecting parents to scoop in for them. Their confidence develops gradually through trial-and-error learning, and they know they can succeed after initial failure. 'Children develop understanding of various situations and how they feel in those, and how to face others with confidence,' she added. Staying away from phones ensures quality time being spent between the mother and baby without any distractions. This makes the child feel like they are a priority in their caregiver's life. Working parents will need support and keep open pathways of communication with their children when parents are away at work, and involve children in the process of decision making about small but important things when they are at home.
