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Newsweek
3 days ago
- Newsweek
Reason Woman Dumps Fiancé After He Learns of Her Lottery Winnings Backed
Based on facts, either observed and verified firsthand by the reporter, or reported and verified from knowledgeable sources. Newsweek AI is in beta. Translations may contain inaccuracies—please refer to the original content. The internet is rallying behind a woman who ended her engagement after discovering her fiancé had kept a major secret—and then demanded a share of her lottery winnings. Redditor u/Amazing_Box_3511, 35, shared her story on the platform, explaining that she had been with her fiancé for two years. He had a good relationship with her 4-year-old son and even got along with her ex-husband. Three years ago, before she met her partner, she won the lottery. While it wasn't millions, it was enough to create a comfortable life and a secure future—especially for her son. She decided to continue working and put 75 percent of the winnings into a savings account for her child, accessible when he turns 21. From the beginning, her fiancé claimed he was financially secure. Still, she insisted on a prenuptial agreement that included full financial disclosure. That's when the problems began. "Now the amount in my son's savings account is about five times more than anything my fiancé has. Completely enraged, he left the lawyer's office and ignored all calls for two days. For me, that was the end of the relationship and I wrote to him saying that he could have the ring back," she wrote in the post, which has received more than 11,000 upvotes in the subreddit AITAH [Am I The A*****]. A week later, he reappeared at her door. He said he had been in shock and wanted to understand where the money had come from. Then came another bombshell: he revealed he had a 5-year-old daughter from a previous relationship—someone the woman had never heard of or seen photos of. "He sees it as justified, as I got the money through luck and not through performance. I gave him back the engagement ring and kicked him out of my apartment. Since then, I've been getting messages from various social media profiles and cell phone numbers that I would be the AH who is ruining his daughter's future," she wrote. Expert Insight Daren Banarsë, a senior psychotherapist with a private practice in Central London, weighed in with Newsweek. "I find the most psychologically damaging aspect of this case not to be the money dispute, rather the sudden revelation of a previously unknown daughter after two years of engagement. This is a fundamental breach of relationship transparency that questions the foundation of trust necessary for a healthy partnership," he said. He explained that hiding a child for two years is a "fundamental breach of relationship transparency" that undermines the foundation of trust. This kind of concealment, he said, can indicate either deep compartmentalization or deliberate deception—both red flags for any long-term relationship. Banarsë added that the man's demand to share lottery winnings, especially those earmarked for the woman's biological child, demonstrated "a sense of entitlement" and a potentially transactional view of relationships. He noted that while the fiancé may have believed his request was fair, it created an "impossible loyalty bind"—asking a mother to prioritize his secret daughter over her own son's future. A stock image of a concerned looking woman looking at a piece of paper. A stock image of a concerned looking woman looking at a piece of paper. Visions/iStock / Getty Images Plus "The woman's decision to end the engagement demonstrates remarkable emotional intelligence and healthy boundary-setting," Banarsë said. "Rather than compromise her integrity or her son's future, she recognized that some betrayals cannot be negotiated around." Renee Bauer, a divorce attorney at Happy Even After Family Law, agreed. She told Newsweek: "This situation is waving all of the red flags. First of all, this couple clearly did not have a conversation about money. When you blend families, it is important to talk about what happens with premarital assets. It's also important to consider a prenup to address this now, so it's not a problem later. Often, one person wants to protect assets for their children, because there is a very real concern that if they do not plan for it, their child could be cut out of an inheritance. "In this case, that relationship is doomed. The fact that a child was kept hidden gives some insight into what else was not disclosed. Broken trust is the demise of many marriages. "If that woman did not end her engagement, I predict, a messy divorce was in her future." Reddit Reacts Redditors overwhelmingly supported the woman's decision. "NTA. You did the right thing, breaking things off. Stay broken up. This dude will ruin your life otherwise," wrote one user. "I think he missed his calling as a telenovela screenwriter. 'but WAIT! I have a child TOO! Which means we should split your son's money. It's only fair...' And actually think that sounds believable. NTA," another added. "You are so smart! Had you not insisted on a prenup, his true character would have been revealed much later and potentially cost you so much financially," said a third. And another summed it up simply: "NTA, but also think it's a red flag he never mentioned a 'daughter' before." Newsweek reached out to u/Amazing_Box_3511 for comment via Reddit. We could not verify the details of the case. Newsweek's "What Should I Do?" offers expert advice to readers. If you have a personal dilemma, let us know via life@ We can ask experts for advice on relationships, family, friends, money and work and your story could be featured on WSID at Newsweek.
Newsweek
15-05-2025
- General
- Newsweek
Gen Z Woman Receives Thoughtful Birthday Gift—Fury at What Sister Asks Next
Based on facts, either observed and verified firsthand by the reporter, or reported and verified from knowledgeable sources. Newsweek AI is in beta. Translations may contain inaccuracies—please refer to the original content. A woman has been cheered by viewers on Reddit after turning down her sister's demands for her to hand over a designer handbag that had been gifted to her by her godmother. The woman, 25, had taken to the platform on May 12 under a since-deleted username, to detail that she received the high-end bag from her godmother and had treasured it as one of the most-valuable items she owned. She told viewers that her joy was short-lived when her older sister Cynthia, 28, visited the next day and immediately commented on the handbag. According to the post, Cynthia said: "Omg [oh my God] this is adorable! But why on earth would she give this to you? I wear this brand every day it would suit me better." Thinking it was a joke, the woman laughed, only to find that her sister was serious. "You hardly go anywhere nice," Cynthia responded, according to the post. "Just give it to me. "I'm pretty sure you will hardly make use of it, you don't even carry bags like this." The woman refused, telling her sister that the bag was a gift she cherished, but the matter did not end there. Later that day, Cynthia reportedly involved their mother, framing the situation as selfishness. She claimed her younger sister was "hoarding it just to prove a point" and said that she would "actually use it." The woman recounted how their mother sided with Cynthia, urging her to hand over the bag because it would be more "useful" to her sister, adding that she did not like handbags much anyway. Daren Banarsë is a senior psychotherapist with a private practice in London, England. He told Newsweek that the conflict spotlights the "complex family dynamics" that can emerge around perceived entitlement. "Cynthia's reaction reveals an alarming sense of entitlement that disregards personal boundaries and the symbolic meaning of gift-giving," Banarsë said. "What is particularly concerning is how the older sister immediately undermined the recipient's worthiness of the gift, suggesting she doesn't 'go anywhere nice' or doesn't typically use such items. "This type of judgment attempts to diminish someone's right to own something special and can be deeply hurtful, and the mother's subsequent reinforcement of this view creates a problematic family alliance that further isolates the gift recipient." The story quickly struck a chord online, with many Reddit users supporting the woman's stance and criticizing the entitlement shown by her family. "It was a gift to you from your godmother, how would she feel if she saw your sister with it?" One viewer said. "It's not even about the bag and who would use it more, a gift to you from someone means more to the gifter especially if they see you using it. Your sister is selfish." "Really," another added. "But it's nice of mom to be so rude and obvious who she loves more. Now there's two less people to buy for this Christmas." "Tell your mother to gift her car to your sister," a third viewer wrote. "Tell her it would be more useful to her." Banarsë added that surrendering the bag could cause long-term resentment, and that the woman should maintain her boundary while acknowledging her sister's feelings. "This honors her own needs while leaving the door open for a healthier sister dynamic." Newsweek had reached out to the since-deleted Reddit user for more information via Reddit, under their original username. Stock image: A woman opens up her cream handbag on a roadside. Stock image: A woman opens up her cream handbag on a roadside. Getty Images If you have a family dilemma, let us know via life@ We can ask experts for advice, and your story could be featured on Newsweek.
