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The Guardian
26-05-2025
- Entertainment
- The Guardian
Jordan Gray: Is That a C*ck in Your Pocket, Or Are You Just Here to Kill Me? review
To say that Jordan Gray made an eye-catching entrance into comedy would be quite the understatement. Her debut Is It a Bird? wowed the Edinburgh fringe, and made her the first transgender performer to headline the London Palladium. Then she stripped naked on Channel 4's Friday Night Live, and unleashed a transphobic storm. That's the context (she's a huge success; she's received death threats) for an hour she admits may be subject to 'difficult second show syndrome'. Acknowledging that is very on-brand: Gray is self-aware bordering on self-completely-fascinated. And she's got plenty to be fascinated by: Is That a C*ck in Your Pocket … showcases a performer with lashings of panache and no filter. In song and standup, the show opens on the attack, with joke after joke about her status as a woman with talent, a ravening ego – and with a penis too. One song, from an act oft-likened in flamboyance to her Essex compatriot Russell Brand, tells us she wants to 'fuck myself with my own dismembered shlong'. Several gags recycle old-school sexism into edgy gender-bending humour. Another routine itemises the four categories of death threat she's received. Just as Gray feared, it's not as big-hitting a show as her first. There's some filler: a weak skit about her Czech wife's malapropisms; another about Martin Luther King. There's an emotive finale addressing the difficulties of being trans in 2025 – but it's hard to take at face value, because nothing hitherto invites us to take Gray remotely seriously. She's a brilliant entertainer, and a wind-up merchant, but she's also a bundle of contradictions, her standpoint shifting according to whatever's likely to be funniest or most outrageous at any given moment. Here, that includes a defence of Donald Trump's 'grab 'em by the pussy' remarks, lots of very funny gags tilting at straw men (and some not-so-straw men) in the gender wars, and an explosive denouement with a fantastic callback spring-loaded inside it. It adds up to a strong sophomore offering, which – if it doesn't soar quite as high as Is It a Bird? – will easily keep Gray's career airborne. At Soho theatre, London, until 31 May; then at Piccolo Tent at Assembly George Square Gardens, Edinburgh, 30 July to 24 August.
Times
22-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Times
Jordan Gray review — trans gags and death threats
Jordan Gray got noticed in 2022 with a first show, Is It a Bird?, that offered a wildly charismatic, self-mocking, musical and impassioned account of life as a transgender woman. It got an Edinburgh Comedy Awards nomination, and led to a big tour and to an appearance on Channel 4's Friday Night Live that ended with a strip that revealed both her breasts and her penis. • Read more comedy reviews, guides and interviews That strip earned its place closing a full show but felt too much too soon in a brief TV turn. It led to notoriety, and it led to death threats, Gray tells us as her second show, Is That a C*ck in Your Pocket, Or Are You Just Here to
IOL News
14-05-2025
- Lifestyle
- IOL News
Why dating after 30 can feel like a minefield - and what to do about it
If you find yourself stuck in unhealthy dating patterns or struggling with self-esteem, consider working with a therapist or coach. But why does dating feel so difficult in this age bracket? Is it the smaller dating pool? The emotional baggage we accumulate over time? Or the social pressure to "settle down"? After all, the carefree, experimental nature of dating in your twenties has given way to a more focused approach, one that reflects your growth, evolving priorities, and the harsh realities of modern relationships . Dating in your thirties is a whole new ballgame. It's not just dating, it's intentional, emotionally charged, and often frustrating. Add to that the fact that many of the remaining singles may also carry emotional baggage from previous relationships, and the search for a compatible partner becomes even more challenging. This smaller pool can feel limiting, especially if you're looking for someone who shares your values, goals, and interests. According to a 2022 report by Statistics South Africa, over 50% of South African adults between 30 and 39 are married or cohabiting, leaving fewer potential partners who are actively dating. By the time you hit thirty, a significant portion of your peers may already be married, engaged, or in committed relationships. Why is dating after thirty so challenging? restore all settings to the default values Reset restore all settings to the default values Done Beginning of dialog window. Escape will cancel and close the window. Seek to live, currently behind live restore all settings to the default values Reset restore all settings to the default values Done Beginning of dialog window. Escape will cancel and close the window. Seek to live, currently behind live Be honest about your intentions and values from the start. This not only saves time but also helps attract people who align with your goals. You're dating with intention Unlike your twenties, where dating often involved exploration and casual connections, your thirties bring a sense of urgency and purpose. Many people in this age range are looking for long-term, meaningful relationships. As relationship coach Jordan Gray puts it: 'Dating in your 20s is like a disco ball, scattering energy everywhere. Dating in your 30s is more like a laser beam focused and intentional.' While this focus is helpful, it can also make you overly critical or dismissive of potential partners. Social circles start to narrow One of the biggest surprises about dating in your thirties is how your social life changes. Many of your friends are now married, planning weddings, or raising kids. They aren't as interested in going out, attending events, or introducing you to new people. This can leave you feeling isolated and disconnected from the vibrant social scenes that once made meeting potential partners easier. Instead of spontaneous nights out, weekends may now involve baby showers and cosy dinners with couples, leaving you longing for a more diverse social network. Timeline pressures South African society, like many others, places significant emphasis on achieving certain milestones by your thirties, marriage, children, and career stability. Well-meaning friends and family may constantly ask, 'When are you settling down?' or 'Why are you still single?' This pressure can make dating feel more like a race against time than a natural process of connection and growth. How to make dating easier and more fulfilling Expand your social circles If your current social group consists mostly of married friends, it's time to diversify. Join clubs, attend events, or pursue hobbies that interest you. Whether it's hiking, cooking classes, or volunteering, these activities expose you to new people who share your passions. Say 'yes' to invitations from single friends, and don't be afraid to step out of your comfort zone. Embrace your authentic self Dating in your thirties is an opportunity to show up as your true self. You've likely spent years figuring out what you want in life, so use that clarity to your advantage. Be honest about your intentions and values from the start. This not only saves time but also helps attract people who align with your goals. One of the biggest sources of anxiety in dating after 30 is the perceived need to meet societal expectations. Focus on your own happiness and personal growth rather than rushing to meet milestones. When you're content with your life, you'll naturally attract the right people. Seek professional support if needed If you find yourself stuck in unhealthy dating patterns or struggling with self-esteem, consider working with a therapist or coach. In SA, organisations like LifeLine and SADAG offer affordable counselling services. These resources can help you process past experiences and develop healthier approaches to dating. Be open to opportunities While online dating gets mixed reviews, it can be a valuable tool for meeting people outside your usual social circles. Platforms like Bumble or Hinge prioritise meaningful connections, allowing you to filter matches based on shared values and goals. If apps aren't your thing, consider attending singles events or speed dating nights. Above all, remember that love is not a race. Whether it takes months or years, finding the right partner is worth the wait. In the meantime, focus on building a life you love because the best relationships are built on a foundation of happiness and fulfilment.
