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Hamilton Spectator
25-04-2025
- Hamilton Spectator
‘I just wanted to calm her down': Burlington man on trial for murder says he killed wife in self-defence
A Burlington man charged with murdering his wife claims she attacked him, and he ended her life in self-defence. Sandor Somogyi, 73, testified in his defence before a jury in Milton on Thursday, April 24. He is accused of killing his wife Margit, 67, in her Regency Court apartment on Jan. 13, 2023. He has pleaded not guilty to the charge of second-degree murder he faces. The jury heard that Sandor and Margit had a troubled relationship prior to Margit's death. Through a Hungarian interpreter, Sandor testified the pair separated, but did not divorce, after their children moved out of their Burlington home in 2016. Sandor returned to his native Hungary to try and start a new business while Margit moved into her own apartment at 695 Regency Court in Burlington. Sandor said things did not work out for him in Hungary as he couldn't get the licensing needed to start a business and he returned to Canada after about a month. He then moved into Margit's apartment despite his name not being on the lease. Sandor would later confirm Margit did not add him to the lease because he had recently declared bankruptcy and because he had a criminal record with multiple convictions related to impaired driving. During the trial the court heard from several neighbours who testified about loud arguments coming from the Somogyis' apartment. When asked by defence attorney Donald Carter what these arguments were about Sandor said sometimes they were about their daughters' marriages. Sandor said they didn't marry well, and his opinion upset Margit. Other times he said the fights were about everyday things like her not liking how he did the cleaning or him making a mistake with the shopping. However, during cross examination by assistant Crown attorney Maureen McGuigan Sandor acknowledged the arguments were also about his level of alcohol consumption, which Margit had a problem with. The relationship between Margit and Sandor deteriorated further on Dec. 23, 2022, when Sandor became intoxicated and passed out in the second floor hallway of the Regency Court apartment building. Sandor said this was the only time he had been that drunk and acknowledged property management had to support him to the elevator so he could get back to Margit's apartment on the fifth floor. Police were called as a result of this incident and a week later property management served Margit with notice that Sandor had to be out of the building by noon on Jan. 13, 2023. McGuigan said Margit was also told that if Sandor stayed and there was another incident Margit would be evicted as well. The court heard that Sandor was still in the apartment on Jan. 12, 2023. He told the jury that that day he had visited homeless shelters in Oakville and Hamilton to see if they could take him but was told they were full. He said he also checked to see if he could stay in an apartment above an area church and was told to expect an answer the following day. Sandor said Margit had regularly reminded him he would have to leave. He said as Jan. 12 became Jan. 13, he packed a suitcase and planned to head to a motel at around noon. The Burlington senior testified that at breakfast Margit began fighting with him. 'She told me to leave,' said Sandor. 'I told her to give me three hours.' He said Margit continued shouting at him and he told her to calm down. After about five minutes of Margit shouting, Sandor said, both decided to go back to bed. He said sometime later the doorbell rang and Margit told him to answer it. Sandor said when he answered the door the property manager asked if everything was OK and where Margit was. He said he told the manager that Margit was in bed and not to disturb her. After the property manager left Sandor said Margit again demanded he leave, but this time she physically attacked him in the bedroom. 'She was coming, and she was strongly trying to attack, and she scratched my face and my chest,' said Sandor. He said she also slapped him on the forehead. Sandor said he grabbed Margit by the shoulders to keep her away from him. He said he then turned her around, grabbed her neck from behind with his hands and pushed her onto the bed. 'I told her quietly to calm down and everything will be OK,' said Sandor. 'I was holding her neck for about half a minute and then I let go because she went quiet.' Sandor said he turned Margit over and called her name, but she was unresponsive. 'I didn't want to kill her,' he said. 'I just wanted to calm her down.' An autopsy found that Margit died as a result of her neck being compressed. Following Margit's death Sandor said he swallowed large doses of the various medications he was taking in an effort to kill himself. He said he then wrote what was intended to be a suicide note on two sides of a piece of paper and left it on a pillow next to Margit's body. Sandor confirmed the front side read: 'I Sandor Somogyi killed this woman. I did it rightfully. Please investigate.' He said on the reverse side of the note he wrote: 'Blood speaks. The blood of my 3 daughters doesn't match.' When asked about this message on the reverse side of the note Sandor said he believed his wife had been unfaithful and his two youngest daughters were not actually his. Sandor's suicide attempt would ultimately fail, and he was arrested after attending the property manager's office and telling him to call police. During cross examination McGuigan hammered Sandor on many of the details of his account. She questioned whether Sandor had any intention of leaving, noting that no suitcase can be seen in police photos of the apartment closet where Sandor said he put it. She also noted his clothing was still in the wardrobe. Sandor said the suitcase is in a corner of the closet and can't be seen due to hanging clothing. He also noted he was not done packing and said the clothing would only take him minutes to remove. McGuigan questioned why he was still in the apartment at all with just hours remaining until he was supposed to leave. Sandor said he was waiting to hear back from the church about potentially being able to stay there. McGuigan suggested this story about a church apartment was a fiction, but Sandor maintained it was real. The assistant Crown attorney also took aim at Sandor's account of the struggle with his wife noting that the door to the bedroom was right beside him and when he pushed her on the bed, he could have just escaped. Sandor said he feared his wife would attack him again if he let her go. He also said Margit used her arms to block him from leaving. 'It's easy to be smart after the fact,' he said when questioned further about not taking this escape route. McGuigan also drew attention to testimony by Beata Pegoretti, Margit's daughter, who said she was worried about her mother and had been calling her all morning but received no response . Indeed, the Halton officer who found Margit's body testified that when she entered the Somogyi apartment she noticed that Margit's cellphone was constantly ringing. The assistant Crown attorney argued that by the time the property manager knocked on the door Margit was already dead, otherwise she would have picked up her phone. Sandor said he did not hear Margit's phone ringing. McGuigan then drew attention to the note and pointed out there was no mention of Sandor having killed Margit in self-defence. Sandor said there was not enough room on the note for this and believed he had little time given the medication he had swallowed to kill himself. Asked by McGuigan what he meant by stating 'I did it rightfully,' Sandor said he meant that he had 'rightfully' defended himself. McGuigan suggested Sandor thought her death was done rightfully because she had cheated on him and had been forcing him out of the apartment. Sandor disagreed. McGuigan also argued that Sandor had included the information about Margit's alleged infidelity as an act of revenge and to taint their daughters' memory of her. Sandor said he wanted the authorities to know what Margit was guilty of. McGuigan suggested that in the early morning of Jan. 13, 2023, Margit threatened to call police to have Sandor removed at which point Sandor choked her to death. She said the account of Margit attacking him was completely made up. 'You decided you were done listening to Margit about this and any other subject. You wanted peace and quiet permanently,' said McGuigan. The assistant Crown attorney said that as he choked Margit she scratched him in self-defence and that is how he got the scratches later photographed by police. Sandor denied this and said she attacked him. With Sandor's testimony complete Carter said the defence's evidence was complete. In the coming days, McGuigan and Carter will present closing arguments to the jury after which the jury will decide whether they believe Sandor's account of self-defence or that he is guilty of second-degree murder.
New York Times
19-03-2025
- Lifestyle
- New York Times
Lessons From Germany on a Better Bratwurst
We spent the week in Jockgrim, Germany, under my fiancé's great-aunt Margit's roof. Every morning, before we woke, Margit bicycled to a local bakery, curating a selection of the region's rolls for me to try, because she knew I loved food. And every morning, a stainless-steel carafe of fresh black coffee awaited and awoke me. She would then prepare an elaborate breakfast featuring a selection of those breads, complete with cold cuts, cheeses, fruits, salads, butter, jam and tea, all laid out on a long wooden dining table by the kitchen. Later in the evenings, we would meet up with Margit and her husband, Bertold, for a nightcap as they were winding down on the porch, glasses of Pfalz wine in hand, doors and windows of their 40-year-old house ajar. Built to their personal specifications, Margit and Bertold's house breathed. Recipe: Sizzled Bratwurst With Mashed Potatoes In that house, I learned what 'German bread' meant, and for the first time in four years began to understand why my fiancé eats so much bread. It's his white rice. I also picked up other things: how to optimize a home in relation to its environment, how to document a life through photos and maps, how to buy only what you can eat (and grow the rest), how to take bratwurst from frozen to lunch in under 30 minutes and how that could make someone from far away feel close to home. Bratwurst, spiced and savory sausages, are a popular street or festival food in Germany, especially in Bavaria, in which case they might be served with bread rolls called brötchen or semmel. But served at home, they are a juicy secret weapon for busy workdays. Cut them into little chunks and cook them like aromatic meatballs in a tomato sauce, as Luisa Weiss, the author of 'Classic German Cooking,' does when she's feeling pressed for dinner time. A standard cookout or canteen lunch, she told me, bratwurst can be pan-fried or grilled, commonly accompanied by mashed potatoes, sauerkraut and hot German mustard, all of which help to balance the rich deliciousness of the fatty sausages. The seemingly simple techniques in this recipe, inspired by one particular lunch Margit prepared for us, are useful kitchen lessons pulled straight from proper German home cooking: whipping the potatoes with an electric mixer and seasoning them lightly with salt, butter and nutmeg; adjusting the heat for multiple types of cooking in the same skillet; simmering the sausages in water to plump them up first, before evaporating that water and then searing the outsides in the bratwurst's own rendered fat. Wash this hearty and nourishing dish down with a cold beer poured into a tall glass. We were committed to one last nightcap with Margit before leaving Germany. Laid out on the dining table, under the spotlight of a ceiling lamp, were photo albums and wineglasses. Margit brought out ice-cream sandwiches in the end but didn't make a big deal about it. What would she do with a freezer full of ice cream? she asked, sipping her lager. In the morning, when we said goodbye to our host in the rush of the dark (we had a bus to catch), I thought I might have seen some tears, and regretted not being able to find the words then to tell her how much that week meant to me. When we got back to New York, our lease was up. So we packed up our things and moved apartments. It took a few weeks, but eventually I started to recognize the new building's most German qualities. Living in it felt like living in a big treehouse in the woods. You could hear the birds chirping and the rain pitter-pattering on the sidewalk. Dogs barking and frogs croaking, the sounds of life on Earth. The kitchen of this 95-year-old brownstone is, like Margit's kitchen, in the Frankfurt style, meaning it's small but efficient. You can reach everything from everywhere, get a hard sear when you need to and a gentle simmer when you want to. I think of Margit often, whenever I put away a wineglass or take out meat to thaw. As I move about my kitchen practice, I keep saying to my fiancé: This is what Margit would do. Then I do it.
