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New York Times
30-04-2025
- General
- New York Times
How Has Marriage Equality Changed Your Life?
This June will mark a decade since the Supreme Court's landmark ruling in Obergefell v. Hodges established same-sex marriage as a national right. We're looking for personal stories about how this important decision rippled through the country, both in states where same-sex marriage was already legal and in those 13 states where the decision ended bans on same-sex marriage. Please tell us, in 200 words or fewer, how this decision impacted your life. What did the change mean to you, emotionally and in practical terms? How do you feel about it now? Perhaps you were able to marry a longtime partner, start a family, or celebrate the love of friends or relatives as they legalized their unions. Or maybe you felt pressured to marry for the first time. What surprised you about your feelings and actions at the time or in the years since? We hope to publish a collection of the most interesting and moving accounts we receive. We won't publish any part of your response without following up with you first, verifying your information and hearing back from you. And we won't share your contact information outside the Times newsroom or use it for any reason other than to get in touch with you. The deadline for submissions is Monday, May 12 at 11:59 p.m. P.S.T. Modern Love can be reached at modernlove@ To find previous Modern Love essays, Tiny Love Stories and podcast episodes, visit our archive. Want more Modern Love? Watch the TV series, sign up for the newsletter and listen to the podcast on iTunes or Spotify. We also have two books, 'Modern Love: True Stories of Love, Loss, and Redemption' and 'Tiny Love Stories: True Tales of Love in 100 Words or Less.'
New York Times
23-04-2025
- General
- New York Times
Tiny Love Stories: ‘The Secret About People'
Anxious Affection My mother's love language was worry. An anxious woman, she believed panic was a form of protection. 'It's what you don't see coming that gets you,' she said, searching out the unlikeliest dangers. If a plane crashed 10 states away, she'd scan her mental Rolodex: Which cousin might have been going to Ohio or Nevada? Years of therapy later, I have learned to keep worry at bay (somewhat). I remind myself that worry as a means of security is magical thinking. And that you can love someone without staring sleeplessly at shadows at 4 a.m. It works (sometimes). — Jilann Picariello Committed Comedians Steve and I met at a club in Los Angeles, both comedians chasing fame. I was 23, fresh from Canada. When my visa expired, I asked Steve to marry me. We were both gay, so it was a perfect union. We spent years together traveling the road, navigating one-night stands and sharing our truths. In 2001, Steve contracted AIDS and moved home to Virginia. I visited him often. Watching him deteriorate was unbearable. He passed away in the spring of 2014. To some, it was just a green-card marriage. To us, it was a faithful, lifelong friendship. — Lois Bromfield Cycle of Care When my father was a college student and moved from Karachi to California, his father wrote him letter after letter that could be collected only at the post office. When my father told his father that his shoes were getting worn out by walking to and from the post office, his father promptly airmailed him a package. Inside the box: new shoes. Luckily, I'm a 45-minute drive away from my father, not a daylong flight. Yet, the cycle of care packages continues. For me, he will deliver steaming soup, my favorite books and box upon box of sweet mango juice. — Reem Faruqi Guilty as the Ghost The first time he ghosts you, you are 16, your sincere messages left unanswered on a flip phone. The second time he ghosts you, you are 18, waiting three hours by Newcastle, England's towering monument until you realize he won't show. The third and final time he ghosts you, you are almost 30, incredulous that he has changed so little and mad that you — apparently — haven't grown out of this pattern either. Here's the secret about people who fall for serial ghosters: You are just as guilty as they are, believing their false apologies to be true. — Francesca Willow See more Tiny Love Stories at Submit yours at Want more from Modern Love? Watch the TV series; sign up for the newsletter; or listen to the podcast on iTunes, Spotify or Google Play. We also have swag at the NYT Store and two books, 'Modern Love: True Stories of Love, Loss, and Redemption' and 'Tiny Love Stories: True Tales of Love in 100 Words or Less.'
New York Times
02-04-2025
- Entertainment
- New York Times
Tiny Love Stories: ‘Breathing Felt Like Betrayal'
Sinew and Silence After my son died, I forgot how to be human. Breathing felt like betrayal. Food, impossible. The floor was the only place that made sense. Then Lindy arrived: retired racer, all sinew and silence, a greyhound built to fly. He couldn't fix me. But he was fully present in my grief, a sentinel to my stillness. Lindy wasn't a therapy dog, but a witness. Nudging me with his snout, acknowledging my pain with a wordless knowing. He let me break. He made me breathe. — Mark E. Paull An Expanded Family One morning, while I was making rounds as a medical resident, a handsome nurse asked me out. Shayne was a gift of warmth and comfort when life was cold and punishing. He took me bowling; a few months later, I was pregnant. We would have two other children, get married, move to Ohio, Florida and back to Vermont before I found the courage to tell him I'm a lesbian. I have a girlfriend now. Shayne does too. We're family and next-door neighbors. Our tweens groan that we're 'so weird,' but agree that no one has more love than we do. — Britt Olmsted Filling the Blanks In the past 15 years, I've lived in 12 homes. Each spot has had bare walls. I buy art but don't hang it. What's the point when living alone? But last year, I met you at a dinner party. For some time now, you've been coming over to my apartment, and I to yours. I drive the highway between us and think: This is starting to feel like home. I look at my art and start mapping it onto the walls. Next time you come, could you help me put some up? Home, I believe, is a two-person job. — Florianne Jimenez Poetry in the Park My toddler, Hugo, believes in a world where toast feels disappointment, socks miss each other in the wash and the moon follows us home out of loyalty. He creates whimsical stories about puddles filling his boots, the wind lifting his hair. I used to think I was good with words, but his are better. More imaginative, joyful, less afraid. He makes poetry out of breakfast, errands, the walk in our local London park. I used to want to teach him everything, but now I just want to listen. — Naomi Couper See more Tiny Love Stories at Submit yours at Want more from Modern Love? Watch the TV series; sign up for the newsletter; or listen to the podcast on iTunes, Spotify or Google Play. We also have swag at the NYT Store and two books, 'Modern Love: True Stories of Love, Loss, and Redemption' and 'Tiny Love Stories: True Tales of Love in 100 Words or Less.'
New York Times
12-02-2025
- Entertainment
- New York Times
‘Modern Love' Podcast: How to Fall (and Stay) in Love
Image Credit... Illustration by Brian Rea The Modern Love team asked you to share with us the moment you knew you were falling in love, and you delivered. Your stories took us to so many places — dinner dates, subway rides, sunsets, concerts — and showed us the many shapes of love. There were so many that we could not list them all. In this episode, we listen back to your voice messages. Then, Daniel Jones, the editor of Modern Love, joins us to discuss the '36 Questions That Lead to Love' and what they reveal about how we fall in love. And Mandy Len Catron, the writer who popularized the 36 questions in her Modern Love essay, 'To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This,' reads her essay and tells us whether she's still in love with the same man 10 years later. Here's how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times. Here's how to submit a Tiny Love Story. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Links to transcripts of episodes generally appear on these pages within a week. 'Modern Love' is hosted by Anna Martin and produced by Reva Goldberg, Emily Lang, Davis Land and Amy Pearl. The show is edited by Jen Poyant, our executive producer. Production management is by Christina Djossa. The show is mixed by Daniel Ramirez and recorded by Maddy Masiello and Nick Pitman. It features original music by Marion Lozano and Dan Powell. Our theme music is by Dan Powell. Special thanks to Larissa Anderson, Dahlia Haddad, Lisa Tobin, Brooke Minters, Sawyer Roque, Daniel Jones, Miya Lee, Mahima Chablani, Nell Gallogly, Jeffrey Miranda, Isabella Anderson, Christine Nguyen, Reyna Desai, Jordan Cohen, Victoria Kim, Nina Lassam and Julia Simon. Thoughts? Email us at modernlovepodcast@ Want more from Modern Love? Read past stories. Watch the TV series and sign up for the newsletter. We also have swag at the NYT Store and two books, 'Modern Love: True Stories of Love, Loss and Redemption' and 'Tiny Love Stories: True Tales of Love in 100 Words or Less.'
