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Time of India
29-05-2025
- General
- Time of India
How to spot a narcissist: 5 signs and red flags to watch out for
With many relationships not working out, narcissism has become a common term used these days. It refers to people, often called Narcissists, who are too selfish to care or love anyone else but themselves-- even in romantic relationships. Narcissists often come across as confident, charming, and even magnetic. But beneath the mask, their behaviour can be emotionally draining and manipulative towards their partner. Such relationships are not just hard to maintain, but also difficult to sustain the test of time. And people in romantic relationships with Narcissists often end up walking away from them, thus leading to their ultimate breakup. To avoid this, it is important to recognise the signs of narcissism early on in a relationship as it can help you save from a heartbreak in future and protect your mental health. Whether you're dating, working with, or friends with someone who shows these signs, staying informed can help you make better decisions about your relationships. So, here we list some common red flags that could point to narcissistic behaviour: Narcissists thrive on attention and validation from other people. They are selfish and they like to dominate most conversations, brag about their achievements, and fish for compliments from others. While this boosts their ego and sense of superiority over others, it also reflects that deep down they are highly insecure people. If someone always needs to be the center of attention, even at the expense of others, it's a warning sign one should watch out for. 2. They lack empathy A classic trait of narcissism is their inability— or rather refusal— to understand or care about how others feel. Why? Because this can often lead to other taking the spotlight, whereas narcissists love to be the center of attention-- always! And so, they might seem cold-hearted and dismiss your emotions, downplay your pain, or twist your words to avoid accountability. And their lack of empathy shines bright when someone cries-- as they are simply unable to care for or even pacify them! That's a classic red flag about narcissists and it's better to keep them out of your life. 3. They exploit others For narcissists, all relationships are simply transactions and they often form bonds with others-- be it romantic or platonic-- only for their own benefit. They often use people to get what they want— emotionally, physically, financially, or professionally. They may charm you first, then manipulate your trust for personal gain without guilt or remorse. 4. They're extremely sensitive to criticism Ironically, while narcissists are cold-hearted towards others, they want everyone else to always be nice to them and care for them! Even mild negative feedback or criticism can spark anger, defensiveness, or passive-aggressive behaviour in a narcissist. Despite appearing confident, their self-esteem is extremely fragile and heavily dependent on external praise and validation from others. In their head, narcissists are the best and they always want to be the center of everyone's attention. And so, they may belittle others, act entitled, or assume they're always right. This arrogance can make them dismissive, controlling, or condescending—especially in relationships where power dynamics matter. 3 Signs that reveal you're in a toxic relationship One step to a healthier you—join Times Health+ Yoga and feel the change
Metro
02-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Metro
Spend your May bank holiday weekend bingeing ‘best Australian drama in a decade'
A 'gripping' thriller inspired by the real-life story of a woman who discovered her ex-partner was a fraud is now available to stream in the UK. The Australian series Fake stars Asher Keddie as Birdie Bell, a magazine feature writer who thinks she's found her perfect match when she meets successful rancher Joe (David Wenham). However, she's then torn between his magnetic pull and the instinct that her boyfriend isn't all he seems. It's been teased of the eight-part show: 'Fake is a story of deception, a tense and exhilarating exploration of the illusions life lays out for us, through both the lies we are told and the lies we tell ourselves.' The series was based on journalist Stephanie Wood's memoir, Fake: A Startling True Story of Love in a World of Liars, Cheats, Narcissists, Fantasists and Phonies, which detailed how she uncovered her ex's web of lies. When it was released in Australia last year, Fake was praised by both critics and audiences. 'This does feel like an antipodean version of the Joanne Froggatt-Ioan Gruffudd-starring Liar. But whereas that BBC psychological thriller wasn't exactly subtle in its manipulation and moustache-twirling villainy, this is far more insidious and nuanced,' The Post NZ wrote in its review. 'It's anxiety-ridden and frustrating, but that's only because it's evoking a visceral response,' The Nightly shared. 'One of the best Australian dramas of the decade so far, Fake is an unflinching examination of deception's cruel grip — whether it's wielded by an imposter or delivered through our own flawed self-esteem,' The Age added. To view this video please enable JavaScript, and consider upgrading to a web browser that supports HTML5 video Meanwhile viewers called it 'gripping' and an 'emotional rollercoaster'. In an interview with Metro, Wood explained how her experience with a love scammer came in an era before Dirty John and the Tinder Swindler. 'There had been none of those sorts of stories out there about romantic kind of scams, and I knew there was something not quite right about Joe, but he never asked me for money,' she explained. 'Enough added up that it left me blind to the stuff that didn't add up. Of course, I knew that you could lose money to horrible men, but when he wasn't asking me for that, I just wanted to hope so much that it could be a beautiful relationship.' More Trending Ahead of the show's release creator Anya Beyersdorf said Fake was 'a story of what it feels like to be lied to, to have your instincts broken, to be gaslit not only by your romantic partner but by society at large'. 'The most remarkable thing about this story is that it's not remarkable at all. These stories are frighteningly common, the minute you start telling people this story, someone invariably pipes up – this happened to my friend/my aunt/my sister/me…' 'It is my hope that this show will allow us to recognise a Joe in the wild, and RUN the other way.' View More » Fake is now streaming on ITVX and will also air weekly from Saturday May 3 on ITV1. Got a story? If you've got a celebrity story, video or pictures get in touch with the entertainment team by emailing us celebtips@ calling 020 3615 2145 or by visiting our Submit Stuff page – we'd love to hear from you. MORE: ITV star reveals she 'feared being dropped from This Morning' over pregnancy MORE: Rowan Atkinson fuels fresh hope most iconic character could return after 30 years MORE: Genius Game rules explained as ITV viewers dub David Tennant show 'impossible'
Metro
27-04-2025
- Entertainment
- Metro
'Watching this Hollywood actor play my love rat ex sent shivers down my spine'
Nearly a decade after discovering her boyfriend was a fraud, one woman faced the bizarre experience of seeing a Hollywood star play him on screen. In 2015, after nearly 18 months of dating former architect-turned-grazier Joe*, acclaimed journalist Stephanie Wood discovered a terrible truth – that he wasn't who he said he was. Her story has now been turned into a TV series called Fake, which is airing on ITV in the UK, and is an unnerving watch in the modern world of online dating. Stephanie spoke to Metro about what it was like to turn her real-life experience into a gripping drama, emphasising how 'sinister' an experience it was. After years spent moving around the world, the journalist had settled back home in Sydney in her early 40s and decided she was ready to look for love again, Like many others, she turned to a dating app, where soon after she matched with a man who she was hopeful could be 'the one'. Although she was unsure if they had a connection after their first date, she gave him another chance… but would eventually discover that he was a serial scam artist. To view this video please enable JavaScript, and consider upgrading to a web browser that supports HTML5 video Love reading juicy stories like this? Need some tips for how to spice things up in the bedroom? Sign up to The Hook-Up and we'll slide into your inbox every week with all the latest sex and dating stories from Metro. We can't wait for you to join us! Her story with the love rat has since inspired the series Fake, which stars Asher Keddie (Nine Perfect Strangers) and David Wenham (The Lord of the Rings) and is released in the UK today. It follows Birdie Bell, a magazine feature writer who thinks she's found her perfect match when she meets successful rancher Joe. But she's torn between his magnetic pull and the instinct that her boyfriend isn't all he seems. Although Stephanie has written several magazine features and a book about her experience (Fake: A Startling True Story of Love in a World of Liars, Cheats, Narcissists, Fantasists and Phonies), she admits reliving it again on screen was somewhat unsettling. 'I was just so thrilled when I discovered David was doing the role because he's one of Australia's most well-known actors,' she told Metro. 'I went behind-the-scenes of filming last year and watching David walk across set, he doesn't look anything like my ex but the way he managed to embody the vibe and the sinister characteristics and qualities of my ex… it gave me shivers.' As her relationship with Joe progressed, Stephanie started to question some of the things he'd been telling her. He would cancel their plans last minute on a regular basis, making up dramatic excuses that had blatant inconsistencies… but even though she knew he was lying about something, she was convinced he couldn't be a scammer. It was only when she dumped him that she discovered 'only about 5% of what he'd told her had been true'. The man she thought she'd been in love with didn't exist and was instead a pathological liar who had love-bombed and manipulated her. It turned out Joe, who was bankrupt, was living a double life and was in a relationship with another woman too. 'When my story happened, it was pre-Dirty John, pre-Tinder Swindler. There had been none of those sorts of stories out there about romantic kind of scams, and I knew there was something not quite right about Joe, but he never asked me for money,' she explained. 'Enough added up that it left me blind to the stuff that didn't add up. Of course, I knew that you could lose money to horrible men, but when he wasn't asking me for that, I just wanted to hope so much that it could be a beautiful relationship.' After writing an essay about her ex in a magazine, she was inundated with messages from women who'd had similar experiences. Stephanie said that the 'scariest phone call she ever made in her life' was to ring the other woman who Joe was involved with. 'She didn't believe me at all to begin with. I didn't want to be confrontational and eventually she started to realise, and she got angrier, not with me but realising what he'd done,' she recalled. 'The next day I went and met her at a café near her work and showed her the article and she read it and was shaking.' Despite their strange link, Stephanie and the woman became close friends and are still in contact years later. Stephanie was 'a little bit nervous' when the first article came out as she was concerned about how Joe could have reacted, revealing that her works' security assessed her apartment. 'I did look over my shoulder for quite a few months. I don't do that anymore though,' she said. Although she hasn't heard from him in about three years, after their split her ex tried to check in – but she had no desire to engage. Now, she 'barely gives this guy a second thought' and she doesn't feel 'triggered' speaking about him anymore. While Stephanie doesn't think that he 'hurt women financially', she said that he's 'left a trail of damage', including allegedly being involved in several failed business deals, resulting in businesspeople losing a lot of money. More Trending There are no legal ramifications for the web of lies Joe wrapped Stephanie up in, and she acknowledged she 'escaped reasonably unscathed'. 'Many of the women who have contacted me or whose stories I've heard have spent decades with men like this. Some have had children with these men and are tied to them forever and some of them just never recover,' she said. Stephanie is 'proud' to tell her story, and hopes by doing so, it will help other women avoid falling into similar relationships. View More » Fake is now streaming on ITVX and will also air weekly from Saturday May 3 on ITV1. Got a story? If you've got a celebrity story, video or pictures get in touch with the entertainment team by emailing us celebtips@ calling 020 3615 2145 or by visiting our Submit Stuff page – we'd love to hear from you. MORE: The real winner of Celebrity Big Brother won't be Jack P. Shepherd MORE: The moment Jojo Siwa's partner fled Celebrity Big Brother party after shock split MORE: I complained about romance on the radio and bagged myself a date
