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10 mistakes guests should never make at weddings, according to etiquette experts
Business Insider asked etiquette experts about the mistakes guests should never make at weddings. Guests shouldn't ignore the RSVP deadline or arrive late to the ceremony. Overindulging at the bar, bringing an uninvited guest, and taking food home are all major faux pas. A lot of time, effort, and money go into planning a wedding, so it's important for guests to be on their best behavior during the festivities. That's why Business Insider asked four etiquette experts about the mistakes guests should never make at a wedding. Here's what they said. Weddings, especially larger ones, require significant planning and coordination. That's why Nick Leighton — cohost of the etiquette-centric podcast "Were You Raised by Wolves?" — said it's important to abide by the RSVP deadline on a wedding invitation. "There are few things more rude than leaving a host hanging, so be sure to RSVP promptly," Leighton told BI. Although you may routinely show up late to other events, weddings are not a place for tardiness. In this environment, late arrivals can disrupt the flow of the ceremony or reception. "Arriving late to a wedding ceremony is a social faux pas," etiquette expert Lisa Mirza Grotts said. "Guests should plan to arrive at least 15 minutes early." Etiquette expert Jamila Musayeva said ignoring the dress code for a wedding is inconsiderate and disrespectful. "When a guest shows up underdressed, it disturbs the aesthetic and can even make others uncomfortable. It's always better to be slightly overdressed than risk looking out of place," Musayeva told BI. Jo Hayes, an etiquette expert and founder of told BI it's never OK for guests to wear all-white, cream, or pale pastel outfits. "Do not wear a style that looks remotely bridal. You do not want to come even close to stealing the bride's spotlight," Hayes said. However, she said white elements in an outfit are OK if they're within reason. Nothing can ruin wedding photos like camera flashes and raised arms holding up phones. To mitigate this issue, many couples now request "unplugged" ceremonies, where smartphones and other electronic devices are kept out of sight. Musayeva told BI that ignoring the couple's wishes and using a phone are among the most disrespectful things a guest can do during a ceremony. Unconfirmed guests — including children — impact headcounts, meal planning, and table dynamics, and cause stress and frustration for the couple and wedding coordinators. "Bringing someone who wasn't explicitly invited places an unexpected financial and logistical burden on the couple," Musayeva said. Open bars are a popular choice for weddings, but Musayeva told BI it's important that guests don't overdo it. "Drinking excessively shows a lack of self-awareness and puts unnecessary strain on the hosts," Musayeva said. "A guest who becomes disruptive, loud, or sloppy can change the tone of the evening entirely. It shifts attention away from the couple and onto someone's behavior." Although giving the couple a personal and thoughtful gift might seem gracious, Grotts said wedding guests should avoid straying from the provided wedding registry, as it can create more work for the couple down the road. "A couple's registry is a curated list reflecting their needs and tastes," Grotts told BI. "Disregarding it can result in redundant or unwanted items, hence returns." Hayes told BI that claiming the spotlight with any big personal announcement or news is both self-centered and inconsiderate. "Don't steal the spotlight or make the day about yourself in any way. This includes no wedding proposals or baby news announcements. The day is about the couple, not you," Hayes said. Leighton said it's never tasteful for guests to bring to-go containers with them, no matter how casual the wedding is. "The hosts want you to have a nice time, but they probably don't want to cater all your meals for the week," he said. It's best to avoid banking on the idea of leftovers altogether — and always ask permission before taking anything home. Read the original article on Business Insider
Business Insider
a day ago
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- Business Insider
10 mistakes guests should never make at weddings, according to etiquette experts
A lot of time, effort, and money go into planning a wedding, so it's important for guests to be on their best behavior during the festivities. That's why Business Insider asked four etiquette experts about the mistakes guests should never make at a wedding. Here's what they said. Ignoring the deadline to RSVP Weddings, especially larger ones, require significant planning and coordination. That's why Nick Leighton — cohost of the etiquette-centric podcast " Were You Raised by Wolves?" — said it's important to abide by the RSVP deadline on a wedding invitation. "There are few things more rude than leaving a host hanging, so be sure to RSVP promptly," Leighton told BI. Arriving late to the ceremony Although you may routinely show up late to other events, weddings are not a place for tardiness. In this environment, late arrivals can disrupt the flow of the ceremony or reception. "Arriving late to a wedding ceremony is a social faux pas," etiquette expert Lisa Mirza Grotts said. "Guests should plan to arrive at least 15 minutes early." Ignoring the dress code Etiquette expert Jamila Musayeva said ignoring the dress code for a wedding is inconsiderate and disrespectful. "When a guest shows up underdressed, it disturbs the aesthetic and can even make others uncomfortable. It's always better to be slightly overdressed than risk looking out of place," Musayeva told BI. Wearing white or light-colored styles Jo Hayes, an etiquette expert and founder of told BI it's never OK for guests to wear all-white, cream, or pale pastel outfits. "Do not wear a style that looks remotely bridal. You do not want to come even close to stealing the bride's spotlight," Hayes said. However, she said white elements in an outfit are OK if they're within reason. Taking photos during the ceremony without explicit permission to do so Nothing can ruin wedding photos like camera flashes and raised arms holding up phones. To mitigate this issue, many couples now request "unplugged" ceremonies, where smartphones and other electronic devices are kept out of sight. Musayeva told BI that ignoring the couple's wishes and using a phone are among the most disrespectful things a guest can do during a ceremony. Bringing an uninvited plus one Unconfirmed guests — including children — impact headcounts, meal planning, and table dynamics, and cause stress and frustration for the couple and wedding coordinators. "Bringing someone who wasn't explicitly invited places an unexpected financial and logistical burden on the couple," Musayeva said. Overindulging at the bar Open bars are a popular choice for weddings, but Musayeva told BI it's important that guests don't overdo it. "Drinking excessively shows a lack of self-awareness and puts unnecessary strain on the hosts," Musayeva said. "A guest who becomes disruptive, loud, or sloppy can change the tone of the evening entirely. It shifts attention away from the couple and onto someone's behavior." Straying from the wedding registry Although giving the couple a personal and thoughtful gift might seem gracious, Grotts said wedding guests should avoid straying from the provided wedding registry, as it can create more work for the couple down the road. "A couple's registry is a curated list reflecting their needs and tastes," Grotts told BI. "Disregarding it can result in redundant or unwanted items, hence returns." Making the day about you Hayes told BI that claiming the spotlight with any big personal announcement or news is both self-centered and inconsiderate. "Don't steal the spotlight or make the day about yourself in any way. This includes no wedding proposals or baby news announcements. The day is about the couple, not you," Hayes said. Assuming you can take food home with you Leighton said it's never tasteful for guests to bring to-go containers with them, no matter how casual the wedding is. "The hosts want you to have a nice time, but they probably don't want to cater all your meals for the week," he said. It's best to avoid banking on the idea of leftovers altogether — and always ask permission before taking anything home.
Yahoo
4 days ago
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The Rudest Things You Can Do At The Beach
Spending a day at the beach can be an absolute blast. Your fellow beachgoers, however, can make it decidedly less enjoyable. 'In general, etiquette is all about being mindful of other people, which certainly includes being mindful of other people at the beach,' Nick Leighton, an etiquette expert and co-host of the 'Were You Raised by Wolves?' podcast, told HuffPost. 'Although you're outside, you are not alone and your behavior can and does affect other people.' To help beach days more enjoyable for yourself and others, HuffPost asked Leighton and other etiquette experts to share some common faux pas they should avoid on the shore. Here are a few rude behaviors to avoid at the beach. 'Find a spot that is at least three paces from other's belongings,' suggested Jodi R.R. Smith, president of Mannersmith Etiquette Consulting. 'The idea here is to give others a bit of personal space. The spacing should allow for beachgoers to walk between your towel and the other towel without kicking up sand on either.' If it's too crowded and you have to be a little bit closer to others, be extra careful as you walk by to avoid kicking up sand or otherwise disrupting their beach time. 'Don't assume other people want to talk,' said Diane Gottsman, an etiquette expert, author of 'Modern Etiquette for a Better Life' and founder of The Protocol School of Texas. 'Watch their body language and if they engage, feel free to continue. If they put their ear buds in, it's a sign they want to be left alone.' Be mindful of the people behind you as you set up your area as well. 'Many beachgoers like to bring all the comforts of home,' Smith said. 'This is fine so long as it does not prohibit others from enjoying the sights. Your umbrella or tent should not inhibit other people's ability to view the water.' Continue to be mindful of the people around you if you decide to smoke at the beach as well. That includes paying attention to where you smoke and what you do when you're finished. 'If you are at a beach that still allows smoking and you want to light up, you will need to head way down the beach,' Smith said. 'Do be sure to dispose of your butts appropriately. It can be quite dangerous for birds, dogs and children to ingest cigarette butts they have found 'buried' in the sand.' Of course, every beach is different, but as a general rule, it's best to avoid feeding birds and other animals along the shore, as this can impact the local ecosystem. Take care not to disrupt them in other ways as well. 'Beaches allow us to connect with nature ― fish, snails and other living things,' Smith said. 'While it is fun to pretend that starfish is your pet, it needs to be returned to the water before you go home.' 'It's rude to shake your towel or sandy clothing near others or toward the direction of the wind,' said etiquette expert Juliet Mitchell, also known as Ms. J. 'Sand in your mouth, in your eyes and on your body doesn't sit well with others.' Smith echoed this rule ― recommending a 'gather, then shake' approach to the conclusion of your beach day. 'Walk away from the people before shaking any of your blankets and towels that have collected sand,' she said. 'The windier it is, the further you need to go. This does make packing up a two-step process, but waving sand in people's eyes is not a good way to end a great day.' 'For any games, find a clear area away from other people,' Leighton advised. 'Frisbees going overhead can make some people nervous.' In the interest of respecting people's space, establish some distance between your activities and other beachgoers ― both to avoid balls and other items whizzing by and for sand purposes. 'Set up your volleyball net away from other people,' Gottsman urged. 'Same goes for playing games in the sand that involve kicking up sand.' Another reason to set up your game far from others, cutting down on disruptive noise. Many people go to the beach for peace and relaxation. 'Things like music and loud cellphone conversations easily travel beyond the boundaries of your blanket and affect other people, so be mindful of what's escaping your bubble,' Leighton said. Pay attention to the volume and content of your conversations with your group as well. 'Watch your language, especially around children,' Mitchell advised. 'Be respectful, be considerate and be civil. No profanity and no fighting.' There's no excuse for leaving your beach area in a worse state than you found it. Littering is not just rude (and illegal), it's dangerous. 'Please do not litter, especially purposely, and clean up your area before you leave,' Mitchell urged. Both public and private beaches have listed rules and guidelines, and it's important to heed them. 'Follow the signs that act as warnings for your safety and the safety of others,' Gottsman said. Familiarize yourself with different flags and what they mean. Don't venture beyond the permitted limits. 'Boundaries are set for a reason,' Mitchell said. 'Stay within the 'swim boundaries' or other boundaries that could cause harm to yourself or others.' And don't just adhere to the explicitly written rules. 'All etiquette is local and it's important to learn and follow the local customs,' Leighton said. 'Every beach has its own.' The Rudest Things You Can Do At The Airport The Rudest Things You Can Do At The Dog Park The Rudest Things You Can Do On A Plane
Daily Mail
19-05-2025
- Daily Mail
Seat squatter's appalling behavior after being ordered out of business class and back into economy
Air travel has become increasingly frustrating - with many passengers complaining about 'seat squatters' who steal their assigned seats and refuse to move out of them. Stories from passengers have gone viral online, sparking a debate over when travelers should give up their seats. Donna Casey purchased a $4,300 Hawaiian Airlines business class ticket for her trip to Honolulu, but when she boarded her flight and approached seat 3C, she discovered someone in her spot. 'I told her nicely, "I think you're in my seat," and she just stared at me,' Casey told The Boston Globe. 'I said it again, and she said, "There are plenty of seats in this section, maybe try another one." I was like, "Is she for real?"' Casey called over the flight attendant, who asked to see their boarding passes. When the seat squatter showed hers, it revealed that her pass was for 39C. 'What was strange is that this woman never apologized and looked angry that I wanted the seat I had paid for,' Casey said 'She even took my amenities bag with her when she huffed off to the back of the plane.' The seat squatter had a ticket for a spot in the back of the plane and fumed off from business class (pictured) with Casey's amenity bag when a flight attendant made her move Etiquette expert Nick Leighton told the outlet he recently had to deal with a seat squatter on a flight from New York to the West Coast. 'A gentleman was in my seat, and he said, "Oh, do you prefer the aisle?" And I said, yes. And we just left it at that. It was not a negotiation,' Leighton said. 'I think he was hoping there would be more conversation. But I do prefer the aisle. That is why I booked it, and there was really no conversation to be had. I was direct and polite.' Leighton said having good etiquette and being polite does not require you to give up your seat. 'There is a decision that has to be made. We are going to be with this person for the journey. That could be hours and hours. So the etiquette calculation is slightly different because we have to now live with the etiquette consequences,' he said. 'But etiquette does not require you to be a pushover. Etiquette does not require your boundaries to be crossed. It is possible to set boundaries and be polite at the same time.' Jeniffer Castro, 29, was publicly berated by a furious mom after refusing to swap seats with her toddler. She was filmed calmly ignoring the angry mother's request after she boarded the GOL Airlines domestic flight in Brazil in December. When she boarded the plane, Castro found a toddler sitting in her window seat, and asked him to move, which caused the tot to start crying. 'A guy across the aisle said "Change with him, you sit next to the aisle and he'll have your place,"' she said. 'I said "no."' After refusing, the boy cried for the rest of the entire 50-minute flight from Rio de Janeiro to Belo Horizonte and the mother pulled out her phone and started filming. In the video, the annoyed mom asked her why she didn't want to change seats. 'I even asked if she had some kind of syndrome or something,' she taunted. 'If someone has a problem, some disability, we understand. 'I'm recording your face, this is disgusting. It's the 21st century and people have no empathy for children.' Despite the criticism, Castor didn't respond to the fuming mother and only asked if she was being filmed. On a recent episode of the Cola Mais Podcast, Castro revealed that she's now considering taking legal action after the video went viral. One Delta seat squatter tried to trade his window seat for another to avoid being hemmed in beside a huge middle seat flier with a 'linebacker build.' A user on Reddit shared an infuriating experience flying on the airline after they boarded to find a man sitting in their window seat they'd reserved especially, only for him to gesture that they sit in his window seat across the aisle. The gentleman who had commandeered the user's seat motioned toward the opposite side of the plane to the window seat across the aisle and said, 'Take that one.' As they turned to look across the plane to where the man gestured, the user noticed a 'rather large linebacker-built' man sitting in the middle seat. Tammy Nelson, the CEO of global jewelry brand CONQUERing, refused to give up her window seat to a mom who wanted to sit next to her two kids. Nelson, who had only 90 minutes of sleep the night before and had to prepare a presentation to 500 people when she landed, booked a window seat on purpose. She said she arrived at her row to find the unidentified mom in the window seat. On being told the seat was reserved, the mom said she wanted to sit next to her children, who Nelson estimated were aged 11 and 15. The mom offered to swap her seat with Nelson, but Nelson refused on discovering she was being offered a dreaded middle seat in another row. Nelson said the mom seethed on being refused and muttered angrily about the rejection for the remainder of the flight.
Yahoo
08-05-2025
- Automotive
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The Rudest Things You Can Do While Parking
While driving can be a convenient and even fun activity, most people would agree that parking is decidedly not. 'There are times when parking can be a very stressful task, especially when you are attempting to find the nearest spot to the front door,' Jackie Vernon-Thompson, the founder of From the Inside-Out School of Etiquette, told HuffPost. 'Folks tend to become very agitated and rude.' Still, it's important to be mindful and considerate of others as you look for a space in the parking lot, garage or on the street. 'Parking isn't just about physically moving your car into a space,' said Nick Leighton, an etiquette expert and co-host of the 'Were You Raised by Wolves?' podcast. 'It's all about respecting those around you and requires consideration, patience, fairness and graciousness.' To help get where you need to go without unnecessary stress, HuffPost asked Vernon-Thompson, Leighton and other etiquette experts to share common rude behaviors people should avoid while parking. 'Obviously, the number one rule of parking is to never 'Fried Green Tomatoes' a parking spot,' said Jodi R.R. Smith, the president of Mannersmith Etiquette Consulting. 'When you see another car waiting for a spot another car is exiting, do not take advantage of the way the car turns to sneak into the newly opened spot first.' Finding a parking spot can be time-consuming and frustrating, but don't resort to darting in and stealing someone else's spot. 'Theft is always rude,' Leighton said. 'If someone is patiently waiting, turn signal on, and it's pretty obvious they were there first, that's indeed their spot.' 'It is extremely rude when you park in a way that takes up two parking spaces,' Vernon-Thompson said. 'Whether it was by intent or by accident, it is crucial for drivers to consider their fellow drivers.' It's particularly rude to do this in a crowded parking lot or garage with lots of people looking for a spot. And no, you cannot justify your decision by saying your car is so large or expensive, it needs the buffer room. 'If you can afford a fancy car, you can afford to have it fixed if there is a ding,' Smith said. 'Or, if you are that worried, only take it out for Sunday drives and avoid parking altogether. Or park in the spots farthest away.' 'Don't stalk or tailgate,' Leighton said. 'Closely following cars or people through a lot to see where they parked to get their space can definitely make people feel uncomfortable. Give people appropriate space.' Of course, it's normal to go toward the area where a departing patron is walking, but be mindful of how close you get. Give them ample time to get settled and exit as well. 'Another rude act of some drivers is when they are waiting for a parking space and continually blow [their horn at] the person who is preparing to back out of that space,' Vernon-Thompson said. 'Be patient. They must get situated, fasten their seat belt, and ensure there is no obstruction in the rear before reversing. Safety and caution are always needed when preparing to reverse. Therefore, your patience is needed, or simply move to the next available parking spot.' As with other areas of etiquette, you should keep the golden rule in mind and treat others the way you'd want to be treated while parking. This extends to the way you treat other people's cars. 'Not being mindful of your doors when opening is a rude behavior,' said Mariah Grumet Humbert, the founder of Old Soul Etiquette. The space between cars can be tight, so you want to avoid roughly and carelessly swinging your car door open as you exit. You don't want to accidentally dent your neighbor's vehicle. You don't need to rush out of every parking space, but if you're leaving a busy establishment at peak hours, try to be considerate of those who are having trouble finding a spot. 'Avoid sitting in your car for a long time when you can see someone is waiting for your spot,' Humbert said. 'You do not want to park in a spot that is reserved for a certain group of people who need it ― such as a handicap spot, one for expecting mothers or a curbside pickup space,' Humbert said. Even if the lot or garage is mostly empty, you don't know if someone from that group might arrive after you. Plus, this behavior can actually be illegal. 'Oftentimes I notice a vehicle sitting in a handicap parking space with no sign hanging from their mirror,' Vernon-Thompson said. 'If you are not legally authorized to park there, refrain from parking in handicap spots. This is in consideration for those who truly are handicapped and need that space. Be respectful and considerate.' 'You do not want to block someone in or cause a safety hazard by blocking a fire lane or handicap ramp,' Humbert said. Some parking areas, particularly temporary ones for events, don't have clearly designated spaces, so just use your common sense. 'It is extremely rude when you block a parking space, entrance or exit with your vehicle,' Vernon-Thompson said. 'When a driver does that, it is clear they care only about themselves and don't give a hoot about anyone else. This, without a doubt, can be the most inconsiderate and selfish act of a driver.' If you're just dropping someone off, don't linger right in front of the establishment or decide to stay and park in a nondesignated parking area. 'Double parking? If you must, keep it quick,' Leighton said. 'Get in and get out ASAP.' 'Please, please, please park within the lines,' Smith said. 'Just one car being too far over will throw off the entire row. If you are having a hard time staying within the lines, then park in the farthest corner possible.' Consider whether your vehicle is meant for a certain parking spot. 'If your car is clearly not 'compact,' don't try to squeeze into one of those spaces,' Leighton said. 'For big city snowstorms, follow the parking regulations and the local customs,' Smith advised. Avoid obstructing snow plows or parking on designated emergency routes. 'For some cities, after really big storms, the person who cleared out the spot lays claim to it for 24 hours,' Smith added. The Rudest Things You Can Do While You're Driving The Rudest Things You Can Do While Hosting Overnight Guests Do You Have A 'Gate Lice' Problem? Here's How To Tell.
