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Yahoo
a day ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Woman Walks Out of Dinner After Parents Make Shocking Comment About Her Partner
A Reddit user said in a post that her parents made her feel bad about her relationship The user left dinner after her parents called her girlfriend 'disgusting' Commenters widely sided with the woman, who stood her groundA woman turned to Reddit for support after a humiliating dinner with her parents made her realize she needed to establish firm boundaries with them. In her post, the 32-year-old explained that she has been dating her 48-year-old girlfriend, Ruby, for 10 months and things have been going well. Alternately, she detailed the arduous relationship she has had with her parents and how they weren't part of her life growing up. Only recently have they tried to make amends, leading the poster to tell her parents about her girlfriend. 'I slowly started letting them into my life, and a few months ago, told them about Ruby. They immediately jumped into telling me how I'm too young to be dating someone so old," she shared in her Reddit post. "I shut that down immediately. I told them they don't get to say stuff like that to me, ever. They can support me after all the stuff they pulled, or go away." Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. The breaking point came when the four of them went out to dinner together. It was the first time the poster's girlfriend and parents were meeting. According to the post, the dinner was going smoothly until Ruby kissed the Reddit user before getting up to go to the bathroom. 'The second she was out of earshot, my mom just blurted out something like 'Ruby absolutely disgusts us. She's disgusting,' " the user shares. She didn't say anything, and instead just flagged down the waitress, told her parents they were leaving, and paid the bill as they sat in silence. It wasn't until the poster and her girlfriend left the restaurant that she explained the situation, and Ruby comforted her. The user noted that her parents have since reached out to scold her for leaving and have claimed they only want what's best for her. Many of the commenters felt like the poster was justified in walking out of the dinner, emphasizing that her parents don't have a say in her life. 'You are a grown person who can make her own decisions," one commenter wrote. "It's one thing to be concerned about you, but your parents crossed a major line by insulting your girlfriend when they were already on shaky ground. They said something that can never be unsaid." Read the original article on People
Independent Singapore
3 days ago
- General
- Independent Singapore
'Even dogs get treated better': Singaporean man says his home felt more like a prison than a place to grow up
SINGAPORE: Home is often described as a place of warmth, comfort, and safety. However, for one 23-year-old Singaporean, it was anything but. In a raw and emotional post on Reddit, he compared his upbringing to life in a 'jail cell.' On Thursday (May 29), the young man shared that he's been subjected to dehumanising restrictions for as long as he can remember. These include being forbidden to speak freely, being unable to shower at certain times, and being unable to carry out everyday activities without constant supervision or fear of punishment. 'I have no human rights whatsoever. I'm treated like a dog at home; I wouldn't even call it home at all. Even dogs get treated better,' he wrote. 'I'm unable to make any noises (talking included). I don't have my own room for the [entirety] of my life; the living room is my room. [And I] have received no allowance since the age of 14.' He added that he has been wanting to move out for a while but struggles to make it happen as he is a full-time student working part-time to support himself and pay for his studies. Turning to the online community for advice, he asked, 'What are any legitimate options I could or would be able to take to escape this hell I'm going through?' 'Tough it out until you graduate.' The post has drawn responses from concerned netizens, some of whom have suggested that he consider moving out and co-renting a room with others. One said, 'You can find people to co-rent a room with.. if you're studying then maybe can reach out to international students in your school to find contacts. Then, from there, work out how much money you need to co-rent a room.' Another shared, 'Hey, I really feel you. I'm a foreigner, but my previous housemate was from Singapore, and she moved out to live alone due to toxicity. She said it's the best thing she ever did, and it helped their relationship heal. Would definitely encourage you to do what you can. It seems this situation is not super uncommon in Singapore, and my heart bleeds for those that go through it.' Not everyone, however, was in favour of an immediate move. Some users advised him to wait until after he finds a full-time job or at least after graduation. One told him, 'I empathise with you, and I just want to advise you to plan carefully and bide your time patiently first. You have already endured 23 years; another few days or weeks can surely be achieved. Just tahan for awhile more. Use the time while you still have this roof over your head, to plan your exit, shore up finances, make contingencies.' Another added, 'The smart move is to tough it out until you graduate, you survived 23 years, what's another 2?' In other news, a woman took to an online forum to share her frustration about her boyfriend, claiming that in their nine-month relationship, he had never once initiated a date or treated her to even a simple meal. In a candid post on r/SGexams on Thursday (May 29), the woman prefaced her story by stating that she has no issue spending money on her partner and has always been generous in their relationship. Read more: 'Is this SG men these days?' — Woman says her BF never once initiated a date or treated her Featured image by Depositphotos (for illustration purposes only)
Independent Singapore
3 days ago
- Business
- Independent Singapore
Singaporeans dish on how to know when it's time to quit your job
Photo: Freepik/ (for illustration purposes only). SINGAPORE: After a local Reddit user who's been wanting to resign for the past few months asked how a person knows when it's actually time to leave a job, others on the platform quickly swooped in with their advice and experience. Earlier this week, u/Negative-Berry-50 wrote in a post on r/askSingapore that they've been wanting to leave their job since February. However, since that point, two of their colleagues have already quit, even without new job offers lined up. Therefore, with the current hiring freeze in the company, the post author wrote that they 'foresee chaos during peak periods' due to the smaller team size. 'As wonderful and supportive as my remaining teammates are, I really don't see myself staying with them this year, but I won't be leaving without a new offer,' they added. Commenters on the post outlined a list of 'signs' that are a pretty good indicator of when it's time to leave one's job. 'Basically, when: You feel like you're not learning anything anymore, or this job isn't fit for your career goals anymore It's getting more and more difficult to find a solid reason to get to work/You're not motivated at all, and it's been that way for 6+ months. You have a burnout You have a better offer somewhere else,' wrote one. See also 'Am I in Bedok, Ponggol or Hougang?' — Confused netizen asks 'No increment for that year,' another added. 'When the toxic culture becomes too much for you to accept, especially when colleagues start to shirk responsibility after teaching you,' a Reddit user contributed. 'When you have a manager who can't seem to work with you no matter how much you try to accommodate their whims and fancies,' wrote another. A commenter urged the post author to wait until they have the next job in the pipeline, writing, 'When a good job offer lands… that's when it's time.' However, another quipped that it's time to quit 'When you have to ask on Reddit.' One wrote that when someone even begins to think of quitting, this is already somewhat of a sign. 'Usually, if you start thinking about quitting, it's probably time to leave. There must be a reason why you even had this thought, so … Quitting is a skill, lah. Have to overcome all the cognitive biases and sunk cost fallacy and fear of the unknown, etc., not everyone is in a position to leave when they want to, but if you have this thought, I think it would be a good idea to start looking out,' they wrote. See also Singaporeans dismayed at 9th Giant closure this year 'Quitting a job can feel like a big decision, and many reasons might lead you to decide it's the right time. You might want to explore another industry or take on a new challenge, or you may feel unsatisfied with your current role. It may be time to quit your job when you're no longer motivated to complete your daily tasks, feel overworked or burnt out, or want to move beyond your current position into a more advanced one. These are a few signs that it may be time to quit your job and get a better one that more effectively meets your needs,' reads this piece from Coursera. /TISG Read also: 2 in 5 Singaporeans quit jobs that lack time and location flexibility
Independent Singapore
4 days ago
- Business
- Independent Singapore
'Is S$200k low income now?' — Singaporean says even a condo or new car feels unaffordable
SINGAPORE: A Singaporean man recently turned to Reddit to express his frustration with the rising cost of living, saying that even with a nearly $200,000 annual income, upgrading his lifestyle still feels like a pipe dream. In a post shared on Wednesday (May 29), the man recounted how six years ago, he and his wife bought a 5-room resale flat in preparation for starting a family. They also managed to afford a Korean car, which was well within their means back then. But fast forward to today, and even with what many would consider a high income, he says the idea of buying a condo or replacing his ageing car feels completely out of reach. 'Am I the only one who feels that in Singapore, cars and condos are out of reach for most of us?' he asked other locals. 'I don't find myself able to afford a condo…and today I don't find myself being able to afford to change a car either. Yet I am seeing so many families buying condos or driving Conti cars. Is an annual S$200k really so low income that we can only stay in HDB now? He then proceeded to break down his monthly expenses, which total over S$12,000: 'My monthly fixed cash outflow is close to S$12,000. S$1,275 top-up to SRS, S$2,000 for my parents, S$1,500 into stocks, S$2,000 for the mortgage loan, S$800 for the helper, S$1,000 in income tax, S$800 on insurance, and S$3,000 on bills.' At the end of his post, he asked others in the forum, 'Am I the only one who feels this way? It's quite depressing.' 'Your life is better when you stop comparing.' In the comments, however, many found his post to be somewhat out of touch, pointing out that his struggles stemmed more from comparison and lifestyle expectations than actual hardship. One wrote, 'It's because you compare too much and try to be the same as them. Once you stay in a condo, you find it much more similar to an HDB after a few years. In fact, some condos do not have refreshing/upgrading as some HDBs.' Another commented, 'Your life is better when you stop comparing and focus on what you really want instead of having what others have.' A third pointed out, 'What would be different if you lived in a condo? I agree that S$200k is somewhere in the ballpark of the bare minimum if you have multiple non-working dependents and wish to live in some comfort. But most people make do with a lot less. There is no use comparing your life to anyone else.' In other news, a woman shared on social media that her former boss has been spreading false claims about her after she resigned from a company she believed she had left on good terms. In a detailed post on the r/askSingapore subreddit, the woman explained that she left her job at the end of 2024 after serving the standard one-month notice period. At the time of her departure, there were no signs of conflict or tension, and she assumed everything had ended amicably. However, weeks after her departure, troubling rumours began to reach her through former colleagues and people in her professional network. Read more: 'My ex-boss is spreading lies about me' — Woman says her former boss is falsely claiming she 'mismanaged' the company, so he fired her, despite a peaceful resignation Featured image by freepik (for illustration purposes only)
Independent Singapore
6 days ago
- Business
- Independent Singapore
‘I can't stop comparing my salary with others' — Fresh grad opens up about pay gap among peers
SINGAPORE: Salary comparison among peers is something many fresh graduates quietly struggle with, especially when everyone seems to be starting their careers at different speeds and pay scales. For one young man, this quiet struggle became overwhelming enough that he turned to Reddit to ask: 'How do I stop comparing my salary with my peers?' In a post on the r/AskSingapore subreddit on Monday (May 26), the man shared that he had recently graduated from university and secured a full-time job that pays a median salary. He rents a unit with a group of friends who, like him, have just entered the workforce. While he acknowledged that he earns enough to sustain himself and even save a little, he admitted that living with housemates who bring home noticeably higher salaries has made it difficult not to compare. 'I earn less compared to my housemates and can't seem to stop comparing my salary to them,' he wrote. 'I know I'm supposed to be grateful, but as a high-achieving student, it feels upsetting to be at the 'bottom' now, relative to my friends. I worked just as hard, studied just as hard, yet the outcome is different,' he added. Turning to the Reddit community, he asked others if they've ever experienced the same thing and how they managed to cope with the pressure of measuring up. 'Has anyone struggled with the same feelings? How to deal/cope with them? Advice is appreciated, thank you,' he wrote. 'Use it as inspiration for you to work harder.' Under his post, many users advised him to stop comparing himself to others, pointing out that career paths are rarely linear and that salary differences, especially early on, don't necessarily reflect long-term success or personal worth. One user stated, 'Everyone runs their own race! There isn't a need to compare. Just work hard to reach your own goals and be contented.' Another wrote, 'Comparison is the thief of joy. No point comparing. You get S$4,000 salary now, you'll think S$8,000 shiok. Then you get S$8,000, then you see people earn S$12,000, you get sad. What's the point?' To make the man feel better, a third user said, 'I suggest you not compare. For someone who started as a poly grad and has been in the workforce for 20 years. My starting pay was low compared to my friends in university. However, now at 42, I'm earning more than most of them.' Others, however, suggested that the man use this as motivation to improve his career prospects. One said, 'Use it as inspiration for you to work harder, or in strategising your way into a different industry, or in pursuing a side hustle.' In other news, a 31-year-old Singaporean woman who accepted a lower salary in hopes of gaining experience is now regretting her decision, less than a week into the job. In a post on the r/askSingapore forum on Friday (May 23), the woman shared that she had accepted a lower salary during the interview process because she believed this 'would help her secure the job, gain experience, and get higher negotiating power in the future.' Read more: 'Should I just leave this job?' — Woman regrets accepting lower salary in less than a week into the job, as her assignment turns out to be different from what she applied for Featured image by freepik (for illustration purposes only)
