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Trump and N.H. lawmakers want to ban gender-affirming health care for kids. These families say they may have to move.
Transgender issues have become a dominating topic in recent years in national and local politics, with
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At least two New Hampshire
families with transgender children told the Globe they
have already moved to states they believe will preserve access to
transgender
health care, while a handful of others
said they are preparing to uproot their lives.
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Moving to another state,
however,
might not be a permanent solution. Tucked into the budget bill passed in May by GOP lawmakers in the US House were
Remesch said her family would consider leaving the US if such proposals prevail.
'Do we go to Europe or Canada or Mexico? Honestly, those are all on the list,' she said.
Other families have already left New Hampshire behind.
Last year, out of concern for their transgender daughter, Abi and Jacob Maxwell
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'We knew what was coming,' Abi Maxwell said. 'It was taking years off our lives and we knew we had to get out.'
Maxwell said she thought California would be the most protected place in the United States, but didn't rule out moving again if necessary for her daughter's safety.
Since then, Republicans have increased their majority in New Hampshire's House and Senate and have worked to advance more restrictive bills concerning people who are transgender.
If it passes, New Hampshire would be the first state in New England to enact such a ban, joining 25 other states that have banned such care for youth, according to the
that provides research to promote equality.
New Hampshire is also the only state in New England without laws to protect access to gender-affirming care and the doctors who provide this care, according to the project.
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Senate lawmakers amended the bill in May, allowing children who are already receiving gender-affirming care to continue their treatments after the bill, if it is signed into law, goes into effect in early 2026.
Rosie Emrich showed her support for the LGBTQ+ community with a sign at her house in Hooksett, N.H., on April 17.
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Remesch said the proposal feels like a betrayal by the state where she grew up and where she returned to live near her family in 2019.
She said her child has not yet gone through puberty, but they want the option of starting puberty blockers when the time comes. Even if they don't choose to undergo treatment, a scenario Remesch said she would welcome, she said they would still leave the state if the bill becomes law.
'Being non-binary, you still need to be recognized and respected,' she said, explaining that doctors must care for both the patient's body and mind. 'If we can't do that in New Hampshire, if their doctors can't care for them appropriately as someone who is non-binary. … We'd still leave.'
Rosie Emrich and her family are also worried about the ban and have considered moving out of state to ensure their 8-year-old transgender child can continue accessing puberty blockers. She said the family has started preparing to sell their house in Hooksett and may move to Massachusetts.
One of Rosie Emrich's children played at their home. Their family is considering moving from New Hampshire to Massachusetts because of a series of bills that have been presented in the state's Legislature.
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'I really don't want to leave New Hampshire. I just want New Hampshire to be a better place,' she said.
Critics of the New Hampshire bill have pointed out that it specifically targets gender-affirming medical interventions when used by transgender individuals, but permits them in other cases, such as for people with
Proponents of the ban said it is a matter of protecting children from treatments that they believe carry significant consequences.
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A child played at home in Hooksett, N.H. The child's mother, Rosie Emrich, said her family is considering moving from New Hampshire. The bill Emrich is most worried about is House Bill 377, which aims to prohibit gender-affirming care for minors.
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'Children as young as 8 or 9 are being prescribed puberty blockers and cross-sex hormones and cannot fully comprehend the lifelong implications of altering their bodies with powerful medications,'
Mazur, the prime sponsor of HB 377, did not respond to requests for an interview.
The bill has drawn concern from some in the state's medical community. Cathy Stratton, CEO of the New Hampshire Medical Society, said gender-affirming hormone treatment has undergone tremendous scrutiny, clinical research, and peer review to become an approved medical treatment. She said medical care should be between a physician, a clinician, and their patient, and that this ban would undermine the physician's skill and expertise and compromise the care of some patients.
'When you legislate it, you really can't account for the complexity of what physicians are facing in the exam room and what patients are feeling,' she said.
New Hampshire lawmakers have already curtailed access to gender-affirming genital surgeries, passing a
A box of signs that Rosie Emrich and her children made for Transgender Awareness Week sit in the corner of their home in Hooksett, N.H.
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New Hampshire's Governor Kelly A. Ayotte, a Republican, told reporters in May she needs to review the bill before deciding whether to support it.
Some who have chosen gender-affirming care for themselves have called it life-saving. State Representative Alice Wade, 23, a Dover Democrat, said she started hormone replacement therapy at 17, after compiling research for years and persuading her father to agree.
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When puberty exacerbated the feeling she didn't belong in her body, she said, she began thinking of suicide. She said hormone therapy was a way to feel whole again.
'It did save my life as a minor,' she said.
Wade said HB 377 is wrong-minded.
'It sends a message to kids – not only to trans kids, that they aren't valid and that they should be shamed out of existence – but to cisgender kids that it's OK to shame trans kids and to label them as freaks,' she said.
When it came to choosing gender-affirming care, the families interviewed described a slow, deliberate process in consultation with therapists and health providers before their children began medical treatment.
'It's not just that I looked up what side effects are behind the treatment, but I also looked at the benefit of the treatment and knew that it was what my daughter needed to actually live,' said Michelle Cilley Foisy.
At 16, her daughter told her she was uncomfortable presenting the way people had come to know her. Cilley Foisy said her daughter's mental health deteriorated, and she attempted suicide.
Afterwards, her daughter asked to start hormone replacement therapy, and Cilley Foisy spent a few months gathering letters of support from therapists and a doctor.
Her daughter began treatment just before her 17th birthday, and her mother said she saw immediate improvements: For the first time in years, her daughter was able to look at herself in the mirror and smile, she said, because her appearance reflected who she was inside.
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After living in New Hampshire for nearly 45 years, Cilley Foisy and her family moved in February. She watched online from her new home in Waterbury, Vt., as the New Hampshire House voted to approve HB 377 in March.
'I was devastated by the vote,' she said.
She said she does not regret leaving.
'Definitely feel like our move was the right decision, 100 percent. It affirms that we left at the right time for the safety of my kid, but it's still heartbreaking.'
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